If you’re invited to a dinner party, bring a gift or a dish, like wine or a dessert, and pay close attention to your table manners. Stay away from your phone during conversation and be friendly and cordial to everyone you meet. with others in the social scene. Talking behind other people’s backs and dumping friends to move up the social ladder is the worst socialite stereotype. Avoid behaving this way yourself by remembering that a truly confident socialite doesn’t need to put others down to feel strong. When others try to involve you in gossip, simply say, “From my experience, he’s a wonderful person,” or, “I don’t know her very well, but she seems sweet.” Keep your comments positive and don’t say anything bad about anyone--it may come back to hurt you if you do! Strive to make one good connection with each person you meet: maybe you both scuba dive, enjoy baseball, or frequently visit art museums. These similarities will help people remember and like you. First, utilize the connections you do have, from work, school, or family. Keep in touch with them regularly and attend social events with them, asking them to introduce you to their friends and acquaintances. Get contact information for new acquaintances and treat them to lunch or coffee. When they plan a guest list for their next party, you’ll be at the front of their mind. As your circle of acquaintances grows larger, remember to keep stay close to your best friends. You’ll need someone who understands your ambition to be a socialite, who will have your back no matter what, and who you can trust and confide in. Conventional wisdom says that you should date--and, eventually, marry--into a rich family. Sure, it’s a bonus if your spouse or partner has connections in the world of old money, but it’s definitely not what you should look for in a life partner. Instead, date someone you care about and who is interested in at least being social by coming with you to parties, meeting new people, enjoying the challenges and excitement of working your way up in society together. Post them to your own social media or pose for a photographer at an event--the photos may even end up in the society section of a newspaper or magazine. Be relaxed and confident. Say, “We both look amazing tonight. This needs to be documented,” or “I told myself I’d get one more picture tonight. Are you in?” The last thing you want is to come off as desperate to established socialites, and the best way to prevent this is to exude confidence. Sit up straight, walk tall, and act like you belong. If you believe it, so will everyone else.

Summary: Have impeccable manners. Avoid drama Be charming and memorable in conversation. Connect with people who can broaden your social circle. Make a few good friends and stick with them. Date someone who understands your ambition. Take pictures with other socialites. Be confident.


Your employees should be aware of all security measures on your premises, including security cameras, detectors, and guards. Include any operating procedures required for getting through security. Describe any off-limits or restricted-access areas, along with a clear description of who is or is not allowed to enter them. For clarity, you may wish to include a map showing these areas. You may be required to comply with Occupational Health and Safety laws in your state and you should mention these laws in your employee handbook. You should note that all employees must report all accidents, injuries, potential safety hazards, and any safety related issues to management. You should also have safety policies in place regarding poor weather or hazardous work conditions. This is especially important if your employees often work in the field or off site. You should also include a process for reporting incidents on the job, such as an injury while working or a robbery. Your employees should be aware of how they can report an incident and who they can speak to in the event of an incident. You may have a detailed process in the employee handbook for incident reporting or keep it more general. You may want to opt for a more general discussion if you think the reporting process may change in the future. You should also include a clear plan of action in the event of an emergency, such as a fire in the workplace or a natural disaster like flooding or severe weather. You should have an exit plan for employees to follow on a map in the handbook and discuss safety areas or points outside of the building.

Summary: Describe on-site security measures. Note if the company complies with Occupational Health and Safety laws. Outline the incident reporting policy. Discuss a plan of action in the event of an emergency.


This will begin to form your embouchure. Your lips should be in front of your teeth, slightly pursed, and your chin is flat. If you can’t whistle, make an owl sound. The shape your mouth makes when you say “hoot” is the correct shape. The reed should rest gently between your lips and be just far enough in your mouth to vibrate when you blow out air. Keep the tip of the reed just past the fleshy part of your bottom lip.  Make sure your bottom lip is covering your teeth. Never bite on the reed. Your lips are the only part of your body that should touch the reed. Make sure your lips are completely sealed around the reed so the air is going into the oboe. Exhale to produce a noise. Inhale through your nose, then repeat. You do not need to be pressing any keys to make a sound. Create basic notes by pressing down different keys while blowing into your oboe. Look at a fingering chart online or find one in a music book to learn which keys to press for which notes. Practice these notes until you can create a consistent tune and pitch. C, B, A, and G are notes that you'll use in most songs so they're a good place to start. If your notes sound shaky, work on your embouchure and breathing.
Summary: Bring your lips together as if you’re whistling. Place the reed on your lower lip while keeping your mouth round. Surround the reed with your lips and blow out to create a sound. Practice playing beginner notes like C, B, A, and G with a fingering chart.