Most people experience a spike in sex drive after undergoing an adrenaline rush. Try setting some time aside some time to be together after a vigorous activity, like riding a motorcycle or surfing. If that sounds like too much for you, there is always the date night classic: watching a horror movie together. Working out activates testosterone production and low testosterone is one of the more significant causes of a low sex drive. It can also help to treat some of the major physical causes for low sex drive.  For optimal testosterone benefit from weightlifting, work major muscle groups with compound exercises, like bench presses, squats, or barbell curls.  After an hour your body will begin producing cortisol which counteracts testosterone. Therefore, you should keep your routines under 60 minutes. Cardio will not only increase testosterone but also help with some of the conditions which make it physiologically difficult to get an erection, including high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and obesity.  Yoga is sometimes believed to be particularly effective at increasing sex drive. Proponents argue that it has all the benefits of the other routines, but also increases blood flow to the pelvic area and treats anxiety. Oysters, chocolate, figs, chili peppers, tomatoes, broccoli, pomegranate juice, avocado and eggs have all been rumored to help put you in the mood. The science is inconclusive, but it doesn't hurt to try. Conversely, some foods are thought to decrease sex drive, including processed baked goods, dairy products, and soy. Drugs, especially cocaine and ecstasy, can reduce sex drive. So can the overuse of alcohol. When you do drink, try to stick to red wine. Studies suggests that moderate red wine consumption increases sex drive, possibly by improving blood flow.

Summary: Scare yourself. Exercise regularly. Eat foods that may increase libido. Avoid drugs and alcohol.


After the wedding ceremony, the married couple receives blessings from their family members. The bride has blessings whispered into her ear by the women of both families. Then the married couple bows down before the priest and the elders' family members and parents receive the final blessing. As the newlyweds walk through the guests, they are showered with flowers and rice to wish the couple a long, happy marriage. This step means the bride will be going away to the groom's house. The bride will say her final goodbyes to her family members. The bride is given joyfully but also can be bittersweet for the bride and groom and their families. It is not uncommon to see tears during this stage. This is a very large transition for any woman, and it almost always is accompanied by a number of emotions, some happy, some sad. The bride is carried back in a doli from her parent's house to her husband's house. A "doli" is a decorated platform with a roof and four carrying handles on either side. It also has a comfortable mattress for the exhausted bride to sit on. The bride's maternal uncles and brothers traditionally carry the doli. In many modern weddings, the bride is just carried in the doli out of the house – not all the way to the husband's house. She would ride in a car the rest of the way. With her right leg, the bride kicks the kalash (a pot) usually filled with rice. This kalash is kept at the door of the groom's house. After the kicking takes place the bride walks her first steps in the house of the groom. This is believed to bring about an abundance of food, wisdom, and wealth and be a "source of life." In old tales, it was viewed to contain the elixir of immortality. The reception is a huge formal party with lots of music to celebrate the successful wedding. This is the first public appearance of the bride and groom together as a couple. There are no formal traditions at the reception. Many traditional weddings do not offer alcohol and offer an array of only vegetarian food, in keeping with their traditional religious beliefs. The Satyanarayana Puja is a popular ritual performed to please Narayan or Lord Vishnu. During this ceremony, the bride and the groom take a vow of truthfulness. This ceremony is supposed to bring the bride and the groom eternal peace and fulfill their material requirements. This puja usually takes places 2-3 days after the wedding.

Summary: Give Lancashire &dash; blessings from the family. Say farewell to the bride by Bidai. Carry the bride back in a doli (for traditional weddings). Welcome the bride through Graha Pravesh. Enjoy the reception. After the ceremony, fold your hands in front of the gods by performing Satyanarayana Puja.


You may feel justified in expecting your mother to reach out to you, but don't be afraid to initiate contact. Your mother may want to reach out to you but not know how, or she may share similar feelings of fearing rejection. If you keep waiting for her to make the first move, don't be surprised if your relationship remains stuck. Before you decide to reach out, decide what you want to discuss first, and how you want to discuss it. Come in with a mindset of problem-solving, not accusation. Instead of internalizing anger and fear, realize that you don't have to react. Ask yourself, “What can I do to de-escalate this situation?” It's not your responsibility to manage her emotions, nor is it your job to make her anger or frustration your problem. Acknowledge her emotions without taking them on by simply saying, “I can tell that you are upset.” If your mother tries to corner you into making decisions or make you feel like you don't have a choice, call the bluff. Remember that you always have choices, regardless of how powerless someone makes you feel. When you reach your point of no return, be firm on not giving in.  Verbalize to your mother that you do have choices, and they are up to you to make. Thank her for her perspective, but feel free to make your own choice. Don't hold onto resentment. Forgiveness doesn't mean excusing her behavior, pretending a situation didn't happen, or letting her 'off the hook'. Forgiveness allows you to free yourself from holding on to any resentment or negative feelings toward your mother. And the sooner you are able to forgive, the faster you can begin repairing the damage.

Summary: Make the first move. Redirect the fear. Make choices. Forgive.


The very instant someone threatens or scares you, you should use whatever tools the chatroom or social media site has to block that person. By blocking the person, you'll limit their ability to scare you. In the end, they'll probably move on to bothering other people. Perhaps the easiest way you can protect yourself is to log out of the chatroom if someone makes you feel uncomfortable. Cyberbullies, predators, and trolls immediately lose power over you when you log out. By logging out, you'll empower and safeguard yourself. If someone in a chatroom suggests that they are going to hurt you or someone else, if they threaten violence, or do anything that leads you to be suspicious of them, you should report them immediately. You can report them to the chatroom's moderator, the service the chatroom is hosted by, or the police. If someone online makes you uncomfortable, scared, or threatens you, you should tell someone immediately. Whether you're a teenager or an adult, your friends and loved ones will be able to give you guidance and perspective when it comes to the person who made you uncomfortable.  Remember, telling is not snitching or tattling. Ask your parents for help if online activity makes you uncomfortable. Talk to friends about what is going on online. Cyberbullying is the act of someone trying to intimidate you, make you feel bad, or simply harassing you. If someone commits cyberbullying against you or someone you know, you should report it to an adult or an appropriate authority. For a list of places to report cyberbullying, visit: https://cyberbullying.org/report. Cyber-violence includes pretending that the person knows everything about you and threatening to harm or kill you, your family, your friends or your pets.
Summary: Block threatening or scary people immediately. Log off if you feel uncomfortable. Report suspicious activity. Tell others what is going on. Report cyberbullying.