Q: Does fantasizing about someone other than your partner mean you are going to cheat? Does fantasizing about someone of the same sex mean you're a homosexual? It's unlikely. Imagining something is not the same as doing it--and it doesn't necessarily mean it's even something you'd like to do in real life.  Don't worry that fantasizing about your friend's girlfriend means you betrayed your friend. In fact, fantasizing about her might "scratch" any itch to actually hook up with her. Part of the fun of fantasizing is it allows you to do something you would never do in real life. From flying like a bird to making out with your teacher--you get to imagine crazy and fantastic scenarios. Sometimes fantasies take a turn for the strange and may leave you wondering if you've done something wrong. You may feel that fantasizing about doing something bad, or having something bad done to you, means there is something wrong with you. You may wonder if it makes you a bad person. The answer is no, it doesn't.  Focus instead on the impact of the fantasy. Do you feel empowered and more in control afterwards? Or did it the fantasy feel negative, intrusive, or compulsive? If it's the latter, your fantasy may be revealing some underlying issues you need to deal with. Fantasizing can help us figure out what we want to achieve and even which areas of our lives need work. Everyone fantasizes, whether it's about the delicious meal they plan to eat for dinner or about kissing their crush. It's a natural part of being a human with a curious mind, and nothing to be ashamed of.  Think about how your fantasy might relate to your real life. If you fantasize about being dominated, it might mean you are lacking control somewhere in your life.  Research has found that if you are experiencing a lack of desire for sexual activity and want to give it a boost, fantasizing regularly about your partner may return you to normal sexual functioning.
A: Remember that fantasizing about something and acting on it are very different things. Know that there are no right or wrong fantasies. Remember that fantasizing is healthy.

Q: Try switching to a toothpaste designed to help with sensitive teeth. Toothpaste containing arginine has been shown to be more effective than sensitive toothpastes that use potassium as the active ingredient. Make sure to use a toothbrush with soft bristles. Harder bristles  can damage tooth enamel and cause gums to recede, leading to sensitive teeth.  Also be careful not to press too hard when you brush - this can also damage gums and enamel. Gels designed to numb tooth pain are sold over the counter and can also be applied in the dentist's office or as a prescription. However, many dentists and the Food and Drug Administration warn against using numbing agents like benzocaine, especially to treat sensitive teeth in small children. If your sensitivity is caused by grinding, you can wear a protecting guard during the night. Your dentist can make a custom-fitted mouth guard for you. They are available over-the-counter as well, but because they are not fitted to your mouth specifically, an OTC guard may cause more harm than good.  If you do notice yourself grinding your teeth during the day, position the tip of your tongue between your teeth. At night, hold a warm washcloth against your cheek, near your earlobe. These both relax your jaw.  Try massaging your jaw and sticking to soft foods until the pain subsides. Acetaminophen and ibuprofen can help reduce the pain of sensitive teeth. Don't use this as a long-term solution, however, as pain medications have side effects. While numbing agents and special toothpastes may temporarily ease the pain of sensitive teeth, you won't be able to truly resolve tooth pain unless you know the underlying cause — whether it's due to dry mouth, grinding your teeth, acid reflux, acidic food and drink, etc. Consult your dentist about your tooth pain so she can help you properly diagnose the issue and choose the best treatment.   Tooth sensitivity may be cased by brushing too hard, dental decay, tooth fracture, dry mouth, diet, brushing too hard, acid reflux, gum infection, and more. Your dentist can offer treatments such as a fluoride varnish, a fluoride tray, prescription toothpaste, and/or a mouth guard.
A: Change your toothpaste. Change your toothbrush. Use a numbing agent if you must. Use a night guard. Take an OTC pain medication. Talk to your dentist about the cause of your tooth sensitivity.

Q: After you have bleached your hair, you need to decide which color you want to have. The cuticle layers of your hair strands have been disrupted in the bleaching process, which allows hydrogen peroxide (a key ingredient in hair bleach) to penetrate the hair strand and strip out color. Depending on your hair's natural color and how long you left in the bleach, your hair now might be yellow, white or reddish. Food coloring typically comes in four colors (red, yellow, green and blue), each of which can be mixed with another to achieve a spectrum of color choices. Red and green make brown, for example, while yellow and red make orange, and blue and red make purple. Take into consideration the color of your bleached hair. This will act as an additional color in your overall color mixture. Mix drops of food coloring with shampoo in an empty shampoo bottle. Add 6 drops of coloring to every ounce of shampoo. Mix up enough shampoo to cover the amount of hair you want to color. Tightly seal the bottle and shake until the contents are completely mixed. Add 1 tablespoon of water and reseal the bottle. Shake for another 2 minutes. Your color is now ready to use. Gather up a small hunk of hair from the nape of your neck. Brush the dye onto this strand, starting at the roots and working it towards the ends. Set your timer for 20 minutes and check the color. Add more time if it seems like the color is not quite where you’d like it to be. Rinse out or wipe off the dye and check the color against a white towel. This will enable you to check if you like the color before dousing your entire head in it. It will also help you gauge how much time to leave on the dye. Divide your hair into four sections. Pin back three of these sections while you apply color to the fourth section. Work the dye into your hair, starting at the roots and working towards the ends with your hands. When you’ve applied to all four sections, rub the dye all over your hair as though you were shampooing your hair. Cover your hair with an old shower cap and leave this dye on your hair for anywhere from 30 minutes to 3 hours, depending on how dark you’d like it to be. Start your timer when you have put color in the last section of hair. Gently rinse your hair with warm water to rinse out the leftover dye. Rinse until the water runs clear. Use a towel or blow dryer to dry your hair. Alternatively, you can let it dry naturally. Because you haven’t used chemical-based color to dye your hair, your hair won’t be as dry and brittle and can therefore handle blow drying immediately after dyeing it. Water, soap and heat can lessen the dye’s hold on your hair and cause it to escape. Leaving your hair alone for three days will enable the dye to sink into the cuticles of your hair. You may experience an unwanted color in your hair after the color fades. For example, if you bleach your hair and then dye it bright red, you might get orange hair after the red fades.
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Determine what color you want to dye your hair. Mix up your color. Do a strand test. Apply the dye to your hair. Cover your hair and start your timer. Rinse your hair. Dry your hair. Avoid washing your hair for 2-3 days.