What would it take for you both to be happy and trusting of one another? What steps and actions can you each take to get there? Answering these questions will help you decide how each of you should act moving forward. Write down 5 important things that you think should happen so that you have a secure relationship. If your relationship woes seem to be impossible, yet you want to solve them, you are not alone. Especially if an outside factor is complicating your betrayal, it can be helpful to seek professional advice or guidance on how to improve your relationship. Experts include marriage counselors, therapists, family psychologists, sex therapists, or certain community leaders like priests.  Examples of relationship-related issues: repeated infidelity, sex addiction, sexual fetishes, sexual abuse, family relationships Examples of other issues that can affect your relationship: substance abuse or addiction, financial problems, legal problems, health issues ” Tell your partner they must not see the other woman/man and they must break all contact with the other person. Some couples find this imperative to do; in a few cases, it is not necessary to break all contact. It depends on what you find helpful and your particular situation. Agree on what you literally expect from yourselves and your partner moving forward. Consider starting from the very foundation of your relationship and discussing every aspect, so that nothing is left assumed. On the other hand, consider thinking about what you find the most frustrating and start taking measures to address those first.  Examples of concrete steps: giving you access to their phone, or calling and checking in at night. You might each be taking different steps but towards the same goal. Or, you might help one another take steps and do each together. It may help to write these down, similar to rules in a classroom, and sign your names at the bottom like a contract. Your partner can be held accountable for their behavior by accounting for how they spend their time, and being transparent and willingly offering information before being asked. Your partner should make a promise to do better, but know that a promise or apology alone with only restore trust short-term.  Set up ways to be held accountable for the future actions. For example, if your partner does not give you access to their phone one night, you have a set-up protocol or discussion to handle it already. This contingency planning of sorts allows for the “concrete” steps to have some flexibility. You can show that you are trying even if you sometimes break a rule or fail to take a step. Ultimately, you and your partner should each be accountable for communicating and being trusting of one another. Have a way to talk about if you think one person is not being held accountable. A promise to do better works in the short-term, but must be kept in the long-term in order to have value.
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One-sentence summary -- Imagine a secure relationship. Consider an expert. Break off contact with the “other. Create concrete steps. Create an atmosphere of accountability.

Q: Pull about 18-inches (45-cm) of yarn and thread it through the large-eyed blunt needle. Use the same thread that you used to knit the pieces of the sweater. Lay the back and underpiece on top of each other so the right (front) sides are facing each other. Line up the edges evenly. Insert the large-eyed blunt needle into the narrow side that you cast off. Sew the sides together and repeat this for the opposite side of the sweater. To ensure that you leave room for the dog's front legs, keep sewing the pieces together for:  Small: 2 inches (5 cm) Medium: 2 1/2 inches (6.5 cm) Large: 3 inches (7.5 cm) Extra-large: 3 1/2 inches (9 cm) To keep space for the legs, stop sewing and leave the next several inches open. Leave:  Small: 3 inches (7.5 cm) Medium: 3 1/2 inches (9 cm) Large: 4 inches (10 cm) Extra-large: 4 1/2 inches (11.5 cm) To seam the back and underpiece together, finish sewing the pieces until you reach the end. Tie off the last stitch and cut the thread. Turn the sweater inside out to hide the seams and put it on your dog. If you'd like to add buttons or stitch a collar onto this basic dog sweater, determine the look you're going for. Choose decorative buttons to stitch onto the side or underpiece of the sweater. You can also sew felt flowers, pom poms, or small bells onto the sweater. If you want to make a sweater that has a hood or uses functional buttons to open and close, look for a more challenging dog sweater pattern.
A: Thread the large-eyed blunt needle. Line up the back piece and underpiece. Sew together the back and underpiece. Leave an open space for the legs. Sew the remaining length of the sweater on both sides. Add embellishments, if desired.

Article: Prioritize a person's needs (sensory needs, need to eat, need to sleep, etc.) over the wants of other family members. It's hard to have a good time if someone's needs aren't being met. Meet all needs first, and then everyone will be ready to have fun. This applies to both autistic and non-autistic family members. It's okay to split into groups if that's what will make everyone's needs be met, and keep people happy. Keep cell phones with both groups, and designate a meeting place that is easy to see.  For example, if your son is overwhelmed and needs a break, while your daughter wants to ride a roller coaster, maybe your wife could take your son for a break and meet up in half in hour. For example, if your husband is very tired and needs rest, and your daughter is eager to get out and do things, maybe you can take her swimming while your husband takes a nap. Whether you're flying or driving, delays may happen. Therefore, it is important to pack distractions such as an MP3 player, their favorite snacks, or even an eraser or another favorite object that will keep them busy. Before leaving the hotel, have your autistic child pick out a stim toy or favorite object to take with them in a purse or bag. This can help them stay calm. If your child can tell you what they need (using speech or AAC), then you can often meet their needs before it turns into a meltdown. When any of your children communicate a need, take time to listen and talk about how to meet that need. The stress of travel and the confusion of a new environment may make your child prone to becoming overwhelmed. Therefore, be prepared for them, and do as close what you would normally do as possible in the event that one does occur.  Your child will likely start displaying signs of stress before a meltdown - such as agitated stimming, looking upset, becoming passive, or regressing. Recognize these signs and help your child to leave or manage what's upsetting them.  Have an exit plan. Maybe one person can take the child out for a walk around the parking lot, or to sit somewhere quiet, so they can have time to calm down.  All parents have moments when their children scream and cry in public. It's okay. This happens to everyone. When planning your trip, consider each family member's favorite activities. Keep in mind your autistic child's preferences, their siblings' preferences, and the preferences of the adults in the family. This vacation is for all of you. It's okay if you don't have an amazing beach vacation just like the Sanchez family, or if you didn't spend as much money as Leslie in the corner office did. This vacation is for your family, not anyone else's. It might look a little different, and that's okay. Accept what you have, define your own fun, and make your own memories.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Put the family members' needs first. Don't be afraid to split up. Be prepared for anything. Encourage children to communicate their needs. Recognize that meltdowns or shutdowns will most likely occur. Choose activities that the whole family will enjoy. Enjoy vacationing in your family's own unique way.