Put on gloves, protective eyewear, and long sleeves and trousers before handling the blacktop. Check the product label for safety instructions. Blacktop (asphalt) repair products come in a couple different varieties. The asphalt pothole patching material is the best choice for missing chunks of asphalt (potholes), and for depressions deeper than 2 inches (5 cm). You'll want a cold pour product for home repairs, since hot pour products require specialized machines. You can skip this step to save on labor, but the patching material will create a stronger, longer-lasting bond in a hole with vertical edges. An asphalt saw is the easiest way to achieve this, but you can use a hammer and chisel to break the edges of the hole instead. Clean away any dust and broken asphalt created by this process. Pour it directly from the bag until you've added a ½ to 1" (1.25 to 2.5 cm) layer throughout the hole. For larger holes, spread the material around with a rake or shovel. It's not a problem if the material spills over onto the surrounding surface. Push the patching material down with a pothole tamper, vibrating plater, lawn roller, or any other heavy object. For a large area, you can oil a piece of plywood to prevent sticking, then place it oiled side down over the patch. Drive over the plywood to compact the material underneath. Continue applying and compacting layers of patching material until the hole is level with the surrounding driveway. Using layers no thicker than 1" (2.5cm) will help prevent air spaces from forming and weakening the repair. Applying an asphalt sealer over the repair will make it more durable. However, you can only apply the sealer in certain conditions:  Wait at least 4 hours for the patch to cure, or as directed on the label instructions.  Wait until the weather is at least 60ºF (16ºC), the driveway is dry, and you don't expect rain. If the sealer gets wet before it cures, some of the patching material may be washed away.
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One-sentence summary -- Wear protective clothing. Select a cold pour pothole patching material. Cut the hole to form straight edges. Pour on a layer of patching material. Tamp it down. Repeat until the hole is filled. Seal the area when conditions allow.


Choose a place where you can talk uninterrupted. To keep tempers and voices down, it may be a good idea to meet in a public place such as a coffee shop or restaurant. Let them know the reason you're asking them to meet. For instance, you might say, “We really need to talk about what happened the other day. Can we get together tomorrow after class?” It's unfair to try to jump straight into the resolution phase if your friends haven't said their piece. Grant them the opportunity to vent their frustrations and explain what you did to make them so mad. Use this as a learning experience to help you sidestep similar issues in the future. It can be tough to listen to someone spell out your wrongdoing, even when it's true. However, the key is to not get defensive or angry here. Interrupting, excusing, or defending will only make matters worse. It's important to remember that when someone says you've hurt them, you don't get to say that you didn't. So, hear them out. Aim for empathy by trying to separate the current situation from how you view yourself as a person. Take a moment to step out of your own point-of-view and into your friend's. Chances are, what they are saying may have some truth to it. As you listen to your friends say all that they are upset about, try to step into their shoes. How would you feel if the same thing had been done to you? Once they've stated their grievances, try to validate their feelings. This helps mend fences by showing that they are not crazy for feeling the way they do. Let them know that their reaction makes sense to you and that they are right to be angry. You might say something like, “You know, I can see why you're angry”, or “I can see that I really hurt your feelings.”
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Ask your friends to meet up. Give them a chance to share their feelings. Listen and stay calm. Try to step into their shoes. Validate how they feel.