We crave attention, but when we get it, we may feel exposed and vulnerable. While fame brings with it certain freedoms, the ones that come with anonymity may become limited. Just as too much of any one thing can be harmful for you, look at your fame as a lot of a good thing that you need to keep in check. . Spend time getting to know yourself by journaling or talking with close friends. This will help you keep self-doubt contained. Being in the public eye will make you hyper conscious of your image and your behavior, and this can often lead to intense insecurity.  Some actors have success in therapy. There, you can get a clear, solid foundation to stand on when faced with the difficulties of fame. Knowing your stance on relevant public issues will also be a major asset in interviews. If you have strong values you will never be left with nothing to say if people ask for your opinion. This will leave less room for making a faux pas or saying something that becomes controversial. Because of the high demands of fame, you will find yourself needing to say “no” in situations that you are tempted to see through. If you attend an event, for example, make it clear how long you will take questions or whether or not you want people talking to you afterward. By setting the agenda kindly, others will follow suit. This is much better than not making your plans clear and then having to sidestep conversations with eager fans. Remember that you are never obligated to answer questions about your personal life, and some celebrities make it a rule not to. The problem with Googling your name is that you’ll get the classic mixed bag of high praise and extreme insults. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative things that people say about us because we’re so sensitive to rejection and social exclusion. Google with caution, and whatever you do, don't spend too much time ruminating over negative press. If you decide to make social media a big part of your publicity, make sure that everything you post is politically correct. Controversial statements will give people a great reason to discuss your personality and other intimate details of you and your life. Before long, they'll find something you do or say that contradicts your statement and call you a hypocrite. Be aware that this sort of scrutiny is sometimes inevitable with a big social media presence. By dating outside of the pool of celebrities, you can avoid sparking intense gossip and public interest in your personal life. Being in a relationship with someone who's not famous will also help keep you grounded in an outsider's perspective of fame. Alternately, you can make it a point to go to major events on your own. If you are sensitive to the media following your relationships, which can be quite a challenge, try keeping your dating life personal altogether.

Summary: Understand why separating private and public life is difficult. Develop your values Set boundaries for yourself. Temper the urge to Google your name. Use social media strategically. Date people who are not famous.


Texting will only work if you know her phone number. It's hard to ask a girl for her number, but try to be casual about it. A simple "Hey, I don't think I have your number yet. Wanna exchange information?" should get the job done most of the time. When getting her number, avoid:  Getting her number from another friend. If she didn't personally give you her number, she's not going to expect you to text her. She could find it creepy that you got her number without asking her. Asking her over IM or the internet. Asking her in person will make it very hard for her to refuse. Unless she's really in control and plain doesn't like you, you should get the number 9 times out of 10. Making a big deal out of it. The less it looks like you care about getting the number, the better off you should be. If you look like you really care about getting it, she could be a little put off. If she gave you her number and is waiting for you to text her, start off with something like this:  "Hey, it's Geoff from yesterday. How's it going?" "Hi there. It's Joey. Don't want to bother you long but have you seen this video? I almost died a second ago...." Or try for something a little more self-consciously funny if you think you can pull it off:"The guy who just embarrassed himself in front of you by trying to ask for your number? That's me!" Send texts gradually to see how she responds. Don't break her phone with hundreds of texts in the beginning. A few texts a day, followed by a break of a day or two, will show her that you aren't absolutely crazy about her (which can be a turn off for some girls). We all have body language. You probably knew that. What you might not have known is that body language can bleed through texts. Signs that you're texting her the appropriate things include:  Quick responses. Is she responding back really quickly whenever you text her? If she's playing hard to get, she might be purposely waiting, so don't put too much stock in this. Laughter and other emoticons. Is she laughing all the time with "haha" or "lol?" That's a good sign. Smiley faces and other emoticons are definitely good signs, too. Flirting back with you. You'll know a flirt when you see one. If she texts you something like "Oh I wouldn't have missed it for the world," or "Anytime I talk to you, it's a good day" means you're doing something good. Keep it up! Just like there are positive signs that you should be picking up on, there are negative signs that you can pick up on, too. Pay attention to these as you begin texting.  She doesn't respond to some of your texts. She just plain ignores them. If you said something impolite or insensitive, make a mental note not to text that again. Try giving her a little more space. She writes back with very few words. If you sent her a couple of really nice, well thought-out texts, and she just responds with "That's nice," it means she's not in the mood or doesn't think what you wrote is very interesting. She's never the one to start texting you. If you always have to text her, and she never makes an effort to text you, things probably aren't going great — yet!
Summary: Ask for her number. Introduce in your first text if she doesn't have your number. Send texts every now and then. Wait and look for signs that you're doing something right. Pay attention to signs that she's not as interested as she could be.