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Do your past relationships follow a certain pattern? Review them closely and look for common threads. Most people's past relationships follow a certain cadence—you meet, fall in love, and fall out of love. However, the details of where and how you met, what made you fall in love and subsequently out of love can give you important insight.  Take a look at your past relationships and look for recurring themes. You might even create a table with “Met,” “Fell in Love,” and “Out of Love” and describe what happened during each phase. For instance, if you fell in love with a past partner because they "rescued" you from depression, it makes sense that you might not have felt the same level of attachment with the person once the depression lifted. Perhaps after your mood improved, you began to notice not-so-great traits about your ex. The hard part about revisiting old relationships is having to take responsibility for the role you played in them ending. Reflect on your most recent romantic relationships and think about how they came to an end.  What caused your past relationships to end? What could you have done better? You might find that each time your partner wants to commit, you cheat on them because you are secretly afraid of commitment. Take ownership for whatever role you played in the relationship's end. Once you have identified the common patterns that occur in your relationships and the roles you play, set action-oriented goals to change these patterns. Let's say, you realized that you have a tendency to run from conflict, you might set a goal to learn better conflict resolution skills to face your problems. If you have commitment issues, you might communicate this to a new partner so they can help you take measures to resist sabotaging the relationship when things get serious. Changing faulty relationship patterns is challenging to do on your own. It can help to see a professional therapist who can work with you to spot and overcome negative relationship habits so that you can have the healthy, mature relationship you desire.  If you are already in a romantic relationship, you might choose to bring your partner along to some of the therapy sessions, so you can learn techniques for addressing both your bad relationship habits. If your partner is not willing to seek help or work on serious communication issues, be cautious about staying in the relationship. Improvement can't come from just one person.

summary: Examine old patterns. Own your destructive habits. Set concrete relationship goals. See a  therapist.


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When transplanting a young tree, use a pair of hand pruners to snip away smaller lower hanging branches. Pruning young trees helps the root system take hold and promotes growth of their crown, or the top of the tree. Use hand pruners and snip any smaller branches growing inward towards the leader. These branches rub against the tree as they grow and will damage it over time. Branches growing towards the leader don’t get enough sunlight to stay healthy. For young trees, it’s best if their branches are spaced 8–12 inches (20–30 cm) apart from each other. Over-pruning can damage the tree, so make sure that you leave at least 2/3rds of the branches each time you prune it. Pruning outgrowing branches should start as soon as you plant the tree. This will keep it aesthetically pleasing and promotes healthy growth.  Cutting the leader when the tree is young will inhibit the tree’s growth. Pruning trees when they are young is much easier than pruning adult trees.

summary: Cut lower hanging branches after transplanting a tree. Cut branches that are growing vertically or towards the leader. Snip away branches that are growing too close to each other. Prune the tree to shape it but don't cut the leader.


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One thing that that will help gain the admiration of girls is to be open to making a variety of types of friends. A diverse group of friends will show that you are open to different types of people, are interesting, and are successful socially. In addition, it will help you build a social network that is relatively large, and in which you will gain lots of experience socializing.  If you’re in school, attend different types of extracurricular activities. Attending a variety of activities will help you make friends of different kinds. Interact with people you don’t normally interact with. For instance, try making friends with people from different religious, racial, or ethnic groups. Don't ask or expect people who are different than you to adapt to your perspective or way of life. Part of growing and becoming an admirable person is that you try to expand your perspective by engaging others in equal relationships. Don't view people from different backgrounds as people to "collect" or to add to your social media page or social circle. It can be easy to engage with peers or acquaintances you already have in your social life, but it’s another story to trust someone or get others to trust you. Especially for girls, trust is the biggest thing when building new friendships or relationships. Being truthful and honest about yourself is a good starting point to help girls build trust within you.  When you’ve established trust, maintain your honesty, integrity, and trust by maintaining the relationship. If people can build and maintain a strong basic level of trust, they can work resilience into that friendship. Keep in mind that initiating, building, and maintaining a relationship with a girl doesn’t come with a handbook. This means that communicating well is your best bet to maintain trust. Kindness is one trait that most all people respect and admire. Showing kindness to those around you will definitely help you gain the admiration of girls that you know.  Whenever someone is feeling down or discouraged, try your best to pep them up. When something bad happens to someone you know, like the death of a friend or family member, comfort them and do anything you can to make their time of loss easier. Socializing is one way to get girls to know you. In addition, it is a great way to get girls to respect you. By socializing frequently, you’ll also gain more experience talking to girls and will likely build your confidence.  Attend any parties or events your friends invite you to. Consider hosting a parties or gatherings at your house. Join friends on outings to movies, bars, the county fair, or other events.
summary: Make friends with people different from yourself. Build trust. Show kindness to people around you. Engage in social activities as often as you can.