It is much easier to have a collaborative approach to the divorce. It's also less expensive if you and your husband are able to settle your issues without legal involvement.   If it is not possible to keep a lawyer out of it, make sure you hire an attorney that is willing to litigate your case before a judge. The attorney should know the value of settling the divorce quickly, but he should also be willing to fight for you in court should the need arise. Interview at least three attorneys before you decide on one. Look for a divorce attorney who has at least 5-10 years experience practicing family and divorce law. You need a clear picture of where you and your spouse stand financially. One of the main goals of a divorce is to have an equitable distribution of marital assets and debts. To get your fair share, you need to know what is owned by you and your husband and what is owed by you and your husband. To do this:   Make a list of all possible assets that you own or partly own. Some shared marital assets are obvious. The marital home and any financial accounts and vehicles are assets that should be split equitably. Other assets might include artwork, pension plans, inheritances, or belongings brought into the marriage. Gather all documentation for each asset, including present value, when and where the asset was purchased, and whether it was purchased with joint or separate funds. Turn over all documentation to your attorney and keep a copy for yourself. Determine the debt in your marriage. When determining what you owe, it doesn't matter whose name any debts are in. Marital debt will be split based on who is more financially able to pay the debt, not by whose name the debt is in. The easiest way to determine marital debt is to get a copy of your credit report. Turn this information over to your attorney as well. Determine your income. If you and your husband are salaried employees, give your attorney a copy of your most recent pay stubs and your most recent Income Tax Return. It's important that you figure out how you are going to live once you are divorced.   Think about your living costs, and how much income you will have after the divorce. Some women experience a major drop income post divorce. So avoid getting dinged with bills you can't pay by creating a budget for yourself. Figuring out your expenses post-divorce will also influence how you negotiate your divorce settlement. Your attorney can use this information to determine your settlement options or what you may ask for if your case goes to court.
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One-sentence summary -- Get an attorney. Gather your financial information. Prepare a post-divorce budget.

Q: Cats don't enjoy loud or surprising noises. Try to minimize loud sounds when you enter the cat's space for the first time. If you have crinkly shopping or grocery bags with you, for example, leave them outside, so you don't frighten the cat. If you are bringing loud or rambunctious children into the house, ask them to be quiet or take them to another part of the house where they can wait with a trusted adult. People tower over cats, and sometimes a cat may get underfoot by accident. If appropriate, remove your shoes so you don't risk stepping on the cat's tail. Some shoes, particularly high heels, make loud sounds when you walk. Removing them will also help keep the environment quiet and stress-free for the cat. Direct eye contact can be intimidating for cats or even be interpreted as a sign of aggression. Avoid looking directly at the cat, and instead ignore them when first entering their space. The specific cat's temperament will play a large part in whether they want to interact with you or not. If the owner is around, ask them if their cat is typically friendly or if they prefer their space. You could say, “I love cats. Is your cat usually interested in meeting new people?”
A: Minimize loud noises. Remove your shoes, if appropriate. Avoid eye contact with the cat. Ask the owner if their cat is typically friendly to strangers or not.

Article: When you're nervous, it can be tempting to dance around the subject. However, it is important to make your point clear early in the conversation. Otherwise, your parents might grow confused or frustrated.  A good opening line could be, "Do you two have time to talk? I have something important to tell you about my sexuality." You might also choose to wait until you are actually sitting down to talk and say, "I want to let you know that I am gay. I hope that you can support me in being who I am." Coming out is an emotional experience for you. Try to understand that your parents might be feeling emotional, too. For example, if your dad cries, don't immediately take that as a sign of rejection. He's allowed to process emotions, too.  If your mom says she needs time to think, allow her some space. There is a difference between showing empathy and letting people hurt you. If there is any kind of abuse in response to what you've shared (such as insults or verbal abuse), walk away. If you have made arrangements with a supportive friend or family member, go to their house so they can help you through this difficult time. . The best conversations are ones in which everyone contributes and participates. Obviously, you have a lot you want to tell your parents. But remember that they deserve a chance to speak, too. Show that you are willing to listen. Maintain eye contact. You can also avoid defensive postures, such as crossing your arms. In most cases, this will be a very emotional conversation. And remember, it is completely fine to show your emotions. However, remember that you might make more progress if you are able to do so calmly.  Instead of yelling, "Why won't you listen to me!?" try calmly saying, "It makes me feel frustrated when you keep interrupting me." Try taking a deep breath before speaking. It's also fine to take a little time to think about what you want to say next before speaking. This is your news and you want to feel in control of the situation. Remember, your parents do not have the right to verbally abuse you. If you find yourself being shamed or yelled at, you can end the conversation. You can say, "I understand this is emotional for you, but I will not listen to these hateful words. Please let me know if you would like to continue this conversation when you calm down."
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Be direct. Show empathy. Actively listen Remain calm. Keep the conversation on your terms.

Article: In general, it’s best to wait until your son or daughter has developed a strong pincer grasp and can use the spoon relatively well. At that point, you can introduce the fork. Most children are ready by fifteen to eighteen months or so. To begin, select a fork made for young children, with rounded tips and a lighter weight. These are both safer and easier for a toddler to use successfully. Offer larger pieces of food that are fairly easy to pierce and hold with a fork: cubes of cheese work well, as do some kinds of cooked vegetables, meats, and pastas. Avoid foods that are too small, crumbly, or slippery. You don’t want to frustrate your child unnecessarily. In the beginning, you may need to take your child’s hand and demonstrate how to pierce and pick up a piece of food. Once your toddler is two or so, it’s fine to encourage fork-eating, but don’t worry if your child continues to prefer using his or her fingers. You can wait until the preschool years to start pushing harder for better table manners. Again, let your toddler know that you are impressed with his or her new skills.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Wait until your toddler is ready. Choose the right fork. Start with foods that are easy to pierce. Help your child use the fork. Encourage eating with the fork. Praise your child’s efforts.