Q: Speak warmly and engage those whom you are speaking to. Be able to speak comfortably about a wide range of topics. Avoid vulgar and poor language, as well as using words like “um” or “like” to punctuate your sentences.  Communication isn’t just talking – it’s about listening, as well. Incessant talking isn’t the mark of a respected person. Try to truly listen to others and be genuinely engaged so you become more trustworthy.  Take a moment to think before you speak. Remain calm in tense situations and speak in a calm, relaxed voice. Strive to act, rather than react emotionally. Diffuse bad situations whenever possible, and take a moment to think before instantly reacting to a negative provocation.  Well-respected people know how to keep their cool under tense conditions. During arguments, hold your temper to prevent escalations, and if someone raises their voice at you, respond calmly. Stand up straight, look people directly in the eye, and speak in a steady, composed voice when in conversation. These things exude confidence, which people very much respect. Conversely, slouching, mumbling and being afraid of eye contact communicates to others that you aren’t confident in yourself. Self-confidence is respected. When faced with a problem, do not react emotionally or with visible frustration. Instead, focus on addressing the problem and looking for ways to solve it. Try not to complain or get angry, since neither of those things are going to help the situation. When others see you calmly find a solution to a problem rather than react angrily or emotionally, they will respect your composure and appreciate your readiness to remedy the situation. Always practice good hygiene and make sure your clothes are neat and clean. Take the time to be well-groomed. Keep your nails trimmed, shower daily and always brush and floss your teeth.  Being poorly groomed usually sends a negative message to others about your self-worth. If you don’t respect yourself and your appearance, it will be very difficult to gain the respect of others.
A: Excel at communication. Keep your emotions in check. Control your body language. Solve problems. Take pride in your appearance.

Q: You’ll need to communicate with them in order to grow your friendship. Talk to them in person regularly, and keep in touch via text or messaging. Try to check in with them at least a few times a week if not daily. For instance, you might talk to them every day at work or school. Additionally, you might send each other memes back and forth. to them when they’re talking. People are more likely to want to be friends with you if they feel like you really listen to them. Make sure you’re focused on what this person is saying rather than thinking about your response. Additionally, nod your head and say things like, “uh-huh” to let them know you’re listening.  Try to repeat back what they said to you. You might say, “Wow, it sounds like work is really stressful right now.” Ask them follow-up questions so they know you’ve been listening. You might ask, “Did you ever figure out what happened?” or “What are you going to do now?” True friendship requires intimacy, but you don’t need to rush to bare your soul to them. It’s okay to take your time and slowly reveal details about yourself. Give them a little information at a time, and eventually you’ll have a good friendship. For instance, you might start by telling them about a goal you’re pursuing. Then, you might reveal a few of your interests that only your friends know about. After you’ve been friends awhile, you might feel comfortable talking about your secrets or personal problems. Spending time together will help you solidify your friendship. Look for things that both of you will enjoy, then invite them to join you. This will help you both have fun with each other.  For example, you might invite them to go watch your favorite sport together, or you could ask them to join you for a horror movie fest if you both like scary movies. Use your common interests to help you pick good activities. It’s best to take things slow so that neither of you gets your feelings hurt. Having good boundaries can help you do that. Consider what caused you to become enemies in the first place, then figure out how you can prevent that from happening again. Additionally, identify ways you can prevent your friendship from moving too fast.  For example, let’s say you and your former enemy used to get really competitive with each other. You might set a boundary that you won’t trash talk each other. Similarly, you may be worried that you’re going to share too much information too fast. To prevent this, you both might agree to start your friendship with group hangouts instead of one-on-one activities.
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Maintain regular communication with them. Listen Open up to them a little bit at a time to slowly build trust. Invite them to do things you both enjoy. Set boundaries so that you both know what to expect.