This is the best way to relieve your cramp.  If the cramp is in your calf, stand on the cramping leg with your knee bent. If you are unable to stand, sit down with your leg straight and pull the top of your foot towards your head. Applying pressure can be a simple way to bring your cramped muscle into a relaxed position.  This will also stretch your hamstring if it is cramping.  If your quadricep (front of your thigh) is cramping, support yourself with a chair and pull the cramping leg towards your buttocks.  Hold each stretch for 30 seconds and then release.  Repeat as needed. Stretching should never be painful.  In addition to stretching, it may be helpful to walk around or jiggle your leg.  You can also apply pressure to the cramping muscle.  Use your hands to make circular motions in the cramping muscle. If your muscle feels tense or tight, applying heat can provide some relief. Put a heating pad or warm towel on the cramping muscle.  You can also take a hot bath or shower. The heat will help your muscle relax.  If you use a bath, shower, or whirlpool, the water should be warm but not too hot. Massaging your muscle with ice may also help with the pain. Ice can also be applied if your muscle is sore or tender after the cramping has stopped. Wrap the ice pack using a thin towel, so that you don’t cause any injury due to excessively low temperatures, such as a frostbite.  Allow the ice to remain on your muscle for 20 minutes and then remove the ice for 20 minutes before reapplying.  Freeze water in a Dixie cup and use it to massage your muscle.  You should massage the area until it is numb.
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One-sentence summary -- Stretch and massage the cramping muscle. Apply heat  to your muscle. Apply cold to your muscle.


However, make it clear that you don't want to feel pressured to take sides.  Ask your parents to refrain from making disparaging comments about your other parent. However, since you are older and less impressionable, this may not be as big of an issue. You'll need to work this out for yourself. Discuss this approach with your siblings. Remember that previous divorces, especially where there were custody battles, may have made your parents bitter and offensive about the divorce process. They may have experienced divorce as children, and therefore have certain worries and fears about their own divorce based on that childhood experience. Ask your siblings to do the same. Ask that everyone remain calm and accepting of what is happening; remind people that this intimate relationship is between two people and as much as all of you might want things to be different, it is inappropriate for any of you to goad your parents into legal spats. You may be needed to help sort and move property. You may be needed for moral support. You and your siblings may need to help a parent arrange for lawn care, help with laundry, etc. if that was something your other parent maintained.  After divorce, the status of these documents changes and they must be updated for the protection of all concerned. Your parents may have avoided that conversation with you since you were the child and assumed the spouse would take care of those arrangements.  Find out where your parents want to be buried. Ask if there are family burial plots that have been purchased. If the divorce will exclude a parent from the plot ask the parent where he/she would like to be buried. If either parent has medical problems you should try to attend a doctor's appointment with that parent. Get an understanding of the condition, the medications and make sure the doctor's office changes the next of kin listed on the file. Make sure you spend time with each parent and do your best not to exclude the other parent from holiday plans or other events.  Perhaps move family gatherings to your home or siblings house instead of your parents' home. If you do visit a parent who doesn't cook, offer to cook something there or make it potluck. Consider having your mother over for lunch on a holiday and your father over for dinner.
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One-sentence summary -- Let your parents know that you will be as supportive as you can. Keep in mind prior experiences. Don't encourage aggressive legal behavior. Ask how you can help. Ask if you and/or your siblings need to attend meetings with attorneys or financial planners. Suggest that your parents revise their wills, medical powers of attorney, etc. Discuss with your parents any medical wishes or other long term care details that would have previously been the decision of the spouse. Discuss holiday plans, events for the grandchildren and other family gatherings with your siblings. Plan a trip or vacation with one or both of your parents that may allow them to try something new.


Look for the main volume control on the bottom right side of the mixer, which is usually labeled “Main Mix” or something similar. The faders are knobs or sliders that control the volumes of individual inputs found along the bottom of the mixer and are either knobs or sliders. If the controls are knobs, turn them counterclockwise until they don’t go any further. If the controls are sliders, pull them down as far as you can to lower the volume.  If you turn on the mixer without turning the volume and faders down, you could create loud feedback or damage the mixer. The main volume control and faders usually have a different color than the other controls so you can easily tell them apart. XLR cables are used to plug microphones in, and the ends have 3 pins inside a metal cylinder. Your mixer will either have XLR ports along the top edge or on the back side of the mixer. Plug the end of the XLR cable into the microphone you’re using. Put the other end of the XLR cable in one of the ports on the mixer that has 3 small holes inside a circle The number above the port determines the input channel, which is a column on your mixer with knobs that controls that single input.  You can buy XLR cables from a music supply store or online. The number of inputs you can have on your mixer depends on how many channels it has. An 8-channel mixer can have up to 8 different inputs while a 32-channel mixer can have 32 sources. The line inputs on your mixer are found near the XLR ports for each channel and fit 6.35 mm audio jacks. Plug the end of your audio cable into the instrument you’re hooking up. Then choose a channel on your mixer that doesn’t have another cable attached to it, and attach the other end of the audio cable to the line input. The number above the input tells you which channel controls the audio for the instrument.  You cannot plug an instrument into a line input on a channel that already has an XLR cable plugged into it. You can also buy audio cables for instruments that attach to a mixer with an XLR cable. Either will work for your audio. TRS cables are a balanced audio source, meaning you’ll get less feedback and noise from your inputs, and they look like 6.35 mm headphone jacks on the end. Locate the master output ports near the top of the mixer or on the side by the other ports. Plug one of the cables into the port labeled “L” and a second cable in the port labeled “R.” Run the cables to your audio interface and plug them into the matching input ports on the back of the interface.  You can get an audio interface and TRS cables online or from a music store. Interfaces allow you to play the audio from your mixer through speaker monitors or on a computer. Listening to your mixer through headphones allows you to hear the levels clearly so you can tweak them later on. Use a 6.35 mm headphone jack to plug in your headphones to the mixer. Make sure the headphone cord doesn’t tangle around any of the knobs. You don’t need to use headphones if you don’t want to. The power switch is usually on the back of the mixer or on the top right by the other knobs. Check that all of the volume and fader controls are still turned down before flipping the switch to turn it on. You will see a light turn on as soon as the power is connected. Some mixers may have a switch labeled “phantom” which supplies electricity to microphones that require it. If you have a microphone that uses phantom power, also turn on the switch.
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Turn the master volume and channel faders down completely. Plug microphones into channels using XLR cables. Attach instruments to the line inputs on your mixer. Connect the mixer output to an audio interface with TRS cables to use monitors. Plug headphones into the “Phones” port on the mixer. Turn on your mixer using the power switch.