Q: Make a few little changes so she'll have a jaw-drop moment when you guys get together to hang out. Get a new outfit of clothes, get a haircut, and groom yourself. Make sure you're smelling good so she'll be able to look on your with different eyes. You want her to think of you as a potential date, not her regular old guy friend. There's no specific way to dress to turn a girl on. Just wear what feels comfortable and what you think makes you look good. Maybe consider dressing up slightly. No ratty b-ball shorts and joke-message t-shirt. Wear a button-down that makes you look good. When you get back together, don't make it all buddy-buddy. Do something different than the way you normally talk to her. If you usually joke around and make crude jokes, have a more serious conversation. Ask her serious questions and open up to her as well. Try complaining about your relationships with other girls. If you want to get her thinking about you differently, try bringing up the subject of dating and see how she reacts. Say, "I've been so unhappy with the girls I've been seeing lately. I just wish I could find someone who got me like you do..." You need to find out if she's attracted to you, or not. If she is, giving her a cooling period should have warmed her up to you considerably. She should be excited to be around you, just as you are excited to be around her. If you get similar vibes form her, then keep moving forward and try to turn her on some more. If you don't, call it quits. It didn't work. Move on.  If she scrunches her face up and looks confused, or continues to punch your arm like the good ol' buddy you are, this might not work. She's giving you signs that you're friends and nothing more. That's ok. But don't keep going and embarrass yourself. If she's looking good and flirting back, it might be ok to move a little farther and see if she likes you enough for a kiss. Move slowly, but keep going. Check her out. Once you've let her cool off for a while, start giving her different sorts of looks. The kinds of looks she saw you giving other girls while you were ignoring her. Just smile at her and make eye contact every now and then, then look away like you're embarrassed. If she asks what you're thinking, say, "Nothing." Don't be creepy and stare, just let yourself act the way you want to act with her. If you're feeling attracted to her, then look at her as if you enjoy it. A gentle touch on the hand or on the arm can be electric when you're flirting with someone. It can also be a quick and easy way to gauge how she reacts and see what she's thinking. If you brush her hand when you're talking, to emphasize something funny that she says, see how she reacts. If she smiles big and seems happy, good move. If she backs up, stop.  If you've gotten their ok, try touching her hair, or her shoulder. Just a quick caress. Don't make a big deal out of it and be creepy. Just keep it casual. Again, this can come off a little creepy if she's unprepared or if she doesn't feel the same way. You have to lay some groundwork for this. It's always nice to know that someone likes you. If you want to turn this girl on, tell her so. There's some electric chemistry between you that you're feeling, and you think she feels it too. You don't need to treat this any differently than if you were with some girl that wasn't your friend. Just tell her you've been thinking about there a lot lately, and you've been thinking of her as more than a friend. Tell her you'd like to kiss her and ask if it would be ok to do so, if you're feeling comfortable enough with her to try. She may say no, she may say yes. But at least you'll know. Sometimes, you're just not right for each other. It's not because you failed in the "friend zone," and there's nothing you can do about it. It may just be because she doesn't like you in that way. It's ok. That may change in the future and it may not. But if you force the issue now, you may risk losing a good friend and embarrassing yourself. So know when to back off, if it doesn't go your way. If she's not attracted to you, she's not attracted to you. Sometimes it's just as simple as that.
A: Look your best. Open up. Read the signals she gives you. Start giving her knowing little looks. Give her little touches. Tell her how you feel. Know when to back off.

Q: Not everything you work on has the same payoff for finishing it or consequences for not finishing it. As you work on projects and constantly add more to your list, use some kind of system to remind yourself what is the most important and what you can put off for long amounts of time.  One way to prioritize is to take note of when things are due and make sure you mostly work on the things that are due the soonest. You will still need to work on longer term projects over time, rather than waiting until the deadline is upon you. You can also prioritize based on the size of the project, or the difficulty of getting it done. It can be helpful to set a higher priority on difficult projects so you avoid putting them off and hurrying them at the last minute. Develop a color coding system that gives you an at-a-glance visual of relative priority levels. For example, however you decide to assign priorities, make red the highest, purple the middle, and blue the level you can hold off on. Every project will entail multiple phases, steps, or aspects. Make a habit of breaking projects down into specific chunks of work. Write these out and make a plan for how you will work through each step of the process. Assign a time limit for each task and stick to that, but overestimate how long it will take so you have some cushion.  This is the kind of habit that may seem like it is just using extra time, but if you have a detailed guide to what needs to be done before you start, it helps guard against forgetting something along the way. Don’t be afraid to go overboard on the details because the more you expand things out, the clearer it will be what you need to get done. Plus you will feel like you are accomplishing more as you work through each small part of the project. Storing vital information on your various projects in one location helps ensure you never lose track of it. This could mean one notebook or spreadsheet, or one specific folder for all project documents. This single place could have sections for basic info on all the projects and specific info on each individual project.  If it doesn’t make sense to store information from separate projects in a central place, at least be sure to store all of the information for each single project in one place. When you are working with a team who all need access to the set of documents, make sure they have any passwords necessary or copies of any physical documents. Once a project is finished, consider trashing its documents (if it makes sense to do so) or relocating all of the project’s information. Maybe you would never throw away or delete work you’ve done, but you can at least store it in a separate place designated specifically for finished items.
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Prioritize your projects to keep things in perspective. Write out a detailed process for each project. Keep important information in a single, designated place.