Q: Wrapping a plastic grocery bag around your doll’s soft body and face to keep the water off of her. Water can damage your doll’s stuffing and even make her eyes go rusty.  Pull the bag right up to her hairline. For extra protection, close your doll’s eyes before you cover her. If you don’t have any plastic bags handy, be very careful not to get any water on your doll’s face or body. Make sure your doll’s hair is down and take out any clips or hair ties before you start washing. Undo any braids and twists too. Place your doll down on a bathroom or kitchen counter with her head over the edge of the sink. Lay her hair out in the sink. Turn on the water and run your doll’s hair under it, from the tips up to about 1 inch (2.5 cm) from her scalp. Try not to get her scalp wet, since that can damage her wig and loosen the glue holding it in place.  Make sure the water isn’t too hot or too cold. It should be about room temperature, or a little bit warm. Run the water in a steady, gentle stream. Don’t turn it up too high because it might splash onto your doll. Squeeze a dime-sized amount of shampoo into your palm and scrunch it up through your doll’s hair, just like you would with your hair. Rinse her hair out under the sink when you’re done lathering.  You can use special synthetic wig shampoo, baby shampoo, or a mild regular shampoo. Stop shampooing about 1 inch (2.5 cm) from her scalp so you don’t get her head wet. If your doll has anything stuck in her hair, like glue or gum, work those strands with your fingers until you can feel it loosening. It’s ok if it doesn’t all come out now—you’ll be brushing it out later. Pour a dime-sized amount of conditioner into your palm. Massage it into your doll’s hair, starting at the ends and working up to about 1 inch (2.5 cm) from her head. Let it sit for about 5 minutes, then rinse it out under your sink.  If your doll has curly hair, the conditioner might make the curls a little less tight. Conditioning your doll’s hair is optional, but it can help to make your doll’s hair less frizzy. You can use any kind of conditioner you want. You can try to use the brand that goes with the shampoo you used, or just go with a regular hydrating conditioner. Lay your doll’s head on a towel and spread out her hair above her head. Use another towel to gently pat her hair until it’s a little damp, but not dripping. Sit your doll up straight and hold her between your legs. Use a wire brush to detangle and smooth down her hair, starting at the ends and brushing up to the roots until it’s flat and shiny.  If you want to restyle your doll’s hair, to make it wavy or curly, for example, now is a great time to do it! You can create waves with 1 or 2 braids, or make curls by twirling her hair around your fingers. You want to brush her hair while it’s still damp because brushing it when it’s already dry can make it frizz.
A: Cover your doll’s face and body with plastic so she doesn’t get wet. Take out any clips or hair ties in her hair. Lay your doll on a bathroom counter with her hair in the sink. Rinse her hair under the water. Wash her hair with a bit of mild shampoo, then rinse it out. Rub a little bit of conditioner through her hair, then rinse it. Pat her hair with a towel until it’s only a little damp. Gently brush through her damp hair with a wire brush.

Q: If you live with someone who has an overactive sex drive, then he or she may want to have sex at odd times of the day or even multiple times of the day. It is important for you to express your feelings about this behavior and set clear boundaries about when you are willing to have sex. Keep in mind that your partner may feel rejected or think that you don’t like to have sex with him or her at all. Make sure that you emphasize your attraction to your partner to minimize conflict.  For example, if your partner often wants to have sex in the morning when you are trying to get ready for work, explain why this is inconvenient for you. You might say something like, “I love all of the affection that you give me in the morning, but I have been late a few times because of it. I think that we need to keep these encounters to the evening when I have more time to spend with you." Or, if your partner wants to have sex multiple times every day, then you might say, “I am glad that you are attracted to me. I am attracted to you too. However, my sex drive is not as high as yours, so I can’t keep having sex two or three times every day.” People with high sex drives may benefit from incorporating vigorous exercise and other activities into their daily lives. If your partner does not exercise much or if he or she does not have any hobbies, then encourage your partner to do these things. For example, your partner might take up running, cycling, dancing, or swimming to provide an outlet for sexual desire and frustration. Your partner might also take up an enjoyable hobby, such as knitting, cooking, or playing an instrument. Some people might feel like it is not appropriate to masturbate when you are in a relationship, so you may need to discuss your feelings about this with your partner. If your partner is interested in having sex every day or multiple times per day, then he or she may need to masturbate once per day or every other day to control his or her sex drive. Talk to your partner about masturbating on a regular basis. For example, you might say something like, “I enjoy having sex with you, but my sex drive is not the same as yours. Would you be willing to masturbate a few times per week or more to help make up for the days that I am not in the mood for sex?” If your partner just has a high sex drive, but does not feel as though sex is a compulsion, then you may need to try some new things to satisfy your partner sexually. Although you may not be up for sex as much as your partner is, there are still ways you can satisfy his or her needs. For example, you could:  Incorporate more oral sex into your lovemaking. Try out some sex toys. Watch pornography together. Try phone sex when you are apart. Some people who have overactive sex drives may use sex as a way to feel closer to their partners on an emotional level. If your partner is using sex as a way to feel emotionally close to you, try to find other ways you two can feel emotionally close other than through sex. Look for other ways to build emotional intimacy with your partner, such as:  Asking about your partner's day and sharing about your day. Confiding in your partner when you have a problem or concern. Telling your partner how much he or she means to you. Going on romantic dates.
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Set boundaries. Encourage your partner to find non-sexual outlets. Tell your partner that you are okay with masturbation. Consider other ways of meeting your partner’s needs. Build emotional intimacy.