Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Reach out to connect. Ask to be heard. Discuss the issue. Apologize for your own mistakes. Accept the apology. Show your willingness to move on.

Answer: As life gets busy, it is difficult to stay in touch with friends. When a conflict has occurred to push people apart, that connection becomes even harder to salvage. If you want to forgive someone, then take the first step in the process by reaching out. This act alone will help you to feel more open and optimistic.  It is always difficult to take the first step, and sometimes you need to give yourself a push. Simply tell yourself, "Here we go," and pick up the phone and make contact. Whether you decide to set up a face-to-face meeting with the person, or communicate via telephone or electronic device, the goal is the same: ask the person for time to express your thoughts and feelings about the conflict.   Assure the person that you are open and willing to hear what she has to say as well. This will allow the person to feel more open about the forthcoming discussion. If the person refuses to meet with you, do not despair. There are things you can do to move toward forgiveness regardless of whether the person complies. The act of forgiveness is designed to help you in the end. For example, use writing instead of direct contact to express your feelings and thoughts about the person. Writing in a journal helps to process your feelings and is effective.  Journaling can help reduce anxiety and stress, as it is a healthy outlet for confusing or overwhelming emotions. Some discussions in life are harder to have than others. When a conflict has occurred and negative feelings have grown, it is difficult to start the conversation. The goal would be to frame the conversation and guide it toward a peaceful resolution to manage the hurt and disappointment you are feeling.  First, thank the person for meeting with you. Second, tell the person your goal is to hear each other's side of the story and come to some peaceful resolution so you both can move on. Third, tell your side of the story. Make "I" statements to describe your thoughts and feelings, without making accusations. Fourth, ask the person if there is anything else you can clarify for him before he provides the details of his side of the story. Fifth, ask the person questions that will give you the necessary information to understand his intent, motives, thoughts and feelings. Most every conflict involves a misunderstanding or misconception of what someone did or said. There are things that you must do to loosen the tension in the situation. Taking responsibility for your role is an act that fosters the open communication that you want, and is necessary to reach a resolution. If you have discussed the situation and the person has extended a sincere apology, then accept it. Even if you have to force yourself to say the words, “I accept your apology,” this is a large step toward creating a sense of forgiveness for yourself. Here are some examples of things you could say:   "I accept your apology, and I forgive you." "I appreciate you saying that. Friends?" "Thank you for apologizing. I don't know if I'm ready to forgive you yet, but I will work on it. Please give me some time." If you must or want to maintain a relationship with this person, then your behaviors must demonstrate that you are serious. Your relationship will improve when you go through the process of forgiveness. This includes not holding grudges and bringing up the past. It also includes your willingness to laugh and be lighthearted around the person. Moving past a conflict is a huge relief. Let that motivate your actions toward being fair-minded and resolved.  As time passes and progress is made, you may notice you are still allowing feelings of betrayal to affect the way you treat the person. Perhaps it happens during heated arguments or discussions. You may not have processed your hurt feelings and still have some work to do. This is a normal reaction and can be managed by talking about your feelings with the person involved, or someone else.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Change into the gown provided. Lie on the bed. Allow your doctor to insert the transducer. Know what to expect during the procedure. Clean up and get dressed again. Ask about the results.

Answer: Once you are taken into a dressing room or the ultrasound room, remove your clothes and change into a hospital gown. Sometimes you need to undress from the waist down only. In this case, you will typically receive a sheet to use as a cover during the procedure. After you have undressed, go and lie down on the examination table. Intravaginal ultrasounds are performed while you are lying on your back similar to when you receive a normal gynecological exam. You need to bend your knees and rest the soles of your feet flat on the stirrups connected to the examining room bed in order to give your doctor the best access to your vagina. Before inserting the transducer, your doctor will place a plastic or latex sheet over it and lubricate it with a gel to allow for easier insertion.  Your doctor will then gently insert the transducer into your vagina in order to begin constructing the image. The transducer is slightly bigger than a tampon and is designed to fit into your vagina comfortably. Your doctor holds the transducer inside of your vagina and may rotate it slightly in order to create a clear image of your pelvic organs.  The transducer is connected to a computer. Once inserted, images of your pelvic organs will begin to appear on the computer screen. Your doctor will check the screen throughout the scan to make sure that everything is showing up in detail. Your doctor may also take pictures and/or live video. If the ultrasound is performed to monitor your fetus, your doctor typically prints the pictures and gives them to you. Intravaginal ultrasound typically last no longer than 15 minutes. After the procedure is over and your doctor removes the transducer, then you are given privacy to dress.  You will be given towels to remove any gel that remains on your inner thighs and/or pelvic area. You may also want to visit the restroom in order to wipe excess lubricant from your vagina and insert a new tampon. If your primary doctor performs the ultrasound, she may describe preliminary results as they appear on the screen. If you are referred to a different clinic, then you usually must wait for your primary doctor to receive a written report of your results. You receive the results of your scan based on the complexity and urgency of your condition. If your ultrasound is strictly exploratory, then you will likely wait a few days to a week for your results.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Understand the connection between anger and depression. Acknowledge both feelings. Consider the underlying issue.

Answer:
Anger and depression are separate moods, but the two are often linked together so tightly that it can be difficult to distinguish one from the other.  Irritability is often considered a symptom of clinical depression, but the connection goes deeper than that. Unchecked anger can actually trigger or worsen depression. Justified anger that drives you toward positive change can be a positive emotion, but oftentimes, people who struggle with depression find themselves dragged down by anger instead of helped by it. This anger is typically explosive, but for some individuals, it can be so deeply rooted that you barely recognize it. If your bouts of anger leave you feeling guilty, they're only feeding into your depression, no matter how good they feel initially. You'll need to control this type of anger before you can learn to control your depression. Before you can control your anger, you need to identify it. You'll also need to identify your depression and learn to distinguish one internal state from the other.  By intentionally labeling your emotional state, whether it's anger or depression, you can capture your feelings and help prevent them from running unchecked. If you habitually suppress your anger, you may have trouble labeling it for what it is. Anger can masquerade itself as motivation by driving you to perform some immediate form of action. When the action you feel inclined to perform involves causing pain (emotional or physical) to yourself or others, the underlying state is likely anger. Anger is often symptomatic of a much deeper issue. To control your anger, you'll need to address the cause of it.  The anger might be connected to the root of your depression. Past traumas, for instance, can trigger or worsen depression and may also cause bouts of anger to emerge when memory of that trauma threatens to resurface. Even if you can't connect anger to any past trauma, it still has a present day cause. You'll need to find a solution to that cause if you want to control the anger it evokes.