Ensure there are no interactions or confrontations for an entire week.  If you don’t see them for a week, you’re likely to do and think about other people and things.  Avoid all calls.  Don’t let your ex explain away any wrongdoings. Don’t read texts.  What they say isn’t important.  Defriend them on social media.  Don’t take a chance of seeing something they post that could further hurt you.  Be sure you change your relationship status to “single”. If you can’t avoid your ex because of work or school, then avoid eye contact and all conversation. Each day of the week you’re allowed to cry or mope for a specific amount of time.  As each day passes, lower the number.  The last day should be focused on minimal or zero grieving.  Think of it as ridding yourself of a sickness, like the cold.  For example:  1st Day - 60 minutes 2nd Day - 50 minutes 3rd Day - 40 minutes (and so on) Whether you’re an avid bowler or swimmer, be sure to continue doing whatever it is you love to do.  Mix in hobbies that are social so you’re not always alone.  In the week following your breakup, keep your mind off sadness and do everything you would normally do to make you happy. Meditation has been shown by multiple research sources to help with physical and emotional pain.  Each day work on meditating for a longer period of time.  Start with 15 minutes of meditation focused on quieting your mind, ignoring your anxiety about the breakup, and build yourself up to 45 minutes by the seventh day.  After the seventh day you should find some inner peace. Many people go through a breakout and let themselves waste away.  They skip showers, don’t get enough sleep, and generally make themselves miserable.  Then depression results from looking like a mess.  Don’t let this be you.  Take care of yourself the week following your breakup.   Go get your hair done.  A new ‘do may help you feel better, and like a new person. Take a long, hot shower.  Wash every inch of your body, thinking of scrubbing away any possible remaining particle of your ex that may remain. Get a clean shave.  Even if you don’t plan on going anywhere. Often times people have trouble sleeping after a breakup.  A little Benadryl can be used as a simple sleep aid.  Try to doze off without thinking of your ex. If you are having very serious issues, you may need to see a doctor for an antidepressant or prescription sleep pills. Breakups can be emotionally devastating.  Because of the time and emotion put into relationships, there is actually scientifically provable pain associated with heartache.  Seeing a therapist can help alleviate repressed emotions.  Studies have shown discussing break-ups can help process them, and help you overcome it. You may have to see the therapist more than once, but it’s possible just a single session can get you over your ex. Multiple studies have shown writing to be therapeutic, and leading to less negativity.  By writing about the breakup, and focusing on positive aspects of it, you’re likely to feel more optimistic, confident, and positive about the reason for the breakup.  Try writing for 15-30 minutes per day for the length of the week, and you’ll likely feel a lot better about the situation.

Summary: Avoid your ex. Set a diminishing grieving period. Keep up with your hobbies. Meditate. Keep your hygiene up-to-par. Take something to help you sleep. See a therapist. Write about the breakup.


It might seem like common sense to wear white underwear with white skirts, but this combination will actually make your underwear more visible. Instead, you should wear underwear that matches your skin tone, be it light, medium, or dark.  Just because a pair of underwear is labeled “nude,” does not mean that it will match your skin tone. If you are very pale, ivory or cream may work better. If you have dark skin, brown might be a better choice. You’ll have better luck finding the color you need online or in a store that specializes in undergarments and lingerie. This includes skirts made from tulle, chiffon, lace, and thin cotton. If you can see your legs through the skirt, you should wear a slip under it.  Match the slip to your skin color or to the skirt color.  If you are wearing a lace skirt, consider pairing it with a slip in a contrasting color for a more unique look. You can also wear slips under clingy skirts to reduce static. Look for a pair of underwear that does not have any side seams. The waist and leg holes won’t have elastic sewn into them, which will give you a smoother silhouette. They are typically made from smooth jersey or spandex, and you can find them online and in stores that specialize in undergarments and lingerie.  As with regular underwear, match the color of the seamless underwear to your skin tone if you are wearing a white or light-colored skirt.  T-shirt skirts and skirts made from jersey should be paired with seamless thongs to further reduce pantie lines. If you are worried about flashing your underwear while wearing a short skirt, spandex shorts are a great solution. Match the color of the shorts to the skirt, and make sure that they are shorter than the skirt. You can also wear shorts or leggings under longer skirts in the winter to keep warm.  Another option would be “boy short” style underwear. They have cuffs that cover the thighs and offer more coverage than regular underwear  If the spandex shorts are too long, fold the legs inwards until they are the right length. You can also try cutting them. Since the material is knitted, it should not fray. This will help smooth down the front of your belly and give you a streamlined silhouette. They are a great idea, even for those who already have a slender figure with a flat stomach because they will help the fabric lay more smoothly. They are great for pencil skirts!
Summary: Wear skin-toned underwear with white or light-colored skirts. Wear a slip if the material is very sheer or thin. Wear seamless underwear if your skirt is fitted. Wear spandex shorts under mini skirts. Invest in some shapewear for fitted, high-waisted shirts.