Article: Accept that you can only change yourself, not your partner. This is perhaps the hardest but most important tenet of a solid relationship. You should never enter a relationship with the plan to "fix" your partner. You need to accept the fact that your partner may never change, and be okay with that. To do otherwise is a guaranteed way to frustrate yourself and alienate your partner.  You may support your partner to make positive changes in their life. But you should never try or need to fundamentally change them. If you cannot accept your partner for who they are, you either need to set boundaries to avoid getting hurt or leave the relationship entirely. Understand that men and women are different. Or for that matter understand that different men and different women are different. Do not unfairly hold your partner up to the standards of an old relationship or of an ideal one. We all know that violence is not an acceptable way to control partner. But know that using guilt or shame is just as damaging. Guilting or shaming to control your partner is emotional abuse. Do not attempt to control your partner. This is an extension of "Do not try to change your partner" step. If you cannot handle compromise then leave the relationship, do not try to control or change your partner to make it work. You do not have to share your partner's every hobby. But you should listen to your partner when they talk about their interests, and give them guilt-free time and space to pursue their interests. While not every emotion is desirable (for example anger, resentment, and frustration), they are all normal. If your partner is angry at something, do not criticize them for being angry -- that cannot be helped. What people are responsible for is how they express their emotions. Anger can be destructive or constructive. You may rightly criticize how emotions are expressed and ask that they be shared in a constructive fashion, but do not critique the emotion itself. Critiquing emotions can lead to your partner feeling guilty, defensive and emotionally withdrawn.  A destructive expression of anger is to yell and throw things. A constructive expression of anger is to talk about one's anger feelings and reach a conclusion. Example: Do not say "Don't be mad" or "You shouldn't be mad". Telling your partner not to feel something is futile and hinders further communication. Your partner cannot help but be mad. Instead say, "I understand you are angry. Can you tell me calmly why?" and work together through dialogue to get to the root of the problem and come to an agreeable solution.
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Do not try to change your partner. Do not control your partner. Support their interests. Don't minimize your partner's emotions.
Article: Visit a local fish or animal store and invest in a fish tank. Leeches are adept at living in close quarters—at the most, about 50 can live comfortably in 1 gallon (3.8 L) of water. However, this ultimately depends on the type of leech and their environment of origin.  In general, 50 leeches at most can live in a 10 gallon (38 L) aquarium. Pond leeches do best with 1 to 2 leeches per gallon. If you catch leeches on your own, use a small dip net to collect them from a pond or remove them gently using forceps. You can also visit a local bait store of science supply shop to buy them. If you buy leeches from a store, ask the staff about what kind of food and space they require. Leaving some space free at the top of the aquarium creates a barrier to stop leeches from escaping. Always use spring water, dechlorinated tap water, or water from the collection site. Never use purified water or chlorinated water—the former is harmful to the leeches' metabolic balance, while the latter contains harmful substances like copper and chlorine.  Be sure that the water is cool and clean. To get rid of chlorinate in tap water, fill a container with the water and let it set for 1 to 2 days. Once the smell of chlorine fades, you're good to go! You can also purchase a water dechlorinator from a home hardware store. A temperature range of 76 to 80 °F (24 to 27 °C) is recommend for most aquariums, but you can widen this range a bit for leeches. In fact, they can tolerate quite a range of temperatures—anywhere from 40 to 80 °F (4 to 27 °C). A submersible or hang-on heater are the best options for temperature maintenance.  For small tanks, make sure the heater is 5 watts per gallon. Larger tanks require about 3 watts per gallon. Keep an eye on your tank's temperature regularly and adjust the heater as necessary to keep it within the proper range. You can pour more if you'd like, but around 2 inches (5.1 cm) is a standard amount. This gives your leeches places to hide. You can also add shells and plants for some variety!  If you get your leeches from the pond, take some plants from the area around it and add them to your tank. Purchase shells and plants for your tank from pet stores. Gently pour your leeches into the tank. If you have a small amount, you can also place them in one-by-one with forceps. Always secure the top of your tank with a tight-fitting lid, such as a screen lid. Leeches have the ability to lengthen their bodies and squeeze through small openings—never skip the lid! Purchase a screen lid from a local pet store or online supplier.
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Purchase a glass tank that is at least 1⁄2 gallon (1.9 L) large. Catch your leeches from a pond or buy them from a bait store. Fill the fish tank 75 percent of the way with water from a pond or stream. Keep your tank's temperature between 60 to 70 °F (16 to 21 °C). Pour 2 inches (5.1 cm) of gravel into the bottom of the tank to create hiding places. Put your leeches in the tank and cover it with a tight-fitting lid to prevent them from escaping.