Confidence has been shown to influence performance in a number of areas. A lack of confidence on your part will affect your entire disposition and others will be able to pick up on this in your mannerisms.    Build your self-confidence. Thinking positively, daily affirmations and not comparing yourself to others all help build the self-confidence needed to be your most attractive self. Though some women enjoy seeing a man take charge, don’t assume that every woman will be as receptive. There is a fine line between taking charge and simply demonstrating confidence in yourself and actions. . Nothing drives women (or anyone) away like a man who is arrogant and rude. Give respect not only to her, but to those around you as well.  Avoid pickup lines and being overly forward. This gives the impression that you are only interested in something physical. For example: “I lost my number. Can I have yours?” Open doors and pay for the check if you are inclined, but don’t be offended if the woman would rather you not act chivalrous toward her. Acts of chivalry suppose a level of inequality or difference between man and woman – many women prefer to be treated as equals. If a woman expresses her opinion or desire, don't try to change her mind. Respect her as a person. Some guys aggressively follow and hit on women. This is called 'Chasing' and it is a major turn off for most women. If you ask a girl what she wants to do on a date and she doesn't give a definitive answer, plan something! Anything you choose will be better than indecisive meandering. Suggestions you offer might spark suggestions of her own.  For example, you might say: "Hey, I just remembered there's a new art exhibit opening down the street. Want to check it out?" Bars, coffee shops or parks are all great suggestions for activities. . People can’t help but remember a charming individual. Someone with charm can win over nearly anyone with a friendly, magnetic personality.   Try wit. Injecting some wit into the conversation demonstrates that you are clever and have a certain wry intelligence that everyone wishes they could possess. Be careful not to push wittiness at the cost the conversation – it’s easy to come off as callous or conceited if you spend the entire time quipping.  Have a sense of humor. Everyone loves to laugh! Start small to test the sense of humor of the person you are with. Crossing the line of good taste is an easy way to tank your reputation and destroy any credibility that you have built. Avoid making light of particularly sensitive topics. These include sexuality, politics or religion. Find out their favorite movie, their ideal date, her hobbies or what kind of upbringing she had. You want to know her as a person, and a good topic can invite discovery on both ends of the conversation. A few good conversation starters include:  ”How did college treat you? I never thought I would get out of there.” “What did you want to be growing up? Do you think college gave you that opportunity?” ”Have you lived here long? I think it has its ups and downs.” ”Ever thought about moving out of state? Where would you go?” Show that you have caring side, whether it be for your family or your friends. Even if you lay the wit on thick, knowing that you are an individual capable of actual joy or love makes you a much more attractive person.  Help others nearby who are in need of assistance. Such opportunities are numerous and can help demonstrate your propensity for helping others. For example, help someone who needs help reaching the top shelf at a store, or assist someone who appears lost and needs directions. Offer to pay for a meal or hold the door for a date. Do so out of the kindness of your heart though – not because of set expectations from either party. Say “Please” and “Thank you.” Basic manners go a long way in demonstrating respectfulness. Don't be kind to your date and rude to everyone else – this will be noticeable! Gifts such as chocolates or flowers can help woo some women, but remember they are gifts. Women do not owe you anything in exchange for these gifts. No one wants to be around someone who whines, begs or gets angry that something didn’t go their way, or feels entitled to reciprocation. Despite your efforts, not every woman will be interested. This is okay! We all have our preferences and you may not be everyone’s cup of tea. If your wiles aren’t working on a particular woman, she is probably not interested. You can’t be everything to everyone. Though you might tailor your approach to someone based on how they appear, don’t change who you are as a result of failure. This is dishonest and shows a lack of confidence.

Summary: Be confident. Show respect Take initiative without taking over. Be charming Make real conversation. Be kind. Don't have unreasonable expectations. Know when to walk away.


Once you become licensed, you should decide where in Michigan you want to settle. If you like the hustle of urban life, you may be interested in helping businesses find a home in revitalized Detroit. If luxury and the outdoors are more your speed, you might be more interested in helping ski buffs find their perfect winter lodge in the Upper Peninsula. Commercial real estate will give you a lot of opportunities to visit different parts of the state, helping business owners find the perfect spot for their operation. You might help a Michelin-star chef find a spot for a new restaurant in Ann Arbor one day and settle a nonprofit into a warehouse space in Detroit the next! Residential real estate agents tend to focus on one area, becoming intimately familiar with the different neighborhoods, school districts, and other local amenities. By studying an area, you'll be able to recommend the perfect suburban starter home for a young family or a chic downtown loft for a busy professional. When you're first getting started, you can start building your portfolio by asking the people closest to you if they know anyone who is looking to buy a home. Your broker will also help you come into contact with potential clients. You may come across some buyers from out of the area who are thinking of relocating to Michigan but who are hesitant to take on lake effect snow. If this is the case, show them brochures of idyllic snow-covered landscapes, describe cozy white Christmases, and let them know that they'll adapt to the weather more easily than they think. Although Detroit was hit hard in the last recession, there's a reason it's now being called America's Great Comeback City. If you have a potential buyer who is wary about settling in Motor City, show them the new businesses that are helping the local economy to grow, especially around Midtown.
Summary: Study the real estate market in different areas of Michigan. Choose to work in commercial real estate if you love to travel. Focus on residential real estate if you want to focus on one location. Build your portfolio by reaching out to your friends and family. Encourage buyers to embrace Michigan winters. Show clients the revitalization in Detroit if they are wary about its past.