Soak a washcloth in hot water, then wring it out so that it’s just damp. Next, press the warm washcloth over your ingrown hair for up to 15 minutes. Repeat this up to 4 times a day, as needed. This will help the hair rise to the surface. You can also use a hot water bottle as a warm compress. Wet the area around the ingrown hair with warm water. Then, apply soap to your fingers and gently massage the hair for 10-15 seconds. Finally, rinse the area with warm water to wash away the soap. The gentle massage and heat from the water may draw the hair out. An exfoliator can remove the dead skin cells that cover the ingrown hair, which might help it surface. Rub your exfoliator over the area, then let it sit for 10 minutes. Next, wet the exfoliator with warm water and gently rub it into your skin as you rinse it off. Here are some natural exfoliators you can use:  Make a paste with 1/2 cup (110 grams) of brown or white sugar and about 3 tablespoons (44 mL) of olive oil. Mix 3 tablespoons (15 grams) of used coffee grounds with 1 tablespoon (15 mL) of olive oil. Mix 3 tablespoons (38 grams) of salt with 1 tablespoon (15 mL) of olive oil. Mix 1 teaspoon (6 grams) of baking soda with just enough water to make a paste. For stubborn ingrown hairs, you might use prescription retinoids to remove the top layer of your skin cells. This usually causes the hair to surface. Talk to your doctor to find out if this is an option for you. Then, use your topical treatment as directed. You can only get retinoids by prescription.

Summary:
Apply a warm compress for 15 minutes to draw out the hair. Massage soap and warm water over the ingrown hair for 10-15 seconds. Apply a natural exfoliator for 10 minutes to remove dead skin cells. Ask your doctor about retinoids to remove the top layer of skin.