Article: Some partners prefer not to hear the details of the affair, but if knowing them will help you forgive and recover, ask. Try to focus on emotional questions rather than logistical questions. For example, instead of asking which hotel they met in, ask your husband why he decided to cheat. This is a healthier way to move towards forgiveness.  Ask questions you need to know the answers to. For example, ask your husband if he’s been tested or is willing to be tested for STIs (also known as STDs). Ask your husband if he intends to leave you or if he wants to stay and make the relationship work. Clarifying this as soon as possible will help you prepare for the future and move forward. Affairs can bring up many feelings, fears, and insecurities. For example, if you’re worried about him cheating again, you’re concerned he doesn’t love you, or you can’t get over how unfair this is toward you, say this to him. It’s important for him to know how the affair affects you and what difficulties you are facing in moving forward. When talking about your feelings, keep them focused on yourself by using “I” statements. This will allow you to express yourself without going into blaming or shaming your husband. For example, say, “I feel so hurt and disappointed.” He may have excuses or he may have a lot of regret, sorrow and self-loathing to share with you. Hearing your husband take responsibility for his actions and express empathy toward you can be comforting.  It can take some time to accept his words as meaningful and truthful. If you both want your marriage to continue, it is important your husband shows remorse for his actions. While you should try to support his needs in the marriage, you should not have to accept blame for his cheating. Ideally, you do not want the affair to be the center of your relationship. You don’t want to completely ignore the affair, yet you also don’t want it to be the only thing you discuss together. Boundaries can help you discuss it in a healthy and productive way. For example, if one of you wants to bring it up, make sure you have enough time to have a real discussion.  If talking about it has become all you talk about, take some steps back and make some boundaries together, like only talking about it once each day or once each week. If you and your husband have children, agree not to discuss the affair with them. If you’re choosing to forgive your husband and move on in your relationship together, make sure your husband is on the same page. He should be clear in saying that he wants the relationship to work and be rebuilt. If he’s unsure about moving forward or seems more inclined to divorce, talk about it further. If you know you want to divorce, let him know that clearly. If you and your husband want to keep your marriage and improve your relationship, you should make a new commitment to each other. When you are ready, you can return to physical intimacy as well.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Ask questions you need answers to. Talk about how you feel about the affair. Listen to how your husband feels. Create boundaries for talking about the affair. Confirm the outcome of your relationship.
Article: Schwa sounds like a short “u,” as in “cup,” or the “a” in “about.” It’s the most common sound in the English language, and using it makes pronunciation sound more natural. Since native speakers commonly use it in place of precise pronunciation, it can also pose a challenge for ESL students.  Examples of schwa include the second “o” in “doctor,” the “a” in “wizard,” and the “e” in “summer.”  Schwa is frequently used to reduce words and syllables. Note examples such as “wanna” instead of “want to,” “gonna” for “going to,” and “gotta” for “have a” or “have got to.” Write words on magnetic blocks or other objects that can be joined together. Stick the blocks together to show how vowels and consonants blend into each other when words are used in a sentence. Writing phrases phonetically will also help students understand liaison, or how words blend together. For example, when the same consonant ends 1 word and begins another, it’s usually only pronounced once: “Sam made that,” or “Sammade that.” A consonant at the end of a word usually blends with the vowel that begins the next word: “Sam made that at school,” or “Sammade thatat school.” Play a variety of movie clips, radio and television programs, podcasts, and other media. Choose examples that frequently use contractions. After playing a short sample, have students identify which contractions they heard. Students might easily recognize “what’ll” or “they’re” in writing. However, it’s more difficult to understand contractions during an actual conversation. In addition to contractions, slang and idioms can pose significant challenges to ESL learners. Use a range of media examples to provide students with an assortment of individual and regional language quirks.To assess their understanding, try playing 1 part of a recorded conversation, then have students respond using their own words. Pronunciation is usually taught with clear examples and written texts. However, students must learn how to recognize the spontaneous speech habits of native English speakers in order to master conversational skills.
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Describe the schwa sound and its role in natural English pronunciation. Explain how words blend with magnetic blocks and phonetic writing. Use listening exercises to help students recognize contractions. Play recordings to expose students to slang and idioms.
Article: Often something you see or hear later in the day will trigger a memory of a dream from the night before. Note these recollections without delay, and think about them to see if you can remember how they fit into the rest of the dream. It also helps to continually think about your dreams throughout the day. Sometimes the memory can be jogged when you assume the same physical position you had while dreaming. Try to put your head in the same place on the pillow, arrange your body the same way, and close your eyes. If the dream comes into your head, think it through before getting up to write it down.  It might help to open your eyes and look at the object you first saw when you woke up. Remembering your dreams takes effort and practice. The more you become conscious of your dreams, the more likely you are to remember them. Get into the habit of committing to remembering your dreams and night and writing them down first thing when you wake up. The process will become easier over time. Eventually you'll figure out what factors help you remember your dreams. Try to notice patterns pertaining to the time you go to bed and wake up in the morning, the temperature of the room, what you ate for dinner. Do any of these variables seem to influence your ability to remember your dreams?
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Keep a notepad or voice recorder with you throughout the day. Go back to your bed and lie down. Practice again the next night. Notice patterns.