You do not need a fancy notebook to bullet journal. Simply select a notebook that you can easily transport from place-to-place. Moleskin notebooks work well. A decorative notebook, or one with existing sections, is not necessary for bullet journaling as you'll be organizing the notebook yourself.  You can personalize the notebook a bit, however. For example, if you love the color blue, invest in a blue notebook. You don't have to stick to lined notebooks. You could work with dotted notebooks, grid notebooks, and blank notebooks! It's all up to you! You will be writing numbers on each page of your journal. Your index will help you track which sections fall on which pages. The first blank spread, meaning the first two blank pages that fall side by side, will be your index. To start, all you have to do is write "Index" on the top of both pages. You can write in pen or pencil, and your chosen color. A pen may show up better, however, and darker colors are generally easier to read. Flip to the next blank spread in your journal. This will be your future log. Your future log is a way of getting a bird's eye view of tasks you need to complete within the next six months. It will include a month-by-month breakdown of events, tasks, and goals. To start, count the number of lines and divide that by three. For example, if each page has 24 lines make three sections on each page of eight lines each. Use a ruler to draw three straight lines across the spread, diving it into three equal sections on each page. For example, if you're starting your bullet journal for the new year, you would write, "January" in the first box, then "February," and so on. Write page numbers on the corners of each page. As your future log is your first section, the page numbers should be one and two. Flip back to your index and write something like, "Future Log . . . 1-2." Flip to the next blank spread in your journal. This will be your monthly log. It gives you an overview of a given month. Start with the current month and write the name of this month on the top of both pages.  On the left page, write down every date of the month. After you finish, write down the abbreviation of the day of the week next to the number. For example, you would write "January 1st, Sun." On the right page, jot down your task list for the month. Using bullet points, make a list of all the goals you hope to complete, any bills you have to pay, and any deadlines you need to meet. For example, you would write things like "Pay the cable bill," and "Complete draft of term paper." When you're done, write page numbers on the corner of each page. Flip back to your index and add your monthly log to your index. For example, "January Monthly Log... 3-4." Flip to the next blank spread and write today's date on the top of the page. Use small bullet points to write down things you need to do that day, tasks you completed, and anything else of interest that occurred that day. Use as many lines as you need to log your daily activities. When the day ends, make a new entry the line below for the next day. A bullet journal is meant to be brief, so use short, simple sentences. For example, do not say, "Today, I called the vet to discuss the cat's vaccinations, including the rabies vaccines that is due." Instead, simply write, "Called vet to ask about cat's vaccinations. Rabies due."
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One-sentence summary -- Pick the right notebook. Create an index. Make your future log. Write the name of the next six months in each section. Add a monthly log. Update your index. Add a daily log.


When you're sad, you may only want to lie around--and that's okay for a while. Eventually though, it can help to push yourself to get up and move around.    Physical activity stimulates the release of endorphins which act as feel-good chemicals for the brain. Walk around the block, play fetch with your dog, or have a dance party with your best friend. People with a sense of humor are more resilient in tough life situations, so try to find ways to laugh. Hang with a buddy who's known to be a jokester or queue up your favorite comedy film or TV show. A great way to move through sadness is by spending time on hobbies or passions. These are often anchors that bring joy despite unhappy circumstances. If you love playing tennis, schedule a few matches this week. If you like to bake, try out a new recipe with a loved one. Alcohol, drugs, junk food, and excessive shopping can feel good when you're sad. These activities only numb the pain temporarily, though. They may even plant seeds for addictive or destructive behavior down the line.  Resist the temptation to turn to such activities when you're sad by keeping them out of reach. Limit your access to alcohol, drugs, or junk food (stock your fridge and pantry with healthy foods) and withdraw the amount of cash you need for everyday expenses and hide your credit cards. Instead of engaging in unhealthy coping, make time for positive  self-care activities.
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One-sentence summary -- Get physically active. Laugh. Do things you enjoy. Avoid unhealthy coping.


While you are just trying to show your ex that you still care about him, there is a chance that he might interpret your friendliness as a sign that you want to get back together. You should be wary of this, treat the situation with tact, but be clear about where you draw the line. If he asks you to help him with something, or to do something together, don't feel obliged to say yes if you are uncomfortable.  Be clear in your response, but show that you understand his feelings. You could say something like "I still care about you, but we're not together any more and I can't do that for you". Explain yourself by saying things like, "I know this is difficult", "I know this is an awkward situation". Talking like this while affirming your position will show that you are acknowledging and validating his feelings. You may still miss each other. It's natural to feel this way, but don't let your emotions take over. When you let your emotions take over, you may find yourself saying or doing things that you will regret and will only make things harder in the long-run. Think about the happy moments that you've had with each other, but realise that they are in the past.  Respecting each other means respecting the decision you made to break up. It can often take a long time for people who were in a relationship to become friends again.  It's normal to feel sorry for yourself and have doubts after a break up, but remember that you broke up for a reason. While you might be making a big effort to be kind and friendly to your ex so he can get over you and be happy, it's important that you don't neglect yourself. Start thinking about the future and looking forward rather than back. Take some time off to set some realistic goals and give yourself the right amount of time to start accomplishing them. Visit some of your closest friends or family member and discuss your future plans with them.  Don't forget to try and have fun with friends too. Your don't have to stop everything in order to avoid upsetting your ex. Just be sensitive and considerate. If you keep thinking of the past you might find it harder to take the new opportunities that arise.
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One-sentence summary --
Do only what you're comfortable with. Respect your decision to break up. Don't forget to look after yourself.