Q: The first thing that you need to do in order to move past your partner’s emotional affair is to acknowledge how you feel. You may be experiencing a range of emotions, such as anger, fear, and sadness. Give yourself permission to feel these emotions and deal with them one by one.  Writing about your feelings may help. Try taking 15 to 20 minutes per day to check in with your emotions and write about them. You may also feel the need to express your emotions in other ways, such as screaming to express anger or crying to express sadness. Allow yourself to express your emotions in appropriate ways. For example, you might scream in your car while driving on the freeway alone or have a good cry when you are at home. You may find yourself dwelling on what your partner did to you, but this will not help you to move on. You have a right to feel the way that you do, but dwelling on your partner’s betrayal will only hurt you. Instead, try to distract yourself with engaging activities, such as:   Meditation. Meditation is an excellent stress relief strategy. It can help you to dispel unwanted thoughts and focus on the present instead. Try taking a meditation class to help you develop this skill.  Getting more exercise. Exercising is necessary for good health. It can also help to relieve stress and distract you from worries about your affair. Try to get at least 30 minutes of cardiovascular exercise every day. For example, you might include 30 minutes of walking, running, biking, dancing, or swimming into your daily schedule.  Making plans with your friends. Getting together with a friend can help you to relax and forget about your problems for a while. Go to see a movie, have dinner, or grab a cup of coffee.  Picking up a new hobby. For example you might try weight lifting, knitting, or cake decorating. Choose something that is fun and engaging for you. You may have an ideal vision of your relationship with your partner, or at least a vision of how it could be better than it is now. Think about this vision and try to identify what needs to happen in order to get there. What needs to change? What specific things do you or your partner will need to do differently? For example, if you want your relationship to be more honest and open, then you and your partner might agree to only tell each other the truth, even about little things. Or, if you want your relationship to be more spontaneous, then you and your partner might agree to surprise each other once every week, such as with a small gift or a surprise date. Before you can forgive your partner, you need to forgive yourself for any resentment you are feeling towards yourself. If you have identified something specific that you think may have caused your partner to have an emotional affair, then use that as part of your statement of forgiveness.  For example, if you think that taking on extra hours at work may have played a role in your partner’s emotional affair, then forgive yourself for putting work before your relationship. You might say something like, “I am human and I made a mistake. I put my career ahead of my marriage and my partner turned to someone else for companionship. I am upset that it happened, but I am willing to forgive myself and move on.” Although it is possible for a relationship to recover from infidelity, there are situations where this is not possible. Sometimes affairs continue or there is simply no trust left in the relationship.  If you cannot seem to get past your partner’s affair or if the affair is still going on, then it may be time for you to move on. Keep in mind that recovering from an affair takes time and persistence. If you and your partner are both willing to work on the relationship, then it may be even stronger in the end.
A: Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Try to focus on other things. Think about how you want your relationship to be. Forgive yourself. Know your limits.

Q: Provided your shopping list is well-organized, you should be able to tell at a glance which items may be found in which aisles. Do a methodical sweep of the store. Go through the most important aisles first, and make sure you have all of the things you need before you move on. Try to cross off your shopping list categories (i.e.: fresh vegetables) at a time. Shopping are made easier if you go at times when the supermarket isn't as crowded. Late nights before closing are perfect for this, as well as weekday mornings when most people are busy working. In contrast, it's not recommended you go shopping during the weekend or in the early evening if you can help it. The supermarket will be busier and you'll spend more time wading through the foot traffic. Cloth grocery bags are a useful touch if you want the best shopping experience. You will save on the added fees for plastic bags, and cloth bags are more durable. Using cloth bags to shop with is also environmentally friendly, so you can feel good about yourself while you shop. When you're buying food items, it's a smart idea to make  a habit of checking the expiry date. This is especially important for things with a short shelf life such as milk. If there are multiple copies of an item available for purchase, check a few of them and pick whichever one has the latest expiry date. You should leave room on your shopping list for improvisation. In-store specials are worth exploiting if it's something you would have wanted anyway. Although your shopping trip shouldn't be dictated by what's on special, taking advantage of these opportunities is a great way to make the most of the money you spend. If your shopping trip is going to be fairly in-depth, you'll want to count for the time the frozen grocery items will be out with you. Frozen products like ice cream shouldn't be kept out of frozen storage for too long unless you want a mess on your hands. If you think the shopping trip is going to take a while, aim to have these frozen foods picked up last.
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Plan out your trip by aisle-type. Go shopping during off-peak hours. Use cloth grocery bags. Check the expiry date. Keep an eye out for in-store specials. Get frozen foods last.