Article: If one or the other of you has done something to damage your mutual trust, talk honestly about it. State your experience of the betrayal without trying to influence your husband's reaction. Write it as a letter. Get your own feelings straight by writing them out. If you two are ever going to rebuild trust, the person in the wrong needs to apologize. If you betrayed him, say you're sorry. State what you did wrong, and how you think it affected him. Say why it was wrong, and promise you won't do it again. If he betrayed your trust, ask for that sincere of an apology. If he isn't ready to apologize, then he isn't ready to love you again either. When the apology has happened, talk through the situation that was so hurtful. Don't dwell on the painful details, but do make sure you agree on what happened, why, and the reasons it hurt. Write down what you would like to happen to your relationship, and have your husband do the same. You might find that you both want to make some changes. Working to rebuild trust might have the positive side effect of making some parts of your relationship stronger. If you find your goals differ, compromise to accommodate them all. For instance, if your husband wishes you had more together time, while you are longing for more time alone, try scheduling both quality together time and quality time apart. Find a therapist who specializes in dealing with couples like yours. If there was infidelity, find a therapist who specializes in marital therapy. If you cannot get your husband to visit a counselor with you, see a counselor on your own.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Communicate after a betrayal. Apologize, or ask for an apology. Talk through it. Set goals together. See a couple's counselor.

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Decide what you want. Define your terms. Ask why. Determine if it's possible.