If possible, wait to clean the outside of your home on a warm, dry day. A windy day will cause overspray, which will come back on you as you clean. If it isn't possible to clean on a warm day, at least wait for a dry to clean the outside of your house. Begin by making sure all doors and windows are closed. Secure them with tape if necessary. Put duct tape and plastic sheeting over outside light fixtures, vents, and electrical outlets. Move lawn furniture away from the home. Cover plants and shrubbery with plastic sheeting. Make sure kids and dogs are inside while you clean if you're using a pressure washer. Inspect your home before you begin cleaning. Look for stains that can be cleaned without the use of a garden hose or pressure washing. For most stains, you can use a scrub brush, water, and regular dishwashing soap. Scrub the stain until it begins to lift. For tougher stains, like mildew, use a solution made out of oxygen bleach, water, and dishwashing liquid. Put a gallon (3.8 L) of water, one-quarter pound (1 L) of oxygen bleach, and a one-eighth cup (29.6 mL) of dishwashing liquid in a bucket. Dip a scrub brush in the bucket and scrub the mildew until it lifts. Be very careful when handling bleach. Make sure to wear eye protection, rubber gloves, and handle it in a well-ventilated area.

Summary: Choose a warm day to clean. Protect the area on and around your home. Use soap and water to remove stains. Create a solution with oxygen bleach powder to remove mildew.


When they answer their cell phone, do they often flee somewhere out of earshot or cover the screen when texting?  Do they go on work trips or unusual outings with friends and insist on you staying behind?  Is their reaction odd or suspicious when you confront them about these outings?  They may be trying to evade you in order to keep their affair under wraps.  Has your spouse taken up a new hobby or interest?  If so, they might have picked up a new interest from their lover.  Any sudden change in your spouse's routine or lifestyle could indicate infidelity.  Write down exactly when your spouse goes to work, goes to the gym, goes for lunch, etc.  Call your spouse's place of work when he or she is supposed to be there, and see if he or she picks up. Their routine may vary due to the work that your spouse does, so take care to consider other factors when using schedule as an indication of cheating. If your spouse believes you are on to them, they may take extra caution in hiding their affair, making your job of unearthing the truth more difficult.  Act cool and natural with your spouse even as you’re gathering evidence and picking up on the signals he or she is unconsciously broadcasting. Are there any credit or debit card charges you do not recognize, such as restaurants, hotels, recreational activities, etc.?  Have you found receipts for flowers, gifts, or other strange expenditures?  If so, contact your bank or credit card company about the charges to get more information.  Confront your spouse about his or her spending.  If their answers are elusive, unclear, or suspicious, it's likely your spouse is cheating.  Questions about finances depend on the specific expenditure, but might include:  "Do you think these charges are correct?" "Did you buy ____?  " "When did you buy ____?"   Elusive or unclear answers include:  "I don't remember." "It's none of your business." "Let's talk about it later." If you are sure they are cheating or have previously shared access to their phone, check your spouse’s text messages and cell phone calls.  You might be able to find text or voicemail messages which indicate they are having an affair.  Be careful when deciding to check their phone. If they aren't cheating, you may inadvertently be damaging your relationship by intruding on their privacy. Even in the absence of explicit statements revealing an affair, you can use context clues to figure out if one is going on.  If you notice a high volume of texts or calls between your spouse and someone else, it could be because they are having an affair.  Other indirect evidence of an affair could be references to outings or recreational activities they shared together, but which your spouse didn't share with you. If you're sure that they're cheating, then you may check the computer. However, keep in mind that this is a violation of their privacy, and it may be hard to regain their trust if they aren't cheating. Your spouse may be communicating with their lover through social media, email, or internet chat service.  Check his or her profiles for messages which indicate an affair is going on.   You should also check browser history.  If the browser history has been deleted recently, it may indicate your spouse is concealing a recent web session which included viewing their paramour’s social media page. A detective can follow your spouse, track their movements, and take film or video of their interactions over an extended time period.  As an unknown third party, the detective can easily document your spouse’s movements to reveal infidelity (or, hopefully, a lack thereof).  Get a referral for a detective specializing in proving suspected extramarital affairs. If you are unable or unwilling to invest the resources into getting a detective, do some digging on your own.  Ask neighbors and your spouse’s coworkers about his or her habits.  Try to discover if they were seen coming or going at odd hours (especially at times they claimed they were elsewhere), or if they’ve been seen frequently in the company of someone who might be a romantic interest.

Summary: Look out for unusual behavior. Act unsuspecting. Watch your finances. Check their phone, when appropriate. Check the computer. Hire a private eye.


If you choose rice, use raw, uncooked rice. If you choose gravel, choose a size in between sand and pea gravel. You’ll want the gravel/rice to reach all the nooks, crannies, and corners of the bottle.  This method is great for irregularly-shaped bottles, as the gravel/rice will reach areas that may otherwise be hard to clean. Ensure your gravel doesn’t have sharp edges that can scratch the inside of the bottle. If you are concerned about scratches, use rice instead. Air-drying is likely the easiest way to do this. Begin by setting the bottle upside down on a towel. Prop it up if need be to prevent the bottle from falling and breaking. After a few hours, turn the bottle right-side-up on the towel and allow it to fully dry.

Summary: Fill your bottle less than ¼ full with gravel or rice. Dry the bottle.


Don't leave public spaces less clean than when you arrived. Don't litter, eat meals and snacks without making a mess, clean up after yourself and never, ever do anything dirty in a public bathroom. . Being clean is nothing without being organized. A clean house means for clean thinking, not feeling cluttered mentally as well as physically. Never ever just throw your clothes anywhere, because it makes you look dirty and unclean when you wear them. The cleanest person can appear dirty if they pick their nose, make lewd comments, break wind a lot, burp, or do anything else commonly perceived as dirty.
Summary: Avoid being dirty! Be organized Fold your clothes or hang them up on a hanger. Have good manners and avoid dirty habits.