Do you want to get to know her better in the hopes of dating down the line, or do you want to keep things firmly friendly? Both are perfectly fine, but you should take some time to think about this, especially if she seems to be developing feelings or wanting more. Be honest with yourself, and what you want, and it will be much easier to handle and changing feelings. There comes a point where, unless you're looking to move forward into romance, you're just going to have to hang out with other people. This line is different for everyone, and a lot depends on your personal boundaries. That said, some good ground rules include:   No sexual contact of any kind, including kissing. This is especially important when drinking, as the "friendly hook-up" sounds like a much better idea than it is.  See other people of both genders. A large, varied friend group can keep you from becoming too dependent on each other.  Be honest, especially if one of you develops feelings. Holding and hiding things tends to let the feelings balloon up and grow until they are much harder to manage. Romantic dates are almost strictly two people affairs, but platonic friends tend to hang out in groups. This doesn't mean you can't ask a girl out platonically by herself. Rather, you should feel comfortable hanging out with others as well, sending the message that you're interested as friends, not as partners. Inviting her to group events shows that she is part of the gang -- a valued friend instead of a special someone. By definition, platonic friends are those that could have a sexual relationship but don't. So it is only natural that you'll occasionally feel a spark of something more, even if you don't want to pursue it. This is fine, as long as you stay honest with yourself.   Always ask, "is giving in to this temptation worth potentially losing my friendship?"  If you feel her getting interested, or flirting, don't flirt back. You don't have to say anything about it, but you shouldn't condone the behavior unless you want to send mixed signals.

Summary: Determine where you stand on a potential romantic relationship. Maintain your boundaries. Hang out in groups, not just one on one. Know that the occasional temptation doesn't mean you can't be friends anymore.


Holding your crush’s gaze can be a powerful way to flirt, but you need to do it at a good time. There’s no way to plan for the exact moment, but aim for a time when you can potentially have their complete attention without too many distractions.  Don’t choose a moment when your crush is distracted or busy. They won’t be able to pay attention to you. For example, don’t try to hold their gaze while they’re driving, reading, or working. Good moments can be when you first meet and shake hands, when you’re handing them something, or when you open a door to greet them. If you’ve chosen a good moment, this shouldn’t be too hard. If they’re introducing themselves or meeting you at the door, they’ll likely naturally make eye contact. If the context is more difficult, keep your eyes on them until they notice you looking. At a party or other social event, position yourself so that you can see your crush’s eyes. Keep your eyes on theirs as much as possible. Eventually, they’re going to look up and they’ll probably see you looking at them. Let your expression be soft. This can mean smiling slightly, or even licking your lips a bit. If you let your face freeze up or come across as too serious, it might look like you're staring rather than flirting. Normal eye contact lasts for about three seconds. However, if you can hold your crush’s gaze for four and a half seconds, they’ll get a powerful cue that you’re flirting with them. You can even hold it longer, if you like, as long as your crush doesn’t look away. If you’re nervous, you may be tempted to look away. However, try to maintain the eye contact to help build tension. You’ll seem confident and available, which are two powerfully attractive qualities.

Summary: Choose the right moment. Catch their eye. Keep your facial expression inviting. Maintain eye contact.


Avoid eating conventional produce that contains herbicides and pesticides that may negatively impact fertility. Conventional dairy sources may contain hormones and antibiotics that can increase estrogen levels in the body and harm fertility. If dairy does not agree with your stomach or diet plans, you can avoid dairy altogether and opt for a nut-based milk. Do not drink soy milk. In addition to being rich in protein and vitamin A, fish also contain healthy fatty acids that help increase hormone production, reduce inflammation, and ensure a regular menstrual cycle.  Aim to eat wild salmon, cod, and halibut, but avoid farmed fish whenever possible, as farmed fish may contain antibiotics and food coloring. Do not eat large deep sea fish like ahi tuna, swordfish, and sea bass, as these fish may be high in mercury which can be harmful to the body. Avoid consuming hormones and antibiotics that may increase estrogen levels by choosing to eat only grass-fed, organic meat. Protein is essential during your pregnancy, but be sure to avoid conventional meats.  Additionally, if you are concerned about endometriosis, limit your consumption of red meat, as the two have been linked by scientific study. Make sure you only consume poultry that is marked as free range, cage free, or organic as well. Whole grains are high in fiber and essential vitamins. Fiber is particularly important for your diet as it helps the body remove excess hormones and helps keep your blood sugar at a healthy level. Processed grains lack the nutrients necessary for a healthy pregnancy. In addition to regulating hormone levels and blood sugar levels, fiber also promotes healthy digestion. Try to eat fibrous fruits, vegetables, dark greens, beans, and whole grains with each meal. Soy contains a compound that acts like a hormone in your body and thus it can disrupt your hormone balance. Try to avoid all soy products while pregnant or trying to become pregnant. Processed sugar found in bottled juices, popsicles, candy, packaged desserts, etc. can disrupt your blood sugar levels and weaken your immune system. Women require about 2.2 liters (0.6 US gal) of water per day. If possible, avoid tap water that may contain traces of pesticides or unwanted minerals from agricultural runoff.
Summary: Consume organic vegetables and fruits daily. Choose organic, grass-fed, whole fat, and raw dairy products. Eat cold water fish high in omega-3 fatty acids. Eat only grass-fed, organic meat. Choose whole grains over processed grains. Consume fiber with each meal. Avoid eating soy unless it is fermented. Reduce your intake of refined sugars. Be sure to drink an adequate about of water.