Keep your connection with your date going by asking them their opinion on the movie. Express your thoughts about the movie, too. For example, you may ask, “So, what did you think of the action scene?” or “Did you enjoy the ending?” Extend the movie date by proposing that you both go to a nearby bar or cafe to talk more about the movie and hang out. You may suggest that you grab food or a drink close by to spend more time together. For example, you may say, “Let's talk some more about the movie over drinks” or “Want to grab some food and chat more about that fight scene?” If your movie date is winding down, end it by suggesting another date in the near future. Maybe you pick another movie to see or you move from a movie date to a dinner date or do another activity. For example, you may say to your date, “Want to go see another movie next weekend?” or “How about I take you to dinner and a movie next time?” End the date by parting with your date in a friendly way. Thank them for a nice time. If they respond positively and tell you they had a good time, too, you may offer to hug them or give them a peck on the cheek. Notice if they are smiling or maintaining eye contact with you, as these are usually signs they enjoyed the date. If you have planned another date in the future, you may want to say to your date, "See you soon!" or "I'll contact you next week about dinner, can't wait!"
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One-sentence summary -- Ask your date what they thought of the movie. Propose going for a drink or snack if your date seems interested. Make arrangements for another date. Say goodbye to your date.


Start by placing the fidget spinner between your thumb and middle finger or forefinger. Use your other hand to spin the fidget spinner. Keep it spinning by using your other hand to turn the spinner periodically. This is the most basic way to use the fidget spinner.  You can also try removing your top finger and letting the fidget spinner spin around on your thumb or one one finger. Another basic move is to spin the fidget spinner on a table by setting it flat on a table and giving it a whirl with your fingers. . One fun trick is to toss the fidget spinner from hand to hand while it is spinning. Get the fidget spinner going between your thumb and forefinger. Then, lift your top finger and toss the spinner to your other hand, between your fingers, as it spins.  You can also try switching the fidget spinner to a different finger while it is spinning. Get the spinner going on one finger. Then, carefully toss it to a different finger as it spins. Another trick you can try is throwing the fidget spinner in the air as it is spinning and catching it between your fingers. Throw it only a few inches into the air to make catching it between your fingers easier. As fidget spinners grow in popularity, some schools and workplaces are starting to view them as a distraction. Depending on where you to school or where you work, you may not be allowed to use your fidget spinner in these spaces. Ask a school official or a superior at work if it’s okay for you to have your fidget spinner before you start using it. Some schools and workplaces are open to individuals using fidget spinners as they have been known to help with stress and anxiety. Double check before you bring your spinner so you can use it in peace.
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One-sentence summary -- Practice basic spinner moves. Perform fun tricks with the fidget spinner Check that you can use fidget spinners at school or work.


Being aware of your non-assertive response to criticism is important because these behaviors are likely not acceptable, just as a violent response is unacceptable.  If you notice any of these behaviors after receiving criticism, pause, remove yourself from the situation if possible, and calm down until your responses have stopped.  Becoming defensive Withdrawing Internalizing anger and stewing over the criticism Shutting down Retaliating with anger or blame Ideally, you’ll respond assertively to criticism, the most balanced response possible, meaning that you can distinguish between constructive and destructive criticism and respond appropriately.  Rather than get defensive, place blame, yell at the other person, or turn the blame back to them, you accept the criticism for what it is and move on with no negative feelings.  Responding assertively doesn’t mean that you agree with the criticizer.  Rather, it means you don’t have an emotional attachment to the criticism and respond appropriately.  If the criticism is constructive and valid, your assertive response might simply be to accept the criticism or to accept it and openly agree with the other person, which shows self-confidence and willingness to change your behavior. Another assertive response is to ask, “why do you say that?” in a non-accusatory way.  This indicates a genuine interest in their thought process and how you’re being received. You might also disagree and say, “No, I do not always forget to empty the recycle bin, although I do forget on occasion.  Not always, though.” This shows that you take responsibility for your actions, but not sweeping generalizations. You are under no obligation to accept criticism.  However, you might find there is a kernel of truth in what was said, you might actually agree with everything that was said, or none of it.  As long as you’re being honest with yourself about the content of the criticism, these are perfectly legitimate responses. Listen to what the other person has to say – they might offer an insight or perspective that you hadn’t considered.  Pay attention to what they’re saying, not the tone of their voice, and don’t tune them out because you’re uncomfortable being criticized.  After they’ve spoken, ask follow up questions to clarify any points that you might be confused about.  This demonstrates that you earnestly listened and are considering what was said. Make sure that your questions aren’t antagonistic or designed to prove the speaker wrong. Usually criticism is constructive and not intended to hurt the recipient.  Don’t take the criticism personally – it isn’t a character attack.  Instead, understand that it’s likely addressing a specific action or behavior or yours, and doesn’t reflect on you as a person.  One great technique is to look for the positive.  Whether the criticism is valid or not, there is always something positive to be found.  Say your boss criticizes you for not arranging the files in a way that they think makes sense.  Sure, hearing that might feel rotten, but rather than take it personally, look for the positive – you get to develop an even better filing system that will universally work for everyone. Another good way to not take criticism personally is to turn the meat of the criticism into “if” language.  Ask yourself what the main point of the criticism was.  Then, ask, “if” this were true, for example, if it were true that you were always late, how could you improve the situation? This allows you to emotionally distance yourself from the criticism and tackle the actual issue, if there is one.
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Avoid a non-assertive response. Respond assertively. Agree with all, part, or none of it. Listen and ask questions. Don’t take it personally.