If you are worried that your parent may be considering suicide, look for these outward signs and risk factors so that you can catch the problem before it's too late:  Past suicidal attempts. This is one of the biggest risk factors for actual suicide. Outbursts of rage. Although this can signal other things as well, it's a common indication of suicidal intent. Increased risk-taking behavior, such as drinking and driving. A parent who feels suicidal may start to care less about personal safety. Behavior isn't the only indication of being suicidal; you can read the signs in what he talks about as well.  Talk of suicidal intent. Your parent may explicitly state how he feels. Self-hatred. This is a strong ingredient of suicidal thinking. Being a burden. As many suicidal parents feel guilty, it's likely they will feel like they are burdening those in close proximity, including you. Despite what some people may think, suicide is not as much of a choice as it is a combination of natural forces and factors. Some of these forces are:  Mental illness. 90% or more of people who commit suicide had a mental illness at the time of their death. The most common illnesses are depression and other mood disorders, substance abuse disorder, schizophrenia, and personality disorders such as bi-polar and borderline. Serious medical issues. Cancer, HIV, and other illnesses can cause people to experience hopelessness and other desperate emotions which sometimes result in suicide. Biological factors. Research shows that people who commit suicide often have differences in brain structure, especially the areas of the brain related to mood, thinking, and stress response. Environmental stress. Things like prolonged bullying have been linked to an increased risk for suicide. Suicide is often thought of as a solution to a problem. A suicidal parent is trying to escape from a variety of problems and painful realities.  Believing that the people in their life are better off without them. Failure to live up to personal standards. Many people who want to commit suicide are wrestling with unrealistically high standards for themselves and their lives. Self-blame. These people blame themselves for not measuring up to the tasks of life, unrealistic or not. High awareness of failure, so that they are constantly and painfully aware of how much they're failing to match their ideal self. Anxiety and pain result from these issues. The state of mind that sometimes ends in suicide is extremely painful and hard to bear. "Cognitive deconstruction," which refers to how people think about their lives as a simple, unchanging experience of sadness and pain. Finally, disinhibition, or the final step that comes about when a person thinks that a drastic measure such as suicide is necessary to overcome their current predicament.
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One-sentence summary -- Watch for signs of suicidal behavior. Listen for suicidal thoughts and ideas. Learn about suicide's causes. Understand the suicidal state of mind.


Before you make any decisions regarding the method you'll use to stretch your ears, consider how much you want to stretch them. If you're only moving up a size, the most pain-free option would be gently pulling your ears until they stretched out enough to accommodate new earrings. If you're looking to stretch your ears considerably, however, explore other options. Tapering is the most common method to stretch out your ears. If done correctly, this method is relatively painless.  Tapers are sets of rods that gradually increase in diameter. To stretch your ears, you would get a set of tapers, push the taper all the way through the hole, and replace it with a gauge the same size as the end of the taper.  By the time you complete the set, your ears should be stretched as large as you want.   Never wear tapers as jewelry. This will make your ears heal unevenly because of uneven weight distribution. Some people use spiral gauges as tapers, they can be work for long periods of time and allow for longer stretching periods If you want to stretch your ears slowly, consider taping. This allows you to gradually stretch your ears, which can reduce pain, but in smaller increments than you would use with tapers.  To tape, use non-adhesive tape. Wrap this tape around the parts of your earrings entering your ear. Increase by one or two layers at a time until you've stretched your ears to your desired diameter.  Wash your earrings after taping to prevent infection. You should not wear silicone plugs until your ears are fully stretched and healed. If used when stretching, silicone can tear the lining of the ears and potentially cause infection. Double flared jewelry as flares are sometimes large enough to cause pain and possible permanent damage to your ear.
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One-sentence summary -- Tug gently on your ears. Consider tapers. Try taping for gradual adjustments. Avoid silicone and double flared jewelry.


Whether it's a light touch on the arm, or running your hand up and down his thigh while you're watching that movie on the couch, you're going to make him want you touching him all over his body before you know it. Just remember to use light touches and firm touches appropriately and try to stick to sensitive areas (back of the neck, jawline, arms, upper chest, lower back, etc). . Tell him to take off his shirt, oil him up, and start rubbing. Wear as little clothing yourself as you rub. A massage will get the blood flowing and between your hands being all over him and everything already being so...slippery....he's just not going to be able to help himself. Guys get really turned on when girls are spontaneous, confident, and do things that are unexpected. You don't have to go out dancing, but put on some music and home, grab him and make him slow dance with you, and then just move your body in as basic a way as you can handle. Move in ways that feel natural and give you the opportunity to rub against him. Believe us, it'll be enough. Taking charge of the situation will really turn him on. Take his hands and place them on your bum as you give him an alluring look or whisper something in his ear. Putting his hands where you want them to go tells him that you're turned on and you want him: something he'll find very sexy. A little nibble on the ear, a long lick down his neck: show him that you want to just eat him up. The sensations will turn him on and get him thinking about where else he'd like you to be licking and tasting. This can be a huge turn-on. Once you've got his shirt off and you're kissing his chest, for example, lick a long line with your tongue and then blow on it. The heat followed by the cold will give his body a lot of sensation to focus on and will really rev up his engines. Don't forget the oldie but goldie ice cube!
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Touch him. Give him a massage Dance (this isn't as hard as it sounds). Put his hands where you want them to go. Take a little bite. Try temperature changes.