If you’re moving with other people, make sure that everyone has a chance to see the place before signing anything. Get everyone’s feedback and opinion and make sure you all get a chance to discuss your likes and dislikes. Don’t rely on pictures. Make sure that each roommate gets to physically see the apartment so that they can form a solid opinion. There may be special move-in offers or certain special discounts depending on the apartment. Some landlords offer the first month free if you sign a longer lease. You may also get bonuses if you have referred a friend. It never hurts to ask what’s available to you. There may also be discounts for students, retirees, veterans, or individuals with special needs. Refer to any professional affiliations as well. Ask the landlord about the average utility cost before signing anything. The rent may be exactly at your budget but any additional cost may hurt you as the lease goes on. Make sure you get a sense of the hidden costs utilities may provide. Once you have narrowed down your top three choices, negotiate with the landlords and let them know that you have other options. If a landlord knows that you are interested but have other options, she may be willing to come down in price or work to find other bonuses like extra storage or parking. If you don’t get the apartment that you want there may be something similar in the same building or another building owned by the same landlord. Consider moving into a studio instead of a one-bedroom or getting a roommate for a two bedroom. Buildings will have apartments with similar floor plans  with an extra bedroom. Amenities like free Wi-Fi or gym may save you money on outside costs. However, don’t let amenities be the driving force of your decision. Carefully consider what you are willing to pay in rent for your amenities. Views are also great to have but not a necessity. Inquire if there are similar apartments within the building but without the same view. This can help save you money. The physical building may impress you but get a sense of your neighbours and what the living conditions may be like. Tenants can tell you if it’s noisy on the weekend or if there are newborns on your floor. You also want to find out about your landlord. You want to make sure he is safe, courteous and maintains the apartment promptly.  Inquire about infrastructure issues, response time to tenant issues, tenant turnover, and safety issues. It is also wise to ask about the area and the typical cost of living. Find out about what tenants pay for utilities, entertainment, and transportation. Ask about the school district if you’re moving with a family, restaurants, grocery stores, and closest amenities.
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One-sentence summary -- Bring your roommates. Ask about special discounts. Inquire about the average energy costs. Prepare to negotiate. Be flexible. Consider the amenities. Talk to tenants.


If the relationship is not worth saving, you will be able to see that when both of you are calm. Additionally, breaking up out of anger can make it very difficult to find closure. Make sure you're feeling rational and have taken some time to really think about it before you have "the talk." Agree to not see each other for a week or two, and be sure to clarify that you are still together and your relationship will remain exclusive during this time. Don't spend time together, don't talk on the phone, don't send each other messages. This trial separation might help you see how much you value the relationship...or don't. If it's difficult at first, but if you find yourself at peace without this person in your life, breaking up is probably a good idea. If you enjoy the first few days but then find yourself missing this person and feeling like your life is incomplete without them, you should probably try to repair the relationship. See more details in How to Give Each Other Space. If you've taken the time to think about whether or not you should end the relationship, then you can see if the signs of a good relationship apply to you, too. Here are some signs that you should fight to stay with the person you're with, even if it means that you have to take some drastic changes:  There is a core foundation of similar values and beliefs that you share, especially spiritual and moral values. You still trust each other; you know your partner is on your side and have faith they will work with you for the greater good of your household. Hard times have taken over suddenly without giving you time to find your center. Health problems, trauma, financial problems, addiction regressions and depression can come on in an instant and make things look really dark. Give it time, let the smoke clear, and try to be a friend to each other until it's over. You are caught in a negative response cycle where negative behavior triggers more negative behavior. Break the cycle by gaining control of your own negative reactions, call for a peace treaty, and give your partner time to get a handle on their negativity. You have a tendency to run from commitment at the first sign of trouble. Take some time to cool down and work to become friends again. Commit to friendship, remember what you used to like about your partner, and act like you care. It's good for you to see if you can stick through the problems for once, no matter how it ends up. You have drifted apart slowly and suddenly discover you are living with a stranger. This generally happens due to neglect, so work on it - talk, listen, spend time together and see if you can rediscover love.
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One-sentence summary -- Never break up in the heat of the moment. Try spending time apart if you need some time to think about it more. See if your relationship is worth saving after all.


You should see a doctor if you believe you're at risk for trichomoniasis. He or she can perform a routine STD test to check for the condition.  Your health care provider will take a swab of your urethra and send it to a lab for testing. It may be painful to urinate after a swab is taken. It may take a few days before results are ready and may even take up to a week if the lab is busy.  Many labs can perform a urine test for multiple common STDs, such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, and trichomoniasis. As the symptoms of many other common STDs are similar to those of trichomoniasis, it's a good idea to get a full panel test. Also, if you're worried you're at risk because you've had unprotected sex you'll be at risk for other infections as well. You should wait two to three weeks after a sexual encounter before getting tested, however, as it will take a while for viruses to be detectable. Medical treatment for trichomoniasis is necessary. It can be cured with a single dose of prescription antibiotics that are taken orally. Ask your doctor about medication. Do not drink alcohol for 24 hours after receiving treatment. About 1 in 5 people get infected with trichomoniasis again within three months of treatment. Make sure you know how to prevent outbreaks in the future.  Use a latex condom if you have sex with a new partner. While condoms do not completely eliminate the risk of STDs they do dramatically reduce it.  Make sure you wait until all symptoms of a previous infection pass before having sex again.  Talk to your partner about STDs. It's a good idea for both of you to get tested together before engaging in sexual activity.
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Get an STD test. Seek treatment. Prevent outbreaks in the future.