Q: Sit down with your boyfriend and let him know how his recent actions are making you feel. Try to set boundaries about behaviors that are and aren't acceptable.  It's possible that your boyfriend isn't actually trying to make you jealous, and simply isn't aware of the fact that his interactions with another girl are causing you to feel jealous. Letting him know can help limit the behavior in the future.  Even if he meant to make you jealous, it's possible that he has his own insecurities with the relationship. Opening the topic up to discussion can give you both the chance to talk things over while also giving him the chance to reassure you about his feelings. Before, during, and after your discussion, you need to remain calm. Don't explode when your boyfriend says or does something that makes you feel jealous.  Talk about your feelings using "I" statements (i.e. "I feel...") instead of placing blame (i.e. "You make me feel..."). If the misunderstanding is genuine, staying calm with help you work things out more completely and with as little conflict as possible. If your boyfriend is intentionally trying to push your buttons, however, exploding at him will only give him the reaction he wants. Instead of responding the way he expects, keep your cool and be the mature one when you talk things out. If his behavior continues even after you bring the issue to his attention, he might have some toxic control issues, and it might be in your best interest to break things off. Oftentimes, a guy may try to make you jealous because he feels insecure about your feelings for him. His insecurity doesn't make the behavior acceptable, but it does make it quite normal.  His attempts at making you jealous might be his way of trying to capture your attention. By "reminding" you that he's a catch, he's trying to win more of your affection. Try to reconnect with your boyfriend to give him the reassurance he needs. Compliment him. Be appreciative when he does good things for you. Cuddle, kiss, and be intentional about giving him signs of physical affection as you feel comfortable with. In addition to dealing with your boyfriend's insecurities, you also have to manage your own. Being more confident about your self-worth will usually make it easier to stop obsessing over feelings of jealousy, ultimately leaving you with more energy to strengthen your relationship.  Show compassion to yourself. Admit it when you fall victim to jealous, and assure yourself that it's a natural feeling you don't need to be ashamed of. Only by accepting the feeling at face value can you learn to overcome it. Take time to focus on your own interests independent of the relationship. Developing yourself as an individual can make it easier to see what you bring to the relationship, which can make it easier to accept that your boyfriend loves you.
A: Discuss your feelings. Stay calm. Offer some reassurance. Manage your own insecurities.

Q: This plant will grow just fine in the front of your aquarium, but it’s likely to block your view of your fish! Instead, consider using it as a background piece, or let its beautiful leaves become a central focal point that your fish can circulate around.  A Java fern rhizome generally grows in one direction, and can reach about 6 inches (15 cm) wide. The leaves can grow to about 12 inches (30 cm) tall. Because of their size, Java ferns are best for tanks that hold at least 10 gallons (38 L). Java ferns are hardy plants that can tolerate nearly any typical aquarium environment. However, they are more likely to thrive under the following conditions:  a tank temperature between 72 and 82 °F (22 and 28 °C). a tank pH between 6 and 7.5. low to moderate tank lighting. Many Java ferns can get adequate nutrients from their aquarium surroundings and will never need a fertilizer. But, if your fern has shown little to no signs of growth after a month, try adding a liquid fertilizer that includes iron.  Choose a liquid fertilizer that suits your aquarium conditions, and follow the instructions for adding it to the tank. You may, for example, need to add a small amount of liquid fertilizer into the tank each week with a dropper. The fish can remain in the tank while you add the fertilizer. Black veining is normal on Java fern leaves, and black bumps on the leaves are signs of new growth, not disease. However, if your fern has brown spots on the leaves, or if the leaves start to get mushy or disintegrate, you do have a problem. Brown rot is typically due to too much light, too few nutrients, or too much blue green algae (BGA). In the last case, keeping the tank clean and increasing the nutrient levels with a liquid fertilizer may improve your fern’s health.
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Locate the fern in the middle or back of the tank. Adjust the temperature, pH, and lighting if necessary. Add a liquid plant fertilizer only if necessary. Make adjustments if you see brown rot.