While your child may not say much directly to you, they may mention things around other adults.   Keep in mind that other family members also may be contributing to parental alienation. This can be the case if, for example, the alienated parent feels victimized by you. If you asked your husband for a divorce and he didn't want one, he may feel that it's your fault the marriage ended. His parents or siblings may naturally gravitate to his side and believe things that he says about you, even if they are untrue. Neutral third parties such as the child's teacher or coach may be better sources of information concerning the other parent's actions. For example, if your ex-husband is engaging in alienating behavior, the teacher may notice a difference in your child's conduct when she is staying with him as opposed to when she is with you. Supportive individuals in your community, such as teachers, coaches, and religious leaders, typically have your child's best interests at heart and can be strong witnesses on your behalf when you're attempting to prove parental alienation. Since alienating parents often lie to turn the child against the targeted parent, make sure your child and other adults know the truth.  This can be difficult if the other adults with whom you speak are people more aligned with your ex than with you. For example, if your ex-husband told his sister that you were an alcoholic, you may have a hard time convincing her that you're not given her natural impulse to trust and protect her brother. Alienating parents may encourage an "us against them" mentality, so stress that you have the child's best interests at heart and aren't trying to make an enemy of your ex. Psychological treatment can be essential not only for proving parental alienation but for your child's health as well.  Your child may tell things to a psychologist that they wouldn't tell you. Additionally, psychologists are trained to recognize the significance of certain conduct and behavioral patterns that you might not notice. Your child also may feel more comfortable talking about things the other parent is saying about you than they would be telling you those things. In some cases you may be able to get the court to order a psychological evaluation of your child. Talk this over with your attorney to find out what the process is in your state. The psychological examiner's report can be used as evidence to prove parental alienation is present. Your state or local children's services agency also can help if you're having difficulties with the other parent or believe your child is suffering from parental alienation syndrome. These agencies have resources to assist you and their assistance will save you money compared to taking your child to a psychologist or psychiatrist in private practice.  Keep in mind that to prove parental alienation, you also must be able to demonstrate that the negative conduct by your ex-spouse is actually causing harm to your child. Testimony from a child psychologist or psychiatrist maybe necessary to prove this harm.

Summary: Talk to other adults who are around your child on a regular basis. Correct any false or distorted information. Consider taking your child to a psychologist.


The sooner you choose a date, the sooner you can get started with planning other elements of the party.  Consult with the person whose birthday it is to determine a good day for the party. Check their schedule and take note of any holidays around that time. Keep in mind that many people travel for different holidays. It is advisable to host the party on a weekend. More people will be willing and able to come if it is on a weekend, because many people do not have to work on the weekends. Appropriate times will vary based on who the party is for and the age of that person.  If you are throwing a birthday party for a child, host it in the late morning or early afternoon. This is most convenient for families. If you are throwing a party for an adult, then an evening party is appropriate. Parties can easily consume a great deal of money, so it is important to come up with a budget and stick to it.  Come up with an overall budget, meaning a total amount that you want to spend on the birthday party. Most people believe that a budget up to £200-300 is reasonable, and many feel keeping party costs under £150 is completely doable.  Break down each element of the party (e.g. invitations, food, drink, decorations, venue) and decide how much should be spent in each area. There are a few reasons for doing this.  A guest list will help you ensure that no one is forgotten when sending out invitations. It will aid you in deciding where to hold the party. A guest list of 12 people means you could host the party in someone's home, if you wanted to do so, but a guest list of 50 people will likely need to be held somewhere else. This will eliminate the risk of people the birthday person does not want attending showing up to the party. Having a number of guests in mind enables you to determine how much food and drink will need to be provided, if you are doing that yourself or having it catered. This involves knowing the individual for whom the party is being thrown.  Take into consideration what the birthday person wants. If he/she wants a more elaborate party, then work to plan the party in a venue that enables that. If he/she is into small gatherings with close friends, then aim for that instead. You will need to decide if you want to have the party in your home or someone else's home in order to keep the venue cost-free. Think about making a reservation at a restaurant if your party is of a reasonable size. Most restaurants can accommodate up to about 25 people without too much issue. Another idea is to host the party at a party or banquet hall. This will be a more expensive option, but it can easily accommodate more people. Think about the guest list and keep in mind if any guests need accommodations. Be sure that wherever you choose caters to people who need certain accommodations, like wheelchairs.

Summary: Choose a date for the birthday party. Select a time for the party. Decide on a budget for the party. Create a guest list for the party. Consider where to have the party.


In order to have healthy skin and nails, it's important to have a well-balanced and healthy diet. There are, however, some vitamins which are recommended for healthy skin and nails. Getting plenty of vitamin B can help strengthen and thicken your nails. A lack of vitamin C has been associated with hangnails and ingrown toenails.  Try to get these vitamins through a regular healthy diet, rather than supplements. Foods high in vitamin C include kiwi fruits, broccoli, bell peppers and tomatoes.  Foods high in vitamin B include shellfish, fish, liver, and milk. In order to maintain healthy skin and nails, it's a good idea to consume plenty of iron. A lack of iron can lead to itchy and dry skin, and your nails may become brittle. Iron is found in many foods, including:  Whole grains. Lean meat. Fish. Eggs. Dry skin is the major cause of hangnails, so drinking plenty of water will help you to keep healthy and hydrated. Drinking water doesn't directly hydrate your skin, but it is an important part of staying healthy. The usual recommendations of eight glasses a day is a good guide. Foods rich in essential fatty acids can help skin cells to stay well-hydrated. Incorporate three to five servings of good fatty acid foods a week to help your skin stay healthy and hydrated. If you suffer from very dry skin, you could try some flaxseed or borage oil supplements for a more concentrated hit.  These fatty acids are found in food such as walnuts, fish, and olive oil. If you do take supplements, always take as instructed on the label.
Summary: Get enough vitamin B, and vitamin C. Get plenty of iron. Drink lots of water. Get enough essential fatty acids.