Q: One way to stop being a drama queen is to become self-aware enough to know when you're the one causing the drama. Do you find that you always end up getting in conflicts with people, and that no one in your life is easy to get along with? Do you find yourself getting heated, crying, or stomping your feet on a daily basis? If that's the case -- unless you're living in a war zone -- chances are that a lot of this drama is self-created. Knowing that you are the source of a lot of the drama is the first step to curbing it. Once you see that you're the source, you'll stop blaming the people around you and will see that you're in control of the situation. If you're a drama queen, then you must be an expert at taking a 3 or 4 situation up to a 10 on the drama Richter scale. The next time you're faced with a conflict or a minor disturbance, take a minute to ask yourself how big of a deal it is, in the scheme of things. Maybe your boyfriend is 10 minutes late for your date. Maybe you spilled a little bit of coffee on your sweater. Will this matter to you 10 hours from now -- or even one hour? Is it worth crying over? Is it worth ruining your day over?  These are important questions to ask yourself. Chances are, you'll see that you're making a big deal over nothing and will be able to move forward without throwing a fit. Making a big deal over every little thing will not help your mental state. It'll make you stressed out, sleepless, and generally irritable. Remember that minimizing your problems will actually make you feel better. If you make a big deal over everything, then no one will take you seriously when something that is actually devastating happens to you. A lot of the time, drama queens are the way they are because they have a low self-esteem. They may feel like people will only pay attention to them or give them the time of day if they are constantly being dramatic, loud, or talking smack about people. Ask yourself if this sounds like you, and think about your own self-image and how you really feel about yourself. When you get up and look in the mirror, what do you see? Work on loving the person you see there, and not basing your self worth on how much attention people give you.  Of course, building confidence takes a lifetime. The sooner you start realizing that your worth should come from yourself, not from what people people think of you, the sooner you'll stop creating drama. Really think about yourself. Nobody's perfect -- what are your flaws? How can you work on addressing -- or accepting them? Part of feeling good about yourself is hanging out with people who make you feel good. Are there people like that in your life? If everyone around you is focused on putting you down, then you won't be able to feel good about yourself until you ditch them. A lot of your drama may come from the fact that you feel like everyone has wronged you, that the world has treated you badly, and that you deserve a lot better than what you're getting. Of course, some of this may be true some of the time, but it's unlikely that everyone in your life is determined to make you feel horrible. Instead, get empowered by the fact that you are in control of your own destiny. Stop saying, "I can't believe what he/she did to me…" or "I can't believe what happened to me…" and start your sentences with something positive like, "I did this cool thing today…"  Don't give people so much power over you. Instead of obsessing over what they did to you, work on doing things to make your own life better. Ask yourself why you need to look for sympathy all the time. You don't really want that kind of attention all the time, do you? Sometimes, you may really need sympathy, so don't use up your sympathy points over nothing just to get attention. People who are hung up on drama tend to live in the past, obsessing on the ways that people wronged them, past fights or drama, or just situations that they wish hadn't turned out the way they had. While the past can be informative, helping us repeat the same problems over and over again, if you get too hung up on the past, you won't be able to live in the moment or to move forward. If you live in the moment, you won't be so worried about what someone said to you or how you feel you were "wronged," or even about getting people back. Instead, work on having fun with where you are, whether you're with friends or taking a long walk. Stop obsessing over the past and you'll soon find your way to a much healthier mindset. Writing your thoughts down in a journal can help you really process the things that have happened to you, deal with them emotionally, and take the time to deal with your problems. It's far better to write down your problems than to talk about them before you're ready, especially when you have the impulse to talk about everything with everyone within earshot. Writing things down will help you think that hey, it's not the end of the world, and can help you take a step back from your drama. Try journaling at least once a day. If you have to talk to a friend about something that's been bothering you, for example, consider writing about the conflict first so you feel more calm about it. But remember, do not let anybody see any important things you have written in your journal. This could lead to more drama that you don't want, so be careful. Drama queens tend to think that almost everything is worth getting mad and throwing a fit about, but that's almost never the case. While you may hate hearing people say, "It's not the end of the world," sometimes this is something you have to tell yourself when you face difficult situations. Let's say you did poorly on one test. Ask yourself if it's really going to ruin or affect your life in the long run. The answer is almost never, never yes. Think about this the next time you feel the anger boiling up, or the tears brimming in your eyes.
A: Know when you're creating drama. Stop making a big deal out of everything. Work on building your self-esteem. Stop seeing yourself as the victim. Live in the present. Write your thoughts down in a journal. Remind yourself that it's almost never the end of the world.

Q: These people will make you feel more confident about yourself and you should realize that it doesn’t matter what haters say as long as you have good friends by your side.
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Surround yourself with friends and people who like you for who you are.