Use a knife to cut out the stems and ribs, removing the seeds along with them in the process.  Work carefully. Use food-grade plastic gloves to handle the chiles if you want to avoid getting any of the hot juice on your hands, since the chiles could cause mild skin irritation. Wash your hands well after handling the chiles. Do not touch your eyes before washing your hands, since doing so will cause your eyes to burn. Heat a large, dry skillet on medium-high for 2 minutes. Place the chiles on the skillet and toast, 10 to 15 seconds, before flipping them over to the other side and toasting another 10 seconds.  Turn the chiles using tongs. The chiles should brown to the point of charring on both sides. You do not want the entire side to blacken, though. Ideally, the chiles should only be exposed to the heat long enough for a few dark brown spots to develop. Place the tomatoes, garlic, and remaining onion half in the skillet along with the chiles. Cover with water, and let simmer on medium heat for 10 minutes. Stir the contents of the pan occasionally to prevent them from sticking to the bottom of the skillet. Transfer the contents of the pan to a blender or food processor. Puree the ingredients together on high speed until a thin sauce forms. If you have a handheld electric blender, you could use that instead of a standing blender or food processor. No matter what tool you use, though, try to make the sauce as smooth and thoroughly blended as possible.
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One-sentence summary -- Remove the stems and seeds from the chiles. Toast the chiles. Add the other sauce ingredients. Puree the sauce.


Combine your baking powder, baking soda, salt, sugar and flour substitute of choice in a large mixing bowl. Add 2 eggs, a tablespoon of oil and a dash of vanilla extract to the dry ingredients and whisk until they form a smooth, thick mixture.  Break up big lumps in the batter, but don’t overstir. This can make the waffles dense and gluey.  If you’re using tough, fibrous ingredients like oats or flax, soak them in a shallow bowl of buttermilk to soften them before blending them and adding them to the batter mix. Plug in the waffle iron. Coat both surfaces of the iron with light cooking spray and let it begin preheating. Have your batter and a ladle ready nearby.  No need to prep with cooking spray if you’re using a newer nonstick waffle iron. Keep the heat somewhere between medium and high so that it doesn’t get too hot between batches. Use enough batter to cover the inner surface of the iron, leaving a little room around the edges for the waffles to cook up. Once the batter begins to bubble, closed the lid of the iron.  Make sure you pour the batter on thick enough to cover the grid ridges on the iron, or the waffles won’t hold together. Most waffle irons will only be big enough to fix one waffle at a time. Portion each ladle of batter consistently so that you have none left over when you’re done cooking. The waffles will take about 4-5 minutes to cook to the optimal finish. A perfect waffle will come out golden-brown and crispy on the outside while still being light and airy inside. Repeat until you’ve used up the remaining batter.  Take a peek at the waffles periodically to make sure they’re cooking evenly. Waffle batter can also be refrigerated for a day or two if you don’t plan on using it all right away.
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One-sentence summary -- Mix the waffle batter. Heat and grease the waffle iron. Spoon the batter onto the hot waffle iron. Cook the waffles until they're golden brown.


Just because the rejection occurred online, that doesn't mean that you won't still be feeling the strong sadness of being broken up with, ignored, or excluded. Ostracism is inherently painful--our basic needs for belonging and recognition are unmet.  Knowing your feelings surrounding the rejection will allow you to slowly start to let them go, creating the distance needed to heal. The idea here is simply to let yourself feel some of this hurt--how rejection feels to you--so that you can tell when you're over the incident. Feeling your feelings will also help you get back in the game. The next time you show interest in someone's profile and start dating, you will not be harboring resentment or defeat from the previous setback. Moving away from the incident can help you to work out what has happened with greater clarity. Take the time to assess your own behavior that could have caused the rejection or unfriending.Staying online will keep you hurting and without the crucial distance to see if some of your online habits are off-putting to others, like making crude comments or posting excessively.  For instance, some people are very good in person; they smile, flirt, and make eye contact. But, that same person might not know how to communicate very well through text, appearing cold and distant. Time examining your online personality can show you quirks and features of your behavior that you may want to be aware of. Try taking a week long break from the particular site or even off the whole internet to give yourself the space to come to terms and reflect. Especially if the relationship was exclusively online, give yourself time before making a new connection on the same dating website. The best thing about online friends and suitors is that there are so many of them—enough that you don’t need to get attached to any one person or site. Take advantage of the fact that if someone unfriends, dumps, or ignores you online, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. You may even embrace having the incompatibility between you and the person brought to your attention. Consider, but don't dwell on the other's qualities that you find unattractive in order to move on. This way you won't feel tempted to continue pursuing the person or interrogating them about the rejection, and you can move on fluidly. When others reject us, it is not because of anything we could or should have done better. More often than not, it's the person's reaction against something we've done that feels threatening to them. For instance, say you’ve been rejected on an online dating site. Since most people lack insight about their relationship patterns, they may be unconsciously looking for a person who can fulfill that pattern. In many instances, the problem is with the match rather than baggage you carry into all situations. If the source of your pain is online, a good way to create distance is to shift the focus of your social life. Make it a point to do most of your dating and socializing face-to-face while you're getting over the rejection. This way, you'll see that people you talk to online are only one of many sources of closeness and connection in your life. If possible, shorten your time spent on the internet. If you fill your time with sharing experiences and getting outside instead, you will be less likely to ruminate on the situation. It's the equivalent of taking a vacation when dealing with a painful issue that arises close to home.
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Acknowledge your feelings. Take a step back from the situation. Put the exclusion in perspective. Resist the urge to take it personally. Seek support from friends and family.