Q: If you start dwelling on the person you hate, keep busy. Do an activity to distract yourself, if you can't get the person or your negative feelings out of your head. Get some work done, listen to music, exercise, doodle or draw, write or journal, or read a book, newspaper, or magazine. Try relaxing and clearing your thoughts when you notice yourself getting angry or dwelling on the person. Inhale slowly as you count to 4, hold for a 4 count, then count to 4 as you exhale. Keep taking slow, deep breaths for at least 90 seconds, or until your mind has switched gears.  Focus on relaxing imagery as you breathe, like a beach or comfortable place from your childhood. Visualize your negative emotions passing away with each breath. When someone hurts you, it’s tough to get them out of your head. Taking a break to clear your mind can help you keep your cool and break a negative thought pattern. Writing can help you release your emotions and order your thoughts. Describe what the person did or what bothers you. Tearing up or burning the letter could help you symbolically let go of your hate.  Sending the letter could escalate the situation, so keep it private. Destroying the letter will help make sure that someone else doesn't stumble upon it by accident. Talking to a close friend or family member will help you blow off steam. Getting a fresh perspective can also give you a better understanding of the situation. Talk to someone you trust in private, and make sure they’ll keep your conversation to themselves. Don’t vent about someone you hate at the place where you interact with them, like school or work. It might get back to the person, or you might end up getting labelled as a gossip or unprofessional. If this person makes a habit of antagonizing you, it is best to seek qualified advice. You deserve a safe environment without someone harassing you. If they are repeatedly, intentionally upsetting you, then it's probably good to get someone to help. Talk to an authority figure. Explain the facts of how this person treated you, what you've tried to do to fix things, and how this is affecting you. Be tactful, clear, and as factual as possible. Then ask for help dealing with it.    Bad example: "Mark is an elitist pig, and I won't put up with it anymore! It's like he's trying to humiliate me on purpose! He's always criticizing me in front of everyone! I need you to do something about him!"  Good example: "I'm trying to get along with Mark, and it's just not working. Often, when I show him my work, he loudly lists off criticisms, often in public. It leaves me feeling humiliated, and I dread going to work because of it. I've never seen him do this to anyone else. I've asked him to give me critique in private, but he refuses. I don't know how to handle this. I could really use some advice." If you have been seriously mistreated by someone, consider seeking some help. If someone deeply wronged or abused you, work with a therapist to sort through your emotions. Seeing a professional is also best if you’re constantly angry or if your feelings of hate interfere with your daily life. Ask your primary doctor or trusted friends and family for a referral to a mental health professional. You can also look for one online or check your insurer’s listing.
A: Distract yourself. Breathe slowly and deeply when you feel angry. Write a letter to express your feelings, but don’t send it. Vent to people you trust. Ask an authority figure for help. Consider talking to a therapist.

Q: If you live in a cold weather area and you are leaving during a time when inclement weather is a possibility, you want to make sure your pipes are well insulated. Frozen pipes can cause significant damage to your home, and if no one is there to check them after cold weather it may go unnoticed until you return.  Go into areas where pipes are at a greater risk of freezing, like the attic and the basement, and check their insulation. Consider hiring a plumber to inspect your pipes if you are worried about their insulation.  A neighbor that is checking up on your house should test the faucets while you’re away. If there is no water coming from the faucets, your pipes may be frozen. Ask them to contact you immediately if this happens while you’re away. Before you leave, unplug the appliances in your home that are non-essential, like your microwave, a stereo, a coffeemaker, and lamps you won’t leave on.  This protects your home in the event of a power surge or an electrical fire. This is also an energy efficient way to reduce your electrical consumption while you’re away. Before you leave, check that each door and window are securely locked. Having locks installed will do you no good if they are not locked while you are gone! Go through every room of your home and apartment and check that each window and entry door is secure. It is also helpful do a perimeter of your house from the outside. Look for any window screens that look loose or unsecured. This is a good way to keep your electricity and natural gas costs low while you’re away. Adjust the temperature on the thermostat and turn down the temperature on your water heater.  You don’t want to turn your thermostat completely off. Depending on your area’s climate, 55 degrees is a good limit for the winter and 80 degrees for the summer. You can also consider monitoring your heat from afar. The most cost-effective way to monitor your heat while you are away is to install a wireless thermostat that you can monitor and program from your mobile phone or device while you are on vacation. Garage doors are an easy way for intruders to enter your home. Manual garage doors can be secured with a clamp or padlock to prevent them from being opened. Turn off your automatic garage door opener if you have one. This will prevent someone with a universal remote from opening the door while you’re away.
A: Check your pipes. Unplug non-essential appliances. Check all locks. Turn down the temperature. Secure your garage door.

Q: Tap the Instagram app icon, which resembles a multicolored camera front, to do so. This will open your Instagram homepage if you're logged in. If you aren't logged in, enter your Instagram account's email address (or username, or phone number) and password before continuing. Scroll down through your homepage feed to find the post on which you want to leave a comment. You can also tap the search bar at the top of the page, enter a user's name, and tap their name to go to their profile if you know who posted the photo or video. It's below the photo or video on which you want to comment. Doing so opens a new page with a comment box.  If the person who posted the photo or video has disabled comments, you won't be able to post a comment here. If you want to reply to an existing comment, tap the comment to which you want to reply and then tap Reply instead. You'll do so in the text box at the bottom of the screen. It's on the far-right side of the text box. Doing so will post your comment for the post creator and any of their followers to see.
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Open Instagram. Go to a photo or video that you want to comment on. Tap the speech bubble icon. Type in your comment. Tap Post.