While you and your spouse can do a lot to rebuild trust on your own, seeing a marriage counselor can be invaluable when you are trying to recover from an affair. Do an online search for marriage counselors in your area, or ask your doctor to recommend one. Your counselor can help the two of you work through your feelings in a healthy and productive way. They can also help you figure out any underlying issues that may have contributed to the affair in the first place. by yourself to work on your own issues. Whether or not your spouse is willing to attend therapy with you, you might benefit from going on your own. A good therapist can help you manage any feelings of guilt, sadness, or frustration after an affair, and they might also help you address the issues that led to the affair. Ask your doctor to recommend a therapist, or do an online search for one near you.  Your spouse may also benefit from seeing a therapist on their own. Don't push them to do so if they don't want to, however. This is a decision they need to make for themselves. A relationship support group can help you and your spouse feel less alone. A group can also help you gain new insights and perspectives from other couples facing similar struggles. Do a search for support groups in your area, or ask your doctor or counselor to recommend one. Some support groups are peer-led, while others are run by a professional host or mediator, such as a psychologist or a licensed clinical social worker.
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One-sentence summary -- See a marriage counselor if your spouse is willing to go. Attend counseling Join a support group for couples with relationship issues.


If you're currently undergoing menopause, or if you're a woman nearing menopausal age, you may be experiencing hot flashes and night sweats caused by hormonal changes. These symptoms are very common and will most often subside after menopause.  You can take some simple steps to help control your symptoms at home, such as exercising regularly, maintaining a healthy weight, reducing stress, quitting smoking, and avoiding alcohol, caffeine, and spicy foods. If your hot flashes and night sweats become intolerable, your doctor may prescribe hormones, antidepressants, or other drugs to help control your symptoms. Many commonly prescribed medications, including antidepressants, hormonal therapy, and hypoglycemic agents, can cause night sweats. If you suspect that your symptoms may be caused by a medication, talk with your doctor about your options. You may be able to switch to another medication, or your doctor may prescribe additional medications to help you manage your symptoms. Never stop taking your medication or reduce your dosage without first talking to your doctor. Anxiety can cause you to experience hot flashes because your body is telling itself that it is in danger, which causes your blood vessels to constrict. If you believe you are suffering from anxiety, see a doctor right away. A combination of therapy, medication, and exercise may help you control your symptoms. If you're experiencing night sweats that are not caused by your environment, you may have an underlying medical condition, such as tuberculosis or another bacterial infection. Be sure to discuss all of your symptoms with your doctor for a proper diagnosis. You may also have Idiopathic hyperhidrosis, which is a condition that causes the body to produce too much sweat for no known reason.
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One-sentence summary -- Diagnose menopausal symptoms. Talk to your doctor about your medications. Understand anxiety. Mention your symptoms.


If you are living alone this is easiest. Just don't buy it! Don't carry spare cash for snacking when out, and don't even look at the section in the supermarket. This makes it so much easier. If you live with other people, just don't be around them when they start to eat tempting food. Easy! When you crave something that is out on the counter or near by, just put in away in the cabinet where you cannot see it. If you're trying to kick a habit, then there must be a reason. Use that reason to keep inspiring you to not give in. Do you feel better? Do you feel more energized? Are you losing weight? These good things will work as incentives to keep it up. You're more likely to add tempting unhealthy foods to the basket when you're hungry. You can even carry around alternatives to help if you get a craving. A low calorie or sugar free alternative is gum!  Not only does it come in many flavors, but it can keep you preoccupied for hours. An apple is also handy to munch on to keep you busy - even better! This will just make you less hungry, and gives you plenty of energy that you may rely on your food addiction for. The food you eat in the morning will most likely be burned off by the end of the day, so eat a nice breakfast so that you don't get as hungry later in the day.
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One-sentence summary -- Take yourself away from the food. Put it away. Think about all of the negatives involved. Be aware of the benefits. Do not shop when you're hungry. Eat alternatives. Drink lots of water. Eat a healthy breakfast every morning.


Rinse the beef tongue under cool running water and pat dry with clean paper towels. When buying beef tongue, it is especially important that you purchase it from a reliable source. You may need to buy it in frozen form, rather than buying it fresh, since it is not a common cut of meat in most geographic areas. Put the beef tongue in the bottom of the slow cooker. Surround it with your cut onions and garlic cloves, then sprinkle it with salt. Pour the water over the entire thing.  There is no need to turn the beef tongue. The flavors of the garlic, onion, and salt should sink into the meat as it cooks. Cover the slow cooker with its lid before continuing. The meat should be tender enough to shred when done.  If you do not have a full 8 hours, you could switch the slow cooker to high and cook the beef tongue for 4 to 5 hours, instead. Do not remove the lid during the initial cook time. Doing so can release too much steam, and since the steam is partially responsible for cooking the meat, letting it escape can increase the overall cook time by another 15 to 30 minutes. If the meat does not feel tender after 8 hours, you may need to cook it for another 1 to 2 hours. Place the cooked beef tongue in a large dish or rimmed baking sheet. Make a shallow cut in the skin at the open end of the beef tongue, then peel the rest of the skin off using your fingers.  You should also trim away any fatty tissue at the bottom end of the tongue using the knife. The majority of the cut will be edible meat, even after you cut away the skin and fat. Use two forks to shred the tongue meat into pieces. Work from the outside and move inward into the cut of meat. Place the shredded tongue meat into a large mixing bowl. Ladle a little of the cooking liquid on top, then toss well to coat.  Use enough liquid to moisten the meat without drowning it. Ideally, the liquid should be degreased and strained before you pour it over the meat. The barbacoa beef tongue is ready to eat and enjoy. Serve it on warm tortillas, and offer garnishes such as cilantro, chopped white onion, and salsa.
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Clean the beef tongue. Place all the ingredients in a slow cooker. Cook on low for 8 hours. Remove the skin of the tongue. Shred the meat. Moisten the shredded meat. Serve.