Q: . It is important to remind yourself of how great you are as often as possible if this helps you. No person can be perfect, so instead of trying to attain perfection be really happy about the wonderful person that you are. Every day, you should:  Love yourself for who you are. Respect yourself for what you have achieved so far in life. Remind yourself of what your goals are and what you are capable of achieving in the future. Perhaps make a list of your goals for 1 month, 6 months, and 1 year from now. Look at these goals each day and make sure you are working toward them. Focus on your strengths. Consider your strengths, talents, achievements, contributions, and accomplishments. These are things that should define you—not your body type or image. You can also think about the things in life that you are grateful for, be it a loving best friend, a great job, or the amazing family that supports you.  Make a list of all of your strengths and accomplishments and put it somewhere where you can see it every day. Make a list of the things you are grateful for. These things can help to remind you of how good your life really is. Participate in activities relating to your strengths. For example, if you are a good writer, you can cultivate this strength by continuing to practice writing articles, stories, or even in a journal. It can really help to write your emotions and thoughts down, especially when you are trying to overcome the purging cycle. Write down all of the things that make you want to purge, as well as all of the reasons why you want to stop purging. Along with these things you should write down:  Your thoughts about the anxieties or feelings of guilt that make you want to purge. Moments of strength when you overcame the desire to purge. You can reread these moments of success to give you strength in times of relapse. Your goals. When you lose sight of them, you can revisit your journal entries and remind yourself of what you are working towards. Working to overcome this condition by yourself can be lonesome and frustrating. Because of this, it’s important to create a support system for yourself. Lack of social support is also a significant risk factor in developing issues with eating such as purging. Therefore, it is crucial to make sure you have a strong sense that you are socially supported. The best way to do this is by talking to family members or friends about what you are going through and asking them to help you. They can help you stick to your eating schedule and will help distract you after meals. Aside from your family and friends, it can also help to go to community support groups where you can meet and talk to people going through the same thing as you. Support groups can: give you an opportunity to listen to stories about what people like you are going through, help you find motivation through other people’s successes, and offer an opportunity to get valuable directions, insights, guidance, and advice from people who know what it is like and will not judge you for it.  Your therapist can help point you in the direction of a local support group, or you can do your own research online to find a group near you. Consider trying a 12 step program for eating disorders and see if you like it. There are even Eating Disorders Anonymous (EDA) websites and groups. Reading about others people’s success with overcoming the desire to purge can help motivate you to break your own cycle. Learn how they stopped purging and try some of their techniques. Understand that everyone is different, so you will have to adopt the techniques that work best for you, but the way to do that is to try things that other people have found helpful.  Go to a bookstore and purchase a book on success stories about overcoming the binge-purge cycle. Look up interviews with people who have overcome bulimia online.
A: Practice self-love daily . Keep a journal. Create a support system for yourself. Join a community support group. Read success stories that will help you stay motivated.

Q: Go back to the basic principles of conversation that were taught to you when you were a child. Don’t interrupt the speaker in the middle of their sentence. This includes interrupting the speaker to finish their sentence. When you are the listener, simply listen. Don’t finish the speaker’s sentences, even if you know what they are going to say. Allow the speaker to complete their thoughts. A good reason to speak when you are listening is to ask questions. Use questions to prompt further conversation or to gain a deeper understanding of what the speaker is saying. Be sure to wait until there is a break in the conversation so that you do not interrupt the speaker.  Avoid derailing the speaker by asking a question that will stray them away from the topic. If you must do this, be sure to guide the conversation back to its original topic. Ask open-ended questions to allow the other person to talk about themselves more. You are not actively listening if you are just waiting for your chance to speak. Instead, you are thinking about what you are going to say. You could miss important parts of the conversation and possibly even repeat something that has already been said. Be aware of why you may be talking more than listening. It could mean that you’re nervous and trying to soothe yourself. Be aware of how you’re feeling and try practicing calming techniques if you find yourself stressed out.
A: Don’t interrupt. Ask questions to gain a deeper understanding. Resist listening for your chance to speak.

Q: You'll want to familiarize yourself with some southern speech mannerisms so that you'll know what people are talking about. Try to incorporate some of these phrases into your vocabulary as well.  “Taters” - as in sweet 'taters, mashed 'taters, etc -  refers to potatoes. “Light'nin bugs” are fireflies. “Y'all” is a standard contraction for “you all.” “Amen!” is frequently used to express agreement. “I reckon” is a common substitute for “I guess” or “I suppose.” Terms of endearment, such as sweetie, darlin', sugar, and honey, are commonly used by southern belles. While you should never use pet names to refer to your elders, these terms are great for friends, acquaintances, and children. No matter how old you get, a real southern belle will always refer to her folks as Mama and Daddy. Calling your parents anything else will make you stick out like a sore thumb! Swearing is considered both rude and incredibly tacky amongst southern belles. If you must, incorporate alternative, G-rated curse words into your vocabulary, such as “shoot,” “darn,” and “fudge.” Like swear words, all bathroom talk is considered rude and tacky. If you need to use the restroom, simply excuse yourself from the conversation, and if you must, refer to the bathroom as “the powder room.”
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Use southern slang and expressions. Use pet names. Call your parents Mama and Daddy. Avoid using swear words. Never talk about the bathroom.