Problem: Article: If you are already friends with someone, there is some chance you can figure out your chances of success based on your existing interactions. Is there already some flirting involved in your interactions together? Are they involved with someone else already? Do you get the impression they already find you attractive? If you get a less-than-desired answer for at least one of these questions, it does not necessarily mean there is no hope for you. Rather, you'll have to play your cards right, and possibly change things about yourself to suit their needs in a partner. Having expectations beforehand is an important part of making things work. Even if you do successfully seduce your friend, things can go sour quickly if you don't know where to go from there. Seduction is essentially a form of positive attention, and there isn't a person who doesn't enjoy feeling wanted. Whether they respond well to your seduction is another thing, but you should keep in mind that you friend may already have feelings for you that you haven't noticed yourself. If you go about it in a way that isn't weird or demanding, the gesture can seem affectionate if anything. Unlike trying to date a stranger, there is more of a risk factor in meaning to seduce a friend. For starters, you could ruin your friendship. Even worse, the fallout from it could affect other mutual friendships as well. On the other hand, a friendship that is strong enough can usually survive a failed seduction, provided things are discussed openly.  Cross-reference your expectations with your expected chances and decide for yourself whether you should go through with it. There is no easy answer to a question like this, but it is important that you live with whatever decision you make. Although going for the seduction may seem like the riskier move, staying quiet can result in just as much pain if you really like the person. It should also be said that there are varying degrees of success that relate to your expectations. If you want a relationship but think you'll only get a one night stand at best, it is up for debate whether it is worth it. Likewise, it is also dubious to attempt a one-night stand with someone you think may get emotionally tied to you after the fact. There are a lot of degrees by which you could seduce a friend. You may want to get a full relationship with them, and it's possible you may otherwise prefer a 'friends with benefits'-type situation.  If a 'friends with benefits' arrangement is what you're specifically looking for, it's recommended you try looking for one of your friends that is already open and comfortable with sexuality.
Summary: Consider your chances. Recognize that your friend may already want to be seduced. Determine whether or not a seduction is worth it. Pinpoint your expectations. Decide what you want from your friend.

Problem: Article: It is important to make sure that the person who needs your support feels a sense of confidentiality. An empty room is the best option if it is available. However, an unoccupied corner is sufficient if no rooms are open. Be sure to talk in a low voice, especially if you are in an area where others can potentially walk by and hear.  Reduce distractions as much as possible. Try to select an area that is quiet where you won’t be distracted by the television, radio or other electronic devices. Also, be sure to avoid doing other things like texting or looking through your wallet while the person is talking. An alternative to sitting in a private area would be a “walk and talk.” Instead of sitting in one place, you and the other person could go for a leisurely stroll as you talk. This often allows the person to feel more comfortable discussing their problems. Active listening can also be accomplished over the telephone. However, it is important that you have the conversation when there aren’t a lot of distractions. You can ask the person about what happened or how they're feeling. The key here is to assure them that you’re there to listen. It’s important that the person feels like you are truly interested in hearing what they have to say and that you really want to support them.  Use open-ended questions to help guide the conversation and stir discussion. Good open ended questions will give you a glimpse into what the person is thinking  Your questions should start with words like “How” and “Why” and should evoke discussion rather than one word responses. Some examples of open-ended questions are: “What happened?” “What will you do next?” “How did that make you feel?” Look at the person as they speak to you and give them your undivided attention.  Having your undivided attention will help them feel more valued.  Making eye contact is important so that the person knows that you are listening to them. However, make sure the eye contact isn’t excessive. Be careful that you don’t end up staring. Use open body language and other nonverbal cues to show them that you’re listening.  Try nodding occasionally and smiling when appropriate. Also, be sure that you do not cross your arms because this reflects defensiveness and the person may not respond well to that posture. Demonstrating empathy is a key component to helping someone feel supported. To reflect more empathy, it is important that you clearly understand what the person is trying to communicate. Acknowledging and reflecting back to them what they are saying is a great way to make sure that you understand. They’ll also feel more supported and better understood.  Don’t just repeat back to them the exact same sentence that they state in a robotic fashion. Use paraphrasing to be more conversational in your approach. Just be sure that as you restate what the person is saying, you are using their words.  You could say things like “It sounds like you are saying…” or “What I’m hearing is…” or other similar statements. This helps the person to know that you really are listening. Don’t interrupt the person when they are talking. Instead, show support by allowing them the opportunity to express what they are thinking and feeling without interruption. Only reflect back what they are saying when there is a natural silence in the conversation or when it’s clear that they are waiting for feedback. This is not the time to pass judgment or be critical.  Listening and showing empathy does not mean that you necessarily agree with what the person is saying; rather it is reflecting that you care about them and what they are experiencing. Avoid saying “I told you so,” “It’s really not that big of a deal,” “It can’t be that bad,” “You’re blowing it out of proportion” or other critical or minimizing comments. Your job during this time is simply to show support and empathy.
Summary: Walk to a private area. Ask questions. Listen to the person’s response. Restate what the person is saying.

Problem: Article: You can divide violets at the beginning of spring to allow your violets to propagate further. Cut back the foliage about halfway before dividing to reduce the stress on the plant. Take a cutting near the root and grow them in a pot indoors six to eight weeks before the last frost to have them ready by spring. Because violets are perennials, well-cared-for violets can live longer than two years. At the beginning of spring, add a liquid fertilizer to your soil to ensure your violets have enough nutrients to spring back.
Summary:
Propagate your violets to add to your garden. Fertilize in late autumn with liquid fertilizer.