Before taking a drive, get yourself in a relaxed mindset by engaging in your favorite relaxation techniques. You might try yoga, meditation, or even watching your favorite TV show. Try to set aside 10 or 20 minutes each day to practice your techniques. Feeling at ease in your car can help reduce your anxiety. Clean out trash from your car that might be distracting, especially if it’s around the pedals. Make sure your seat is in a comfortable position so you can easily grip the wheel and reach the pedals. Don’t forget to adjust your mirrors before you set off, too. Before you begin driving, you may want to give yourself a minute or two to settle in. Make sure you have everything you need for your journey and make any last minute seat or mirror adjustments. Distractions can make anxiety even worse, so take all the precautions you can to avoid them. Avoid eating or drinking, messing with the radio, using your phone, and talking excessively. You want all of your focus on the road.  Get to know the different buttons on your car before you start driving. That way, you won’t be distracted in the event you need to turn on the windshield wipers or your brights.  Put your phone on silent or stow it away before you leave. Before you set off, it may help to picture yourself arriving at your destination, safe, calm, and happy.  Make your visualization as detailed as you can. Think what you would see, smell, and hear.  You can visualize in silence or use soothing music or sounds.

Summary: Practice relaxation techniques before hitting the road. Make your car comfortable. Minimize distractions. Visualize yourself arriving safely.


Although most people may think that adult diaper use is only for urinary incontinence, there are actually many reasons an adult may wear diapers. From general incontinence to sexual fetishes, learning about the myriad needs for adult diapers can help you react positively and support your spouse. Your spouse may be wearing diapers because:  They suffer from urinary incontinence. This can arise from a broad range of conditions including menopause, enlarged prostate, urinary tract infections, pregnancy, childbirth, hysterectomy, and neurological disorders such as stroke or brain tumor. In addition, some medications and beverages such as coffee or soda, can cause incontinence. They suffer from fecal incontinence. This can arise from conditions such as damage to the rectum, nerve damage to the sphincter, chronic constipation, diarrhea, surgery, or rectal prolapse. They suffer from stress incontinence. This usually arises because of weakened pelvic floor muscles. Stress incontinence occurs most often in women, though can happen in both sexes as a result of childbirth or prostrate surgery. They have a sexual fetish called infantilism or diaper fetishism. This occurs most often in males and usually presents as a desire to dress and be treated like an infant, which also involves a transfer of power and control with another adult. In a non-confrontational and gentle manner, ask your spouse why she is wearing diapers. Wearing diapers can be a very sensitive and embarrassing subject for many adults, and simply asking her may help you better understand and eventually support her diaper use.  If your spouse has been ill or experiencing other medical issues, broach the subject by saying something such as “I remember your doctor mentioned that incontinence may be a side effect of your injury. Are you having trouble?” If your spouse’s diaper use doesn’t come from an obvious condition, tread lightly in asking. For example, you could say “I found these diapers in the bathroom. Are you having some kind of issue with which I can offer you support?” This allows your spouse to answer honestly if he likes and also demonstrates your support no matter what the reason for wearing diapers. No matter how your spouse answers your question, accept their response. Whether for medical reasons or as a sexual fetish, your spouse’s need to wear diapers is deeply personal and they may—or may not—want to discuss the matter with you.  Avoid knee-jerk or “humorous” responses, which may embarrass or hurt your spouse. For example, they may worry that you don't love them anymore.  If you do not know how to respond, back away from the situation until you can process it while being gentle with your spouse. For example, say “I’m so sorry and I want to be supportive, but I’m not sure how to react and a need a moment to process this.” Schedule an appointment with your family doctor for your spouse and you. Seeing and talking to them may help both of you deal with the emotional aspects of wearing adult diapers while helping to manage any fetish or underlying conditions that may be causing incontinence.  Because wearing adult diapers can be distressing, your spouse may not want you “meddling” in their affairs. You can explain that your desire to see the doctor together is as a means to best support them. Ultimately, though, you need to respect your spouse’s wishes.  Speak with the doctor alone if your spouse doesn’t want to meet together. The doctor may give you tips on how best to support your spouse without breaking their confidence or doctor-patient privilege.

Summary: Learn about adult diaper use. Ask why your spouse is wearing diapers. Accept your spouse’s response. Talk to your family doctor.


There's no set limit to how big or small your piggy bank should be, but you should aim for a plastic bottle that's between 500–1,000 millilitres (17–34  fl oz). Wash it out with water and let it sit for 10 minutes so it can dry. Keep the bottle cap on the bottle. It will serve as the pig’s snout. Cut out 4 egg-holders from the carton using scissors. Then, have an adult use a low-heat hot glue gun to attach them to the bottle by applying the glue around the edges of the egg-holders. Finally, paste the legs on the side opposite the coin slot. When the pig is standing on its new legs, the coin slot should be facing up. Now that you’ve got a basic pig shape, it’s time to get artistic with your creation! Make a tail by twisting a pink pipe cleaner into a spiral. Draw nostrils onto the pig’s snout with a black marker. Cut 2 triangles out of pink paper or felt and glue them on as ears. You can give the pig eyes by hot gluing googly eyes onto its face, or by drawing, cutting out, and gluing on eyes yourself.
Summary: Wash out your plastic bottle with regular tap water. Attach the legs to the side of the bottle opposite the coin slot. Decorate your pig with the remaining materials.