Problem: Article: Subtly flipping long hair out of your face or behind your shoulder is a classic flirtatious move. Place your hand underneath your hair, and quickly flip it behind you. Try not to be too obvious with your hair flip so this can seem effortless and irresistible. To seem fun and flirty to your crush, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself first. They may think your confidence is sexy, and your initiative will likely intrigue them. Do this if you are at a concert, bar, or social event and find someone you want to get to know better. While chatting with a hottie, tell them things like, “Your outfit looks awesome,” or “Your hair color is gorgeous,” to boost their confidence. Throwing out compliments can seem flirty and fun, and you may seem more approachable and confident.  For example, if you are on a coffee date, say something like, “I really like spending time with you. We should do this more often.” Compliment their physical appearance, intelligence, or personality traits, for instance. An easy way to come across confident is to incorporate flirtatious touching. Simply tap your crush on the arm, touch their shoulder gently, or stroke their hand in passing. This shows them you are into them without being too direct. For example, if you are chatting at school or at work, you can gently touch their arm as you say goodbye. Spontaneity can be fun and exciting, and they’ll likely think you’re up for anything! For instance, shoot your crush a text saying something like, “I really want some Chinese food! Want to go grab lunch?”  If you recently went on a first date, text your date and say something like, “Hey, I really enjoyed our date last week. What are you up to tonight?” If you’re in a relationship, you can text your partner while at work and say, “I booked us a romantic weekend getaway. It’s a surprise but pack a backpack and come over after work!” There’s nothing more fun and flirty than a little innocent teasing. To do this, get creative and improvise depending on the situation. You can wink at your crush as they walk past you, send a suggestive text message, or joke around when chatting.  For example, mimic or mock something they say in a harmless way. You can make fun of their accent or repeat their words back to them. Give your crush a silly nickname and call them by it regularly. For example, you can say something like, “Since you laugh all the time, I’m calling you Giggles.” To seem fun and flirty, it's helpful to keep up with cool events and new businesses popping up in your area. This way, you'll always have a fun event coming up to look forward to. Ask your crush to hit the new Spanish restaurant that just opened up downtown for a new, interesting date idea.  To find events in your area, read the newspaper, check online, or review social media events. For example, you can go to a concert on a Friday night, go to a Saturday farmer's market or craft show, or hit a gallery opening.
Summary: Flip your hair tastefully to capture your crush’s interest. Introduce yourself confidently when you want to break the ice. Compliment your crush to make them feel good. Touch your crush appropriately to show them your flirty side. Be spontaneous when making plans with others. Tease your crush to show your playful side. Invite your crush to go on a fun, exciting date.

Problem: Article: The thought of going up to your crush to say hello might be making you nervous. To help yourself find the courage to go up to them, remind yourself that your crush is a person just like you are, and talking to them shouldn't be any different than talking to anyone else. Put on a smile, take a deep breath, and focus on showing confidence. Count to three if you notice yourself hesitating to talk to your crush. Once you get to three, go right up to them! If you see your crush while you're walking somewhere and don’t have time for a real conversation, say hello and then their name so they know you’re talking to them. Smile as you say hello and try to make eye contact, showing that you’re friendly and would like to talk some other time.  For example, if you see your crush as you’re walking to your seat, say, “Hey, Adam!” with a smile and keep walking. Speak loudly and clear enough so that your crush hears you. Not only does making eye contact make you look more confident, but it also helps spark a connection between the two of you. Going up to your crush to say hello can be nerve-racking, but if you see a moment when they're waiting outside of class or chatting with 1 or 2 people, go up to them! There's no need to overthink the timing, and being proactive about it will make you feel more confident and in control. Avoid going up to them if they're talking on the phone. If you don’t mind talking to them when they’re with their friends, great! Otherwise, wait for them to be alone, like when they’re at their locker or waiting for a class to start. This puts less pressure on you and makes the conversation flow more naturally.  If you just want to say a quick, “Hi, how are you?” instead of a longer conversation, it’s okay to talk to them when they’re around others. You might say something like, "Hi Jack, I wanted to ask you how your soccer game went last weekend! Did you guys win?" If the conversation goes well or you just want to continue talking to them, ask for their phone number if you don’t already have it. You could also add them on social media like Instagram or Snapchat to talk to them there too. After talking about interesting books, you might say, “What’s your phone number? I’ll text you the names of a few other books I think you might like.”
Summary:
Gather the courage to talk to your crush by giving yourself a pep talk. Give a quick hello when you pass them in the hallways. Go up to your crush when they're free to talk to avoid interrupting them. Wait until they’re alone to talk to them in more depth. Ask them for their social media handle or phone number.