Problem: Article: Find out from family members, close friends, or members of the community when the memorial service will be held. If the person who died was a pillar in the local community, information about their services may be posted in the local newspaper. Make sure you know when and where the service will be held. Review the directions ahead of time to avoid getting lost and arriving late. Across many cultures and religions, a common way to pay respects is to send flowers. Plus, if you are unable to attend the memorial, sending flowers lets the person's loved ones know that they are in your thoughts.  Look online or visit your local florist to choose a nice arrangement. Have them sent to the funeral home so that they are there prior to the memorial. If you are sending flowers from a long distance, it may be helpful to contact florists in the person's area to have them send over your flowers. Local and online florists can guide you on choosing and ordering arrangements that are designed specially for memorials. A donation can be an alternative to flowers. Making a donation in the deceased’s name to a cause they cared about is a nice gesture. Check the obituary, as this is sometimes specified there. If you have never attended a funeral, or if you are a bit shaken by the death, it may be a good idea to bring someone with you. A parent, sibling, or friend can accompany you to the memorial and offer comfort if you need it. Another good option is to go with someone who has a similar relationship with the deceased as you. For instance, you might go with another classmate, if a teacher has died. Or, you might attend a friend’s parent’s funeral with another mutual friend. Be respectful and proper by arriving to the memorial service on time. Aim to arrive at least 15-30 minutes before the service begins. Also, dress appropriately. It used to be common practice to wear black. That’s no longer necessary, but you should wear subdued clothing.  Do some research before you dress. If the person followed a certain religion, you might look to see if there are general expectations for clothing in that place of worship. Go for solid-colored clothing choices in mute shades like navy, burgundy, or grey as a rule. Avoid bright colors and busy prints or patterns. Also, try to be modest—don’t wear anything too revealing, such as low-cut tops or mini skirts. If you are attending a wake or viewing, the attire might be more relaxed or casual. Still, stick to subdued colors. Also, if you are going to a viewing, you can arrive at any time and approach the casket. Just make sure you greet the person's loved ones before viewing the body. It is typical for everyone at the memorial service to pay their respects by viewing the body. This may take place before, during, or after the service. If you want to see the deceased one last time, you may go up when directed and view the body. If you don’t want to take part in this practice, remain seated. In some situations, a viewing, or wake, may be held immediately before the memorial or on a separate day. Wakes are usually more intimate but allow you to come and go as you please. The funeral itself, on the other hand, is more anonymous but requires you to be present for the entire service.
Summary: Get the important information. Send flowers. Ask someone to join you for support. Arrive on time and dressed appropriately. View the body, if you want.

Problem: Article: Ask your partner what they think they are entitled to out of life and from you. If they answer in a way that demonstrates that they view relationships as a partnership, then this is a positive sign. If they emphasize what they “deserve” from other people, including you, then they may be a gold digger. Another warning sign is if they feel entitled to the best of everything, no matter the effort they've put in. For example, they might request jewelry almost immediately into the relationship. As you are browsing through dating profiles, watch out for those persons who list only pricey hobbies, interests, or preferences. It's perfectly fine to enjoy expensive wines, for example, but this could indicate a problem if they only enjoy it because of the price tag and not the quality.  For example, a gold digger profile might say, “I love shopping when somebody else pays for it.” A gold digger may be unaware how they come across, and therefore won't try to hide their greedy behavior. However, some are more sophisticated and stealthy. People usually hang out with like-minded individuals. If all of your partner's friends are gold diggers, then it's highly likely that they are as well. If their friends constantly talk about looking for rich men or women, then you can tell that's what they value. If you are concerned, you might ask your partner, “I've noticed that your friends talk about money a lot. Why do you think that is?”
Summary: Notice a sense of entitlement. Look for online profiles with expensive preferences listed. Pay attention to their friend's attitudes.

Problem: Article: There are times when a person feels so angry that he or she feels the desire to scream. If you are facing this sort of anger right now, pause your reading and go scream into a pillow. Screaming offers you a physical release. Studies have shown that crying it out can release toxins that are built up by stress. As a word of caution, you should try to make sure that your scream is well-muffled by the sound of your pillow to avoid worrying any neighbors. If there are a lot of details about a given situation that make you upset, you can find something symbolic to represent these components of your anger before throwing those symbolic elements away. For example, You can collect stones alongside a river and throw them into the water after you have assigned a component of your anger to each one. Another way to put this would be to “walk in the other person's shoes.” Consider the reasons the offending party may have had for acting in a hurtful way. You might never completely understand another's motivations, nor may you agree with them upon identifying them, but it is easier to let go of anger towards someone after you spend a little time in her head. If possible, remind yourself that the other person didn't realize she was hurting you. If she did consciously hurt you, think about what led her to do so. Understand that forgiveness does not automatically lead to reconciliation. If you suspect that the party responsible for triggering your anger feels remorseful and wants to make amends, reconciliation might work out. On the other hand, if the other party is not open to setting things right, or if the nature of the pain is such that you can never trust the other person again, reconciliation might not seem like an option. Recognize that you alone can forgive. Completely letting go of anger means forgiving the person who has hurt you. However, forgiveness is not for everyone at all times. Forced or feigned forgiveness is of little benefit to anyone, least of all yourself. It's important to thoroughly process your hurt, control your anger, and decide if/when forgiveness is right for you. Understand that forgiving someone may not prompt the other person to change her behavior. The purpose of forgiveness, in this sense, is to cleanse yourself of the anger and resentment building inside you. Forgiveness is for your own benefit and is an internal necessity, not an external one. There can be a lot of blame during the anger stage. It's important to reflect on your own role in the situation and accept responsibility for whatever role you played. This doesn't mean that you can't acknowledge the poor treatment given to you by the other party. It simply means that if you did wrong, you should be honest about it, especially if you ever plan to reconcile. Accepting responsibility can start with eliminating negative emotions. One way to do this is to make a list of the 3 to 5 strongest negative emotions you feel, and think about how to substitute the negative emotion for a good one.
Summary:
Scream. Metaphorically throw your anger away. Replace resentment with compassion. Determine if reconciliation is an option. Forgive. Take responsibility for your own actions.