INPUT ARTICLE: Article: While some people believe that women are more emotional than men, that is not necessarily the truth. Research has revealed that men and women simply process emotions differently. The types of situations that provoke an emotional response in women is different than that of men.  Instead of dismissing a woman's emotional response, try to get an understanding of what is causing her response. One great benefit of relationships is that others may be strong where you are not so strong, which can be highly beneficial to your life. When you are honest about areas where the woman in your life is stronger, it can be of great benefit to you in the long run. Some women need personal time and space. How much varies, but generally speaking, you should not be intimated by phone calls and text messages from friends, nor should you feel compelled to monitor them. As long as you trust each other you should not worry about the time that she is away from you. You should also avoid being controlling and allow her to be her own person by not trying to dictate how she should live her life. There should be a mutual respect for each other's career without one person diminishing the other based on the nature of their job. If the woman makes more money, this should not cause a rift or any feelings of insecurity. Whether you are in a serious relationship or just friends, a good compliment is often appreciated. When complimenting a woman, be sincere and do not just focus on her physical attributes. There are many aspects of a woman besides her physical appearance that deserves attention. Consider complimenting her intelligence, sense of humor, creativity, cooking skills, or compassion for others.

SUMMARY: Understand emotional differences. Acknowledge her strengths. Respect her boundaries. Appreciate her career. Compliment her.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Running kids to soccer practice, taking dogs for a walk, and taking on extra projects at work aren't the activities of an idler. Cloud-watching? Meditating? Drinking tea? Now we're talking. Identify the things that you enjoy doing the most, regardless of whether or not culture views them as "productive."  What would you do if money were no object? Design the perfect version of your day. When would you wake up? What would you do first? What will you have done before lunch time? List out your major priorities in life. What could you do now, today, to make these things happen more easily? If you want to be able to sit and drink coffee and read the paper, undisturbed, could you do this? What's keeping you from getting the idle time you want? Helping your friend move, staying late at the office, taking time out to help the neighbor paint the house? Saintly activities, no doubt, but this kind of stuff seriously cuts into idle time that you may desperately need. Do what you need to do, and continue being reliable for necessary chores, activities, and responsibilities, but stop volunteering for extra stuff. Increasingly, especially with social networking updates and instant-gratification media, we like to glorify busyness as a culture. There's nothing wrong with making a commitment to saving time back for nothing at all. You don't need to have any reason to want to sit in a chair, have a glass of wine, and stare into the middle distance. That's how we stay sane. For some people, a tightly-organized schedule is an essential part of productivity and feeling a sense of accomplishment in the day. For others, it's like a lead weight that hangs around your neck. Who says you have to eat lunch promptly at 12:15, and that it must take exactly 30 minutes, and that you must be back to work by 12:45? Eat when you're hungry. Toss your schedule in the garbage.  Stop wearing a watch, if it stresses you out more than it helps you stay on time. Let yourself stay productive by your own internal workflow, not the little ticks on the clock face. In some languages, conceptions of the way time works are much different. A schedule of hours, from "lunch time" to "coffee break" can be constructed by the language we speak. It's artificial. Tuvans, for example, conceive of the future as behind us, because we can't see it, and that we're walking backward into it. Point being, it's OK to think about the "value" of time differently. Cellphones, social media, and high-speed internet have a way of seriously cutting into idle time. Try to pull back from social media a little bit, and learn to unplug. The "fear of missing out," is an increasingly serious phenomenon. When once you could sit with your thoughts and idle on your way to work, now you have the whole world at your fingertips, from the Kardashians to the Klingons, right on your phone. Your high school friend's marriage pictures. Fifty work e-mails. Someone you met one time in Florida's most recent relationship humble brag. Are these really important parts of your day, right at this moment? Make yourself less available and idle more. In many ways, technology helps us to use our time more wisely. Get in the habit of answering emails right away, so you won't have to worry about responding to them later, cutting into your idle time. If you miss a text, big deal. People shouldn't expect you to be on call 24-7. Ambition gets in the way. The desire for lots of money, a "successful" career, and even things like fame and recognition do a lot to keep us unhappy, disappointed, and turn us into mindless workaholics. Stop feeding your ego and start feeding your idle. Make happiness and leisure your biggest goal and let the other things drift away. Some psychologists will refer to a "locus of control." Some people have an external locus, meaning that they seek approval from others, while some people have an internal locus, meaning that they only seek the approval of themselves. Be happy making yourself happy, not working to get the recognition of others. If what you want to do is drink a bottle of beer and watch the sun set, then you have a responsibility to drink a bottle of beer and watch the sun set. Hop to it.

SUMMARY:
Prioritize the most important leisurely things in your life. Stop volunteering for extra work. Throw out your schedule. Lose your fear of missing out. Be ambitious for happiness and leisure.