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If the bully is nearby, leave the situation right away. Don’t react, and don’t let them continue to talk to you. Go somewhere they won’t follow you. Get to a public place where others are present. Walking away is one of the best ways to defuse the bullying situation. For instance, if you’re being bullied at school, go and stand with your friends or return to your classroom. Don’t retreat to the bathroom by yourself, where the bully might follow you. Avoid getting visibly upset, even if you feel angry or hurt. The bully wants to get a reaction from you, and if you raise your voice or cry, you’ll only encourage them to keep picking on you.  Do your best to ignore the bullying by pretending not to hear or keeping a straight face and not even reacting to their taunting behaviors. The more reaction they will see coming from you, the more encouraging it is for them to keep bullying. Respond with one word, monotone answers. If someone makes up an elaborate insult and you just respond with "Cool" then it will make them look bad. Plus, it lets the bully know that you have tough skin and that they can't get to you just by saying a few words. Do not get into a physical fight with the bully, no matter how angry you are. You don’t want to be the one who gets in trouble. Write down the date of any incidents, what happened, and who saw it happen. If someone is bullying you online, save any texts or screenshots that show what is going on. Respond to rumors by keeping your chin up and working hard. Be polite and friendly to everyone you interact with. Do your best at work or in class. Nasty rumors may blow over by themselves if you make it obvious that they’re not rooted in reality. It can help you to talk to someone you trust when coping with bullying or rumors. Sharing your experience with a friend can help you feel better. Your loved one may also offer comfort and support during this challenging time. You might say, "This may come as a surprise, but I have been bullied. These kids at my school make up names and tease me." The only way bullying may stop is by going to a higher-up and informing them about the situation. If you are in school, it’s a good idea to let a parent, teacher, or coach know about the bullying. If you’re experiencing bullying in your workplace, consider talking to your supervisor or HR department about it. Show a trusted adult, your boss, or your HR department the evidence you’ve gathered. Stay professional and objective when you present your evidence. In some cases, the person you go to for help may be biased or may choose not to take action. If you think your teacher, boss or HR department may side with the bully, tell someone who is impartial to the situation. Have them accompany you to the meeting as an advocate. Bring along any evidence you have. You may have to file a complaint against the person if they refuse to take action. This may involve contacting their boss, or writing a letter to a local activist group who can represent your interests.

summary: Walk away if you can. Stay calm. Document any instances of bullying or rumor-spreading. Let your actions speak for you. Confide in a friend or family member. Reach out for help. Keep telling if no one takes action.


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Whoever you’re engaged in discussion with, getting your point across will involve different tactics and techniques, depending on the situation. Evaluate who your audience is and what their expectations of you are before deciding what tactic will work the best.  If you’re trying to prove a point to an authority figure, like a parent, your boss, or some other figure who has power over you, you’ll want to be sure to highlight how your point will make the situation better for everyone. How will the family, company, or group benefit from your proposed point? If you’re trying to prove a point to a child or a subordinate employee, it’s important to explain the details and reasoning of your point without being condescending. Even if you’re “teaching a lesson,” don’t talk down to the other person and your point will get across much better. No "because I said so" reasons. If you’re trying to prove a point to a partner, spouse, or even a very close friend, someone on equal footing, it’s important to maintain an even keel and speak clearly. Don't mince words. If you’re talking to someone who knows you intimately, avoid the more public rhetoric you might use to talk to your boss. It’s important to focus your points on solving a problem, not “winning an argument.” If your goal is to get a point across, make sure that it’s something that needs to be heard for the benefit of the person hearing it, or the benefit of the group, not just because you want to make it. It’s a lot easier to make points that are necessary and productive. Your point should help the other person, not bring them down.  To figure out whether or not your points are productive points, imagine that someone else were going to give you the same piece of feedback or advice, or bring up the same idea. How would it feel? Would it give you something concrete to do or change? It would be one thing for a boss to say, "Our overhead's too high, so you're all going to have your hours cut. Sorry." Point made, but unproductive. Instead, try out something like this: "We're really struggling with overhead costs. To be able to keep you all on board and working as a team doing the great work you do, we're going to need to cut some of your hours slightly." The most important part of getting a point across is in figuring out what exactly your point is and why it's a valid point to bring up. Provable points are points that have good reasoning behind them. Even if it's an unpleasant truth, something the listener may not want to hear, you can be sure that it's a truth that needs to be heard.  Obviously it's important for your child to work hard in school. But why? It's easier to get your child to study harder if it's focused on how your child will be happier with better grades and enjoy school better, as opposed to "because I say so" or "because your friend Jimmy studies hard." Tell the truth, as straight and as simple as possible. Tell your child that studying is an important part of growing up and learning to take care of yourself. You won't always be there to help them, and it's important for kids to learn as much as they can to grow up right. If you want a rock-solid point, anticipate all the possible holes in your argument and your point that the other person might make. Before you make your point, beat the other person to the punch by bringing up their rebuttal and debunking it before they get the chance.  If you tell your child to study harder to grow up into a well-rounded adult, you might be likely to hear, "But I don't want to be a well-rounded adult, I want to play video games." It's understandable that lots of parents resort to the "because I said so" at this point, but use it as a teaching opportunity. State the anticipated argument out loud: "I know right now you just want to play video games all day. I did too when I was 7. But that'll change as you get older, and you'll need more skills."
summary: Evaluate the situation. Make your points productive. Come up with some valid reasoning. Anticipate counter-arguments.