Pursue knowledge of different topics or crafts. You never know if you have an unfounded talent. Check your local area or school for different clubs or societies where you can interact with others who can encourage you and teach you. Perhaps you’ll find you’re really good at cooking or woodwork. If you like, start with things that you have always wanted to know better but never really had an opportunity to follow. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to develop your photography skills or read classic English Literature.  Devote part of your day to engaging in these activities. Remember that this is meant to be enjoyable. You will have something to look forward to that is stress-free. Not every new interest will necessarily require you to leave your house and spend money. Look for online documentaries or videos to watch. Actively look for the positive aspects of every situation and person. Remember that ‘positive’ does not necessarily mean ‘good.’ A learning outcome from a negative situation is a ‘positive’ aspect but that does not make your situation a ‘good one’: you are allowed to consider things as being negative and bad. However, people gravitate towards those who display a positive attitude. Your sunny disposition will encourage others to be cheerful.  Ask yourself, ‘What can I learn from this situation? What can I do differently next time to prevent such an outcome? What have I gained from this?’ Once you form a negative opinion of someone, you start to notice things about her that will confirm your opinion and ignore any evidence to the contrary. If you find yourself thinking mean things about another person, deliberately think of examples that dispel your negative opinion. Or think of reasons that may have made her behave in a way you disliked. Perhaps she was tired or hungry? Maybe she misunderstood the situation? Make a special effort to cheer other women on. It’s very easy to feel competitive around another woman as you seek to be the ‘perfect woman’. Rise above such pettiness and be supportive of other women as opposed to trying to sabotage them. A simple example, is if a co-worker you dislike asks you if you know the deadline for a certain project, don’t sabotage her by giving her the incorrect date. Or if another woman asks you for the recipe of a dish you brought to the potluck, don’t leave out ingredients from the recipe or give different proportions to the ones you used. Be supportive of other women. Stop and think whenever you’re interacting with others about what you’re going to say and do. Make a quick assessment of the different consequences of potential actions. You will have to practice by putting yourself in situations where social skills are required. Read up on body language so that you are better able to assess others. Read up on emotions to better understand how they are conveyed.  Identify your growth points by analysing your own behavior. Do you have trouble maintaining eye contact? Is your speech too fast or your voice too loud when you’re nervous? Do you stand too closely to others when you’re talking to them? Do you interrupt when others are talking? Do you have difficulty saying no? Ask friends/family you can trust to be honest without hurting your feelings about any of your social skills that you need to work on. Friends can often notice things about your behavior that you can’t. Make sure the person you ask is socially skilled. Pick one or two social skills at a time to focus on. When you’ve made significant progress in them, then advance to other skills. Consider asking a friend to role play with you or practice in front of a mirror. Learn to recognize what emotions feel like in your body. Actively notice how you’re feeling throughout the day. If you’re feeling irritable, angry or any other negative emotion, try to identify the source of the emotion. Look to your thoughts. What are you thinking about that is making you feel this way? Know that just because you think something, that does not mean that thought it true. Avoid taking any negative feelings out on others.  If you feel that you are about to snap, take deep, calming breaths. Inhale slowly through your nose, exhale slowly through your mouth. If you can, distance yourself from the situation: leave the room and find a quiet place. If you can’t leave, try to drink a glass of cool water or to sit down. This will help you calm down.  Emotions are not inherently negative, wrong or bad. Regularly process your emotions through daily journaling or by talking to someone you trust about the events in your life. Keeping emotions bottled up increases stress levels and doesn’t help you resolve problems.

Summary: Expand your interests. Display a positive outlook. Develop social skills. Control your emotions.


This size is usually easy to find, as it's the one used in most printers. It should be shaped like a really pointy triangle right now, with one edge the original length of the paper and one edge half the original width of the paper. The other edge should be the longest of the three and should be opposite the right angle of the triangle. Have either of the sides facing up. It doesn't matter which one because you will do the same steps to both sides.

Summary: Start with a standard letter-sized piece of paper that measures 8 1/2 inches by 11 inches (A4, printer paper). Lay the paper airplane down on your work surface.


Most people are somehow afraid of eating reddish meat. Don't be scared off by red juices. There is some real chemistry going on in the mouth when you taste the juices. Take advantage of it. Seriously, make it smoke! What you want is black lines that sear the meat and concentrate flavour. Note: If your marinade is oily enough, your steaks will not stick to the pan. Then remove it from the heat. If you don't, your meat will resemble shoe's soles. The resting period is essential, so please do not ignore it. If your searing process was done correctly, when cutting your steak you should have a maximum of 1 mm thick browned meat on each side of the steak. The in-between should be furiously red. Salad for summer and steamed potatoes for winter are both excellent sides for your steaks.
Summary: Prepare to go rare! Get your frying pan or iron grill as hot as possible. Slam the steak(s) on the hot pan/grill and also press them down strongly with a fork. Cook the steak for just less than one minute and then turn it to sear the other (still raw) side. Let the meat rest for at least 8 minutes. Enjoy!