Q: If you're currently in a relationship, loving two people can pose problems. If you and your partner have not agreed to an open relationship, being in love with another person can constitute an emotional affair. This can cause feelings of pain and betrayal for your current partner. Look for any signs you're having an emotional affair.  You may feel the need to justify your behavior due to latent guilt. You may, for example, need to reassure yourself constantly you and this person are "just friends" or think of justifications for spending time with this person. You may also feel the need to cover your tracks. If you're hiding something from your partner, you may be doing something wrong. You may, for example, delete text message or lie to your partner about spending time with the other person. Do you obsessively think or daydream about this person? Do you feel excitement when you know you get to see this person? If so, that's definitely a sign it's emotional infidelity. If you're in love with two different people, this may be a warning sign about your current relationship. If you're traditionally only able to love one person at a time, you may be falling out of love with your current partner.  How happy are you in your current relationship? If there have been problems for awhile, your attachment to another person may be a warning sign. Do you complain about your partner to this person? Do you share details about your relationship problems you would withhold from others? Do you find yourself comparing this person to your partner? You may find this new person has qualities you feel your partner lacks. Is this person very different from your current partner? If so, you may be latching onto someone completely different because your current relationship is not working. If you're struggling with feelings for someone else, a therapist can be helpful. If your partner expects emotional fidelity, loving another person is a problem. A therapist can help you figure out how to sort through your feelings and proceed in your relationship.   If you're not currently seeing a therapist, you can get a referral for one through your regular doctor. You can also see what therapists are covered under your insurance network. If you're a student, you may be entitled to free counseling through your school. If you believe your relationship is in serious trouble due to outside feelings, consider seeing a couples counselor with your partner to discuss these issues. In some cases, you may want to talk to your partner about how you're feeling. If you believe your feelings are a threat to your current relationship, you should have a sit down talk to your partner about how to proceed.  Pick the right time to talk and eliminate distractions when you have the discussion. Make sure you turn off phones and computers. You should also strive to talk at a time when neither you nor your partner have outside commitments. Have empathy. It can be painful for your partner to hear you're in love with someone else, and you don't want to minimize his or her pain. Allow your partner to feel what he or she is feeling. For example, don't say something like, "Lots of people have been where you've been and have gotten over it." This may come off as dismissive. Form a game plan together. You may decide it's best to end the relationship, or to open up the relationship. Your partner may want you to lessen contact with the other party to salvage things. Whatever you decide, make sure you set clear boundaries both you and your partner agree to and fully understand. If you had an emotional affair, you need to take time to heal. It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact you were unfaithful, even if it was not physical. You want to give yourself time to let the affair go, and focus on your current partner over the other person.  Try to schedule times to think about the other person. It may sound strange, but it can actually be helpful to daydream and obsess about the object of your affection for a set time each day. Trying to never think about this person may backfire. If you give yourself a little leeway once a day, it may help you get over this person longterm. Allow yourself time to grieve the relationship. A non-physical relationship can be as intimate and close as a physical one. It will take you some time to feel better about ending the affair. It's normal to miss the person in the aftermath. Try to keep busy and surround yourself with friends. Invest in your current relationship. If you've made the choice to stay with your current partner, you need to spend time repairing any damage done by the emotional affair. Spend a lot of one-on-one time with your partner. Try to become physically intimate through sex, cuddling, and touch. Remind yourself why you fell in love with your partner to begin with, and why your relationship is worth it.
A: Consider whether you're having an emotional affair. Evaluate whether your feelings for your partner are waning. Discuss your feelings with a therapist. Talk to your partner, if you feel comfortable doing so. Cope with an emotional affair.

Q: Part of being in love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then they are really opening up to you and loves you.  If the person shares their deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that could be love.  If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in their teeth around you, that means they are okay if you see every side of them. This should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when they see you, then that's a sign of love. If they are in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make them feel better — if only a little bit. The next time they're grumpy or have a bad day, see how they react in your presence. Though this may be silly, check out your loved one's face the next time you see them. Do they look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "googly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table. You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression. Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever they are around you? If so, then this may be love.  If you've said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then they may be lovesick. If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then they may just be excited by your presence. If you are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If they truly love you, then they'll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very upset because they'll want you to feel better as soon as you can. Though they don't have to be as upset as you are, the person should clearly be affected by your mood because all they want is for you to be happy.
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See if the person can act naturally around you. Gauge if the person is happy to be around you. Notice if the person gives you googly eyes. See if the person is giddy around you. Ask yourself if the person is upset when you are.