Q: Express your sadness to your friend but explain that it’s something that you’re working to get through. Explain that you may be distant until you can fully get over your negative feelings.  You can say something like, “To be honest with you, it hurt my feelings when I found out you and Jen were dating. When I found out, it made me feel insecure and upset, but I’m working on feeling better about it.” If you suspected your friend and your ex were interested in each other during your relationship, it's okay to admit you suspicions to your friend. Hear out what they have to say before jumping to conclusions. It's okay to tell your friend how you feel. If you wish that you'd had a heads up about the relationship, it's okay to tell them that. If you feel angry or betrayed, make sure that your friend knows but make sure not to lose your cool. An honest conversation will make you feel better and give them a better understanding of where you stand.  If your friend doesn't take the conversation well, keep your cool by regulating your breathing and paying close attention to what they have to say.  You can say something like, "I just wish that you and Maron would have told me that you were thinking about dating so I could prepare myself. I'm still not over him." If conversations about your ex gives you negative emotions, it’s best to avoid conversations about them. Speak to your friend and ask them to avoid talking about their new relationship if possible. This may help you maintain the friendship and could make you feel better about the situation.  You can say something like, “Conversations about Jen make me feel awkward. Would you mind avoiding talking about her for right now?” If you don't get emotional when speaking about your ex, it might be a sign that you're over the relationship and can talk about them again. If you get over the past relationship, you can say something like "Remember when I said I didn't want to talk about John? I'm over it now, so if you want to talk about him, I don't mind." If you have to, take some time away from your friend so you can heal. Let your friend know that you still value your friendship, you just need a little time and distance to heal and process your feelings. If you find out that your friend is dating your ex, you might feel the urge to dish the dirt on your ex or sabotage the relationship. Ultimately, however, this could just end up damaging your relationship with your friend. Think carefully before sharing any information about your ex with your friend, such as details of your relationship or your ex’s previous dating history. Ask yourself whether sharing this information will accomplish anything positive.
A: Have a conversation with your friend about your feelings. Be honest with your friend. Ask your friend to avoid talking about the relationship around you. Resist the temptation to badmouth your ex.

Q: For a fan-forced oven, the temperature should be 40ºC.
A: Preheat your oven to 175 degrees Fahrenheit (79 degrees Celsius).

Q: Even a short, brisk walk can help wake you up and give you the energy you need to make it through the day. Experts have found that being immersed in natural light can increase wakefulness and make you feel more alert as you go through your day. If possible, work with the windows open to allow fresh air to enter, and try listening to music to keep you going.
A: Get in a light workout. Spend some time in the sun. Change your environment.

Q: If you’re meeting someone from an extended social circle, you probably won’t have to share the news yourself. You date will likely already know about your spouse's death. If you are dating online, you may have this information in your profile or share it early on in a message to prepare the person before a face-to-face meeting. Even after you share this information, trust your instincts to decide what else to share, such as details about your spouse’s death or other information from your previous life. In some ways, confiding could build a stronger bond between you and a new person. However, talking too much about the past can cause a date to feel left out. Chances are, it’s been quite some time since you’ve been on a first date. Show respect and consideration for your appearance by showing up properly groomed and in well-fitting clothes. Ask a close friend to come with you shopping and select a few items that can help you feel most confident on your date. You don’t have to undergo a major makeover to date, but it’s nice to look and feel your best. Working out and grooming can help you feel better. Plus, exercising and staying active lifts your mood and promotes a positive outlook. Start the date off with a smile and a positive attitude. If you are feeling at all hesitant about the dating process or uncomfortable with the person, cancel the date and give yourself more time. Both of you deserve to be with someone who is fully present and enthusiastic about dating. Even when it’s with the right person, dating can be a roller-coaster of shaky beginnings and false starts. Accept that a successful relationship may not be the outcome of your first month of dating, or even your first year. Exercise a positive outlook by going on each date with the mindset that even if you two don’t make a connection, you will have met someone new and interesting. Applaud yourself for getting back out there, and leave your expectations at the door.
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Decide when to share that you are a widow(er). Look your best. Aim to have a good time. Examine your expectations.