In order to help someone who is sad, you must be able to approach the person and begin a conversation. How you decide to approach the person will depend on your relationship with her. Walk up to the person and engage her in conversation. You can begin by saying something like, “Hi. How are you doing?” If the person simply says, “fine,” you can say, “It seems like you are sad. Do you want to talk about it?” If she says no you must respect her decision to be alone; say something like, “I understand. I’m here for you if you want to talk.” You can try again to approach her later if you wish. Communicate that you will be supportive of your friend or acquaintance.  Tell the person that you truly care about her and her well-being and that you are there for her.  Offer your help. You can say something like, “I know you are very sad and I just want to let you know that I am here for you.” Ask her what you can do to help. You could say, "I'd like to help in any way I can. Is there something I can do? We could talk about it if you want." Part of being empathic is matching the other person’s affect or emotions. If they are sad, you should also look concerned. Try to feel the other person’s emotions and mirror them. You would not want to smile or laugh at a person who is crying or very sad. Express warmth and understanding. Use physical touch such as a hug, or holding the person’s hand if you feel this is comfortable and appropriate. You can ask the person, “Can I give you a hug?” Many people experience sadness in the face of adversity; this can be a normal reaction to a very difficult situation. Validating or normalizing sadness can help the person gain acceptance over this emotion.  You can say something like, “I understand why you are sad. It makes sense. This is such a difficult situation. I’m sorry that you are going through this.” Do not tell the person not to feel her emotions. Never say anything like, “Don’t be sad.” This can be very invalidating. Another way you can normalize feelings is by educating your friend about sadness, grief, and loss. You can explain that it is normal to feel denial, anger, and other grief reactions during these types of situations. Crying can actually increase our well-being by cleansing and releasing pent up emotions. Encourage your friend or family member to let her emotions out if she is inclined to do so.  Simply sit with your friend while she is tearful. You can hand her a tissue, rub her back (if appropriate), or tell her to, “let it out.” You can follow up by saying, “It’s okay to cry. Sometimes it is good to let those feelings out.” Avoid saying things like, “Please don’t cry.” This is sending the signal that it is not okay for her to let her emotions out and that you feel uncomfortable with her sadness. Active listening is about focusing solely on the other person and her experience. Try not to think about the next thing you are going to say and simply listen to everything the person is saying. Ask clarifying questions to show that you are being attentive. An example is, “I’m hearing that you are very sad because you lost your dog and you want to find him, is that right?” Be respectful of your friend’s space and wishes. If she does not want to talk about what is bothering her anymore, you can begin helping her feel better and doing other activities with her. To show that you are understanding of her need for space you can say, "I understand if you do not want to talk or if you want to be left alone. I'm here for you if you do want to talk or spend time together."
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One-sentence summary -- Approach the person. Provide support. Show empathy. Validate feelings. Let the person cry. Listen actively. Provide space if needed.


Athletes need to be able to move around comfortably in their clothes, which means sporty clothes are often more casual than other garments. Stick with loose or stretchy items, rather than clothes that restrict your movement. For instance, opt for relaxed-fit jeans over tight skinny jeans. Basketball or gym shorts, workout or yoga pants, and tracksuits should be staples of your wardrobe. Workout tanks and T-shirts are also essential items, and you may want a few tennis skirts as well. You can wear an athletic outfit all together for a super sporty look, or pair athletic items with other garments to give just a hint of sportiness.  For example, wear jeans and a T-shirt with an athletic company logo, then finish off the look with a track jacket and sunglasses. Alternatively, pair a tennis skirt with net booties and a trendy top. Horizontal stripes, rugby shirts, raglan shirts (baseball-style tees with colored sleeves), racerbacks, and jersey-style details, like numbers, help to sport up your look. A jacket with a striped wrist cuff or a floral jersey-style top are great choices.  For instance, opt for a bodycon dress with a racerback and pair it with sunglasses and sneakers. Or, pair a rugby shirt with jeans, boots, and a sporty watch. Skateboarding, surfing, and other sports brands literally advertise your sportiness. Stock up on T-shirts, tracksuits, sport shorts, or shoes with logos like O’Neill, Vans, Adidas, Nike, Volcom, Puma, Jordans, and Under Armour. Feel free to wear one brand from head to toe, or mix and match your favorite pieces.  For instance, wear a button-down with jeans and Jordans. Alternatively, wear a graphic logo tee with a skirt and heels. You can find clothing with logos of your favorite team, whether it’s a professional, college, or even high school sport. Or, you can opt for items in your favorite team’s colors. Choose caps, jerseys, T-shirts, sweaters, or jackets that display your love for your favorite teams.  Look for merchandise stands at games, check your local department store, or order items online. For instance, wear a sports jersey with jeans and boots or opt for trousers paired with a sweater in your team’s colors. Nothing says athletic like a hoodie! Pick out several in your favorite colors or styles and toss one on any time it gets chilly. You can even opt for hoodies that advertise your favorite athletic company or sports team.  Wear a hoodie with track pants and a baseball cap for the ultimate sporty look. Or, pair a zip-front hoodie with jeans, a thermal shirt, boots, and a ball cap. Whether you wear your actual letter jacket or pick up a varsity-style jacket online or in a store, it’s the perfect cold-weather accessory for any outfit.  Toss a varsity-style jacket on over jeans, a T-shirt, and sneakers. Add a cap and a gym bag to complete the look. Alternatively, wear a varsity-style jacket over a playful dress for a sporty chic vibe.
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One-sentence summary -- Select clothing with a relaxed feel. Stock up on athletic gear. Choose garments with athletic details. Opt for items with athletic company logos. Wear clothing that advertises your favorite team. Make hoodies a wardrobe staple. Layer on a varsity-style jacket.


Deactivate your Facebook page if you aren't planning on using Facebook for a while. Deactivation isn't permanent, and your page will be restored when you log in next time. Your profile will be completely hidden while your page is deactivated. While your page is deactivated, you won't be able to view anyone else's Facebook content that is not set to "Public." This will open your Settings screen. This will open your account security options. This will expand the section. This will hide your account and sign you out of Facebook. Your account will remain hidden until you sign in again. Your name will be removed from most things that you've shared, but not all messages. You will not lose any data. If you no longer want to have your account private, you can log back in with your regular Facebook credentials. This will restore all of your account data and make it visible again.
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Deactivate your page if you want to hide it for a while. Click the arrow button in the upper-right corner of page and select "Settings." Click the "Security" option. Click "Edit" next to "Deactivate Your Account." Click the "Deactivate your account" link and follow the prompts. Sign in again to restore your account.