You have nothing to prove and nothing to lose. Kissing is a two way street and the guy is probably more nervous than you are.  Take deep breaths, but don't make it too obvious that you're trying to calm yourself down. Passionate kissing can be frenzied, calm and meditative, or anywhere in between. There is an unspoken process where both parties will try to match the type of passion the other is aching for. It helps to synchronize breathing rates. A good way to begin building sexual tension is to keep him talking. Be in a location that is secluded. Having the option to sit is an extra bonus. Just keep a conversation no matter how mundane it feels. The bleaker the conversation the higher your chances are that he's thinking about kissing you. A great way to signal that you're ready to kiss is to go back and forth from looking at his eyes and his lips.  This will create tension that is necessary to have a truly passionate kiss. If he repeats and looks at your lips, he is ready for those kissing sparks to fly. There are ways of being sly about getting close to him, but you want this move to be obvious. This is another clue for him to know that you want to start kissing. It will help if your bodies are slightly touching. Even if your body contact is ever so slight, it will feel exciting. Try and keep the conversation going, and touch him on the thigh or his arm.  Another good spot to excite and comfort him is to put your hand behind his neck. Be sure to keep your eyes fixed on his eyes, but take quick glances at his lips. Tilt your head slightly and move close to his face and pause right before you reach his face.  You shouldn't do all the work, but initiating the kiss yourself will excite him.  It isn't as popular for the girl to make the first move, but there isn't a rule book to kissing!
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One-sentence summary -- Relax. Match the energy of the person you're with. Keep a conversation. Use your eyes. Lean close to him. Touch him. Move in for the kiss.


When employees feel like their managers care, they're often more willing to work harder and share responsibility in meeting the company's goals. An easy way to make employees feel cared for is to be kind to your employees. Make sure your employees' needs are being met and let them know that their efforts have not gone unnoticed.  Listen to your employees when they have grievances or complaints. Being heard and seeing positive changes can make workers feel more motivated to help the company. Show an interest in your employees' work-life balance. Don't ask intrusive questions, but be understanding when employees need time off for doctors' appointments, family events, and other personal matters. Treat your employees the way you would want to be treated. Be kind without being weak and always offer guidance and support. If you want to keep your employees motivated, you'll need to know what level they're currently working at and what level they need to be at. You can do this by setting realistic, obtainable goals and offering support along the way.  Ask employees how productive and efficient they see themselves, and offer to let them have input into how productivity is assessed. Factor in considerations like how much of a job is repetitive versus original/creative work. Include (but don't solely rely on) objective factors like the number of sales calls made, reports filed, or functions coded. Balance this with subjective factors like management ratings and employee satisfaction. Remember that employees are still part of a team. If one employee isn't performing up to par, look at how his or her coworkers are managing their end of the work to ensure that that employee isn't left hanging with extra projects. Good work should not go unrecognized. Every employee who meets his or her productivity goals should be rewarded in some way, as your company would not be able to function properly without those employees.  Thank employees for their hard work and let them know that you value and appreciate their efforts. Personal incentives can do wonders to motivate employees.  Consider offering small bonuses/commissions to highly-productive employees. Throw a pizza party or sundae buffet when employees meet their goals for the month. Hard-working employees need some down time to maintain productivity. Working constantly without interruption is draining and may lead to performance problems down the line. You can avoid this problem by allowing your employees to balance work time and down time.  Allow for short breaks throughout the day, whether that means water cooler talk, a coffee break, or a short break to step outside for some fresh air. Breaks help improve productivity and boost morale. Make sure your employees have vacation options. A short vacation can do wonders for an employee's mindset and motivation. Reducing internet restrictions on social media and other websites can give your employees a much-needed break during the day. However, some managers feel that social media is too big of a distraction in the workplace and should be banned.
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One-sentence summary -- Show an interest in your employees' wellbeing. Set goals for and measure employee productivity. Implement positive reinforcement for good work. Give your employees some down time.


Studies have also shown that a majority of drinkers do so in moderate proportions to make a party more enjoyable; whereas heavy drinking or binge drinking is associated with the coping of negative emotions. Which side of the issues do you fall on? Research has shown that alcohol produces both stimulant and sedative effects in humans. Notice if you drink more around certain friends, or during sporting events, or by yourself. Is alcohol providing a positive experience for you? Are you getting into trouble when you drink? Do you say things that you regret later? Do you rely upon it to relax?  Change your routine. If you’ve developed a pattern or habit for drinking, you must break the habit. For example, if you meet at the same sports bar to watch football every Sunday, change locations and tell yourself, “New location. New habit of drinking less.” A change in location can facilitate a change in behavior. Get a calendar and stick it to your refrigerator and mark a couple of alcohol-free weekends, or a few days per week. Writing it down will keep it visible so you won't forget, and will help you be accountable to yourself. If you are managing your emotions with alcohol, there are healthy alternatives. The key is to remain alert and aware of your behaviors as situations present themselves. You must catch yourself before reaching for a drink and choose an alternate path. Healthy alternatives to drinking alcohol include:  At a party: Drink a glass of water between each drink, and avoid doing shots of alcohol. Give yourself a gold star for sticking with your plan. Work functions: Sip your drink and when you are done hold an object like a smartphone or tablet in your hand so you won’t feel the need to fill it with a drink.  Financial troubles: Consult with a credit specialist or job placement counselor to develop a plan to increase your income and ease your financial troubles. Physical pain: Investigate the possibility of entering a pain management program. Biofeedback is a drug-free way to help with pain management.  A break-up: physical exercise will produce the same endorphins that alcohol produces. Studies have shown that people who exercise are less likely to be depressed. Walking, hiking, surfing, or tennis are all healthy alternatives. Problems at school. For example, if you recently failed a class and are frustrated with your academic career, learn some relaxation techniques including breathing exercises and yoga. If you are experiencing extreme difficulty reducing your drinking, you may need professional help. Perhaps you thought you could drink less and realized that you drink too much and cannot stop. There are doctors and therapists available in your local area to help. Alcoholics Anonymous chapters are available worldwide and can be located by contacting them directly 24/7 at 1-888-827-7180.
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One-sentence summary --
Make a list of all the situations in which you drink alcohol. Look for patterns. Find alternatives to drinking in stressful situations. Seek professional help.