Problem: Article: Traditional business suit jackets clash a bit with khakis, as they are a casual look and fabric. To dress up your pants, choose blazers in flat fabrics, such as corduroy or linen, to match khaki’s less formal feel. Opt for a soft-shouldered jacket to avoid an overly structured look on top since your pants are more casual.  Choose blazers in neutral colors that complement khaki, such as navy, brown, maroon or olive. Leaving your jacket unbuttoned also adds to khaki’s easygoing appeal. If you’re a man, adding suit accessories, such as a pocket square and tie, elevates your khakis and makes your look seem more complete. Chose accessories that are in a flat fabric to better match the informality of your pants. For a feminine look, layer on classic jewelry such as pearls, or opt for a high heel in a nude color to dress up your look and make your pants less casual.  Cotton pocket squares and knit ties are great options to make your khakis dressier. Try a tucked-in oxford dress shirt to give your look a more tailored appearance. Leather is a natural companion of khaki and can elevate your appearance. Try a brown leather belt and shoes to complement your khakis and bring your dressy look together. If you’re not a fan of brown, a nude shoe or suede shoe in hunter green or navy can give your look some polish.  Black accessories usually provide too much contrast, both in color and formality, to be worn well with khakis. Save them for a more formal suit or dress. Women can opt for a thinner belt to add a finer touch to the look. Layers make any look appear more expensive and polished. Elevate your khakis by adding a sweater, vest or pea coat over a button up shirt and tailored khakis. For a more feminine touch, boots, camisoles, cardigans, and jewelry can provide more depth to your look. Khaki can have a utilitarian look. You can give your khakis an unexpected twist by pairing them with softer pieces like a lace top or silk scarf. This provides nice contrast.
Summary: Pair them with less structured jackets. Add dressy accessories. Embrace leather accents. Layer to add visual interest. Play with expectations.

Problem: Article: A horse must become familiar with the weight and sound of a saddle on its back. Just like with a halter and bit, spend a few days getting the horse used to the sound of the saddle, how it smells, and how it looks. After the horse is used to the sight of it, hold the saddle over the horse's back without touching. After the horse has gotten used to seeing the saddle, place the saddle pad/blanket on the horse's back. Leave it on for just a few moments. Then, if the horse responds well, take it off and reward your horse. Repeat several times. Do this on both sides so the horse gets used to you doing this from both sides. If the horse becomes very frightened, more than is controllable, quickly remove the saddle pad/blanket and return to a more familiar task like rubbing with the blanket or leading before you try again. Distract the horse by patting it and be sure to release the pressure quickly. Leave it on for a few minutes, then remove it. Do this from both sides of the horse. Make sure you remove the stirrups and leathers while saddle breaking a horse. Do this very slowly. Tighten the girth little by little each day, especially if the horse seems skittish. If the horse seems too scared, stop and keep getting it acclimated to the tack. When your horse allows the girth to be tightened all the way, lean gently on the horse's back. Next, longe with the saddle on and the stirrups down. This helps the horse get used to things by his sides and legs. Also, start placing the leathers back onto the saddle.  Do this slowly over the course of 1 to 2 weeks. Only introduce one new element at a time. Let the horse lose his fear of the item before introducing it to something new.  Walk the horse around with the stirrups on after it has gotten used to the way they feel. This will help to get the horse used to the feeling of the stirrups bumping against its sides and the feeling of the tack on its back. When the horse can wear the saddle for longer periods, start longeing around the arena with the saddle in place.
Summary: Introduce the saddle. Place the saddle pad (English) or saddle blanket (Western) on the horse. Introduce the saddle onto the horse slowly. Fasten the girth on the horse. Get the horse used to stirrups. Longe with the saddle.

Problem: Article: You'll never be able to identify a trans person through physical attributes alone. People’s bodies are incredibly diverse, and a single physical characteristic won’t say much about a person one way or the other. Moreover, genital reconstructive surgery has come such a long way that many who undergo it (not all trans people do) are indistinguishable from those who haven’t. You will likely offend them either way. If the person you're talking to is trans, they may not have been ready to tell you. If they're not, and if they have negative feelings towards trans people, they'll feel insulted. Odds are, asking them is one-way ticket to them doing one of two things: Worst case? Throwing a drink in your face. Best case? Just walking away. Disclosing can be very painful and even dangerous for them. This is their information to tell, when they feel safe enough with you. In short, they aren't required to tell you, nor should they have to if they don't want to. At any rate, they will likely tell you before intimate contact is had. If you're wondering if your date is trans, you might be harboring some negative stereotypes in your mind that are not based in reality or you don't want to be mixed up with a trans person. Moreover, your reaction to your date if they are trans, based on your misunderstanding and bias, can be devastating to someone who already faces societal rejection and abuse. If they are trans, they are no less of a person and they should be treated the same way.  If you find yourself dealing with fear over finding out your date is trans, read  How to Deal With Transphobia and How to Respect a Transgender Person. It may help you understand what they're going through and how they feel. There are many other things to worry about that actually warrant worry, such as STDs. If the person is trans, wait for them to tell you. If everything else has gone well up to that point, you can cross that bridge when you get there. What's the problem if you're just in the dark for right now? If things progress, you will eventually find out. At that point, one of two things will happen: the relationship will continue or it won't. It is not the end of the world. Simply enjoy the person for right now; if it pans out, great. If it doesn't, that's okay too. There are many happy endings that began with a date where one person did not know the other person was trans: It Happened to Me: I Told My Boyfriend I Was Born a Boy and Falling in Love with a Transgender Man are two prominent examples. Sexuality is fluid. You may find yourself attracted to this person despite their assigned sex. That is normal and absolutely fine. Listen to your emotions and how this person makes you feel. You may find that they're such a good person it doesn't matter.However, it's important to remember that transgender people are their gender. They are not "men pretending to be women", "women pretending to be men", or anything else. They can have any physical characteristics, and not all have the ones of their assigned gender.
Summary:
Be aware that there are no clear-cut physical signs that you can rely on. Avoid asking your date if they are transgender. Examine your own bias. Stop worrying and relax. Keep an open mind.