There are a number of apps, websites, and software packages that feature BPM calculators. In many cases, you use the calculator by tapping a button along with the beat of the song. The calculator then totals up the BPM based on your taps.  Do a search online or in your app store for “music BPM calculator” or “music BPM counter” to find a variety of user-friendly options. A few good options include apps like BPM Tap and Tap Tempo, and online beat counters like the one at Beatsperminuteonline.com. Some BPM counters are designed to analyze the BPM of a track automatically, with no input from you. Do a search using terms like “BPM analyzer” or “MP3 to BPM” online or in your app store.  Try programs like the MixMeister BPM Analyzer or the BeatGauge BPM Detector for iTunes. If you’re getting frustrated with software solutions or your own attempts to count BPM, there’s always a chance that someone else has already done the work for you! There are several BPM databases available that provide data on many of the most popular tracks. Search for the title of your song to see if a matching track comes up. A few options include:  Tunebat.com Songbpm.com BPMdatabase.com
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One-sentence summary -- Search for a beats-per-minute calculator and tap in your beats. Try an MP3 to BPM calculator to automatically analyze your song. Look for your song in a BPM database.


Clearly state to the harasser the specific thing they are doing and that the behavior is inappropriate. For example, say, “Do not whistle at me, that is harassment,”,"I am not comfortable by the way you are touching me. Stop! That is harassment" or “Do not touch my butt. That is sexual harassment.”  Attack the behavior, not the person. Tell them what they are doing that you do not like (“You are standing too close”) rather than blaming them as a person (“You are such a jerk”). Avoid cursing, name-calling, put-downs, and other actions that may escalate the situation unnecessarily. Avoid making statements of opinion such as, “I’d like it if you didn’t touch me.” This can invite further conversation. Provide alternatives if necessary, such as, “You are standing too close. Please give me 3 feet of personal space.” If the person continues the unwanted behavior, it might be time to break off contact. Tell the person that you expect them to stay away, and that you will no longer be answering correspondence. Be clear that if the person continues harassing you, you will take steps to put a stop to it.  You might say, “Your behavior is making me uncomfortable. Please don’t contact me again. If you do, I will call the police.” Do not get into a dialogue with the harasser, or try to reason with them, or answer their questions. You do not need to respond to diversions, questions, threats, blaming, or guilt-tripping. If the harasser is someone you have to see frequently—say, someone at school or someone who works with you—you can still set boundaries that make sense for your situation. Tell the person to stop hanging out by your desk or approaching you at lunchtime, for example. If the person tries to get in touch, don't answer their calls, emails, or texts. At this point, you've made your position clear, so if the person continues to contact you, they are explicitly going against the boundaries you've laid out. This way you'll ensure the harasser no longer has access to you or the information you share with other people. Delete the person from your phone, and set up a block on that number if possible. Unfriend the person from your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other accounts.  There’s a chance the person may try to friend or follow you again using a different identity. Closely screen new connections and verify their identity before accepting any requests. If the person has posted something disparaging about you, you can flag the post and alert the staff (of Facebook, Twitter, etc.) so that the post will be removed.
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Name the behavior and state that it is wrong. Tell the person to stop contacting you. Voice your boundaries with someone you'll see often. Stop answering the person's calls, emails, and other messages. Remove the person from your phone and social media accounts.