While it's great to want to please your parents, understand that if you grew up with particularly controlling or high pressure parents you may have fallen into a habit of people pleasing. People-pleasing can have negative effects longterm.  People pleasers often bend over backwards to accommodate other people. In the process, they lose sight of their own needs and wants. When your feelings of pleasure and self-worth are completely rooted in the approval of others, you end up not knowing who you are and become totally unable to nurture or care for yourself.  Oftentimes, people become people pleasers due to high-pressure parents. If your parents imposed strict expectations on your growing up, you may have learned that your value comes from what others expect of you. Carrying the desire to please into adulthood can have negative effects. People pleasers tend to have an intense fear of failure and rejection. They tend to be more high stress than others. This increased level of stress results in people-pleasers becoming less organized and productive than other people. People pleasers are also more easily affected by loneliness as their self-worth is rooted in making others happy. If you feel your desire to please your parents is rooted in compulsive people pleasing, there are ways you can get beyond this personality trait.  Getting beyond people-pleasing is a gradual process that takes a lot of personal effort. You need to acknowledge you're too much of a people pleaser and work at consciously getting to know yourself and giving yourself the time and care you need in addition to the people around you. Patience, restraint, and discipline is important to this process.  It is helpful to seek out a therapist as you try to work away from people pleasing habits. A therapist can help validate you and your feelings and help you work away from destructive patterns. You can usually find a therapist through your insurance provider. Many big cities have low or no cost clinics available for people with poor coverage or without insurance. If you're a college student, many colleges and universities provide free counseling to students. If your parents expect too much of you, you can have a frank talk with them about your need for some independence.  Plan what you're going to say ahead of time as your parents may become defensive. It can help to write out your issues or make an outline to follow during the conversation. Be reasonable. Tell your parents you're happy to keep them up-to-date on your life, but you need them to understand you need to make decisions for your own sake and not theirs. If you live at a distance, sometimes it's easier to simply omit information. If you might be up for promotion, for example, don't say anything until you know one way or another. That way, your parents cannot pressure you with an onslaught of questions and advice.
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One-sentence summary -- Understand the dangers of people pleasing. Learn how to get beyond people pleasing. Talk to your parents about your need for privacy and independence.


If the Prius fails to start when you hit the power button, try applying more pressure to the brake pedal.  The brake pedal sensor must register that you are pressing it in order for the computer to allow the electrical motor to start.  Be sure the floor mat hasn’t gotten bunched up beneath the pedal. Check for any other obstructions that may prevent you from pushing the brake pedal down. If the battery in the smart key is beginning to die, you may be able to start the car by holding it closer to the power button on the dashboard.  The sensor for the key is located near the ignition, so this will reduce the distance the signal must travel. If this method works, you should have the battery replaced in your smart key as soon as possible. Some models of Prius come equipped with a smart key deactivation switch.  If this switch has been pressed, the sensor will not read your smart key and will not allow the vehicle to start. Check in the owner’s manual for your specific model of Prius to see if it came equipped with a smart key deactivation switch. Locate the smart key deactivation switch on the underside of the dashboard beneath the steering wheel.  Press the switch and then try starting the vehicle again.  If the smart key deactivation switch was pressed before, hitting it again will reactivate the smart key sensor. Attempt to start the car again once you’ve hit the switch.
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One-sentence summary -- Ensure your foot is pressed firmly on the brake. Hold the smart key closer to the power button. Determine if your vehicle has a smart key deactivation switch. Press the deactivation switch beneath the steering wheel.


Cats feel the cold more than humans so it will help your cat stay warm by providing great insulation from the cold, as well as a safe space to retreat and relax in. You can buy cardboard boxes in a variety of colours, floral, vintage or modern designs. This lets you choose one to suit your personal choice for your home décor. Alternatively you can simply use a cardboard box from the supermarket or local store.  This can be a fun project for a rainy day with your kids when your cat looks like they are in need of a nap. Before you begin take a minute to learn how to keep your cat safe as well as cosy by making their bed a cat-friendly zone. Cut the hole using scissors or with a craft knife. For an older, slower cat it makes sense to start the door-hole at ground level, but a younger cat or kitten who loves to jump will love a circular door-hole hole halfway up the front of the box.  Make sure the door-hole is large enough for your cat to climb in and out in comfort. If your cat loves to squeeze into things keep the hole relatively small. If your cat is sensitive to tight spaces then supersize the door! Does your cat like a quiet dark place? Do they like to look around and watch all the household bustle around them? Would they prefer the inside of the box to feel snug and dark, or sunny and light? Asking these questions will help to you design a bed perfect for your cat.  If your cat likes to look around them, think about cutting the top off the box as well as a door-hole – this will make sure that they don’t feel isolated. If your cat likes privacy then a good idea is to tape a soft piece of fabric over the door-hole as a curtain. To make a chic bed you could use the same fabric to line the box. Add a snack tube. Cut a hole in the top of box with scissors or a craft knife. Fit a paper toilet roll tube in it as a handy snack drop to ensure you don’t disturb their privacy. This can make a real difference in how quickly and happily your cat adapts. Their sensitive whiskers and paw pads mean that they love snuggling into soft textures. Think about your cat’s favourite textures - a pillow, a cushion a furry rug, some fur fabric or even vintage curtains may all suit them.  Add something that smells of you such as an old t-shirt or sweater. Add a favourite toy, or appeal to their sense of smell with a little bit of cat nip.
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Pick out a cardboard storage box the right shape and size for your cat. Cut a square or circular door-hole in the front of the box. Customise the bed specifically to your cat’s needs, likes and dislikes. Add a soft, comfortable base to the bed.