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This may sound like the impossible, if you're used to dealing with your problems by talking about the people who are bothering you instead of talking to them. However, you must know by now that this won't get you anywhere. The next time you have a real conflict, take the time to talk to the person you're having problems with in an open and honest manner that encourages communication. This doesn't mean you have to tell the person all of the horrible things you're thinking about him or her, but it does mean that you should have a constructive conversation with the person, if you want to resolve the issue.  Take the time to calm down and to discuss the problem in a rational manner instead of getting caught up in the heat of the moment. Sure, it's easier to just complain about the person than to deal with it. But if you deal with the problem head on, the person will have more respect for you, and you'll improve your relationship. Take the time to hear the person out. Don't just tell the person everything you're feeling and expect him or her to have nothing to say. Drama queens can't help themselves. They love gossip more than Perez Hilton does. If they hear something juicy, they just can't wait to share it with their 3,000 Facebook friends. But if you want to stop your antics, then one of the easiest things you can do is to stop gossiping about people. The less you gossip, the more people will respect you, and the less they'll gossip about you in turn. This can be a bad habit to kick, but once you do it, you'll be grateful for all of the positivity that flows into your life as a result. Instead of talking about people behind their backs, start praising people behind their backs. This will make you and everyone around you feel better. Drama lovers love to yell, shout, or just speak louder than everyone else so everyone hears what they have to say. This is another bad habit you've got to kick. The next time you feel yourself getting louder, take three deep breaths, and try to get your tone of voice and volume to match that of the people around you. Don't think that you just don't have the ability to talk more quietly; everyone does. If you talk more quietly, people will want to be around you more. Nobody wants to be around a person who completely dominates them in conversation. What's the point? It will feel good for like, point-five seconds, and then you'll look like an idiot. Do you want people cursing at you and calling you names? If you do, then you have a problem. Only tell people the things that are constructive to helping you resolve a conflict. And if you do end up saying something hurtful, apologize. Your own drama should be enough to deal with, right? Don't get all worked up because of how your sister's boyfriend is acting, or about how your friend's cousin got into a fender bender. Stick with your own problems and don't put your nose where it doesn't belong. Drama queens love to feed off the drama of other people because they feel like there's not enough going on in their own lives; if you find positive things to fill your time, then this won't be you. Drama queens are so focused on themselves and all of the things that happened to them that they don't ever really take the time to hear other people out. When someone is talking to you, make eye contact, really take in what they're saying, and don't interrupt. See the people who mean something to you on their own terms and stop looking for opportunities to talk about your own problems. Every person in your life has his or her own problems and dreams and goals, and you should treat them as your equals, not just as people who should care about you, you, you. People seek out good listeners because they are so hard to find. If you learn to truly listen to people, you'll be a much better friend -- and much better person -- in the process. Recognizing that other people have drama, too, will help you see that your drama isn't that exciting, after all.
Be honest and open with people. Avoid gossiping. Stop raising your voice. Avoid name-calling or offending people in the heat of the moment. Mind your own business. Take the time to listen to people.