Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Make a list of what you need. Rate the importance of each need. Write down a list of people who could help you. Match each person with one specific need. Recognize that it is healthy and smart to ask for help.

Answer: It’s normal to feel overwhelmed in general and just want some help. However, you’ll be better prepared to ask for help if you can clearly articulate your needs. For example, maybe you’ve recently had surgery and need a lot of help just getting things done. Your list might look like this:  Go to the grocery store Take the kids to dentist appointments Walk the dog Help with depression Assign a number from 1-10 to each need. A 10 means that this task is essential, a 1 means that it is not that important. This will help you figure out your most pressing needs. You can start with getting help for those, and then work your way down the list. For example, it’s normal to struggle with depression after a surgery. That would be rated a 10, since it can impact your ability to take care of other needs. While it might seem daunting to ask for help, remember that there are likely plenty of people in your life who will be more than happy to help you. Start with family and close friends and then think about other parts of your network. Your list might include:  Your partner Your siblings Your children Your best friend Your neighbors Now it is time to compare your lists. Choose which person to ask for help with each task. Maybe your sister is a therapist. Ask her for some ideas about how to cope with depression. If your kids are old enough, they can walk the dog. Ask your partner to take a break from work to make sure the kids get to the dentist. Ask your neighbor if they would mind picking up a few things at the grocery store the next time they make a run. Choose people based on their abilities and their relationship to you. This is called delegating tasks. Delegating tasks to people you trust can help you reduce stress, especially in times when you need extra help. It is important to remember that it is not weak to ask for help. In fact, it shows that you are strong enough to voice your own needs. You won’t be able to do much good for others if you don’t ask for the help you need. It’s also smart to ask for help. If you don’t, you might find your situation worsening instead of getting better.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Create a buffer between yourself and others. Listen to your iPod. Stop talking. Plan ahead. Flush the toilet.

Answer: If you’re uncomfortable peeing in public one easy way to at least trick yourself into believing you’re alone is to keep an empty stall or urinal between yourself and any other bathroom users. If you’re uncomfortable peeing in front of your partner, this may simply mean that you close the door while you're in the bathroom, or wait until your partner is in another part of your home. Sometimes the thing that bothers people most is the sound of peeing.  But if you aren’t able to hear your own peeing, you might not be so embarrassed.  When in a public washroom, put your headphones on and listen to some music.  Turn it up loud enough so you can’t hear anything else going on in the washroom. Consider putting a radio or Bluetooth speaker in the bathroom at home.  Make it a habit of turning it on whenever you go into the bathroom.  The music will help distract you from the sound of your peeing and possibly prevent your partner from hearing it. When some people walk into a public washroom they sometimes continue to have conversations.  This tends to continue more often when men or boys pee at urinals.  If it helps, remember that peeing is totally natural, and urinals are very efficient.  Or if you’d prefer to do your business in private, use a stall instead of a urinal. The opposite might be possible if you’re at home or at a urinal with your father/son/brother/etc.  Continuing your conversation while you go to the bathroom might make the whole process seem more comfortable and ‘normal’. Many large event locations (e.g. arenas, stadiums, conference centres, malls, etc.) have maps of their buildings online that include the location of the washrooms.  And some cities even have maps of all public washrooms available in city buildings, parks, etc.  Before going out, research where the public washrooms are so you can be proactive about using them rather than waiting for it to be an emergency.You can also keep track of the public washrooms you use and always go back to your favourites.  Some washrooms that are easier to use are those that have partitions all the way to the floor, or are single person washrooms. While not the most environmentally-friendly option, if you’re nervous about the sound of your peeing in a public washroom, flush the toilet while you’re going.  The sound of the flush will usually drown out the sound of the peeing. Alternatively, wait until someone else has flushed a toilet or is running a tap to wash their hands.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Apologize if you mess up. Don't out them to others. Think twice before you ask personal questions. Avoid evaluating their gender presentation. Treat them like a person first.

Answer: If you say the wrong name or pronoun, or use wrongly-gendered language, correct yourself and say that you're sorry. It's better to apologize immediately if you can. Stay calm—if you get flustered, you are more likely to make the same mistake again. Take a deep breath.  You might say, "I'm sorry, 'he.' I apologize." If you miss the chance to apologize in the moment, find a private moment later to say that you are sorry. You might say, "I just wanted to apologize for using the wrong name for you earlier. There's no excuse: it won't happen again." Some transgender people are "in the closet" in some parts of their life. That is, not everybody knows they are transgender. This could mean that people back at home don't know their gender identity and still use their dead name, or it could mean that current acquaintances assume they are cisgender.  Avoid making references to their transition in public. Don't tell other people that they are transgender. While you may be curious about the details of someone's gender journey, it may seem invasive if you ask questions about it. If your friends brings up a detail, you can probably ask. Until then, it's better to avoid queries that relate to their body and their past. Most transgender people don't want you to ask if they have had (or plan to have) gender-affirming surgery. While you may want to be helpful, or encouraging, the most respectful thing you can do if you know a transgender person is to trust them to express their own gender. Don't give feedback about how they look or whether or not they "pass" as a person of their gender.  Try not to comment on how successful they are at "passing" as their gender. Don't say, "I would never have known you were transgender," for instance. If you imply that someone is successful if they don't appear transgender, you're implying that there's something wrong with being transgender. Avoid giving unsolicited advice. For instance, you should never tell someone they would "pass better" if they dressed differently or took hormones. While it seems like a compliment, many transgender people don't want you to call them "brave" for being themselves. For example, think about having a sibling with a developmental disability. You likely wouldn't want to be called brave for simply being their sibling. It's just a part of your reality and your identity. Gender may be an important part of someone's identity, but it's not the most important part of your relationship with them. Treat them like you would treat anyone else.  Don't make unnecessary references to their transition. If they want to talk about it, they'll bring it up. Find common ground, such as hobbies, places you've lived, or shared interests, and talk about those things with them.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Blow up a balloon Rub the balloon against the hair on top of your head. Look in the mirror.

Answer:
. Take a rubber balloon and fill it with air, either with a pump or by using your own breath. Fill the balloon with enough air so that the rubber is firm and taut, and then tie it off. Gently move the balloon back and forth several times along your scalp. This will allow the static charge of the balloon to be transferred all over your hairs, which will help them stand up. At this point, your hair should be standing up! The static electricity effects won’t last longer than a minute or so, but you can maintain your static hairdo by continuing to rub your hair with the balloon.