Problem: Article: The person may be impressed to hear you admit anything you’ve done that has hurt or harmed them. Especially if they see you as stubborn, this can help them see a new side of you that they may not have considered, which can open the doors to love. Show that you are a bigger person than you were before. Say, “I know I made some mistakes, and I regret them. I was different then and have learned to be a better person.” . A big part of repairing trust is forgiveness. Forgive yourself and forgive them. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you made and the hardships you contributed to in your relationship. Forgive the other person for their mistakes, judgments, or problems. Then, begin to trust yourself. If you cheated, know that you won’t do it again. Also, trust them. If they cheated, trust them to not do it again. If you hurt the other person, don’t expect to earn their trust right away. Show them that you can be trusted by being honest. It’s time to get humble. If the relationship is on bad terms due to a mistake you made or bad habits you continued that your partner couldn’t handle, take responsibility and consider their view. Think back on the gripes they expressed and work on them on your own accord, without their prompting. Say that you are now listening to their feedback and willing to improve. Tell the person that you’re inspired to be better because of them. For example, if the person became distant or broke up with you due to your addiction, make this part of your motivation to get sober. It’s not enough to have good intentions, you have to follow through on them. Be solutions-focused in making changes happen by choosing to improve who you are as a person and as a partner. If you were a bad partner, make efforts to be more supportive, listen, and compromise. Take the initiative to create solutions, anticipate difficulties, and work through existing troubles.  Don’t just say that you’ll get treatment for an addiction. Find a therapist, go to a treatment center, or enroll in rehabilitation as soon as you can. Solve specific problems. For example, if you tend to lose your temper, enroll in anger management and practice your new skills so that you can interact differently. Once you’ve taken action, talk to them. Say, “I’m making changes to make this work. I want this, so I’m willing to do what it takes.”
Summary: Admit any wrongdoings. Rebuild broken trust Set the intention to make changes. Follow through on changes.

Problem: Article: For each one you’re interested in, find out when the next class is in session. Arrive beforehand. Meet the instructor and ask to observe (or even take part in) the class.  Since people who have already experienced assault often seek self-defense classes, a respectful instructor should be patient with prospective new students. If they refuse to let you observe the class, or push you into taking part before you’re ready, consider this a possible red flag. As training begins, watch the techniques that the instructor uses. Also pay attention to the students’ ability to perform them. Ask yourself the following:  Is the class practical? Do the techniques seem useful in scenarios you might actually encounter in life? Are the students able to execute them effectively? Do the moves seem too complicated for you to execute? Observe the class in action. Then speak with other students to find out what they think of it. Make sure that it is the right fit for you, especially if you have experienced real assault in your own life. Don’t waste time in an unsupportive environment that makes you shy away from taking part. Ask questions like:  Do other students feel more empowered by this class, or more afraid or certain of being attacked in real life? Are the simulations too reminiscent of actual attacks you may have suffered? Are the students supportive of each other, or too competitive? Depending on your own, decide whether you are comfortable with theirs. If you are impressed with the class overall, but would rather have another instructor, ask if any others teach the same class.  If you are a woman, you may prefer another woman as a positive role model. Or you may prefer a man so you can train against them. If you are a man, you may feel reluctant to fully engage with a woman. You may also consider being attacked by one in real life less likely than being attacked by another man.
Summary: Visit the program. Pay attention to the moves. Judge the culture of the class. Consider the instructor’s gender.

Problem: Article: Then, you can add the bay leaves and onion. Turn once as it simmers. Lower the heat if the sauce begins to boil. Carefully removing the sauté pan from the heat, pour the marinade sauce out of the pan and into a bowl. You can use the same bowl you marinated the meat in. Make sure the meat does not fall out as you pour the sauce. 1 tablespoon of olive or canola oil will work. This will help the meat not stick. This will take 10-20 minutes. Use medium heat to brown the meat, but turn the heat higher if the meat is cooking very slowly. Carefully transfer the marinade sauce back to the sauté pan, then bring the pan to a boil. The chicken or pork should be tender and the sauce will be a thick, deep brown. The meat should be fully cooked throughout. Taste the marinade sauce and see if it needs more salt or pepper. You can use a rice cooker to prepare 2-3 cups of brown or white rice, depending on how many people you are feeding. 1 cup usually feeds 2 people.
Summary: Place the chicken and marinade in a deep sided sauté pan over medium heat. Simmer the meat for 15 minutes. Transfer the sauce to a bowl. Add oil to the pan. Brown the chicken or pork on all sides. Return the sauce to the pan. Simmer for 20-30 minutes over medium heat. Add salt and pepper to taste. Serve over rice.

Problem: Article: If you are new to working out, don’t plan for a two-hour marathon session each day. Not only will you get burnt out, but you’re likely to hurt yourself as well. You could begin with 30-minute sessions every other day until you build up your stamina. Not only do you want to take a short break between sets, but you should also rest between workouts. Your muscles need time to rest, and you actually build muscle during those breaks. Aim for 24-48 hours of rest between workouts. Most exercises are a single movement that you do multiple times. Different numbers of repetitions (reps) give you different results. Build endurance and tone by doing 12 or more reps with 2-3 or more sets using light weight, build muscle size and strength by doing 8-12 reps in sets of 3-4 with moderate to heavy weight, and build muscle strength by doing 5-8 reps or 5-6 sets with super heavy weight. Do 2-3 sets of 10-15 reps with light weight to start out. This builds muscle memory in the correct movement pattern and strengthens your tendons and ligaments without putting too much strain on them. Don’t feel as though you have to stick with a routine you hate. If the time you’ve set aside for working out, or the exercises you’ve chosen, aren’t working out then reevaluate. Make decisions based on what is best for you and your schedule.
Summary:
Start slow. Rest. Build your tolerance. See what works.