Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Forgive yourself Exorcise the abusive comments. Collect positive counterweights. Use a mantra Seek counseling if necessary. Reach out when you're feeling low.

Answer: . The abuse that you endured was not your fault, and there is never any justification for abuse, emotional or physical. All people deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. It's important to let go of feelings of guilt you may be experiencing as a result of ending this relationship, and let your healing continue. Write down a list of people in your life who make you feel good about yourself and who'll be willing to talk to you when you're struggling through something. If you feel like going back to your abuser, or if you feel yourself cycling down into feelings of negativity and guilt, call up your friend for a coffee or a quick chat. Write down all the abuser's criticisms that haunt you and cause you to keep undervaluing yourself. Get them out. Don't worry about trying to reason with them, refute them, or disagree with them. They're not even worthy of that. Instead, take the paper and burn it over a candle, or tear it up and flush it down the toilet. Destroy those negative comments, as a ritual. Let them go and never think of them again. It's very important to stop obsessing over the negativity and the content of the emotional abuse that you endured. Don't argue with the criticism, or with the abuser. Don't worry about refuting the criticisms, because it was never worth listening to in the first place. It's beneath you. You may feel as if you were abused because you are unattractive, uninteresting or unworthy, but this is not true. You were abused because somebody cruel chose to treat you badly.  Right now, write down a list of times in your life that you felt confident, satisfied, and happy. What are your biggest successes? What have you done right? Whenever you find yourself feeling unworthy because of the false messages your abuser gave you, use your lists of positive memories to counteract your negative feelings. At this stage, you have to actively remind yourself that you do have lots of good qualities and you do deserve to be treated properly. . Mantras are little reminders, like tokens, talismans, or good luck charms made of language. When you're struggling with self-doubt or disappointment, many people find solace in chanting a self-improvement mantra to comfort and calm. Prayers, aphorisms, and song lyrics are all great mantras. It doesn't need to be more complicated than, "I'm good enough."  Find an idea that comforts you personally and that is worded in a short sentence you can memorize. "Grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change" is a common mantra. Focusing on one thing and repeating the words is usually enough to help many people calm down and find an inner peace for a few moments. Even if you chant, "Hey, ho, rock and roll, deliver me from nowhere" it can work. Professional abuse counseling can help you process the whirlwind of emotions produced by your tumultuous relationship. Talking with friends is helpful, but it's important to have someone who is completely non-biased. Someone who has no emotional ties to you or your abuser. Many areas have abuse counseling or shelters available at little or no charge. Seek support groups for people who shared your situation. Again, you need to talk to people who've been when you've been and who understand, to help you rebuild who you are. Make friends within these groups, and go out doing things you enjoy. It's also important to spend time just socializing normally. Try to move on as much as possible.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Give it time. Talk to someone if you can't let go. Find someone new.

Answer: Your feelings won't go away instantly. There will be bad days, when you feel low, and there will be days when you feel more hopeful. But, as cliché as it sounds, time heals. The intense, painful feelings you feel will become dull, and eventually fade. If it has been months and months and you feel no change, you may need a little extra help. If you have tried to move on or ignore your feelings and nothing has changed, you may need to talk to someone. Reach out to a mental health professional or a trusted friend and ask for support. A therapist may be able to give you more coping strategies to deal with your feelings. When you feel ready, you can start looking for someone who is more compatible and returns your feelings. You don't need to rush into anything right away--rebounding is not always a good idea, and can cause someone else pain if you're not up-front about it. Look at your list of positive traits and remind yourself that you're an amazing human being and you deserve love just like anyone else!  When you feel better, you won't feel anxiety or longing when you hear their name.  You will think about them less and less.  You will start to truly see and understand that they were not the right person for you.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Wash and condition your hair. Squeeze excess moisture from hair using a microfiber towel. Use a detangling comb to comb through hair. Divide hair into 2 pigtails. Wrap elastic hair bands in intervals along the pigtails. Wrap a silk scarf around your head. Remove scarf, pins, and hair bands.

Answer: Use a gentle shampoo and heavy-duty conditioner to lock moisture into your hair. Avoid shampoos with surfactants or sulfates, as these can damage your hair. Do not rub the hair too hard as this can cause breakage and frizz. Simply squeeze sections of the hair with a microfiber towel to remove excess water. A microfiber towel works best to absorb water and reduce frizz. These combs typically have wider teeth so they will detangle your hair without snagging. Follow with a finer-toothed comb to smooth the hair further. The pigtails should start near the nape of your neck; higher pigtails will cause more kinking in the hair as it dries. Secure with elastic hair bands. Every 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm), wrap an elastic hair band around each pigtail. Don’t wrap too tightly or you will create bumps in the hair as it dries. You should end up with what look like “striped” pigtails. Secure with a few bobby pins. The silk will help keep your hair from tangling as it dries, reduce beneficial moisture loss, and will also help reduce frizz. You can sleep comfortably in this style, or do it first thing in the morning if you don’t have anywhere to be for a few hours. Comb through with a wide-toothed comb. Avoid using a bristle brush, at it might encourage frizzing.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Set firm boundaries. Step back if you feel controlled. Stay away from psychic vampires. Keep up with your self care.

Answer:
The first step to dealing with a psychic vampire is by setting firm boundaries. If psychic vampires realize you have limits, they'll back off from you and search for other victims.  Be very clear about what you can and cannot do for this person. Explain, in no uncertain terms, what amount of your time, space, and energy is reasonable and what is not. Try saying something like, "I am perfectly happy to talk with you about your problems, but when you refuse to listen to any possible solutions or let me help you feel better I need to step away."  Try to set boundaries on your own end, especially if you're dealing with a narcissistic psychic vampire. Try to remind yourself you should not fall in love or form a strong friendship with a person of this emotional capacity. It is not possible for them to love you back.  Body language helps as well. If a psychic vampire tries to break boundaries, cross your arms and break eye contact. This sends a signal - "Back off, I can't deal with this today." Psychic vampires thrive on controlling others. If you feel like your time and space is being controlled by another person, take a step back from the relationship.  If a psychic vampire is trying to control you or offering unsolicited advice, cut them off with a firm declaration that you do not need their advice. Try something like, "I appreciate you offering advice, but I need to work through this on my own."  People often internalize criticism from psychic vampires. You end up with an inner critic, just as harsh as the psychic vampire. Work to shut down the voice inside yourself that tells you you're incapable of making your own decisions. If you find yourself putting yourself down, pause and think, "That's negative and unnecessary." After a certain point, you might have to break off the relationship or at least lessen the bond. If a psychic vampire continues to violate boundaries and demand too much of your time and emotional energy, you need to work on keeping your distance. Don't return texts or phone calls and limit the time you spend with this person. Take care of your body and mind by maintaining healthy eating, exercising, and personal care habits. Spend time with people you care about, as well as your pets. Treat yourself to a bath, cup of tea, or time spent on your hobby.   Eat a healthy, balanced diet consisting of plenty of vegetables, lean proteins, and complex carbs. Choose an exercise you enjoy, such as walking, dancing, yoga, or bicycling. Do something nice for yourself every day. If the psychic vampire has done damage, talk out your feelings with someone you trust or work with a therapist.