INPUT ARTICLE: Article: If her body language and engagement in the conversation are all encouraging, you can begin moving in closer and preparing to attempt a kiss.  If you give off the right signals, she could very well take note and reciprocate so that the kiss happens naturally and doesn’t feel awkward or unexpected. The first thing to do when trying to engage in a kiss is to move closer. If you’re sitting, sit so that part of your leg touches hers. If you’re standing, stand close to her and take or touch her hand. If she moves back when you try to move in closer or pulls away from your touch, it’s a pretty clear sign that she doesn’t want to get affectionate. Up until now, you’ve been focused on her body language, but now it’s time to give her a chance to read yours.  Hold meaningful eye contact and move your gaze from her left eye to her right eye to her mouth and back, pausing for just a moment on each. Most people can read that as a clear sign of the desire for a kiss. Slow things down. Slowing down the moment and the conversation can clear the way for an affectionate moment between you if she’s interested. So if you’re walking, slow down the pace. Let the conversation slow down but keep up meaningful closeness and eye contact. If she doesn’t return the same level of eye contact or seems to want to put distance between you, it probably means she read the signals you’re sending and is now sending signals of her own that she doesn’t want to be kissed. If at this point she’s responding positively to your body language and signals, you can go for a kiss.  Move in even closer and part your lips slightly, looking from her mouth to her eyes. If she reciprocates, looking into your eyes and gazing back and forth between them and your mouth, go for it and kiss her. If she looks awkward, tries to move away, or tries to divert the conversation to something safer, recognize that she isn’t ready and let it go. Whether you have a successful kiss or not, react with calm and equanimity.  If the kiss is successful, look her in the eyes, smile, and continue what the two of you were doing. Don’t gush or get wild and starry-eyed--you may come across as immature or too eager, both of which can be turn-offs. If the kiss isn’t successful, don’t panic or freak out. Most especially, don’t get angry or hostile. Either brush it off and go about what you were doing before or smile slightly and apologize.

SUMMARY: Move in closer. Send the right signals. Lean in for the kiss. React calmly.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: The oven needs to be hot before you stick the pan in, so set it to "broil." Line a baking sheet with foil, so that it won't absorb the fishiness of the kippers. In British cooking, "grilling" refers to cooking under the heating element in the oven, known as the grill. In the United States, this type of cooking is called "broiling." Using 2-3 pats per kipper, heat the butter over medium heat until it's turning golden brown. Spread some on the baking tray to keep the kippers from sticking. You can heat the butter in the microwave, though you won't get the browned butter flavor. If your fillets have skin, put the skin facing upwards. If they don't have skin still, that's fine, too. Brush melted butter on the skin or the top side of the fish using a basting brush. The skin should cook for about a minute while facing up, but then you need to flip the fish so the flesh is facing upward. Take the pan out, and turn the fish over with a spatula. Brush the top of the fish with melted butter using a basting brush, then put the pan back in the oven. About every 1-2 minutes, pull the pan out and add a little more butter to the top of the fish. This helps fully incorporate the butter flavor into the kippers. Cook the fish on this side for 4-6 minutes. However, if you don't want to use that much butter, just stick to basting the kippers once on each side. Plate the fish on a warm platter. For seasoning, you can squeeze lemon over the fish or add a dash of fresh cayenne pepper or a sprinkling of fresh minced parsley. You can also serve them with more browned butter. Have a grainy toasted bread on the side to accompany the fish.

SUMMARY: Pre-heat the oven and cover a sheet pan with foil. Melt butter in a saucepan until it turns brown and nutty. Place the fish on the tray skin-side up and brush with butter. Cook the fish for 1 minute on the first side. Flip the fish and baste it again. Baste the fish another 2-3 times. Pull the kippers out and serve them.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: All styles of meditation involve the replacement of racing or intruding thoughts with something more calming. If you suffer from anxiety, you likely have lots of different thoughts that cause you to worry unnecessarily. No matter which style of meditation you choose, your meditation practice should focus on replacing these negative thoughts.  It may take some time before you understand when it will be most helpful for you to meditate. For example, you may want to meditate when you begin to have anxious thoughts, or you may find it more helpful to meditate when you know you are about to be in a situation that may trigger anxiety. Over time, meditating will teach you to pay less attention to your anxious thoughts, so they will become less of a burden. You may be tempted to think that you are "bad" at meditating or that you are doing it wrong when you are new to the practice. Many people feel this way, but people with anxiety are especially prone to allow these thoughts to hold them back from really enjoying their meditation practices. Instead of judging yourself for your inadequacies, remind yourself that you are improving with each session and that you do not need to be perfect. Judging yourself for your meditation abilities can actually cause stress and anxiety, which is completely counterproductive. If you find yourself doing this acknowledge these thoughts as the same as all of your other anxious thoughts. Meditation is very helpful to many people who suffer from anxiety, but it is not right for everyone. For some, meditation can actually make anxiety worse. If this is the case for you, you should either stop your practice or reduce the amount of time you spend meditating.  Note how you feel before and after meditation sessions. You may not feel noticeably better right away, which is fine, but you should not feel more anxious or noticeably worse. People who are prone to relaxation-induced anxiety, are highly introspective, or have repressed memories are more likely to have increased anxiety after meditating. Someone with relaxation-induced anxiety may be able to unwind at first, but soon he begins to feel even more anxious or tense as a result. This may because the person is afraid of the thoughts that occur when he stills his mind, or because he fears he is being lazy or not meditating "correctly." If you already have anxiety, you may be more prone to relaxation-induced anxiety.  If repressed memories or trauma surface while you are meditating — you suddenly re-experience a traumatic emotion or experience while trying to meditate — put meditation on hold. Dealing with trauma is not something you should attempt to handle on your own. Seek counseling with an experienced therapist or mental health professional who specializes in trauma. If you decide that meditation is in fact right for you, don't expect it to change your life overnight. It may be a while before your brain begins to change in a noticeable way, but it will happen. If you are working to reduce your anxiety, be patient and commit to meditating regularly.

SUMMARY:
Replace anxious thoughts. Don't be too hard on yourself. Look for signs that meditation is not right for you. Stay committed.