Butternut squash seeds won't germinate in cold soil, so it's necessary to plant them once you're certain the last frost has passed. In warmer climates this could be in mid-spring, and in cooler climates you might have to wait until late spring. If you plant your squash too early, it won't survive. If you want to get a head start, you can start the seeds indoors up to 3 weeks before the last frost. Plant the seeds 1 inch (2.5 cm) deep in seed starter mix in small pots. Keep them moist and warm until the last frost has passed, after which you can transplant them to the garden. Butternut squash needs full sun and warm conditions to thrive. It will do well in the sunniest spot in your garden. Avoid planting it in the shade, since the squash won't fully ripen without full sunlight. Butternut squash needs rich, well-draining soil. If your soil is poor, till it to a depth of several inches and mix in plenty of compost. Depending on how many squash plants you're putting in, you may need to prepare a large area to serve as your planting bed. Plan to allot 3 square feet of space per squash plant. Squash grow best when they are planted in soil that has been hilled. Create hills about 3 inches (7.6 cm) high for each squash plant, leaving at least 3 feet (0.9 m) of space between hills in the same row, and 6 feet (1.8 m) between rows. Dig a hole 1 inch (2.5 cm) deep in the top of each hill and drop in 4-5 squash seeds. Cover the seeds with soil and pat the area lightly.  After the seeds sprout, thin them out to leave 2 - 3 sprouts per hill. If you're transplanting squash plants that you started indoors, plant each one on its own hill. Squash vines can either grow along the ground or on a trellis. If you wish to train your squash plants to grow vertically, place a trellis or stake near each hill. When the vines sprout, wrap them gently around the base of the trellis or stake, and they'll begin growing upward. Spread some pine straw or another light mulch over the squash beds to protect the growing plants.

Summary: Plant once the soil has warmed. Choose a warm, sunny spot to plant the squash. Enrich the soil if necessary. Plant the seeds in small hills. Lightly mulch the squash beds.


There are a number of both emotional and physical symptoms that a rape victim may encounter after this traumatic experience. These can include:  Rape trauma syndrome/PTSD: These include feelings of anxiety, stress, helplessness, guilt, anger, inability to focus, shame, substance abuse, or becoming suicidal. Fear and growing suspicious about people and their behaviors and intentions. Relationship problems: These might arise as a result of becoming emotionally less responsive, detached from loved ones, or doubting the actions and intentions of friends and family. Insomnia, an inability to have sound sleep, or having nightmares. Denial: You might experience an unwillingness to acknowledge the fact that you were raped and expressing inability to remember what happened Flashbacks: You may have repeated recollections of the assault to such an extent that it becomes difficult for you to distinguish between what happened in the past and what is happening in the present. Hyper-arousal: You might feel the need to be on constant alert to ensure you are safe. Eating disorders such as bulimia, anorexia or bingeing. Sexual dysfunction. Physiological symptoms: These might include as diarrhea, constipation, rapid heart rate and breathing, dizziness, unexplained headaches and stomach pains. Rape trauma syndrome (RTS) is a form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that affects survivors of sexual assault. Most treatments intended for rape survivors focus on alleviating the symptoms of PTSD. This is what most victims of sexual assault suffer from as an after effect of rape.  Some symptoms of PTSD include: flashbacks, avoidance, sleep problems, fear, mood and anxiety related problems, and hyper-arousal.  Survivors can be plagued by constant thoughts of fear and of being attacked. The feelings and thoughts can take such an extreme turn that normal everyday functioning becomes a challenge. They tend to develop distrust towards society in general but men or women in particular. Some may stop mingling or socializing with people out of fear of being assaulted again. They may try to make some major changes in life, such as moving houses, changing school/work, or moving to a different city. It is not unusual for rape survivors to be haunted by memories of the traumatic incident. Sounds, smells, images or even certain thoughts and feelings can trigger unpleasant memories that can manifest as physiological and psychological symptoms. Survivors may resort to avoidance behavior to suppress these memories.  You might avoid the road you took that day or avoid the area where it happened. You might also avoid the people who remind you of that day. Avoiding discomfort and fear is normal and is in fact seen as helpful. But the positive effects can be felt only in the short term. It's not useful in the long run. In fact, this avoidance behavior can lead the memories and symptoms to manifest in a different manner that could be worse.,

Summary: Understand possible effects after a rape. Understand the main symptoms of rape trauma syndrome. Pay attention to your avoidance behaviors.


Though an emotional affair is not physical, the feelings involved in it can cause a physical rift between you and your partner. You may have less sex with your partner than you did before, or the sex may change and become less intimate and more routine. For example, your partner may rush through sex, not hold you, barely look at you, and not stick around afterwards. Sometimes guilt may cause a person to initiate sex more often, or to lavish you with attention, gifts, or in other ways. People in emotional affairs may put distance between themselves and their partners. This occurs because they are worried that they might get caught or say something about the other person. If your partner is pulling away or not talking to you, they may be having an emotional affair. Take a look at what your partner does around you. Do they go to bed early, spend time working at night, or no longer want to do things together? When people have emotional affairs, they start talking to the other person instead of you about things. You may start to see differences in what your partner says to you. Maybe they don’t tell you about things you used to talk about often, or you notice they are quieter and share less than they used to.  For example, your partner might have told you random things about their day, but now they barely talk about their day. This can be a sign of an emotional affair. If you find out about things after the fact when you know they are important to your partner may mean they are telling someone else, especially if you know they are close with someone else. Changes in your partner’s attitude and tone towards you can also indicate a problem. Consider whether they have started reacting to you with irritation or speaking to you in a condescending tone. . Gaslighting is an abuse tactic where the abuser tries to convince the victim that their version of reality is inaccurate or even crazy. If your partner frequently tells you that your thoughts are incorrect or crazy and attempts to paint a very different picture than what you are observing, then they may be using gaslighting to deceive you. For example, if you hear your partner share some important information with this person that your partner has not yet confided in you yet, then your partner might try to convince you that they already told you this information. This can leave you questioning your memory, even if you are certain that they never told you.

Summary: Determine if sex has changed. Figure out if your partner is pulling away. Notice changes in what your partner says to you. Watch for gaslighting


This will allow the fat to drip down and flavor the meat. Some experts now say that pork must reach over 145 degrees Fahrenheit to be safe.  Cover it with aluminum foil so that it doesn't lose too much heat.  Pour it into a frying pan and simmer it on high heat until it is reduced by half. Pour it over the slices of roast pork.
Summary: Place the fattiest side of the roast upward in the roasting pan, slow cooker or Dutch oven. Use a meat thermometer to see whether the roast has reached 160 degrees on the inside. Make sure the thermometer does not touch the bone, as this will produce an inaccurate reading. Allow the pork to rest for 15 minutes before slicing. Slice the pork roast across the grain for a tender flavor. Use the extra liquid from your roasting pan, slow cooker or Dutch oven to make a sauce. Finished.