Because Ramadan is based on a lunar calendar, the new moon marks the start of the Eid al Fitr. This signifies the end of Ramadan, and it is a three-day festival that includes eating a daytime meal. This time is also a period where you offer thanks to Allah for helping you practice self-restraint while you were fasting. You're also thanking Allah for the strength to fast. Consider buying a new outfit for this celebration. Children, especially, usually get new clothes for this festival, but you can join in the fun, too. If you don't want to buy a new outfit, dress up in your fanciest outfit for when you go visiting. If you didn't decorate for iftar, decorating for Eid al Fitr can be fun, especially if you're going to have family visit. Lanterns, moons, and stars are traditional, but you can decorate however you see fit. Some Muslims exchange gifts with all their friends and family, but the focus is really on the kids. Kids usually get sweet treats, candies, and gifts of money during this time period. Now is a great time to go visit family and friends, as well as have family and friends to your house. It's easier to travel now that you don't have to fast, and it's a good way to celebrate. Typically, you'll go visit your parents, kids, or other family members, as well as friends you haven't seen in a while. Though the fasting has drawn to a close, charity is still important. In fact, many consider it more important during Eid al Fitr. Consider giving money to those in need and volunteering your time to help others.

Summary: Watch for the new moon. Practice gratefulness. Wear your best threads. Decorate your house. Hand out treats to the kids. Go visiting. Don't forget to give to those in need.


Record a short video of yourself talking to your husband. You can tell him a story, share old memories, or just remind him how much you love him. If you have kids, record them saying nice things about their dad or telling stories as well. Coupon books are classic presents that your husband will be able to use for the rest of the year. You can create coupons for activities, chores you’ll complete for him, or other special perks. Put expiration dates on the coupons, or allow them to be used whenever your husband wants.  Your coupons could be for things like 1 home-cooked meal, a nap without interruptions, or 1 outdoor adventure. For more suggestions, go online and research coupon book ideas. For a sentimental keepsake, ask your husband’s friends and family members to write him a letter for his birthday. The letter can be full of funny jokes, memories they’ve shared, or even a list of their favorite things about your husband. Gather all of the letters together and make them into a book. Give your husband a morning gift by serving him breakfast in bed. If you already have the ingredients to make eggs, toast, pancakes, or any other breakfast food, whip them up in the kitchen, put them on a nice plate or tray, and surprise your husband as he’s waking up. Look through old photographs and find some that he might like to look back on. Nostalgic presents are always appreciated, and you can even put the pictures in an old frame or create one yourself. Create a game for your husband by thinking of trivia facts about your family members or friends. They can be simple questions like “During which month was your aunt born?” or trickier questions such as “What’s your best friend’s favorite movie?” Write the questions down on notecards and keep them together with a rubber band or binder clip. Write down the answers on the opposite side of each notecard. If your husband loves music, make him his own personal playlist. The playlist can be full of his favorite songs, or songs that are important, funny, or nostalgic for the both of you. Download the playlist onto his computer, iPod, or phone, or burn it onto a CD. Cut up strips of paper and write a note on each one. They could be memories the two of you share, jokes, the dates of special events, or characteristics of your husband that you love. If you have children, let them come up with notes for their dad as well. After each slip of paper has writing on it, fold them up and put them in a jar. For a final touch, decorate the jar to say "Happy birthday" or another festive message.

Summary: Create a video for your husband. Make a coupon book with coupons your husband would like. Have your husband’s friends and family write him a letter. Serve your husband breakfast in bed. Find old photographs and give them to your husband. Invent a family trivia game. Create a personalized playlist for your husband. Write special notes for your husband and put them in a jar.


Any organizations you have joined or networking you have done will likely help you meet potential significant others. Try and focus on meeting other people first, as you get to know them or as you find someone that you like, you'll be able to begin to determine their orientation and if they are single or in a relationship.  If you'd like to be a little more overt, try dating applications like the BRO app. Be careful with any interaction involving dating online, especially if you are underage, and make sure you are thinking of your safety first. At events or organizations, you may meet someone you really like and are interested in. Pay attention to the body language both yours and his for signals of interest. If someone is interested in you or you are interested in them, the body may react in the following ways.  Stomach gets pulled in to look sleeker or slimmer. The chest puffs out in order to look bigger or more muscular. The head will lift, to make the person appear taller. The jaw juts out as a way to look more dominant. Whether they are old friends, new LGBTQ friends, or guys that you have recently met, if you are ready, ask your friends for help. Tell you friends that you are looking to date and ask them if they know any single guys that might be a good match for you. Make sure it is a friend who knows you well and who cares about you. You want to make sure whoever you are asking will set you up with a quality guy and that they are basing it off what they know about the two of you. There are some subtle and not so subtle ways to figure out if a guy you are interested in is also interested in men. Be careful not to assume orientation based on stereotypes or appearances alone. Your best bet to determining their orientation is to talk to them and get to know them. If you would like some hints, here's what you can do for:  Look at his eyes. Do the pupils dilate when they look at you? Pupil dilation is a sign of sexual interest, and indicates that he finds you attractive.  While you are talking, mention that you are interested in men, and see how he reacts. Mentioning your orientation may make him feel more comfortable and give him an opening to tell you about his. Ask him. Try and be nonchalant and unassuming about it. "Hey, I don't want to assume anything, but I like you. I was wondering if you were interested in going out with me sometime?" Another great way to meet a potential boyfriend, is to meet by getting involved in events or activities that you like. If you meet a potential boyfriend there, you already know you have a common interest, and being involved with events or organizations will give you a built-in excuse or reason to see them again. You could also try joining the activities of someone you like or are interested in.  It is best if you get involved in events or activities that you like. This way you are being true to yourself, and you won't have to pretend to be interested in or like something you do not just to keep seeing someone. Most importantly, as you are going through this part of the process, be your awesome self. You may feel a lot of pressure to find a special someone, but don't give up parts of yourself just to win someone's attention. You want to find someone to be with, and you are going to want that person to accept you for who you are, so be you!
Summary: Find other gay, bisexual, or pansexual guys. Approach guys you meet. Ask friends to set you up. Figure out orientation. Get involved in events or activities. Be yourself.