Q: People often talk about having a “feeling” or “gut instinct.” It is hard to define. Think about it as a way of knowing that takes into account different things than your normal, rational thinking. The heart may be based on thing things like the past (your experiences), personal needs (how you feel), and the present (other people around you, choices, etc.). All of this can lead to a different calculation than reasoning alone.  Try to tell distinguish what comes from your heart. Did a thought just pop into your head, for example? Reason usually relies on analysis – step by step thought: i.e., “Well, if I don’t do X, Y will happen. Therefore I should do X.” The heart does not always follow this pattern. What about that “feeling”? Sometimes intuition comes to us as vague sense. It’s hard to describe. It’s hard to even know what the feeling means. You may feel uncertain about changing jobs and not know why, for example. Outwardly, everything about the new job is great, but you still feel a nagging sense that something will go wrong. This is intuition. Your inner voice may not always be clear, but it’s trying to tell you something. Learn how to listen to it. To start, you’ll need to temporarily drown out our rational thought processes and focus on the voice. There are some ways that you can do this.  Keep a journal. Writing your thoughts on paper may help open up the unconscious mind. Write what comes to you; be spontaneous. Begin sentences with phrases like, “I have a feeling that...” or “My heart tells me that...” The point is to follow emotional responses rather than rational ones. Temporarily drown out your inner critic. It may take some effort, but be watchful over your rational processes. Listening to the heart is hard because we try to rationalize it away. Allow yourself to write or think without letting in the doubting voice that says, “This is silly.”  Find a quiet place. One of the best things for opening your heart is quiet contemplation. This could be meditation. Or, it could just be taking a walk by yourself in a park or woods. Find a place where you can let your thoughts and emotions flow freely. Intuition is only one way of knowing. But it is not necessarily better than your sense of reason or the best way to make decisions. While you should try to listen to your heart, don’t trust it automatically. Sometimes it’s wrong.   Say that you are on a jury. The accused insists very persuasively that he is innocent – he stirs your confidence. However, all the physical evidence says that he committed the crime. Do you listen to your reason or your intuition? In this case, your intuition is probably false. Think too about the possible consequences of relying only on the heart. Would you bet your life savings on a gut instinct, for instance? Say that your financial planner advises you to invest in secure mutual funds, but you have a really good feeling about an up-and-coming company called Enron. It is probably better to listen to the rational advice of an expert than to trust your instinct.
A: Learn to discern your heart from your rational mind. Listen to your heart. Don’t overrate the heart.

Q: When the guy you like is always on your mind, his name tends to enter into every conversation. If you can not stop talking about him, it might be a sign that you can’t get him off your mind and you like him more than you think you do!  Have your friends or family members called you out on talking about him constantly? Do you find yourself making the most obscure connections between his life and every topic you discuss? Have you recently developed new interests, interests that just so happen to be shared with the guy you may like? If you have started participating in new activities or developed a sudden interest in an obscure topic as a way to impress him, you might have a crush on him!  Did you join a club just to spend more time with him? Have you started reading his favorite books just so you have something to talk to him about? Did you binge-watch his favorite show so you could reference it in conversations with him? When you like a guy, you may feel extremely self-conscious about your appearance and actions—you strive to present the most attractive, confident, fun, and flirty version of yourself to him. You may spend more time picking out the perfect outfit or styling your hair.  You might replay your conversation with him over and over in your head in order to analyze what you could have said differently. If you have become extremely concerned about impressing him with your looks and actions, you might have a major crush on this guy!
A: Assess how frequently you talk about him. Determine if you have new interests. Evaluate if you are extra conscious of your appearance and actions.

Q: " This phrase means "happy birthday" and is used to greet someone on their birthday. It is suitable for anyone in any situation. Pronounce "feliz cumpleaños" fay-LEEZ KOOM-play-ahn-yohs.  You can add the name of the person or their relationship to you if you feel so inclined. For example, if you were wishing happy birthday to your mother, you might say "¡Feliz cumpleaños, mi madre!" If you want to say "happy birthday" in a more informal way to a friend, you can also say "feliz cumple" (fay-LEEZ KOOM-play). "Felicidades" (fay-lee-see-DAH-days) means "congratulations." While it may seem odd for you to tell someone "congratulations" on their birthday, it's a common birthday wish for Spanish-speakers. This is especially appropriate if you've already wished the person a happy birthday once.  For example, if you were attending a friend's birthday party, you might say "feliz cumpleaños" when you arrived, then say "felicidades" as you were leaving. You can also say "felicidades en tu día," which means "congratulations on your day." On someone's birthday, it's common to wish them a long life or express the hope that they celebrate many more birthdays to follow. If you wanted to express this sentiment in Spanish, you would say "¡Que cumplas muchos más!" A literal translation of the phrase would be "that you complete many more." Pronounce it "kay KOOM-plahs MOO-chohs mahs." The basic Spanish birthday song uses the same tune as the song in English, which you may already be familiar with. However, the Spanish lyrics don't necessarily translate directly to the lyrics in English.  The lyrics for the basic Latin American birthday song are: "¡Feliz cumpleaños a ti! ¡Feliz cumpleaños a ti! Feliz cumpleaños querido/a (name), feliz cumpleaños a ti. Ya queremos pastel, Ya queremos pastel, aunque sea un pedacito, pero queremos pastel." In Spain, on the other hand, you would sing "Cumpleaños feliz, cumpleaños feliz, te deseamos todos, cumpleaños feliz."
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Say "¡Feliz cumpleaños! Use "felicidades" to express general congratulations. Tell the birthday celebrant you hope they have many more. Sing the "Happy Birthday" song in Spanish.