Q: In some situations, changing the subject may be the best way to deal with a disagreement about a sensitive topic. You would especially want to use this strategy when dealing with a disagreement in the workplace, but you can use it in any situation.   For example, if a coworker brings up gun control and you disagree with their point of view, then you could change the subject by saying, “Yeah, that’s tough. Hey, are you going to the company picnic next weekend? Sounds like it’s going to be a fun day!” If the person persists after you have tried to change the subject, then you can kindly say something like, “I am not comfortable talking about this subject. Can we talk about something else?” Most people have some common ground with one another. Even someone who's vastly different from you may share certain core values. When dealing with disagreements, try to find a place where you can both agree. This can help you figure out how to smooth things over and talk out your differences in a calm, mature fashion.  For example, you and a friend disagree about abortion. Try to find some common ground. While you do not agree on the moral issues surrounding abortion, think about shared values. Maybe you both agree women need access to healthcare to help carry a baby to term. Maybe you both feel people should have access to contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Try to bring these issues up to find places where you agree fundamentally about supporting women and children. When you're talking out a major disagreement, negative body language may accidentally slip in. If things get heated, you may do things like roll your eyes, sigh, or cross your arms. Negative body language will only make the other person feel hurt and frustrated. Be aware of what your body is doing and try to use attentive, respectful body language.  Try to maintain eye contact when speaking and listening to show you're paying attention. Keep your facial expression relaxed as well. Avoid furrowing your brows or frowning. Aim for a neutral, relaxed facial expression.  Nodding is also a good way to indicate your attention. Sit facing the person and try to avoid having obstacles between you. Sit in a reasonably close proximity to the person for talking, such as next to them on a sofa or across from them at a table. You can also lean in to indicate your interest. Maintain good posture. Don't cross your arms because this can make you seem like you are resistant to or rejecting what the other person says. It can be hard not to personalize something. Oftentimes, when talking over disagreements, you have the urge to win an argument. Try to stay calm and look at the situation objectively. No one is trying to win. You are trying to better understand someone else's perspective.  Remind yourself someone's opinion is not personal. Try to focus on the objective facts. How and why do you feel strongly about this and how does it affect you? This is what you're trying to convey. Focus on facts over feelings. For example, don't say, "It's hurtful that you don't believe in providing contraception because I rely on it." Instead, say something like, "A lot of women, myself included, do rely on contraception. That's why it's so important to me." Try to remember an emotional reaction will not help you gain insight and understanding of someone else's perspective. Even when you strongly disagree, respect the person enough to remain calm. You should always listen to someone else's side. Do not interrupt when someone else is talking. Ask that they not interrupt when you take your turn. Truly listen to what another person says and try to understand where they're coming from while you're listening.  You can also try briefly paraphrase what someone is saying to make sure you understand. For example, "So, you feel that the government is not responsible for paying for birth control?" Remember, listening to someone else does not take away from your own opinion. It is productive to understand the opinions of others. If you understand why people feel the way they do, you will find it easier to tolerate others opinions. Look for a place where you can both agree or at least agree to disagree respectfully. Deeply held opinions sometimes do not change. However, you can at least strive for mutual respect. For example, say something like, "I see we're not going to agree on contraception. But I understand your opinion more and you understand mine more. I think this was still productive."
A: Change the subject. Look for common ground. Avoid negative body language. Stay calm and objective. Listen. Try to come to a mutual understanding.

Article: Don't think about your interview or the stress you’re under. Focus instead on how you’re feeling physically, and let your mind go as blank as possible for a few moments.  It’s best to do this in a quiet place, although you can practice focusing on your breathing just about anywhere. You can even do this exercise in the waiting room just before your interview, although you may not want to close your eyes. Avoid shallow breathing as much as you can, keeping your eyes closed. You don’t want to just fill your chest with air, but feel the air going in through your nose and all the way down into your belly.  It may take several minutes for your breathing to slow down and become steady. If you’re having trouble breathing deeply, it can be helpful to mentally count to 5 with each inhale (making sure you’re intake of air lasts the full 5 seconds), and count another 5 with each exhale. Go for something soothing or uplifting to ensure you're in a good headspace right before the interview. Avoid anything melancholy and opt for inspiring tunes that fill your head with positive energy and excitement. You can also listen to podcasts or speeches that inspire you. Staying aware of your posture will immediately help you appear more confident and relaxed, even if you aren't feeling that way inside. Stand or sit up straight, lift your chin, and keep your head level to achieve a power pose. Remember to keep your arms loose and at your sides. Try to avoid crossing your arms, which can create a negative vibe. Being in a rush will only make you feel more frazzled, so plan to arrive early. You don't necessarily even have to go into the building early, but it helps to already be there. Try to avoid showing up to the interview itself more than 10 minutes early, since this may cause your interviewer to feel pressured.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Breathe slowly, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Listen to your favorite music to help you calm down. Stand up straight for a confidence boost. Arrive to the interview early.

Q: Black beans love sunlight, so make sure to select a plot that will get full sun during the day. Ideally, your beans should get about 6 hours of sunlight total each day. and amend your soil if necessary. Black beans grow best in soil that has a pH of 6.0-6.5. Get a home pH test kit at your local garden center, or bring in a sample of your soil for testing.  If your soil pH is too low or too high, you may need to amend it. If the pH is too low, you can raise it by adding some lime. If it’s too high, you can add some sulfur. Amending your soil’s pH can take several months, so plan ahead and test your soil well before you plant your beans. Since it's so difficult to change the pH of your soil, you might consider growing your beans in a raised bed if your soil isn't right. Alternatively, you could grown a different bean. Bean plants generally do not need a lot of fertilizer. However, if you’ve grown other plants, especially other bean plants, on the same plot, it may be a good idea to enrich your soil with a bit of organic fertilizer before planting. Select a fertilizer with a low-nitrogen content for ideal bean production. Since it's a vegetable, giving black bean plants too much nitrogen can cause your plants to produce lots of leaves and only a few beans.
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Pick out a sunny spot for your bean plants. Check your soil pH Add some low-nitrogen fertilizer to your soil.