If you can’t make the direct approach work, try getting her to leave you alone on her own. Ask about an attractive friend she has, or mention another girl you’ve met recently. It may seem rude, but if she gets mad at you, she may leave you alone.  Say, “Hey when we were at the bar the other day, who was the hot girl in the blue dress that was with you?” Essentially hitting on her friend might drive her away. Another way to do this is by saying, “I’ve actually been talking to this girl Lucy for about a week. It’s crazy how much we have in common.” Causing jealousy can be a useful rejection tool. If you just met or you’ve been talking a while and you know it’s not going anywhere, mention a friend she should meet. Talk him up, and say how he and the girl have so much in common. She may take the hint that you aren’t interested in her. Say, “You know, I’ve been meaning to introduce you to my friend Derek. He’s always talking about fitness stuff just like you. You two ought to go out sometime.” If you can’t face the girl to tell her how you feel, you always have the option of ignoring her. It’s considered rude and may cause you problems, but it’s an option. Don’t answer her calls, texts, or other forms of messaging. Completely break all digital communication with her.  She may keep contacting you for a while, but commit to ignoring her and she will most likely leave you alone. This is a rude approach, but it’s often highly effective. If you see the girl in common places and she won’t leave you alone, just stop talking to her. Even telling her you aren’t interested might keep her around because you’re willing to talk to her. The next time you see her, brush her off completely by being silent.  Make sure you realize how difficult this will be. She might get angry, insult you, or show you she’s disgusted with you. It’s not going to be pleasant most times. People will see this as rude and unacceptable. Make sure that this is your last resort. Try to let her down easy with other methods before giving her the silent treatment.

Summary: Talk about another girl when you’re with her. Tell her you have a friend you’d love to set her up with. Ignore her communications. Give her the silent treatment in person.


Pour 2 ½ tbsp. baking soda into a small bowl and add 1 tbsp. hydrogen peroxide. Mix well then use a cotton ball to dip into your mixture. Apply to your toenails. Let it set for 5 minutes, then rinse well. Repeat daily. You can also use baking soda or hydrogen peroxide separately if you only have one. Simply mix it in with a small bowl of warm water and then apply. Mix 3 parts water with 1 part vinegar in a large bowl. Soak your feet in the bath for 4-5 minutes once a day to lower the pH in your toes and fight fungus. Soaking your nails in lemon juice will get rid of yellow stains. Soak your nails for 10-15 minutes each day until you are happy with the results. In order to get rid of immediate nail stains, like pink nails from red nail polish, try scrubbing a whitening toothpaste on your nails using a nail brush. This, however, is not for long-term stains. The top layer of your nails is where the yellow stains are. By buffing your nails with a light sandpaper you will get rid of the top layers, removing some of the stains. However, buffing your nails is not recommended because it can lead to weaker nails. If you choose to buff your nails, try using a clear strengthening polish after.

Summary: Make a homemade anti-fungal spread. Use a vinegar bath. Use lemon juice to fight discoloration. Try whitening toothpaste. Try buffing your nails lightly for a temporary solution.


When you’re nervous, your muscles lock up and your breathing gets irregular, which can negatively impact your performance. To counteract this, close your eyes and take big, deep breaths to relax. Hold the breath for 3-5 seconds, then slowly let it out. Stage fright is natural, and something that many performers struggle with. One thing not to do when you’re nervous is to run away from the feeling—that makes it seem even scarier. Instead, take a step back and look at your anxiety objectively. Tell yourself your nerves are normal and OK to have, and that they can even make you a better performer!  Being nervous isn’t something to be afraid of. It might not feel comfortable, but you know you’re strong enough to handle the discomfort and perform your best anyway. For example, you could tell yourself, “This is a big recital, so of course I’m nervous. That’s OK. I’m going to perform the best I can anyway.” with focused, positive thoughts about the performance. Being nervous means that you have adrenaline coursing through your body, and that can be a good thing before a big performance. Instead of allowing that adrenaline to run wild and make you nervous and worried, focus it into positive thoughts and actions to boost your confidence.  For example, you could channel your adrenaline into physical movement, such as drumming your fingers or nodding your head. You could also walk or even dance around to get out your jitters. Mentally, use your energy to acknowledge your worried thoughts, then turn towards excited, upbeat ones. Think about how hard you’ve worked for this, how excited you are, and how ready you feel. Many performers find that some healthy pre-show jitters give them the burst of adrenaline they need to give an amazing show. Embrace your nerves as a way to help you perform your best. Bad nerves can sometimes send you into a worry spiral that’s hard to break out of. Stop the cycle before it starts by first noticing when you begin to worry. Stop yourself and accept that you feel nervous, but that that feeling doesn’t have to control you.  For example, you might find yourself thinking something like, “I’m not prepared for this. I’m going to mess everything up.” Instead of continuing in this vein, say, “This just means I have some nerves. I practiced hard for this. It’s natural to be nervous, but it doesn’t mean I’m going to mess up.” If you’re worrying about past mistakes or failures, try saying to yourself, “I’ve worked hard since then and learned from mistakes. I’ve improved a lot, and now I get the chance to show it.” Sit or stand in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Picture yourself giving a great performance, and let yourself feel those emotions—confidence, strength, elation, and more. Letting that image fill you up will give you the boost of confidence you need to make it a reality. Positive visualization has been proven to improve performance in many different arenas, so give it a shot! You still might feel a rush of nerves when you step onstage. Instead of freezing up, channel that nervous energy into a big smile or an enthusiastic wave or gesture. This is a great way to cover up your anxiety while connecting with the audience.  If you’re a musician, you could smile, nod to the crowd, and walk briskly to your spot. In less formal settings, you could even jump around or run onstage. If you’re acting or giving a speech, walk on confidently and in character. If you’re dancing, walk onstage as you’ve rehearsed, smiling or looking confidently at the crowd if it matches the mood of your performance.
Summary: Breathe deeply to calm your body. Allow yourself to acknowledge and accept the nerves. Control your adrenaline Cut off repetitive worrying when you notice it. Try positive visualization and meditation to relax. Turn your nerves into enthusiasm once you’re onstage.