Q: There are different ways people are shy. You can be shy in more than one way. Seeing the forms of your shyness can help you focus your effort to overcome it. If you are not a medical professional qualified to diagnose psychological conditions, then you will need to see one in order to find out which of these apply to you:  Anxious shyness includes not just social anxiety, but also extends to social phobias. These conditions can be managed by a therapist, psychiatrist or other properly licensed individual. Introversion gets often cited in cases of shyness. Shyness related to introversion is very common, and may exhibit itself in roughly 50% of the population to some degree or other. This is a personality trait, and can be managed with regulated extroversion (building extroverted skills and traits). Record your experiences of shyness and your attempts to be outgoing. Write down how you feel and as many details as you can remember. You can look at your journal later to see if any strong patterns emerge.  Make this a daily habit, if possible. Incorporate it into your routine. Give yourself a treat for completing a journal entry to solidify it into your daily routine. Be honest with yourself. If you catch yourself trying to rationalize what you're saying, chances are, you could dig a bit deeper into the true meaning of what you're trying to express. Instead, try and state it as plainly as possible. Pay special attention to how you feel. Mark your emotions when you feel them. This way you can take control of your feelings. What you choose to do can have a big impact on how much you interact with other people. Staying at home instead of going out means there will be very little opportunity to socialize. When you do this all the time, you get used to it. Ditch your mobile phone.  Leave it at home when you go out. Put it in the freezer or microwave (no cooking) for a few hours, until you forget about it. You're more likely to talk to other people.
A: Determine how your shyness works. Keep a dated journal. Watch for isolating habits.

Q: Prepare the child for the day's activities at home or at school by writing out a schedule. You can either include the whole day's schedule, or you can focus on a few activities at a time and update the schedule as you go. If the child can read, use words on paper or a white board. If not, use photographs or pictures. If you want to use them multiple times, consider laminating them and adding Velcro to attach them to a numbered schedule strip. Experiment with different kinds of pictures and symbols to see what the child understands best. Try to use some pictures of the actual child doing the planned activities, if possible.     {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/8a\/Visual-checklist-schedule.JPG\/460px-Visual-checklist-schedule.JPG","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/8\/8a\/Visual-checklist-schedule.JPG\/420px-Visual-checklist-schedule.JPG","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":612,"bigWidth":"421","bigHeight":"560","licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"} Excitedly talk them through it. As much as possible, provide choices about the activities. If the child expresses dissatisfaction with any of the events, try to change the difficult parts, or if that isn't possible, explain why, using appropriate language. For those non-preferred activities, remind the child about the good parts (for example, the fun activity that comes afterwards, or the snack they can enjoy during it). Refer to it as you prepare for transitions. If it's a written schedule, have the child cross off the completed tasks. If you're using a reusable picture schedule, have the child remove the pictures corresponding to completed tasks. For children who might need more reminders about upcoming tasks during transitions, use a two-step schedule to supplement or replace the day's schedule. You can write this out on paper or use a laminated schedule card with Velcro-backed pictures.  For example, it can read, "First: Work Time, Then: Free Time" with pictures that hold meaning for the child. Walk them through it verbally during transitions. If necessary, offer the child a reward for completing the transition (for example, a small treat, a few moments with a preferred toy, or tickles or hugs). If the child has lots of difficulty with transitions, consider implementing a token system whereby they can earn tokens or stickers for transitioning calmly to new activities. When they earn a certain number of tokens, provide a preferred reward or activity, like a sweet treat, a fun prize, or free time alone.     {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/d\/d2\/Basic-Rewards-Token-Chart.JPG\/460px-Basic-Rewards-Token-Chart.JPG","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/d\/d2\/Basic-Rewards-Token-Chart.JPG\/728px-Basic-Rewards-Token-Chart.JPG","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":353,"bigWidth":"728","bigHeight":"559","licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>License: <a rel=\"nofollow\" class=\"external text\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-sa\/3.0\/\">Creative Commons<\/a><br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
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Make a schedule. Go through the schedule with the child at the start of the day or series of events. Use the schedule throughout the day. Consider using a "first-then" schedule. Use motivators and rewards.