Q: When swears are intentionally directed at individuals they're hurtful.  Use them to disparage experiences and situations, not people.  Use your vocabulary. Swearing at someone who offends you might offer relief, but it won't explain why you were offended as effectively as telling them why. Try to be kind and gentle in this. Or even in the vicinity. Don't repeat curses that you know are particularly offensive to the individual. If it's clear that you're aware of the individual's sensitivity and use the curse word anyway, it could be interpreted as targeting that person. And if it is, you could be the subject of litigation. They can directly express a racist point of view that you wouldn't otherwise feel comfortable expressing.  The "N-word" is too taboo to use. Even if it's clear to you that you're not intending to be racist, the word is offensive to African Americans and has racist connotations.  The upside to using the word is not close to the downside. Many cultural groups have offensive slang terms that are used to degrade the group.You might think that your intentions are to be creatively taboo. But you can't account for how the word sounds to the person you're targeting.  They might have a whole history of dealing with racism and are constantly on guard for it. Again, there's really no upside to using them. In the rare case that you're certain the word will be taken as humorous and doesn't express a biased-sexual-orientation view then . . . perhaps. But gay slurs should, mainly, be avoided.  If the word is being used to imply inferiority, then don't use words that represent someone's sexual orientation.
A: Curse away, but not with the intent to hurt someone. Consider the individual who is on the receiving end. Avoid taboo words that have negative racial connotations. Avoid gay slurs.

Q: This technique works particularly well during office hours. If they seem friendly and not pressed for time, try talking about topics unrelated to class. Inquire about their hobbies and interests, ask for advice on an issue unrelated to school, or tell them about something you’re passionate about. Ask them about their background and how they became a professor.  By talking about subjects other than class, you can show them that you’re more than simply their student. You’re a three-dimensional person, just like them, and you can start to form a relationship like friends– and hopefully more! Although you can try this technique before or after class, usually professors don’t have much time to hang around and chat. Office hours also provide the luxury of privacy. Unless you summon up the courage to put yourself out there, you probably won’t be able to set the stage for seduction. Put a little gift and a note on their desk. It doesn’t have to be anything major – maybe just a new pen or a baked good. In your note, write something beyond what a student would typically say to a professor, such as, “I was thinking of you and thought this would make you happy.” It doesn’t have to be a declaration of love or a raunchy offer, but just a little something to show that you see them as more than simply your professor.  Try to think of something small that your professor really needs. Do they constantly borrow pens from students? Get them one. Are they usually tired in class? Offer them a coffee. Do they complain about not having enough time to eat? Bring them a home-made muffin. This way, you can keep the note playful and light. If they ask you about the gift, or even try to give it back to you, don’t shy away. Tell them that you really like them, and you want them to have it. Observe how your professor interacts with you versus other students. Do they give you a lot of eye contact?  Are they friendly and receptive to your attempts at conversation?  Do they treat you differently than other students? If they don’t seem interested, don’t push them. This may or may not be possible, but it is a great thing to do if you can manage it. Try to find out where they spend time on the weekends or after class. If they mentioned being a regular at a certain coffee shop near campus, do your studying there. If they brought up that their favorite musician was playing a gig that weekend, get tickets. If you’re committed to seducing them, go the extra mile to see them outside the classroom walls.  Not only will this give you more time with them and another opportunity to prove you’re more than just a student, it will also show them that you have similar interests and hobbies. Don't be a stalker! If you 'accidentally' bump into your professor at a concert, you can ask them if they are going to the next one/another concert of a similar band. If they eat lunch at the same place every day, ask them if you can sit with them. Make an appointment to talk with them after final grades have been submitted. Ask for their advice about a class next semester or admission to professional school. Try to steer the conversation towards other topics as well. If they seem receptive and you are feeling brave, casually ask them to coffee. Don’t make a move before the semester has ended. Most professors will not date you before the course has ended because of ethical and professional conflict.
A: Engage them in conversation unrelated to class. Drop hints. Pay attention to their signals. ”Bump” into them outside of class. Make a move at the end of the semester.

Q: How do you expect others to see you in a favorable way if you don’t see yourself in a favorable way? Having self-esteem begins with confidence. Being comfortable in your own skin is attractive because you know who you are. You don’t need to demean or compete with others to get ahead in life. People find that quality attractive.  Discover who you are. Once you have that under control, hang on to it and don’t be afraid to let the world know. Having a firm grasp on your own sense of self will go a long way when it comes to making you attractive. Practice positive affirmations. They work. List things about yourself that you love and revisit them once in a while.  Be careful not to brag or tip over into the realm of arrogance. Few people find arrogance attractive. There has been a lot of research showing that people who are happy are more attractive (and attractive people are happier).  Practice gratitude and forgiveness. These two things will boost your happiness.  Focus on the relationships in your life. Relationships have shown to be one of the most important influencers of happiness. Spend time with trusted friends and family.  Think positively. When negative thoughts enter your mind, kick them out. If this is something you struggle with, you might look into cognitive behavioral methods. Some studies have shown that people who are kind or agreeable are more attractive. Their attractiveness can even improve over time just based on their personality. If you want someone to like you (or find you attractive), let them know. Studies have shown that we tend to like people who like us. If you show interest in someone, they'll more likely be attracted to you if you show interest in them first. A sense of humor makes you attractive for more than one reason.  Having a sense of humor makes you easier to be around. That’s an attractive quality to have. Laughter releases a chemical called Serotonin, which is the cause of our good moods. Helping people laugh puts them in a good mood, and they have you to thank for that.
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Be confident. Be happy. Be kind. Be assertive. Have a sense of humor.