If you want the shoes to be all one color, simply place the tops of the shoes completely in the dye. If you want several colors, place one section of the shoe into the dye, while keeping another part of the shoe out of the dye.  Keep the shoes in the dye for as long as the directions tell you to. This varies greatly depending on the dye you use, but might be anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes.  You will probably want to wear gloves while you are doing this. This will allow you to get your fingers into the dye while holding the shoes without getting dye all over them. While most dyes that are sold for home use won't be particularly dangerous to get on your skin, they will dye your skin and take a long time to wear off. In addition, getting dye on your fingers means that you risk making a mess if you touch surfaces or areas of your shoes that you don't want dyed. Why not add a few colors to your shoe? Using a second color (or more) won't be a lot more work but it will add a lot more fun to your shoe design!  Be strategic if you want to dye your shoe multiple colors. For example, if one color you are using is very light and the other is dark, consider applying the light color first. That way, you can dye the whole shoe the light color (which is easier that dying a specific section) and then cover up a section of that lighter dye with a darker color afterwords. Try dyeing your laces as well! You can dye them the same color as your shoes or pick a different color to add another pop of color to your kicks. Don't limit yourself to just solid colors. Use a paint brush to paint a creative design onto your shoes with additional colors. Perhaps you could cover them in polka dots? Or maybe you could draw your favorite animal onto the tops of your shoes? Draw whatever inspires and excites you! Mixing colors of dyes on your shoes can make totally new colors. Think of the dye as watercolor paints which you can use to make a beautiful array of blended colors. Most dyes need be rinsed out after use. This removes any extra dye from the shoe so it doesn't get all over your socks. Follow the directions on the package of the dye you used, but most dyes should be rinsed with cold water until the water runs clear. If you used rubber cement, or painter's tape, it should peel right off. Vaseline will need to be cleaned off with a little soap and water once the shoe dye is dry. Don't do this immediately after you dye your shoes, as the dye could drip a bit on to the soles. Instead, wait a few minutes until you are sure there will be no more drips. You could even use a paper towel to soak up any areas of excessive dye that might eventually drip on to the soles. You can either allow the shoes to dry naturally or you can put them in your dryer. Just be warned that a bit of dye may rub off in the interior of your dryer, so you may want to wipe it out thoroughly after your shoes are dried and before you put clean laundry in it. Some dyes actually do need to go into the dryer because the dye needs to be set. Setting a dye means making sure it won't come out. In the case of many home dyes, this is done by applying high heat to the canvas. Check your dye package to find out if you have this kind of dye. Sometimes you can also use a hairdryer to set a dye. Check your dye packaging to see if this is an option for you.

Summary: Place the shoes in the dye. Apply additional colors. Add fun designs. Rinse the shoes. Remove the protection on the soles. Allow the shoes to dry completely. Set the dye, if necessary.


If you live with someone who has an overactive sex drive, then he or she may want to have sex at odd times of the day or even multiple times of the day. It is important for you to express your feelings about this behavior and set clear boundaries about when you are willing to have sex. Keep in mind that your partner may feel rejected or think that you don’t like to have sex with him or her at all. Make sure that you emphasize your attraction to your partner to minimize conflict.  For example, if your partner often wants to have sex in the morning when you are trying to get ready for work, explain why this is inconvenient for you. You might say something like, “I love all of the affection that you give me in the morning, but I have been late a few times because of it. I think that we need to keep these encounters to the evening when I have more time to spend with you." Or, if your partner wants to have sex multiple times every day, then you might say, “I am glad that you are attracted to me. I am attracted to you too. However, my sex drive is not as high as yours, so I can’t keep having sex two or three times every day.” People with high sex drives may benefit from incorporating vigorous exercise and other activities into their daily lives. If your partner does not exercise much or if he or she does not have any hobbies, then encourage your partner to do these things. For example, your partner might take up running, cycling, dancing, or swimming to provide an outlet for sexual desire and frustration. Your partner might also take up an enjoyable hobby, such as knitting, cooking, or playing an instrument. Some people might feel like it is not appropriate to masturbate when you are in a relationship, so you may need to discuss your feelings about this with your partner. If your partner is interested in having sex every day or multiple times per day, then he or she may need to masturbate once per day or every other day to control his or her sex drive. Talk to your partner about masturbating on a regular basis. For example, you might say something like, “I enjoy having sex with you, but my sex drive is not the same as yours. Would you be willing to masturbate a few times per week or more to help make up for the days that I am not in the mood for sex?” If your partner just has a high sex drive, but does not feel as though sex is a compulsion, then you may need to try some new things to satisfy your partner sexually. Although you may not be up for sex as much as your partner is, there are still ways you can satisfy his or her needs. For example, you could:  Incorporate more oral sex into your lovemaking. Try out some sex toys. Watch pornography together. Try phone sex when you are apart. Some people who have overactive sex drives may use sex as a way to feel closer to their partners on an emotional level. If your partner is using sex as a way to feel emotionally close to you, try to find other ways you two can feel emotionally close other than through sex. Look for other ways to build emotional intimacy with your partner, such as:  Asking about your partner's day and sharing about your day. Confiding in your partner when you have a problem or concern. Telling your partner how much he or she means to you. Going on romantic dates.
Summary: Set boundaries. Encourage your partner to find non-sexual outlets. Tell your partner that you are okay with masturbation. Consider other ways of meeting your partner’s needs. Build emotional intimacy.