Problem: Article: Consider what sets you off and causes you to hunger for what other people have or the way that someone else is. Research has found that often envy results from comparisons to others who are of similar background, ability, and achievements in relative or important areas of one's life.  For example, you may compare yourself to a coworker who is of the same status and gender as yourself. The pain of envy is a result of seeing yourself surpassed by another’s ability, especially in an area of life that is a deep part of your self-concept by which being surpassed is seen as a threat to your concept of who you are.  Some other examples are:  You feel insecure when someone else appears more intelligent, funnier, more entertaining, happier or more glamorous than you consider yourself. You cannot help but continuously compare yourself to the other person, either personality-wise or by yearning for the same opportunities they appear to have. You feel deprived and wish for the same property and possessions as someone else. You consider that your life is pale by comparison and somewhat impoverished. You feel miserable because you think that other people have what you don't. Ask yourself what your values are, what your needs are, and what your worldview consists of. Get to the essence of what is really important to you. These things make up your core self-concept. Begin to pull apart the things that are not who you are at your core, and that are causing you to be envious.  It is important to understand that people often extend their boundaries of their self-concept to include things that are not necessarily apart of who they are at their core. When these extension areas are threatened, the person often experiences defensiveness, hostility, or envy.  Examine if you have extended your boundaries of your self-concept to include other areas such as work, friendships, abilities, or status. Begin to make a distinction between who you are at your core (your values, your needs, your worldview, and your purpose) and what you possess in belongings, personal traits, work success, and identities in your social groups. For example, say you give a presentation at work, and you interpret criticisms of the presentation as a personal attack. This means that you have extended your self-concept to include your work. In fact, however, you are not your work, and it is not a part of who you are at your core. Your work is simply something you do. Yes, it is part of your life experience, but it is not who you are as a person, and it is not your personality trait. In another example, you may be envious of a friend in your social group who is similar to yourself. Perhaps you are usually the entertainer in the group or the one making others laugh. When this friend’s talent for making others laugh surpasses your own, you may see this as a threat to your self-concept. In actuality, you are not your ability to entertain others. Who you are at your core is much more than this one trait. These types of scenarios are more common for those who suffer from low self-esteem. This is because their evaluations of themselves are lower than how they evaluate those around them, thus producing feelings of envy. Envy is a complicated emotion that has many facets and can take many forms. Research has found that envy can be social in nature when one perceives that he or she is being left out of the group or left behind because they are being outperformed by another in the group.  Studies have found that some types of envy, termed “envy proper”, contain feelings of hostility, whereas others forms of envy, termed “benign envy”, do not include feelings of hostility.  In addition, researchers make a distinction between envy and jealousy, noting the envy is a feeling of inferiority when compared to another, whereas jealousy involves three persons and stems from being afraid of losing a relationship with one person to another.
Summary: Identify what sparks your envy. Write down your values, needs and worldview. Recognize if you’re extending the boundaries of your core self-concept. Recognize some of the characteristics of envy.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Some teachers teach the "rule of five" or the "five paragraph format" for writing compositions. This isn't a hard and fast rule, and you don't need to hold yourself to an arbitrary number like "5," but it can be helpful in building your argument and organizing your thoughts to try to aim for at least 3 different supporting points to use to hold up your main argument. These 3 points will all be addressed as a part of your thesis statement. Some teachers like their students to come up with:  Introduction, in which the topic is described, the issue or problem is summarized, and your argument is presented Main point paragraph 1, in which you make and support your first supporting argument Main point paragraph 2, in which you make and support your second supporting argument Main point paragraph 3, in which you make and support your final supporting argument Conclusion paragraph, in which you summarize your argument In a good composition, your thesis is like a tabletop--it needs to be held up with the table-legs of good points and evidence, because it can't just float there all by itself. Each point you're going to make should be held up by two kinds of evidence: logic and proof.  Proof includes specific quotes from the book you're writing about, or specific facts about the topic. If you want to talk about Mercutio's temperamental character, you'll need to quote from him, set the scene, and describe him in detail. This is proof that you'll also need to unpack with logic. Logic refers to your rationale and your reasoning. Why is Mercutio like this? What are we supposed to notice about the way he talks? Explain your proof to the reader by using logic and you'll have a solid argument with strong evidence. A common complaint from student writers is that they can't think of anything else to say about a particular topic. Learn to ask yourself questions that the reader might ask to give yourself more material by answering those questions in your draft.  Ask how. How is Juliet's death presented to us? How do the other characters react? How is the reader supposed to feel? Ask why. Why does Shakespeare kill her? Why not let her live? Why does she have to die? Why would the story not work without her death? " One mistake that lots of student writers make is spending too much time using the Microsoft Word thesaurus function to upgrade their vocabulary with cheap substitutes. You're not going to trick your teacher by throwing a $40 word into the first sentence if the argument is thin as the paper it's written on. Making a strong argument has much less to do with your wording and your vocabulary and more to do with the construction of your argument and with supporting your thesis with main points. Only use words and phrases that you have a good command over. Academic vocabulary might sound impressive, but if you don’t fully grasp its meaning, you might muddle the effect of your paper.

SUMMARY: Think in fives. Back up your main points with two kinds of evidence. Think of questions that need to be answered. Don't worry about "sounding smart.

In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: Whether the relationship continues or not, you have to move on with your life. You can acknowledge that you made a mistake (and you should). You can also regret that mistake and learn from it. You do, however, have to accept your actions. This means looking at the good and the bad that they have caused and being at peace with yourself.. Cheating is more than just the company of someone outside your exclusive relationship. Cheating is dishonesty. You have to start being honest about your needs and desires, both with yourself and your partner. There is no way to address your needs if you deny them or do not communicate them to your partner. You should leave your partner plenty of space to be mad at you. They deserve that. You should not be a punching bag - physically or emotionally. Your cheating is not leverage for your partner to control you or abuse you. Set boundaries as to what is okay and not okay when it comes to how you treat each other. You have to move on with your life and, if your partner agrees, your relationship. If you genuinely cannot help but cheat, then your needs are not being met in some way or you do not need a monogamous relationship. That might mean you need to discuss them with your partner, or maybe you need to see a counselor to help you through personal problems. Either way, you have to be able to trust yourself.
Summary:
Forgive yourself for cheating. Be honest about what you want and need. Expect respect from your partner. Trust yourself to be faithful.