Every relationship has its ups and downs. Couples often fight, and sometimes things are said that shouldn't have been. However, if your partner has abused you (emotionally or physically), cheated on you, or otherwise neglected your feelings throughout the course of your relationship, there's a good chance that that individual would not make a good friend. Toxic people who have hurt you and may continue to do so in the future should be cut out of your life. This is best for your getting over that ex as well as for your general mental health and wellbeing. Some people never stop feeling some type of attraction towards another person. That attraction may be physical or emotional, but it can make friendship very difficult. If you don't think you can talk to your ex or be in the same room with him or her without wanting to reconnect on some level, you'll need to accept the fact that you just can't maintain a friendship with that individual.  If you're having trouble moving on, make sure you cut off all ties completely and at once. Any time you catch yourself thinking about your ex, make a point of doing something fun and distracting. Go out with friends, watch TV, or find other ways to snap out of that mindset. Being friends after a breakup almost always requires time and distance apart. You cannot transition from a relationship to a friendship without time to process and heal (if you're able to at all). If you think you can get over the breakup and ultimately become friends with your ex, you'll need to evaluate your feelings towards that person and consider how much time has passed since the breakup.  Most people feel sad, lonely, or hurt/betrayed in the wake of a breakup. This is normal, and these feelings will pass with time. There is no universal waiting period for getting over a relationship. For some people it can happen in a week or two, while for others it may take months to get over an ex. If you still feel any kind of longing or resentment towards your ex, not enough time has passed. Once you can think about your ex and not miss him/her or get angry about the breakup, you may be ready to consider transitioning to a friendship. If this doesn't happen, though, you may need to cut your losses and move on without your ex in your life.
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One-sentence summary -- Consider whether your ex has hurt you. Ask yourself whether you could be friends without wanting a relationship. Assess how much time has passed.


It can be overwhelming to navigate all of the options for mental health counseling. Your primary care physician will have experience dealing with medical conditions like depression and can recommend your next step. Let your doctor give you a mental health evaluation. Your doctor will be able to assess whether your struggles will benefit from counseling or whether medical treatment is necessary. Many mental illnesses like depression or bipolar disorder can be helped with medication. Using your doctor and other resources, you’ll need to decide what sort of counselor to seek out. This can vary depending on for what you’re seeking help. If you think talk-based therapy will help you, there are licensed therapists and social workers. These can range from those with master's degrees to doctorates in psychology. With the help of your doctor you may decide that a psychiatrist and biological approach using medicine will be most helpful. If your relationship needs help, licensed marriage or relationship counselors may be best. Once you know what type of counseling may work best for you, you’ll have to start narrowing down concrete options.  Use your doctor. Your doctor likely has experience dealing with mental health as well as knowledge of your medical history. They may be able to recommend a colleague they think will be a good fit. Look online. You have to be careful about this but a simple search can bring you options in your area as well as reviews. You can always contact the professional before meeting to assess whether they can help you and the experience they have in treating similar problems. Check with your health insurance provider. If you have insurance, this will not only help from a cost standpoint but they may also be able to help facilitate you finding the specific help you need. Once you decide it’s time to get help, you’ll have a lot of different options open to you. Based on your physician's advice, the nature of your problem, and your own research you can find the type of therapy that's best for you.   Individual therapy. Individual psychotherapy usually entails sitting down one on one with a mental health professional, talking about your problems and taking steps to address your issues in a healthy way. This could be through talk therapy or more traditional methods like psychoanalysis that try to uncover subconscious issues. Group therapy. You may do better in a group setting where a support group is guided by the expertise of a mental health professional. Interpersonal therapy. This is a type of therapy that focuses on how you interact with friends and family. It seeks to improve communication and build up self-esteem and can address a number of issues like depression and anxiety. Cognitive behavioral therapy. This is a particular type of therapy that attempts identify and change behavioral and perceptual problems causing distress. This can be helpful in creating new ways of thinking and new ways of acting that reinforce positive emotional well being. It can be really hard and even scary to admit that you’re struggling. If you experience any of the above signs, seeking out help as soon as possible.  Sometimes it can be hard to talk to a doctor or stranger about your deep feelings. If you have a trusted friend, family member or someone like a pastor, they may be a more comfortable place to start. It is always easier to share your burden with someone you trust and care about. Make sure you're comfortable with your therapist. It can be hard to discuss such personal, often painful feelings if you are not comfortable and trusting with your choice. If you find you don't click with your first choice, don't be afraid to explore other options. As you get further into the process you will start to gain a clearer understanding of what makes you comfortable and what works best for you.
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One-sentence summary -- Talk to your primary care physician. Determine what type of counseling you require. Locate a mental health professional. Know what to expect. Be open and honest about your feelings.


This is helpful if your computer is trapped in a restart cycle. Simply wait for the "Press [key] for advanced options" (or a similar phrase) prompt to appear when your computer is starting up, then press the key listed in the "[key]" section.  If you're here because of a blue screen of death, just wait for the "Choose an option" screen to appear after a few minutes. To access the Advanced Settings menu from the desktop, open Start, click the Power icon in the lower-left side, hold down ⇧ Shift while clicking Restart, and release ⇧ Shift when the Advanced Options screen appears. It's a symbol of a screwdriver and a wrench on this page. You'll find this on the "Troubleshoot" page. It's the top option on the "Advanced options" page. Doing so will take you to the System Restore sign-in page. Click you account's name. If you only have one account on your computer, there should only be one name here. This password may be different than the password that you use to log into your Microsoft account depending on your settings. Doing so will submit your password and log you into your account. It's at the bottom of the System Restore window. Click the point that you want to restore. Make sure that the date to the left of the restore point's name is accurate. It's at the bottom of the window. This option is at the bottom of the window. Doing so will prompt your computer to begin restoring. This process may take several minutes to over an hour, and your computer will restart at least once during the process.
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Open the Advanced Settings menu. Click Troubleshoot. Click Advanced options. Click System Restore. Select your account. Enter your account password. Click Continue. Click Next. Select a restore point. Click Next. Click Finish.