A proper personal flotation device should be a jacket or vest that covers the chest, stomach and back. The life vest must be properly fitted so that it does not slip up on the body when falling.  It should fit snugly but not be uncomfortable. Be sure to check the manufacturer’s label for weight limits and sizing information. You will want a pair of combination skis, which are suitable for beginners and have two skis with one ski having a half-foot binding behind the other foot. Skis for beginners will usually be wider and thus more stable on the water. They will be made for different weight ranges so it is important to pick a water ski that suits your size.  Check the manufacturer recommendations for the recommended weight ranges for the particular skis you are looking at. Kids skis are different in that they are smaller and easier for small children to control. They will usually come with a “trainer” option, or when you tie the skies together to prevent the skier from losing their balance and performing the splits. The bindings will usually be adjustable for a range of sizes to fit a variety of people. Trainer skis for kids can often be tied together, preventing the child from doing the “splits”. Kids usually have a hard time keeping control over their skis and keeping them together so this can be incredibly helpful when beginning. A water skiing rope will have a little stretch only and be 75 feet (22.86 meters) long from the handle to the opposite end. Do not use a wakeboarding rope, which will have no stretch, or a rope that is too stretchy. The rope should be labelled and marketed specifically for water skiing. There are seven different hand signals that a skier should learn. These are important for signalling the boat driver while water skiing.  A thumbs-up means go faster while a thumbs-down means slow down. It is important to remember this while skiing so that you do not accidentally ask for more speed. Bring thumb and forefinger together to signal OK. This tells the driver that the speed and path are good. Point your finger in the air and move it in a circular motion and then point to the direction when you want to turn a certain way. This can be used by the water skier to signal that they want to go a particular way or by the boat driver to warn the skier of a turn. Pat your head to signal that you would like to return to the dock. You can do this if you are tired and want to finish. A slashing motion at the neck means to stop the boat immediately. This can be done by the skier, driver or observer in case of emergencies. Clasp your hands over your head after a fall to signal that you are OK. This should be done after every fall. Many states require boats to have ski flags. These are usually bright coloured flags that signal to other boats that there is a skier in the water. Every time the skier is in the water and not skiing, the flag must be held up for other boats to see. This is an important safety measure and most boats will need an observer who is in charge of watching the skier and holding the flag. The proper stance for starting to water ski is called the “cannonball” position.  While on dry land, put the skis on your feet. Hold the handle and bend your knees so that you are sitting on the skis in the same form you would use to complete a cannonball. Have someone pull gently on the other end of the rope to help pull you up into into a chair position. You will look like you are sitting in a chair, even though there is not one. Make sure your knees stay together at all times and that you keep your arms straight to allow the rope to pull you up.

Summary: Wear a life vest. Obtain water skis. Consider tying the skis together. Use a proper water skiing rope. Learn to use the proper signals. Get a ski flag for safety. Learn the proper stance on dry land first.


Remember that there is always love to give and there is much we can do to enrich our lives. Talk yourself through where you were before the relationship and the ways in which you've grown throughout your time together. The powerful connection between learning and memory and the mood benefits you'll receive from acquiring new knowledge will assist you in getting over your lost love. Ask yourself:  What would I never have done before this relationship that through this relationship I could accomplish? What were some strengths of my ex-partner? Did I learn from these or develop these in myself? What did we accomplish together that I could never have accomplished by myself? You've probably had to put some goals on hold, prioritizing your past relationship over your personal desires. Once you are done with the list, you will not only see how much life has to offer, you will also have some goals to work toward in the near future.   Contemplate trips you could afford on your own but not as a couple; now might be the right time to book a trip! Enroll in a class that you didn't have time or energy for while in your relationship. Try a challenge, such as entering a local chili cooking competition or a photography contest. You don't need money to walk down your street, look at the sky, enjoy a book or sunrise, or other simple pleasures that life has to offer us. Also, a change of scenery can have a powerful impact on your mindset; the first step you take on your walk may be the first step toward a better mental state. Or go out with the goal of making friends. In any case, the happiness of your friend-group could positively influence your own mood. A good way to meet like-minded people is to join a club related to your interests. Studies have shown that being with friends and people of a similar mind can:  Calm you Increase your sense of belonging Increase perceived self-worth Assist in overcoming challenges This can turn into a sore point among your friends, who might find your repeated laments too negative to be around. Take some time to acknowledge the support of your friend-group so they don't get burned out helping you process your loss. Try saying things like:  "I know this breakup's been especially bad for me, and I'm sorry about venting to you all the time. You've been such a good friend through all this. I'm so thankful for your support." "I wanted to thank you for forcing me to go out the other night. I was mopey and a little depressed, but a night out was exactly what I needed." "You've been so patient with me through all this. Thank you. Without you here to listen and give me advice, this would've been so much more difficult for me." with positivity. It may be encouraging for you to put positive quotes in visible places around your home. Or maybe you should plan a viewing marathon of a show or movie that never fails to improve your mood. Many people struggle with difficult breakups. These can be a huge emotional shock, and you might need the emotional support of a professional or someone more emotionally experienced to reach a place where you can heal. A psychologist, an older family member, a friend or a school counselor can guide you through the process. Talking it out can help you release the stress, gain advice, and build your self-esteem.
Summary: Learn from your former relationship. Make a list of things you have always wanted to do. Don't stay home. Meet your friends, both old and new. Refrain from talking about your ex-love. Surround yourself Talk to an expert or trusted adult in serious cases.