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Before you dedicate your time, effort, and resources to becoming cool, take a moment to evaluate your desire to be popular.  Are you searching for acceptance? Are you looking for attention? Are you trying to rebel or reinvent yourself? Even if you try really hard to be well-liked—you do everything perfectly—you may never become popular in society’s eyes. What will happen if you don’t become popular? How can you cope with failing to fulfill this desire? What other outlets could you explore as you try to discover your authentic self? In order to become popular, you do not conform to societal norms or completely reinvent yourself. Strive to develop into the best version of yourself—the most compassionate, spunky, authentic you. As you become self aware, your confidence will grow. You will become more adventurous, passionate, and interesting. Your social anxiety will decrease and people will be more drawn to you.  Discover what you believe in and who you are independently from others. Don’t alter your personality to fit in or to try to get people to like you. Never compromise your personal beliefs and opinions in exchange for popularity. Instead, openly embrace what you believe in and love. Start new trends, instead of following old ones. Never underestimate the power of humility. People that take themselves too seriously are difficult to be around—lighten up and live a little! Likewise, it is not attractive to brag about your accomplishments, money, or things— wait for others congratulate or compliment you.  When you make a mistake or a social faux pas, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. When you accomplish something incredible or do something wonderful for another person, don’t broadcast your achievement. When you get a new outfit or item, don’t rub it in others’ faces. Taking pride in your appearance is one of the simplest ways to improve your social prospects and alter the way people think about you. You do not have to wear expensive or trendy clothes to become popular. Instead, aim to look presentable at all times—put thought into your outfits, hairstyles, and personal hygiene. Experiment with developing your own eclectic sense of style.
Evaluate why you want to become popular. Be true to yourself. Stand up for your beliefs. Remain humble. Care about your appearance.