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Don’t put yourself in danger, even if your mother needs help. You can call the police or an adult to help with the situation; don’t feel 100% responsible for taking care of your mother or doing what she says when she’s under the influence. If she asks you to do something unsafe, find an alternative.  If your mother wants to drive you somewhere while under the influence, try to find another ride or call a cab. Ask another friend or family member to intervene if your mother is attempting to do something unsafe. An argument with your mother while she’s under the influence will get you nowhere. If she starts becoming agitated or picking a fight, gently deflect the comments or say that you can talk about it tomorrow. If she becomes really angry or really wanting to fight, involve someone else in the situation for your safety, or remove yourself from the situation. If the situation escalates, you can call the police. Especially if your mother is under the influence, any derogatory remarks won’t improve the situation but may actually escalate things. You may feel really upset, frustrated or angry with your mother, but now is not the time to express these feelings. Save that discussion for when you are both calm and can talk about your feelings honestly and openly. If you start to preach, punish or threaten your mother, ask yourself what’s motivating these actions. You’re likely angry, and taking it out in this way won’t help you or your mother. Find healthy outlets for your anger, like journaling, playing basketball, or going for a walk. It’s not your responsibility to take care of your mother, your family, or the house on your own. If you start taking over her responsibilities, you may take away her sense of importance or her dignity. If you find yourself doing these things, it’s time to have a discussion with her about how things have changed. It can be hard to see your mother let go of her responsibilities as drugs take over her life. Remember it’s not your job to pick up the pieces. It’s more important to encourage your mother to get treatment.

summary: Be safe. Avoid arguing with her while under the influence. Don’t threaten, bribe, or preach to your mother. Remember that you’re not responsible to take care of your mother.


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This is hard to do in a world with so many competing demands. Good parents consciously plan and devote time to parenting. They make developing their child’s character their top priority. Once you're a parent, you have to learn to put your priorities below your children's, and to make the sacrifice. Of course, you shouldn't neglect yourself completely, but you should get accustomed to the idea of putting your child's needs first.  If you have a spouse, then you can take turns caring for the child so each of you can have some "me time." When you plan your weekly routine, your child's needs should be your primary focus. Try to unplug from the digital world and other non-familial obligations when you're spending time with your children. Your 15 year old will particular appreciate this. Helping to nurture a love for the written word will help your child to develop a love for reading later on. Set a time for reading for your child every day -- typically around bedtime or nap time. Spend at least half an hour to an hour reading to your child each day, if not more. Not only will your child develop a love for words, but your child will have a better chance of both academic and behavioral success. Studies show that children that were read to on a daily basis demonstrate less bad behavior in school.  Once your child starts learning to read or write, let your child take over. Don't correct his or her mistakes every two seconds, or your child will get discouraged. It's fine to reread your child's favorite stories. This can help them develop fluency if your child enjoys what you're reading. One of the most dangerous trends in the modern family is the dying of the family meal. The dinner table is not only a place of sustenance and family business but also a place for the teaching and passing on of our values. Manners and rules are subtly absorbed over the table. Family mealtime should communicate and sustain ideals that children will draw on throughout their lives.  If your child is a picky eater, don't spend dinner time criticizing your child's eating habits and watching what he or she doesn't eat like a hawk. This will lead your child to have a negative association with family meals. Get your child involved in the meal. Dinner will be more fun if your child "helps" you pick out food at the grocery store or helps you set up the table or to do small food-related tasks, such as washing the vegetables you will cook. An older child can obviously handle more than vegetable washing. Involve all the family in menu planning for the family. Keep dinner conversation open and light. Don't give your child the third-degree. Simply ask, "How was your day?" This is also the time to model sharing details about your day. Doing so will help you get more detailed information from your child without being overbearing. Try serving family-style meals, where your children get to choose portions and what meal components are on their plate. This is a great chance to teach them healthy eating habits that can last a lifetime. Though your child doesn't have to go to bed during the same five-minute stretch every single night, you should set a bedtime routine that your child can follow and stick to it. Studies show that children's cognitive abilities can drop two full grade levels after just one missed hour of sleep, so it's important that they get as much rest as they can before you send them to school.  Your routine should include some winding-down time. Turn off the TV, music, or any electronics, and either talk to your child softly in bed or read to them. Don't give your child sugary snacks right before bed or it'll be harder to get them to sleep. Though you don't have to sign your child up for ten different activities each week, you should find at least one or two activities that your child loves to do and incorporate them into your child's weekly routine. This can be anything from soccer to art class -- it really doesn't matter, as long as your child shows a talent or a love for something. Tell your child what a great job he's doing and encourage him to keep going.  Taking your child to different lessons will also help him or her socialize with other children. Don't get lazy. If your child complains that she doesn't want to go to piano lessons, but you know she likes it deep down, don't give in just because you don't feel like driving over there. "Play time" does not mean having your child sit in front of the TV and suck on a building block while you do the dishes. "Play time" means letting your child sit in his room or play area and to actively engage with stimulating toys while you help him explore their possibilities. Though you may be tired, it's important that you show your child the benefits of playing with his toys so he gets the stimulation he needs and so he learns to play with them on his own. It doesn't matter if you don't have 80 million toys for your child to play with. It's the quality, not the quantity of the toys that counts. And you may find that your child's favorite toy of the month is an empty toilet paper roll.
summary: Put parenting first. Read to your child every day. Eat dinner as a family. Set a strict bedtime routine. Encourage your child to develop skills each week. Give your child enough play time every day.