Problem: Article: Withhold any immediate reaction until you are able to calmly reflect on what the person has. Listen or read with an open mind and be willing to entertain the other person’s perspective. Tell the person you appreciate their apology, but you need some time to process it.  Take some time to calm yourself down before trying to assess the apology. Try deep breathing to regain your composure. Whether you are receiving an apology from a friend or family member, or someone you work with, it’s important to give the apology your full consideration. If the person has written you an apology letter, find a quiet place where you can focus on reading the apology without distraction. An apology should demonstrate regret and an acknowledgement that the person has done something wrong or feels remorse in some way. A true apology will show that the person is taking appropriate responsibility for the situation they have caused.  A false apology is one that deflects responsibility in some way, on to you, or on to someone or something else. For example, saying “I’m sorry if you felt offended,” is not a true apology. Rather than apologizing for their own action, they are deflecting responsibility back on to you. An apology may also be a disguised justification. A person may slip into an explanation for why they did what they did without actually saying they are sorry for doing it. The person should offer to fix the situation if possible. For example, if you asked them to water your house plants while you were away and they forgot, an appropriate apology might include an offer to replace any plants that died as a result of their neglect. the person for your own wellbeing. Even if the apology is a poor one, it’s in your best interests to embrace empathy and forgive. Release your negative emotions by crying, writing in a journal, or talking with a friend or therapist.  Depending on the situation, complete forgiveness may take days, months, or even years.  Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or moving forward with no consequences. It means letting go of hurt feelings and not holding onto a grudge. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean that you have to keep a connection to the person. If it is someone who routinely causes offense or hurt, for example, you can forgive them but also choose to end your relationship with them
Summary: Read or listen to the apology calmly and carefully. Determine if the apology is genuine. Forgive

Problem: Article: " The Ujjayi pranayama is often called the "victory" or "ocean-sounding breath," because the goal is to replicate the sound of crashing waves. To do this, practice contracting the vocal cords until you can produce a steady, drawn-out "h" sound. You should feel a slight contraction in your throat as you whisper the "h" sound. It should not be painful or uncomfortable. Draw in a long, deep breath through your parted lips. Focus on contracting the vocal cords while you inhale, so you produce a soft "ocean sound" as you breathe in. As you exhale through your parted lips, focus on continuing to contract the vocal cords to produce the sustained "h" sound associated with Ujjayi pranayama. Once you've perfected the exhalation through your mouth, practice breathing out through your nostrils instead. With some experience, you should be able to produce the "h" sound while breathing out through the nose just as you did through the mouth.
Summary: Whisper an "h. Breathe in through the mouth. Exhale through the mouth.

Problem: Article: Many people don't know how to react when someone they care about goes through a great loss like this. It is common to feel like maybe you shouldn't say anything: either because acknowledging it is too painful or because you're afraid that you'll say something hurtful. However, saying nothing can be even more hurtful than saying the wrong thing. Do acknowledge this terrible loss, even if only briefly. It will help and even this small gesture can make them feel less alone. All you have to say is something like, "I heard that you lost your child. I want to extend my deepest sympathy to you and your whole family. Please, let me know if there's anything at all that I can do to help you." Many people just don't know what to say in deeply serious situations like this. Admitting that you don't know how to react in a helpful way can actually, in itself, be helpful to your friend. When you do this, you show your humanity and communicate that you aren't avoiding them because they feel tainted or because you think they did something wrong. It also shows that you honestly do care about their feelings and don't want them to be hurt further. Say something like, "I don't really know what to say to make this better. I'm not very good at this kind of thing. But I hope you know that I am very sorry for your loss." The best place to start when consoling your friend is to simply ask her if there's anything that you can do. She might not want consoling, but there might be someone other way in which she could use your help. She'll know best what she needs from you right now. It is important that if you tell her you would like to do something for her, that you do what she asks. Going back on your word at this point can leave an incredibly powerful negative impact on your relationship. You may find that your friend does not seem that upset by her loss. You may also find that your friend grieves very openly and loudly. Your friend might start acting very differently, such as always wanting to go out. On the other hand, she might want to just hide herself away and cut off most contact. These are all normal reactions to grief. Even if you went through a miscarriage yourself, you can't expect your friend to grieve in the same way. For example, you have another friend that's gone through the same experience and commemorates every anniversary of their terrible loss. This doesn't mean that your friend who has just lost their child will want to do the same and you shouldn't push them with phrases like "this is the best way" or "you'll feel better". You might feel like your friend is grieving for too long over what may have been a short pregnancy. No matter how short the pregnancy was, the sense of grief can still be overwhelming, especially if the woman was particularly hopeful or excited for this baby. Everyone grieves in different ways and even if you feel that you would have been over it by now, it's important not to judge your friend for taking a long time getting back to normality. Even having another child will not always remove the sense of loss of this child. They may always feel a slight sense of grief. This is normal and should not be looked down upon. Most of the things that people usually say in this situation are exactly the wrong things to say to someone who is grieving. This is most common when the person saying these things has not experienced real grief before. Your best bet is to avoid any comment which minimizes the sense of loss that your friend and her partner are feeling right now. Don't say things that downplay the situation or make it sound like a bump in the road. Even if it's true, those kind of comments don't help. Avoid these common phrases:  "Don't worry. You can try for another baby again later." "Maybe you should have...", "Maybe you shouldn't have...", "Did the doctor say what happened?" and other statements which shift blame onto the mother. "It's for the best", "This happened for a reason", or "This is all in God's plan." "At least you miscarried early in your pregnancy" or other, similar "be grateful for" statements.
Summary:
Do acknowledge their loss. Do admit when you don't know how to respond. Do ask her what she needs. Don't expect everyone to react the same. Don't put a time limit on grief. Don't minimize her loss.