One of the easiest ways to make your bedroom look brand new is by giving it a fresh coat of paint. Select a color that coordinates with your furniture and that you won't mind seeing every day when you wake up or go to sleep!  If you have a smaller bedroom, consider painting your walls a light neutral color to make the space look larger. Look for shades like white, light cream, pale yellow, or even light brown. For an even easier redecorating project, paint only 1 wall of your room in a different color to create an accent wall. Adding a wallpaper feature in your room will be a visually appealing work of art. Position a piece of furniture in front of the wallpaper, like your bed or a seating area, and let it act as a fun backdrop for the room.  For a less permanent option, consider using sheets of repositionable contact paper. Instead of traditional wallpaper, you might put up textured wallpaper or adhesive vinyl. For example, you can find faux shiplap, brick, or wood wallpaper or vinyl to decorate your walls. Textured walls can create a big impact for a low cost! Although it's a lengthier project, removing carpeting and adding wood or laminate floors can transform your entire space. To ensure that the job is done correctly, consider hiring a professional to remove the carpet and lay the new flooring. Then, place a plush rug under your bed to round out the room.  Laminate tends to be an inexpensive option for most people, but the cost will depend on the size of the space and how much flooring needs to be removed first. If you have vinyl flooring, you can paint or stencil it for a new look. Use paint labeled for use in high traffic areas. Large thrift stores and some antique shops can have inexpensive furniture and unique decor items for your room. Once you find a piece that you like, you can refinish the furniture to fit with the new theme of your bedroom.  Unless there are signs posted stating otherwise, it's normally okay to negotiate with the salesperson at the thrift or antique store to lower the price of the item. You might be surprised at how much they're willing to take off of the price! Antique stores tend to be slightly more expensive, but you can take a look at the sale items, or “damaged” items that might have scratches or missing fixtures. It's easy to fix these pieces up and get them looking good as new! If there aren't many thrift stores or antique shops near you, look in the local newspaper for estate sales or auctions where you can purchase furniture. Ask your friends and relatives if they have any extra furniture they don't want. They may sell you a great piece for a low price or give them to you for free! Websites like Craigslist and Facebook have marketplaces where people in your area can sell or give away furniture that they aren't using. Browse by the type of item that you're looking for, or navigate to the “free” section to see what great items you can find. You can also download local marketplace apps like LetGo, OfferUp, and Nextdoor which have sections for selling furniture and home decor. While you redecorate, you can make your room seem more spacious by adding a place for relaxing. Select a comfortable chair or 2, and position them across the room from your bed. You can even add a small table next to the chair to complete the sitting area. If you don't have space for a chair, consider getting a small upholstered bench or floor cushions for creating a versatile seating area when you need it!

Summary: Repaint the room to freshen up the space. Consider hanging wallpaper to create visual interest. Swap out carpeting for wood or laminate flooring for an instant upgrade. Visit thrift or antique stores to find cheap furniture and home decor. Look for inexpensive furniture on online marketplaces if you're on a budget. Add a chair to create a seating area in your room.


Think about yourself as someone that you love and care for, who is vulnerable and who deserves a break.  Try compassion-focused attention. Deliberately pay attention to your experiences as they occur; don't judge your experiences but instead, try to think about them without judgments, with empathy, and with kindness in your heart.  Try mindful breathing. Direct your attention to your breathing sensations, re-directing your attention to your breath whenever your mind wanders to other thoughts or feelings.. You can try these techniques on your own but will likely see the best results by working with a qualified therapist. Try engaging in compassion-focused imagery. Conjure up your ideal image of compassion; it should be an image associated with empathy, kindness, and warmth. Visualize this image by imagining you can see it. Next, visualize the compassion as a force that flows from your image through yourself. The body and mind are intricately related. You can look after your well-being by taking care of your health.   Be sure to get enough sleep, seven to nine hours a night depending on how many you need to feel rested. Try to keep your sleeping schedule as similar as possible every night. Do your best to get consistent exercise. If you are having trouble getting motivated by yourself, join a gym and take part in classes led by an exercise instructor. Eat whole, healthy, lean foods such as lean meats, nuts, fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Keep a balanced diet and lifestyle and this will contribute to your well-being. If you are having trouble coping with self-injury, try creating some distance between yourself and your thoughts. This can help when you are feeling overwhelmed by your feelings and are having trouble thinking straight  To gain distance from your troublesome feelings, try thinking about yourself as a stranger to yourself who is seeing the situation that is causing you distress. You can also try thinking about yourself in the 3rd person (i.e., she shouldn't injure herself because doing so will just make things worse). In becoming an outsider, you may not view yourself as experiencing these intense feelings, which can help to make them feel less overwhelming If you are having trouble coping, try focusing on just the present moment. This can help by taking you out of your head and away from your troublesome thoughts; it can help reduce rumination — the tendency to repeatedly think  about something negative — and increase your ability to gain control of your thoughts. Get absorbed in the details of your body's sensations by thinking about each one in turn. For example, start with your sense of smell at the moment, then your sense of touch.
Summary: Engage in self-compassion. Look after your well-being. Distance yourself from your feelings. Be mindful of the present moment.