Anger is like water. Properly harnessed, you can use it for great power and energy, channeling it to propel turbines and create electricity that keeps a whole town running. Uncontrolled, it creates tidal waves that destroys that same town. Learn to build up your anger dams properly, and you can use that anger for good, constructive purposes, not to lay waste to tiny villages. Anger doesn't have to be an all or nothing proposition. You need to adopt a manageable series of goals for yourself to get things under control, but use that anger in a product way. Never attempt to stop getting angry. Don't choose to control your anger, choose to control the way your anger manifests itself.  If you yell while you're angry, make the goal of not raising your voice when you feel angry. Learn to communicate without shouting as a goal. If you bottle up your anger and suddenly release it at seemingly little things, make your goal processing the things that make you angry before they turn into rage somewhere down the road. However your anger manifests itself, the most unhealthy thing that you can do is become violent with yourself or with others. Under no circumstances should you allow yourself to punch things, break things, or hit anyone. What is it that sets you off? Try to identify and anticipate the situations, places, and people who get your anger boiling, so you can learn to prepare to address your anger when it arises, and channel that anger into its most productive uses.  Dig slightly below the surface. If you say that "your boss" sometimes makes you angry, try an think about when, where, and why that's the case. What does your boss emphasize that makes you feel angry? Try to understand what happens. Be as honest as possible. If you're feeling angry because you're embarrassed that your boss called you out in front of the other employees, was it warranted? Did you screw up and deserve it, or was it totally out of the blue? Psychologist John Riskind suggests that the most dangerous element of anger is the feeling that it's speeding up and quickly moving out of our control. This feeling often makes people do things that might seem helpful in the immediate sense, like yelling at the person who cut you off in traffic, but which have a longer-lasting consequence, of embarrassing your partner, threatening a stranger, and raising your blood pressure. He assigns the values accordingly:  90 miles per hour and above: boiling, explosive, violent 70-85: fuming, outraged, infuriated, enraged   50-65 miles per hour : bitter, indignant , pissed off , mad, angry  30-45 : agitated, perturbed , annoyed, irritated, frustrated Below 30: calm and cool, peaceful, tranquil It's important to abruptly snap yourself to attention to avoid a violent outburst and recollect your thoughts. For a lot of people, if you're getting into the 90 mph (140 km/h) + territory on a regular basis, a little pain reminder can be extremely helpful. Put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it every time you feel yourself becoming angry enough to boil over. Let the little pain reminder center your thoughts and focus. You're bigger than your anger. When your anger gets above the normal speed limits, you're going to need progressively more time to decompress and process that anger. Learn to assign a value to your anger, then prepare to process it, and start doing so immediately. In some cases, the best way to start processing your anger in the moment is just to leave the room, leave the house, leave the office, and give yourself a chance to decompress for a minute. If anyone looks up, curious about what you're doing, say something outlaid, which can help to reinforce what you're doing to yourself, as well as everyone else. Say something like:  "I'm fine, I just need to get some air." "I'm going for a walk, I'm ok, I'll be right back." "I'm a little frustrated, so I'm going to go outside for a minute. Everything's fine." . It's a cliché for a reason. Deep breathing is proven to reduce stress hormones and calm you down more quickly than anything else. Close your eyes and take five deep breaths, holding it for five seconds, then releasing it slowly. This might seem corny, but visualize your anger as a black, goopy substance that you breathe out every time you exhale. As you hold your breath, feel it building up and feel the relief as you let it move out of your body. It's important to not avoid the things that make you angry, but control your outburst response and return to address things in a calm and collected way. If you've slowed down to a more manageable speed limit, you'll be able to do that. Head back into the meeting and tell your boss privately why you felt singled out unfairly. Ask what you can do to avoid this situation next time. Use a calm, even tone.

Summary: Look at your anger as a tool you can use. Set manageable goals for your anger. Identify your biggest anger triggers. Set anger speed limits and recognize your limits. Snap a rubber band around your wrist to keep it in change. Leave the situation for the moment, if necessary. Breathe Address the issue calmly, if you can.


It’s always a good idea to clean the steam wand before and after using it. This will ensure no contaminants get into the milk. Stand back from the steam wand and turn on the steam by opening the valve. Let the steam blow for about five seconds, and then close the valve to turn it off. Espresso-based drinks come in many sizes, and the size of the drink will determine the amount of milk you use. Many coffee drinks are between 6 and 20 ounces (177 and 591 ml). Use the size of the coffee as a guide for how much milk to pour. Once you’ve measure the cold milk, pour it into a clean metal container.  Don’t forget to subtract the espresso quantity from the milk. For instance, if you're making a 6-ounce (177-ml) coffee, you only need 5 ounces (148 ml) of milk if you made a single shot of espresso. Remember that the milk will froth up as it foams, so measure slightly less milk than you actually need. Only use cold milk for steaming, as this will ensure the best consistency. Position the metal container so the steam wand tip is submerged in the milk. The tip of the wand should be near the middle of the milk. Hold the container at a 45-degree angle.  Turn on the steam and allow it to froth the milk. As the milk increases in volume, move the cup down until the wand is just below the surface. Then, gently plunge the wand back down to continue aerating the milk.  Continue frothing the milk like this until it reaches 140 F (60 C), or until the container is very hot to the touch. Turn off the steam. Remove the container and set it aside. Turn on the steamer again to purge any excess milk. Let the steam run for about five seconds. Turn off the steam and wipe the wand with a damp towel. This will prevent milk from drying and hardening on the wand. As soon as the milk is hot and frothy enough, pour it with your prepared espresso and serve. You can also sweeten the drink with sugar, top it with cinnamon, or cover it in whipped cream if you like.

Summary: Purge the wand. Measure and pour the milk. Submerge the wand and turn on the steam. Purge the wand. Pour the milk immediately into your espresso drink.


.  For an extra wintery effect, use silvery/shiny paper or hang them in your windows. .  Hang them from strings on the ceiling, or tape them on your windows and walls. .  All you need is a wire hanger and a quick trip to the craft store! or a more modern (and environmentally-friendly!) Christmas wreath, use recycled cardboard.  Add embellishments like glitter, ribbons snowy white feathers to dress it up. .  Use different sizes to make a little snow-family. .  Hang it somewhere visible so you can see the chain get shorter as you snip each day. You Make it by cutting strips of paper then glueing it together.
Summary: Make an easy, quick 3D paper snowflake Or, make a classic paper snowflake Make your own Christmas wreath . Make a cute snowman out of a gourd Make an Advent paper chain