Problem: Article: When a decision is hard, it’s important to identify the reasons why you made it. A pro and con list is a simple way to do that. This allows you to apply quantitative reasoning to your decision by adding up the pros of each alternative and weighing them against the cons.  It’s a good idea to make more than one pro and con list, especially if you’re struggling with a decision. For example, you may need to choose between 2 different vacation destinations, such as an island getaway or a trip to Paris. You can only choose 1, and either would be amazing. This helps you overcome the conflict of having to make a choice between two or more good options. Look for more positives to the alternative that you are choosing and add them to your list.  Let’s say that you decided to go to Paris because you found out a friend would be going at the same time. Rewriting your pro and con list to highlight the pros of Paris will help you avoid the conflict of choosing not to go on the island vacation. In this case, you might add that you will get to spend time with your friend to the pros list. This will make that option seem less appealing in your mind, allowing you to avoid regrets about missing out on it. You will be able to see the option you chose as the clear best choice.   For example, you might add that the island getaway could result in sunburn, might be ruined by tropical weather, and could get lonely without a friend around. This is called “spreading” your alternatives. In effect, you are making your chosen alternative more appealing than the other option(s), which reduces your desire to question the choice. This can help solidify that thought in yourself. Backup your choice by pointing out the pros behind the choice you made, firmly dismissing the other option(s). For example, you could tell a friend about your decision to go to Paris, highlighting the opportunity to make memories with your friend, finally see a city you’ve always dreamed of visiting, and avoiding the dangers of a tropical disturbance. Otherwise, you’ll reawaken your feelings of cognitive dissonance. It can take time to get used to accepting your decisions without regret, especially if you’re an anxious person. However, life is full of hard decisions, and focusing on the positives of what you chose can help.  Keep your focus on the actions you're taking rather than ruminating on your decisions. If you do find yourself feeling discomfort or regret, work through the pro and con activity again to remind yourself that the alternative you chose is the right one. There’s no point in entertaining the choice you didn’t make, as you can’t go back in time. Instead, focus on the next decision you have to make.
Summary: Make a pro and con list. Focus on the pros for the alternative you are choosing. Enhance the cons for the alternative you didn’t choose. Explain to someone else why you chose the alternative you did. Avoid questioning the decision once it’s made.

Problem: Article: Your bedroom, locker, school desk, or any other personal space can showcase your girly side. Choose a bright, soft color like pink, light purple, baby blue, or yellow to decorate with. You can get furniture, paint your walls, or just get fun accessories like decorative ribbons, posters, and stickers to make your space girly. Girly girls don’t carry around stacks of loose paper instead of notebooks or leave old food sitting around their rooms. Start practicing cleaning up after yourself every day and putting everything back where you found it. Keep your school things organized and labeled. This is a great opportunity to buy more girly organizing accessories too--things like binders, boxes, and cases are a great way to show off your feminine side. You’ll need a space to check your makeup, practice new hairstyles, and make sure your outfits fit you perfectly. Get a big mirror for your room and smaller ones for your locker and purse. You can even get a whole vanity furniture set if you’re able to! Girly girls aren’t afraid to be creative. Decorate your personal space with cute drawings, notes to your friends, and crafts. Buy some paint pens in bright colors and draw decorations on your pictures and posters, or learn a craft like scrapbooking or sewing that you can use to decorate your area.
Summary:
Choose soft, bright colors to decorate with. Keep your things organized neatly. Get a vanity or mirrors. Show your creative side.