INPUT ARTICLE: Article: You can learn from the experience and take these lessons on with you through your life. When you reflect on your experiences in the relationship, try to identify and diagnose behaviour that is indicative of an antisocial personality disorder. Sociopaths are generally unashamed of what they do and how they make you feel, and will sometimes happily admit to hurting people emotionally, physically or financially. They often blame the victim of this abuse, saying that he was just naive. If you can recognise these factors it will help you to spot them in the future. Some of the key signs of a sociopath are:  The person behaves in hurtful ways and expects you to act as if nothing happened. He manipulates people, directly or indirectly. He treats you very differently at different times for no reason. He is comfortable lying to get off the hook. He externalizes blame, not taking responsibility for his actions and their consequences. He sometimes seems to enjoy manipulating and hurting people. You will at some point ask yourself what you could have done differently and whether what happened is your fault. The more you learn about antisocial personality disorders the more you will understand that sociopaths are likely to feel no remorse about what they do, and may even take pleasure in manipulating you and hurting you.  Sociopaths can be very skillful manipulators. The way he acts is down to him, not to you. He may have been very charismatic and effective at faking emotions, such as guilt. While it may be hard for you to tell what he was doing, sociopaths are generally fully aware of the pain they are causing. This awareness separates sociopaths from people with other personality disorders. Narcissists, for example, may cause hurt, but they likely do so while trying to protect themselves. Consider getting professional help in overcoming your relationship with a sociopath. Find a therapist who understands sociopathic behaviour. You will want to talk to a counsellor who understands the psychiatric disorder and can help you move on. Before you schedule an appointment, ask the therapist if he or she has a background in, or experience with, people who have been involved with sociopaths.  Look for groups or support among other victims. The best people to understand what you are going through are those who have gone through it as well. Ask your therapist to refer you to a support group, or check online for forums dedicated to victims. If you have been in an abusive relationship with a sociopath, it’s important to give yourself time to heal and truly come to terms with it. Be cautious of jumping into any new relationships too soon, and be aware of any warning signs. Think about how you got involved with your former partner and be aware of any similarities with a newly developing relationship. Some warning signs to keep an eye out for include:  Does he recognise how his actions impact on others, and take responsibility for this? Does he blame others for their situation? Can he make a genuine and sincere apology? Can he admit to making a mistake?

SUMMARY: Recognise indicators of antisocial personality disorders. Know that it is not about you. Seek therapy. Go slow in new relationships.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Just relax when you’re talking to a girl. Women like it when a guy is direct; they are not mind readers. Speaking to someone you don’t know can produce a lot of anxiety for some. You can approach someone without opening yourself up to being evaluated. Eventually, you'll be confident enough to talk to them in a normal conversation. Try some of these cues:  Ask a small favor like “can you watch my stuff while I get coffee?” This creates attraction from the person doing the favor. Ask a question. Use whatever situation/location you are in to your advantage. Ask a relevant question like “have you seen this band before?” or “you think Texas could be a country?” Be whimsical if you are feeling it. A great way to prove yourself to a woman is showing her that you not only respect her, but all women. It is too common for guys to view picking up girls as a macho competition instead of wanting to get to know a woman. You can show respect by listening to what she has to say, respecting her personal space, making sure not to interrupt her, and refraining from making statements like “you wouldn’t want to do that, it’s a guy thing.”  Never make fun of a girl when you’re trying to tease them. A little bit of joking is okay, but avoid anything that could be taken as offensive by someone. Generosity also goes a long way. No one likes a guy who is too stingy to have a good time. The same can be said about someone who refuses to give a dollar from time to time. Be a fun person by acting on spontaneity. It is attractive and more interesting to be around someone willing to go on an adventure. This can also show her how interesting you can be. Being silly and having fun also shows you’re confident and not afraid of taking risks. Careful not to be a know-it-all or overly pretentious. Most girls will like a guy who reads from time to time and is interested in the world around him. Put down the video game and pick up a book. Try getting into the habit of reading the news every morning. You’ll have more to add to a conversation when you are on top of current events. Not every girl cares about this. Making someone laugh is a great thing and it is attractive. It is one of the most desirable traits women look for in a man. Don’t modify your humor to appeal to someone in particular. Your natural humor will attract the type of person who you’ll be able to relax around. Laughter affects people on a chemical level. It increases the level of serotonin in our brains which causes our brain's function to work more efficiently. This doesn't always have to do with your looks, but how you think of yourself. Have confidence that you'll achieve your goals. Change your mentality: if you think you're attractive you will be attractive. Thinking positively is the first step, but then to ‘’act’’ positively will increase your self-esteem even more. This can be simple like talking to people in a positive manner and focus your energy into acting this way.  Have ambitions for your life. When you have a serious drive for your life, women will take notice. Change one of your bad habits. Start small like waking up without hitting snooze two or three times or drinking 64 ounces of water a day. Start small and progressively work to improve yourself in larger ways. Do something you’ve been procrastinating. There is no time like the present. It can even be a small thing like cleaning your room.

SUMMARY:
Talk to women more often. Practice respect and kindness. Take risks to have fun. Be intellectually curious. Use your sense of humor. Be a confident person.