According to a theory by Stanford psychologist B.J. Fogg, your motivation comes in waves. Sometimes, you feel like you are riding a high of motivation and productivity, and other times it might seem like you are caught in a low point of motivation and productivity, or a slump. Rather than try to get everything done during your peak motivation, you should outline all your tasks or projects so that when your motivation dips down, you can work on the tasks quickly based on all the pre-work or pre-planning you completed during your high motivation points. For example, you may be trying to work on a paper about colony collapse in honey bees for a class. During your peak motivation time, do some research on honey bees and the causes of colony collapse and create an outline for the paper, as well as your thesis. Then, when you are feeling less motivated or productive, you can use the pre-work you did to fill in the gaps and finish the paper. Per our most basic instincts, we are motivated to complete tasks in order to feel a sense of accomplishment, and have a reason to reward ourselves. Think of your favorite food, such as chocolate, or your favorite activity, such as watching a tv show or playing a video game. Then, tell yourself you can only indulge in a favorite pastime if you complete one item on your to do list first. Trade one item on your to do list, or several items, for time spent doing something you enjoy. But don't go overboard and only reward yourself when you complete a task. Note your accomplishment by marking off an item or task on your list once it is done. This will also help you keep track of how many items you have yet to complete and motivate you to work your way to the end of the list. Hold yourself accountable to your to do list and your must do errands or tasks by talking to others about your plans for the day. Share your productive spirit and your fear of failing by telling close friends, partners, or family about your goals. This way, you will be motivated to accomplish them and have allies who are encouraging you to get stuff done, instead of daydream.
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One-sentence summary -- Outline your projects during your productive moments. Create a rewards system. Check items off your to-do list as they are completed. Involve others in your tasks and goals.


It can be difficult to concentrate with outside noises, so playing some nature sounds or some music meant to enhance meditation may help you and your partner to relax.  Try playing some rain sounds, ocean wave sounds, or some new age music. Make sure that you choose something that will last long enough to play while you are meditating and having sex. Once you've tried basic sexual meditation, try to move on to more complex forms. Taoist sexual meditation is a form of meditation that focuses on you and your partner merging desires.   Matching breaths. You can start Taoist meditation by holding your partner and trying to merge your breathing. That is, match the pace of your inhaling and exhaling so that you and your partner are inhaling and exhaling at the same time. Keep going until you breathe as one.  Hand pulsing. Pulsing is another form of Taoist sexual meditation. Gently open and close your partner's hand or squeeze your partner’s hand using a smooth, gentle rhythm. Your partner can also squeeze your hand. Tantric sex is a way of using sex to meditate, so incorporating some tantric practices may be enjoyable for you and your partner. Some easy tantric sex practices that you can try are:   Eye gazing. Try to maintain eye contact with your partner while you have sex and as you climax as well.  Alternating breaths. Try to alternate breaths with your partner. For example, you can breathe in as your partner breathes out and vice versa.
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One-sentence summary -- Play some nature sounds or relaxing music. Try taoist sexual meditation. Include some tantric practices.


Lighter shades can highlight areas, especially when a used with a darker shade. If you are an apple shape and want to highlight your legs, wear a light blue bottom with a navy top. Similarly if you are an hourglass shape and want to highlight your waist, choose a light colored top and bottom. You can draw attention away from specific areas with dark colors. Black is a go to color for this, but any dark color can work. A dark colored top paired with a lighter or patterned bottom will help disguise a large bust area. Patterns draw the eye and can create symmetry, especially when used with a solid. A small pattern top with a solid bottom can balance your figure if you are pear shaped.  Use stripes to your advantage. If you want to give the illusion of longer legs, a vertical striped bottom can help. Drawing attention to your bust and hips with horizontal stripes can make your waist seem smaller. Whatever part of your body you wish to highlight can be done with embellishments. Jewels, sequins, flowers, and cut outs can all draw attention to specific areas. If you aren’t comfortable with a top and bottom with decoration, try it on just one piece and use a solid for the other piece.
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Select light colors to draw attention. Look to dark colors for concealment. Choose patterns to balance your figure. Try embellishments to show off your figure.