Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Do not bully back. Try to ignore it. Stand up for yourself. Distract yourself from bullying. Find someone to talk to.

Answer: If you want to avoid being bullied, you have to avoid doing it to others. This helps create a culture of respect between you and your classmates. Avoid kicking, fighting, or yelling at a bully. Escalating the situation can be dangerous and will only give the bully the reaction they want. Try taking a few deep breaths before you react or do anything. This will help you to stay calm and maintain your composure. If you're able to tune it out, do so. Bullies enjoy knowing their tactics have impacted someone's mentality, so temporarily concealing your reaction may help. If a bully says or does something to you, pretend you didn't notice and proceed with your day. Bullies may get bored with targets that don't react to their antics. If a bully doesn't back down even if you ignore them, calmly address the issue. Instead of getting angry and yelling or fighting back, slowly and confidently tell the bully off. Plan what you will say ahead of time if you have a recurring bully situation, and practice saying it at home in a mirror several times so that you will be prepared.   Use a loud, clear voice to let the bully know you don't like their behavior. Say something like, "Stop doing that now." Then, walk away from the situation. Bullies don't usually expect this type of assertive behaviour from victims, therefore doing so will make them quickly back off. Do the same if you see a bully harassing another student. If bullies see kids in your school won't tolerate their antics, they're more likely to stop. If you're very distressed by a bully, find other things to occupy your mind. In situations where you're getting bullied, do a small mental exercise. Recite the alphabet backwards. Count back from one hundred. Try to make a mental list of names that start with the letter "A." While it's great to ignore the bully in the moment, do not keep your feelings bottled up. After you've been harassed by a bully, talk things out with a trusted friend or adult. Rant about your feelings so you get them out of your system and feel better. Writing your feelings in a journal or doing something artistic like painting or drawing may also be helpful as an emotional outlet.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Get an attorney. Gather your financial information. Prepare a post-divorce budget.

Answer: It is much easier to have a collaborative approach to the divorce. It's also less expensive if you and your husband are able to settle your issues without legal involvement.   If it is not possible to keep a lawyer out of it, make sure you hire an attorney that is willing to litigate your case before a judge. The attorney should know the value of settling the divorce quickly, but he should also be willing to fight for you in court should the need arise. Interview at least three attorneys before you decide on one. Look for a divorce attorney who has at least 5-10 years experience practicing family and divorce law. You need a clear picture of where you and your spouse stand financially. One of the main goals of a divorce is to have an equitable distribution of marital assets and debts. To get your fair share, you need to know what is owned by you and your husband and what is owed by you and your husband. To do this:   Make a list of all possible assets that you own or partly own. Some shared marital assets are obvious. The marital home and any financial accounts and vehicles are assets that should be split equitably. Other assets might include artwork, pension plans, inheritances, or belongings brought into the marriage. Gather all documentation for each asset, including present value, when and where the asset was purchased, and whether it was purchased with joint or separate funds. Turn over all documentation to your attorney and keep a copy for yourself. Determine the debt in your marriage. When determining what you owe, it doesn't matter whose name any debts are in. Marital debt will be split based on who is more financially able to pay the debt, not by whose name the debt is in. The easiest way to determine marital debt is to get a copy of your credit report. Turn this information over to your attorney as well. Determine your income. If you and your husband are salaried employees, give your attorney a copy of your most recent pay stubs and your most recent Income Tax Return. It's important that you figure out how you are going to live once you are divorced.   Think about your living costs, and how much income you will have after the divorce. Some women experience a major drop income post divorce. So avoid getting dinged with bills you can't pay by creating a budget for yourself. Figuring out your expenses post-divorce will also influence how you negotiate your divorce settlement. Your attorney can use this information to determine your settlement options or what you may ask for if your case goes to court.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Use a knife and remove each suet cake you've made. Put the suet cake in a container.

Answer: A butter knife works fine, just scrape it out around the edge. Then hang it up and wait for your local bird life to come calling!


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Remain polite at all times. Remove yourself from potential contact. Limit your contact. Create distance among acquaintances. Inform the person(s) of your wishes.

Answer:
Even if you want to completely shut out someone from your life, it’s important to always be polite. This can leave the door open if you want to rekindle your relationship with the person in the future. It can also keep the situation getting worse and involving other people. Extend civility in any situation, especially when others are around. You don’t want to leave a bad impression of yourself because of your personal issues. For example, if a person whom you want to shut out asks how you are, say, “I’m fine, thank you” in a neutral tone. This brief answer lets the person know you don’t want any further contact without ignoring the person or saying something impolite. You may be in a situation, such as work or school, which requires you to see the individual or group regularly. Finding ways to avoid potential contact can help you more effectively shut out a person or people.  Take note of people’s schedules. This can help you avoid any type of contact with them, including small talk or arguments. If a person you want to shut out goes for happy hour at the same place every week, choose a new location to meet with your friends and colleagues. Recognize that it may take a while for people to get the message that you’re avoiding them at all costs. If you see the person you're shutting out, be pleasant and say hello. If you have to interact with someone and can’t avoid it, limit your exposure as much as possible. Respond to questions, messages, phone calls, or other types of contact only when necessary. This sets boundaries and can decrease any stress you may feel. It also helps send the message that you don’t want contact with the person.  Keep responses as brief and polite as possible. For example, if someone emails you a long note, you can choose to acknowledge it or not. Keep your response to the bare minimum necessary. For instance, you can only write “Thank you for the information, John. I’ll have a look at it and get back to you.” Keep your comments to people brief and polite as well. A simple statement such as, “Thank you for your help, I appreciate it,” followed by you returning to what you were doing sends a clear signal that you don’t want any contact. When you engage with someone, leave no room for further conversation. For example, you can say "Thank you for your assistance. Have a nice day." You may be trying to shut out one specific person, but there may be difficulties. You may have mutual friends, family members, or colleagues with this person. If this is the case, you may need to establish boundaries or distance with these people as well. This can help you more effectively shut out the desired person.  Recognize that distancing yourself from people to cut out an individual or group may result in you being cut out of relationships. You can politely decline invitations from people you like by saying something like, “Thanks for the offer, Caroline. Sorry to turn it down, but I already have plans this evening. Please give everyone my best wishes.” See people on an individual basis to avoid potentially uncomfortable situations. Try saying something like, “I’d love to go out, Caroline, but I’m struggling to feel comfortable in groups. Can we get together for dinner next week? Maybe just the two of us?” Meet acquaintances one-on-one so that you can maintain a relationship without including the person you want to shut out. Take creating distance as an opportunity to try new activities and meet new people if you want. Despite your best efforts, you may not get the message across that you want no contact. Letting the person or group know your wishes in a polite manner can shut them out of your life entirely.  Remain as kind and honest as possible, but don't make excuses. Be direct. For example, say, “I don't feel as though we have much in common any more. I would feel better ending our friendship. I wish you nothing but the best.” With colleagues, you can say, “Alan, I think it’s best we speak only when absolutely necessary. I wish you the best.”  Tell the individual or group in person if possible. Send a polite, handwritten note or email if this is easier for you. Doing so can give you confidence about your decision while showing respect to the other parties.  Focus your comments on yourself. Say, “I really need to concentrate on myself right now. I think that it’s the best for us to not have any contact.” This not only shuts the person out of your life, but can keep the individual from feeling badly.