INPUT ARTICLE: Article: You'll want to have your parents' undivided attention when you talk about how you feel, so find a time and place without distractions. Once you've decided on a time and day, write it down so you don't forget about it.  Tell your parents that you don't want your sibling(s) to be present. This will ensure that your parents focus on you during your talk. It will also prevent your sibling's feelings from being hurt. . Talk about how you feel, without making accusations or trying to place blame. Your feelings are valid and you should feel free to express them to your parents. Try not to lash out at your parents; it may feel difficult at the time, but they have feelings too and you don't want to hurt them.   Instead of saying, “You never spend time with me! You just don't care about me as much as Jayden!” try something like, “I feel really sad that I don't get to spend as much time with you as Jayden does.” You might say something like, "I know that because Kate is autistic, you need to spend lots of time with her. Sometimes, I feel left out. I want to spend time with you, but it always seems like you're busy." Talking to your parents about your feelings can feel a bit embarrassing, but it's okay to express yourself and say that you want to spend more time with them. Being honest with yourself and with your parents will help you build a more open and stable relationship. It's also possible that your parents don't even realize that you are feeling this way. Talking to them about it may help them be more conscious of their actions.   Try to say things like, “I'm sad because I feel like I've been forgotten about.” Or, “I feel lonely; I wish you would spend more time with me.” Work with them to find ways to make it easier. They might have some ideas about how you can get more time with them. If your parents are occupied, they might not realize that you want attention too. Although it may seem like your parents know everything, they might not be fully aware of your needs. The easiest way to let them know is to tell them.  Be specific about what you want to do with them. Ask them if they will go for a walk with you, sing with you, do your hair, or toss around a football in the yard. If they say no, it doesn't mean they are rejecting you. They might be too busy. Schedule a time that works for you and them. Feeling left out can be extra hurtful if you don't understand why it's happening. Your parents might be able to put your mind at ease by explaining things a little more clearly. There may be a legitimate reason why your parent(s) or guardian(s) are spending so much time with your sibling.   Kids with disabilities (e.g. autism, ADHD, Down Syndrome) need extra support. Your sibling has a hard time with many things, and they'll spend a lot of their childhood playing "catch up."  Illness or personal crises may mean that a sibling needs extra help. For example, if your sibling is having a major depressive episode, or their best friend died, they'll need a lot of emotional support. Consider behavioral issues. If your sibling is acting out, your parents will spend more time trying to make them stop. Your parents already have to spend time on these things, and you can get attention by helping them out. Fold laundry together, go to the store with them, help in the garden, help them make supper, and find more tasks to join them in. This lets you get time with them, and they'll think very highly of you for helping out.   Try making explicit deals with them. This way, you can plan for time with them for certain. Say something like "If I handle the laundry today, would you have time to teach me about baseball?" Helping makes the chores go more quickly, and your parents will have more time on their hands. Ask if they will spend that extra time with you.

SUMMARY: Set a time to talk. Use "I" phrasing Be honest. Ask your parents to spend time with you. Ask if there's a reason your sibling is getting more attention. Offer to help with chores and errands.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Sweet almond oil, coconut oil, and jojoba oil are good options that shouldn’t irritate your partner’s skin. Use 1⁄2 tablespoon (7.4 mL) to start and add more to your hands when they get dry. You must rub it between your hands to warm it up before you begin. Add a few drops of essential oils to the carrier oil or cream to give it a pleasing scent. Lavender, peppermint, bergamot, and sandalwood are great options. Have your partner lay on their stomach so you can work on their shoulders and back first. Remember, your goal isn’t to give your partner a deep-tissue massage or work out their sore muscles. It’s to awaken their body and gently touch them all over.  Check in with your partner to see if the amount of pressure you’re using is good. They may want a deeper massage or prefer less pressure. Let your hands glide over their skin. Count slowly in your head to 20 for each section that you massage, like their neck, left shoulder, right shoulder, the middle of the back, etc. Stand or sit so that you and your partner are facing the same direction. Put your hands flat on their lower back, near their hips, and push forward toward the middle of their back. Count to 20 as you massage this area, but feel free to do it for longer if your partner likes it. If your partner is comfortable with it, you could also give them a gentle butt massage. Use your elbow to gently put pressure on your partner’s butt, starting at the top and working your way down to the bottom. Repeat on the opposite side. Part of the romantic massage is making your partner feel very relaxed but also aware of their body. Gently rub your hands up and down their arms and longs with long, firm movements. Have them start on their stomach as you massage the backs of their legs, then ask them to flip over to their back so you can massage their arms and the fronts of their legs. Remember to count to 20 for each part of the body. The upper left arm, upper right arm, lower left arm, lower right arm, and so on should each get their allotment of time. Add more cream or oil to your hands, and gently rub the bottom of their feet in large circles. Make small circles around their ankles, and gently massage between your partner’s toes. Depending on how ticklish your partner is, you may have to skip this part. But if they enjoy it, it’s worth spending some time on. The inner thighs are very sensitive and are also a sensual area for both men and women. Focus on the area between the knee and the groin. Use gentle but firm strokes and count to 20 on each side. How high up toward the groin you take the massage is between you and your partner. If they give you any non-verbal signs, like putting their legs together or moving away from you, you may be moving too high up their leg. A romantic massage can be just that, or it could be fantastic foreplay before something more sexual. Start with a gentle full-body massage before getting close to those more sensitive areas, like the breasts, the groin, or the butt. Chances are, your partner is going to be in a state of maximum relaxation and won’t want the lights flipped on and the door flung open as soon as it’s over. Allow them to lay still for a while, and take that opportunity to do some relaxing yourself! If your partner fell asleep during the massage, let them rest!

SUMMARY:
Rub a natural oil or cream between your hands before you begin. Use long strokes with gentle pressure, starting at the neck and shoulders. Spend time massaging their lower back. Massage their arms and legs so that every part of their body is relaxed. Remember to give their feet some TLC. Work on their inner thighs with a firm but gentle pressure. Take your time before massaging their more sensitive or sensual places. Let your partner relax after the massage and take their time getting up.