Learning that you have cancer is a very emotional experience. It is common to feel a wide range of emotions. Many people feel shock, anger, fear, and disbelief.  This is life-changing news. Allow your self some time to react to the diagnosis. Don't feel like you have to make any decisions right away. Give yourself a few days to process your feelings before you start making any important choices about treatment. Allow yourself to be emotional. Don't become frustrated with yourself if you find yourself suddenly crying or feeling angry. That is normal. Finding out that you have cancer is very scary. Many people deal better with new circumstances when they arm themselves with as much information as possible. It might help you cope if you start learning about your cancer and possible treatments.  Seek reliable, up to date information. Science and medicine can change quickly, so make sure you are given the most recent information. Ask your doctor to talk to you thoroughly about your particular type of cancer. Each will have a unique experience with cancer. Get recommendations for reputable websites. For example, Cancer.org and Cancer.gov can provide a lot of information. Your cancer is personal. You shouldn't feel pressured to immediately share the news of your diagnosis with everyone that you know. But you might find some solace in talking to people you are close to.  If you have a spouse or partner, you will want to have a serious conversation with that person. Tell them about your diagnosis, and also tell them how you are feeling. Remember that everyone reacts differently. It might take your spouse or best friend a little while to adjust to the news. Remember that shock and denial are normal reactions. Tell your family what you need from them. For example, it is fine to say, "I need a little bit of space to deal with my feelings." It is also okay to say that you need extra support. Try saying, "I am going to need a lot of extra attention and affection for a while. Thanks for understanding." Cancer can change everything. You might have some new physical limitations. You will also likely deal with a lot of emotions.  One of the first steps in coping is to recognize that there will probably be changes in your daily routine. For example, you might need to cut back on your hours at work. Many cancer patients deal with fatigue. It is understandable if you can't work as many hours as you used to. Your treatment might require a lot of visits to the doctor's office. Acknowledge that you might have to cut back on some of your other activities to make time for treatment. Cancer can also be a significant financial burden. Talk to your spouse about your insurance plan and how you will pay for any additional costs. Cancer affects each person differently. What works for some may not work for others. Take some time to think about what you need to help you cope most effectively.  Many people find that they want to spend more time with loved ones in the early stages of treatment. If that's what you want, ask your family to be aware of that. Some people find that relaxation can help with the intense wave of emotions. If you need to, try to take a short weekend getaway. Other people find it helpful to tap into their faith. If you are a spiritual person, allow yourself extra time to explore that part of your life. Share your feelings honestly. Let others know how you feel and what you need.

Summary: Take time to process the news. Do your research. Communicate with your loved ones. Acknowledge changes to your daily life. Create an individual coping strategy.


and laugh. Guys are more attracted to happy, laughing, smiling girls than scowling, duck-faced divas. Fact. Smiling makes you seem friendly and approachable before you even open your mouth to speak. He'll instantly feel more comfortable around you and be more willing to open up. Laughing at his jokes will boost his ego and make him feel good, while also making you look more attractive. Win-win. . Eye contact is one of the most vital aspects of successful conversations. Think about it. If you are constantly averting your eyes or looking away you'll either look awkward and uncomfortable or as if you're not interested in being there at all. Plenty of eye contact projects confidence and indicates interests, which is exactly what you're trying to achieve. Be careful not to stare though, that's just plain creepy. Ok, so you want this guy to know you're interested, but you don't need to wave it in front of his face. You can smile at him, make eye contact, laugh at his jokes and ask him questions, but don't do it too often or hang on his every word like an over-eager puppy. Try to retain a little bit of mystery and make him work a little for your attention. Guys like the chase, remember? Attraction isn't always physical, nor should it be. You want a guy who's attracted to your intelligence, your sparkling wit, your sweet nature and maybe your ability to chug a pint of beer in under 7 seconds. But when trying to get a guy's attention, it doesn't hurt to look your best. This doesn't mean high heels and a full face of make-up. Rather it involves things such as dressing to suit your figure, always having freshly-washed, sweet-smelling hair or wearing make-up that draws attention to your best features, such as your full lips or beautiful eyes. Asking questions and getting to know this guy better is all perfectly fine, but try not to scare him off either. Don't ask him questions that you wouldn't feel comfortable answering yourself. Also, try to keep the questions breezy - you don't want him to feel like you're scrutinizing his answers, as if he were interviewing for a job or being cross-examined on the witness stand. Play nice. A subtle brush against his shoulder or a hand lightly placed on his arm mid-conversation can give a guy chills and let him know, without having to say a word, that you're interested. You shouldn't overdo it, but once or twice over the course of a conversation will achieve just the desired effect. . This is what it's all been leading up to, right? If you've spoken to your guy, decided you like him, and you're pretty sure he likes you back, why not bite the bullet and ask him out? It doesn't need to be a big, romantic gesture or anything so formal as dinner. Try asking him if he'd like to a grab a coffee (or something stronger) after work on Friday. This will give you a chance to spend some more time together without being in an overtly date-like situation. Just think of it as an extra opportunity to work on your conversation skills. Not so scary at all!
Summary: Smile Make eye contact Be subtle. Look your best. Don't overwhelm him. Make physical contact. Ask him out