Problem: Article: Use the leg that’s furthest from your opponent if you want the most power or the leg closest if you want the most speed. Try to hit their groin with the top of your foot or your shin so it hurts them the most. Most times, your opponent will drop to the ground or hunch over if they aren’t expecting the blow.  It may take multiple hits to the groin to incapacitate your opponent. This works most effectively on male attackers, but it can still cause a lot of pain for females as well. If you’re within arm’s reach of your opponent, reach around the side or back of their head. Grab their ear or a fistful of their hair and pull in the direction you want your opponent to move. If your opponent tries to fight back, yank on their ear or hair harder so to make them feel more pain.  You can try pulling ears or hair with both of your hands, but this could leave you vulnerable to an attack. Try to make your opponent hunch over so you can knee them in the face or drive your elbow into their back. If you aren’t able to move your arms or legs to fight back, open your mouth and bite down on the part of the body that’s closest to you. Try to find an area that has open skin or thin clothing so it hurts your opponent the most. Clench your jaw tightly and don’t let go until your opponent lets you go. If you break skin and get your opponent’s blood in your mouth, visit a doctor as soon as possible to make sure you don’t get any infections or diseases. If your opponent reaches for you, do your best to wrap your hands around their palm or wrist. Squeeze as hard as you can and bend the joint backward so it hurts your opponent. Most times, your opponent will move in the direction you’re bending the joint so it doesn’t break any bones. Try to force your opponent away from you and toward the ground with your grab.  You can also try locking their elbows or knees to control them more. If you’re in a life-or-death situation, bend the joint back as far as you can to break it. That way, you can have an opportunity to escape while your opponent is in pain. Straighten your fingers and lock your wrist so you get the most power from your jab. Try to aim for the center of their throat or directly underneath their chin, and force your arm straight forward. If you land your jab, your opponent will have difficulty breathing momentarily so you can land another blow or get away.  This works best if you’re standing an arm’s length away from your opponent. Be careful not to let your fingers or wrist go limp, or else your jab won’t be as effective. If you’re in a life-or-death situation, try using a closed fist to punch your opponent’s throat to collapse their windpipe. A blow to the back of the neck may cause your opponent to black out momentarily so you’re able to get away from them. When you get the opportunity, bend your elbow so it forms a sharp point and bring it down forcefully where their head and neck meet. If they don’t go down after the first hit, try hitting them repeatedly to force them to the ground.  Try kicking your opponent in the groin first to force them down and make it easier to hit the back of their neck. If you can’t behind your opponent, then you can also try driving your elbow into their throat to make it difficult for them to breathe. If you’re within close range of your opponent, grab the sides of their head to control where they’re moving. Tilt your neck back and quickly slam your head into your opponent’s nose or the space between their eyes. Try to hit them with the top of your forehead since it’s the strongest part of your skull and it will hurt you the least.  If you hit your opponent hard enough, you may knock them unconscious. Avoid hitting the top of their head since you’ll hurt yourself more. Put your palms on the sides of your opponent’s face so your thumbs cover their eyes. Force your thumbs into their eye sockets to temporarily blind them and cause a lot of pain. Most times, your opponent will stop attacking so they can try to stop you. Push your opponent away from you so you can make a quick getaway while they recover. If you apply too much force to your opponent’s eyes, you may puncture their eyeballs and permanently blind them. Look around you to see if there’s anything around you that you can use to defend yourself. For example, you could use a knife, pen, glass bottle, or keys to hit or stab your opponent. Swing your weapon near your attacker to keep them at a safe distance. If you need to hit them, aim for vulnerable areas, like their face, stomach, or hands to incapacitate them faster.  If someone threatens you with a weapon, try to stay back at least 2 arm lengths away so you aren’t in danger. Using a weapon can seriously injure or kill someone, so only use one as a last resort.
Summary: Kick your opponent in the groin to cause them a lot of pain. Pull on your opponent’s ears or hair to control their movements. Bite your opponent if they’re holding onto you. Grab and bend your opponent’s wrist or fingers to restrict them from moving. Jab your opponent’s throat with your fingers to stun them momentarily. Strike the back of your opponent’s neck with your elbow if they’re hunched over. Headbutt your opponent to disorient them. Push your thumbs into your opponent’s eyes if you’re in close range. Use a weapon if you have one available.

Problem: Article: Having a conversation about sexual issues can be difficult and awkward, especially if you are both feeling the lack of sexual chemistry in the bedroom. Don’t spring the conversation on your partner when you’re having dinner at a restaurant or surrounded by friends. Look for a time when you are both alone, in a private space, to bring up the topic. A good time may be when you are both getting ready for bed, or after you have dinner together at home. A big part of strengthening the sexual relationship between you and your spouse is maintaining open and honest communication between you and your spouse. Bringing up the sexual issues in your marriage will show you are trying to make sex a priority in your relationship, instead of an occasional occurrence. Perhaps you have grown distant from your spouse or your spouse has grown distant from you. Regardless, be proactive and get the conversation started. Let your spouse know that you realize it’s important to have an intimate connection in a relationship, especially in a marriage. Tell your spouse that you realize you have both been unhappy with your love life and that you want to try to do something about it. If your partner responds with, “Well, I’ve heard that before”, don’t take it personally. Instead, ask your partner how you can meet their needs, sexual and otherwise. Discuss what your partner feels is lacking in your sexual relationship and what you feel is lacking, as well.  Often, couples with sexual problems also have other emotional issues that have not been worked out and are hovering over the relationship. You could be lacking sexual chemistry due to boredom in the bedroom, a low sex drive (for you or your partner), a negative body image (for you or your partner), exhaustion due to the stresses of life, or a lack of connection mentally and emotionally.  Try to work together to identify possible causes of your lack of sexual chemistry. It can be difficult to talk about issues around sex. But as partners, you owe it to each other to be honest and to share any concerns around intimacy and sex. Don’t interrupt your partner when your partner is sharing any feelings or concerns. Focus on listening before you respond or speak. Try to get to the root of your issues. Don’t be afraid to be specific about your concerns, as this can lead to solutions to address them. If your partner brings up a feeling of boredom in the bedroom, think of ways to spice up your usual sex routine. Maybe your partner is feeling exhausted by their workday, or experiencing a negative image of their body. Discuss possible solutions to these issues, like taking less hours at work, going on a vacation just the two of you, or taking up exercise together.
Summary:
Choose a time when you are both alone and not distracted. Broach the topic of sex in your marriage. Focus on how you can both meet each other’s needs. Hear each other out. Ask if there are any specific issues or concerns.