Be honest with yourself. If your desire to get back together is about pride or blind emotion, you might want to rethink the decision. Is this relationship worth saving? Don't rush. As a general rule, you should give yourself a full two weeks to think things through. If your ex moves on during that time, there wasn't much of a relationship to save, anyway. If you've gotten your ex to at least speak to you again, there's still probably a lot more work to do with the relationship. Start working it out and try to understand how your ex felt, and feels.  There are two sides to every dispute. You know your own side of the story well enough, but if you want to convince your ex to get back together with you, you'll need to understand their side of things, too. If you lied to your ex and it led to your breakup, ask yourself how you would feel if it happened to you. Put yourself in your partner's shoes. Don't force your way into your ex's life when they want you to stay away. Move at their speed.  While you might think that space will slow the relationship down, it can actually bring your ex around faster when all is said and done. By giving your ex time and space to breathe, you allow them to calm down and think things through sooner. Stalking includes both physical stalking and cyber stalking. Your ex will let you know about things they want you to know about. Going out of your way to learn more can seem desperate and creepy. When you talk to your ex about getting back together, do so calmly and in a positive tone. Never try to push your ex back into a relationship if he or she really doesn't want it. A better option is to have a serious yet relaxed attitude. You need to make sure that your ex knows you're serious in your intentions, but speaking to you should be easy and free of pressure. Staying friends with your ex is great if you can manage it, but if you want to get back together, you need to offer your partner more than just friendship.  It's okay to be a friend to your ex. Listen to his or her concerns and support your ex as a friend would. The strongest relationships are usually built on a deep sense of friendship. Don't stop with being just a friend, though. You won't win your ex back simply by being friends with him or her. You need to make an effort at rekindling the romance, too.
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One-sentence summary -- Make sure getting back together is a good idea. Look at things from your ex's perspective. Give your partner some space. Stay positive. Try not to slip into the friend zone.


If your friend isn’t paying you back according to the schedule, then it’s time to take action. Before resorting to legal action, though, you should try talking to them. There may be reasons that they haven’t sent you payment, or they may have simply forgotten. Sometimes, people feel bad bringing up such a subject, but in this case, you should definitely not. Remember that it is your money that you earned, and they felt that they could ask you, so you can ask for it back. The first time you contact them about why they haven’t repaid you, try to keep it light and casual. Make it clear that you’re not accusing them of avoiding repayment, but that you’re concerned for their welfare, and want to be of help if you can.  For example, you can say something like, “I just wanted to give you a quick call/email to see how things are going. I noticed on my calendar that you were supposed to send me a payment yesterday, but I didn’t notice anything in my bank. Is everything alright?” Contacting them in a very offensive way will immediately make them defensive. If you call and say, “You owe me my money, and you didn’t repay on time, what the heck is going on?” you sound angry and like you’ve already assumed that they are never going to repay. If this is a friend you have known for a very long time, and that you trust completely, it is OK to give them a little wiggle room, if you want. If you get in touch with them, and they explain that they had not forgotten about the payment but that their child broke his arm, and they needed the money to pay for the doctor, but that they can get it to you next week, then it may be wise to give them the benefit of the doubt. Giving them the benefit of the doubt is for your friendship. However, if it is a friend you do not have much trust in, or they don’t seem apologetic or concerned about late payments, then there is no reason to be understanding. If your friend continues to avoid repaying you, tell them what will happen if they don’t pay you back. This is not a suggestion that you should threaten them with violence, but rather that you won’t just give up on getting paid back what you’re owed. For example, explain to them that if they don’t pay you back, you won’t ever be able to loan money to them again.  You may also explain how their failure to stick to their end of the deal has really damaged your trust in them, and that you don’t feel like you want to be around someone you can’t trust. Remind them also, that you have a written agreement. So not only are you able to withdraw your friendship, you are able to take them to court if you want to. If you think that you are eventually going to have to take your friend to court, it is important to create a paper trail. Therefore, sending them past due notices in writing after 30 days, 60 days, and 90 days will help you to establish what happened in the event that legal action is taken.  Be sure to keep copies of the letters and send them via certified mail so that your friend won’t be able to say they never received them. State in the letter the terms of the loan and when they were supposed to have paid you. If your friend continues to avoid paying you back, it may be time to get tough, especially if you don’t believe the reasons that they’re giving you as to why they haven’t paid you back. Contact them again, either by email, phone, or in person. Calmly let them know that you didn’t want it to come to this, but that if they can’t pay you back the money they owe up to that point by a certain date, that you will be taking legal action. Understand that this may offend your friend, and you do risk ruining your friendship. However, if you value the money more than the friendship, it is what you will need to do.
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One-sentence summary -- Remind yourself that you are entitled to the money you lent. Give them a call or write an email to see what’s going on. Try to be understanding of their situation, at first. Warn them of what will happen if they don’t repay you. Begin sending past due notices. Let them know you will pursue legal action.


Freezing will harden the gum and the affected area. This process will make the gum stiff, brittle and easier to remove. Freezing the entirety of your jeans can improve your chances of removing the gum.  When the surrounding area of the gum is stiff and frozen, you'll have an easier time scrapping off the gum.  Empty all the pockets. Fold the jeans into a plastic bag. Don't fold the side with the gum with another piece of fabric. Put the bag in the freezer and leave it there for about an hour or longer. Throw the jeans in with your next load of laundry. Only do this if the gum is fully removed. Pieces of gum could stick to other clothes, if you haven't fully removed it.
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Understand the freezing process. Put your jeans in the freezer. Wash your jeans as you normally would.