Q: Does the attention she gives you constantly vary? Does talk about how she is attracted to other people constantly? Those might be signs that she isn’t that serious about the relationship.   However, sometimes her behavior may just reflect how comfortable she is in public. For example, if she’s way more emotionally available and affectionate when you’re hanging out alone it might just mean she’s shy around other people. Don’t be suspicious of that. Merely talking about other guys is not necessarily a bad sign. She may just have guys in her life who she's close to. However, if she routinely talks about how attracted she is to another guy (not you), she may not be into you. Does she deny being in a relationship with you to other people, even her closest friends? If she denies dating you when talking to her friends she might be acting in a manipulative manner. People sometimes like to keep their new love interests out of the spotlight in the event that you have no interest in them. However, once you're dating and everything is exclusive, there is no reason she should be worried to discuss you with her friends. You should feel emotionally and physically comfortable in the relationship. If you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around her or that you are always waiting for the next explosion, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. This is really a gut feeling, but you probably already know the answer. In a healthy relationship, your partner should do their part to try to interact civilly with the important people in your life. If they are constantly putting down your friends and family they may be trying to isolate you from the people who matter to you. Whether they are doing this consciously or subconsciously, it is still manipulative and unhealthy. If you’re being paranoid, your friends might be able to get you to stop worrying so much and tell you that you’re being crazy. If there’s fire behind the smoke, they’ll be honest with you. A lot of the time friends want to be supportive of their friend’s relationships even if they know something is wrong. You might have friends who were waiting to tell you that this girl was playing games with you. They were just waiting for you to ask because they didn’t want to offend you.
A: Consider how invested she seems in you. Pay attention to how she talks about the relationship. Assess whether or not you feel safe in the relationship. Notice how she interacts with your friends and family. Ask your friends for advice.

Q: A permanent dye will give you much better results than a semi-permanent dye because it contains ingredients that are capable of lightening your hair. A demi-permanent dye will open the cuticle to allow more color in, but it will not lighten your hair color. A cool tone is also highly recommended as it will reduce the chances of your hair coming out brassy. If you have dark hair and wish to go brown, opt for a light or medium ash blond color. Gather all of your hair, except for the bottom layer (about mid-ear-level and below). Twist it into a loose bun at the top of your head, then secure it with a clip or hair tie. Cover your counter with newspaper or plastic. Drape an old towel or a dyeing cape around your shoulders. Apply some petroleum jelly to the skin along your hairline, back of neck, and ears. Lastly, put on a pair of plastic gloves.  You can also throw on an old t-shirt instead of using a towel or dyeing cape. You may not need to by a new pair of plastic gloves. Many hair dye kits contain them. In most cases, all you have to do is pour the dye into the applicator bottle containing the cream base, then shake the bottle to mix. Some kits also contain extra goodies, such as a shine oil, which you should add in as well. You can also mix your dye in a non-metal bowl using an applicator brush. Start applying the dye to your roots, then blend it down towards the roots using your fingers or an applicator brush. Apply more dye as needed.  You can apply the dye directly to your hair using the applicator tip on the bottle you mixed it in. If you prepared the dye in a bowl, use an applicator brush to apply the dye to your hair instead. Undo the bun on the top of your head and let down another layer of hair. Gather the rest of the hair back up into a bun, and apply more dye to this new layer. Keep going until you reach the top.  Be sure to dye the fine hairs on your sideburns and temples. You want to dye the top of your hair last because it will process the fastest.  If you have very thick hair, then you may need to separate your hair into small sections and work in layers to ensure you are saturating all of your hair with the dye. How long it takes for your hair to process depends on the type of dye you are using. Most brands will ask you to wait around 25 minutes, but some may have a longer processing time. Check the package to be sure. Cover your hair with plastic wrap, a plastic bag, or a shower cap. This will trap the heat and make the dye more effective. Once the processing time is out, rinse your hair with cool water. Keep rinsing until the water runs clear. Apply a color-safe conditioner, wait 2 to 3 minutes, then rinse it out with cool water to seal the hair cuticle. Skip the shampoo. Many dye kits include a conditioner. You can allow your hair to air dry, or your can blow dry it instead. If your hair colored turned out too brassy or orange for your liking, don't worry. Simply wash it with a purple or blue toning shampoo; follow the instructions on the bottle.
A: Choose your dye, preferably in a cool tone. Section off your hair. Protect your skin, clothing, and work surface. Prepare the hair dye kit according to the instructions. Apply the dye to your hair. Dye the rest of your hair, working in layers. Gather your hair into a bun and allow it to process. Wash the dye out with cool water, then condition your hair. Dry and style your hair as desired.

Q: Declining performance in school or work is often connected to drug use. Drugs not only decrease mental capacity, they increasingly dominate a user's thought process. Instead of focusing on issues related to education or employment, a drug user may be constantly thinking about becoming intoxicated, and how to obtain more drugs. Both insomnia and unusual sleepiness may indicate drug use. Does the individual sometimes seem strangely lethargic and tired? Do they suddenly crash and sleep for long periods of time? Alternately, do they have giddy or manic energy even without sleeping? See-sawing between high and low energy, between periods of excessive and insufficient sleep, should raise the alarm.  Opiate users may exhibit a euphoric wave of energy and then abruptly fall asleep, even while sitting upright. Alcoholics might be full of energy at night and then sleep well into the morning, exhibiting an aversion to light and sound. An LSD high can last for up to 12 hours, during which time an individual cannot sleep. But following the high, a user may “crash” and sleep for an entire day. Have they started doing things they previously considered immoral? Have they been lying and skipping school or work? Are they asking to borrow unusual amounts of money? Have property, valuables, and money gone missing?  Are they taking risks that put themselves and others in harm's way? Answering yes to any of these questions may indicate problematic drug use. Have they become more reclusive, avoiding family and long-time friends? Are they more irritable and distant with loved ones? Has the individual started hanging out with mysterious new friends that they refuse to introduce? Are they taking suspicious phone calls, or constantly texting unknown people?  If so, the individual may be using drugs. Consider looking through the individual's dresser, desk drawers, or clothing pockets. Suspicious items may include eye drops, mouthwash, “baggies,” cigarette rolling papers, cotton swabs, roach clips, pipes, bongs, needles, pill bottles, incense, or room deodorizers. While some of these are common personal hygiene items, they could also indicate a drug use problem.  Be very careful when infringing on an individual's privacy. You may anger them greatly and you will be very embarrassed if you are mistaken about their drug use. Only look through someone's personal things if you deeply concerned about their wellbeing and willing to face the consequences of doing so.
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Watch for decreases in attention-span, memory, motivation, and/or concentration. Note drastic changes in sleeping patterns and energy levels. Notice changes in an individual's values and morals. Reflect on changes to an individual's social life. Check for the presence of suspicious items.