There is no great mystery to talking to women. Women are just people and the most comfortable way for you to talk to them, as well as the way that makes them the most receptive, is for you to talk to them the same way you'd talk to anyone else. By just practicing and learning to talk to strangers in general, you'll build up pretty much all of the skills that you need to approach and talk to women successfully. The more you talk to random strangers, the less anxiety you will experience and soon you will realize "Hey, it's not a big deal!" A lot of guys (and even some women) will make it out that you need to use particular phrases, tricks, or manipulative behaviors in order to talk to and get women, but what they're prescribing only gets the attention of weird women that you don't want to deal with anyway. You don't have to be or make yourself 'traditionally attractive'. The thing is, when you wear clothes that look bad on you when you don't shower or wear deodorant, when you don't take care of your body, you communicate to other people (women especially!) that you don't think you're worth taking care of or putting effort into. If you don't think you're worth loving, then why should she, you know? Smell is especially important. A guy that smells off can quickly take on a creeper vibe. Wear good deodorant, clean clothes, and a very mild cologne or body spray. If you want to increase your chances of talking to her successfully, it's a good idea to watch her for a little while and use some careful analysis to figure out how you should and shouldn't talk to her. See what you can figure out about her by looking at her.  Is she wearing a particularly nice item or one that looks handmade? It might make a good source for a compliment. Is she dressed very conservatively? She may be trying to reduce the chances of a guy flirting with her, so be more subtle in your approach. Once she notices you looking, you’re either going to be “confident” or “creepy,” so be confident and approach her or find a way to buy yourself time without building your creep factor.  If she sees you but you're not ready to go over, give her a smile (maybe a wink), and look away bashfully. She'll know you think she's cute, but she won't think you're weird.    {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/b1\/Approach-Women-Anywhere-Step-3Bullet2.jpg\/v4-460px-Approach-Women-Anywhere-Step-3Bullet2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/b\/b1\/Approach-Women-Anywhere-Step-3Bullet2.jpg\/aid947901-v4-728px-Approach-Women-Anywhere-Step-3Bullet2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":"728","bigHeight":"546","licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Certain situations just won't be conducive to getting a woman interested in you (serious settings, like business meetings). Others will get you treated as a creeper by default (public transport). Go for areas which are in public and as open as possible. If a lady is too busy feeling cornered and trapped, she's just not going to be open to how charming you really are. Few things shout, "I pick up any woman I can" quite like a wing man. If a woman feels like you're just taking any fish that will bite, she won't be interested because she won't feel special. Go in alone. This act of bravery shows that you are interested enough in her specifically to tough it out. Don't be intimidated by a woman that's out with her friends. Being nice and chatty with her friends but clearly interested in her will be flattering. You want to date a woman with good friends, and good friends will always want to see their friend get with a nice guy.

Summary: Practice talking to strangers. Put some work into how you look and smell. Observe the woman before you approach her. Carefully choose your setting. Approach without a wing man.


These are the people you'll see and interact with every day, so becoming friends with a few of them will give you a great support network throughout the school year. If you don't know them, introduce yourself and strike up a casual conversation, and if you do already know them, ask them a question about their hobbies or family so that you can get to know them a little better.  For example, introduce yourself to a potential new friend by saying, "Hi, I'm Sam. I really like your shirt, where did you get it?" Ask someone in one of your classes if they'd like to get together to study, or if they can help you with a homework question. You can even ask to exchange contact information so that if either of you have questions about homework, tests, or projects in the class, you can reach out to one another. High school is a great place to find people and clubs that share your interests. Sign up to be in the drama club, on the school newspaper, part of the art club—any club or activity that catches your attention and you think you'd enjoy.  Other extracurricular activities might include yoga, coding, or chess club. If your high school does not have a club that caters to your interests or passions, start one of your own! If you apply to college, include your activities on your application.  This helps give admissions committees a better idea about who you are as a person. Sports are a good way to get active while also being part of a close-knit team. Choose a sport you like, such as soccer, softball, basketball, or swimming, and work hard during practice and at games to make your team (and yourself!) proud.  Track and field has many different types of events, each designed to showcase a different talent or skill set. Try out dance team, cheer leading, or volleyball. Whether you're a freshman or a senior, you can always meet new people and form new relationships. Strike up a conversation with someone in the hall, sit with someone new at lunch, or offer to partner up with someone you're not friends with for a class project. You might leave with a new friend! If you don't feel comfortable talking to a complete stranger, say hello to the person whose locker is next to yours, or compliment someone's outfit in the lunch room. Events such as school dances, sports games, and pep rallies are all an essential part of the high school experience. Even if you aren't full of school spirit, try to go to at least one school event each season—you'll likely end up making great memories.  Invite a friend or two to come along with you. Ask your friend to introduce you to people you may not already know.
Summary: Get to know the people in your classes. Become involved in extracurricular activities or clubs. Try out a sport to be part of a team. Reach out to people and make new friends. Attend school events to broaden your experiences.