If your partner is delaying an emotional or physical attachment to you, they might still be deciding how they feel about you. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt by being patient with their decision and letting them to get to know you better.  This works both ways: your partner might not be sure how you feel about them. Anybody looking to move forward in a relationship wants some assurances that the feelings are mutual. Be honest about your intentions to your partner. If you are sure about your feelings, then tell your partner that you have been thinking seriously about your relationship and that you are ready for sex. You might want to have some positive signs, however, before suggesting sex. Up to this point, if you have only experienced sex from watching it at the movies, then this is what you expect for the first time. Your expectations, in other words, do not mesh with reality. Fantasy is not real life. If you do not realize that sex is an important decision with serious consequences, you might need to wait a bit longer.  No matter how experienced you or your partner is, sex can be messy and awkward. The first time will be exciting but do not expect something straight out of a movie. Your unrealistic expectations probably reveal that you really have not given much thought to how sex will impact you or your body. It is better to consider reality before engaging in a fantasy. No matter what you imagine sex to be like, you still need to talk to your partner about your desires and expectations. You can still plan for a romantic and slow experience. Ask your partner to share their expectations too. You might also want to express the positions you desire, role play, or how rough you are willing to go. It is important that you and your partner understand each other before pushing the boundaries. Single people have the right to see other people if they are not moving towards a committed relationship. In fact, moving towards a committed relationship means exclusivity and probably sex. Thus, your partner might refuse sex with you on the principle they are not ready to commit to a monogamous relationship.  The same goes for you. Do you want to enter a committed relationship or are you seeking casual sex while seeing other people on the side? If you are ready for exclusivity then be clear where you stand with your partner and what you expect. To ensure a safe emotional and physical sexual relationship with your partner, make sure you ask about their sexual history before hitting the sheets. Avoid saying things like "But you did it before with someone else!" or “You’ll have to do it sometime – why not now, with me?” These responses are not indicative of somebody who cares about their partner; rather, it appears you only care about your own needs. There are many moral and religious beliefs around the world that teach people to practice abstinence until marriage. Whether they find you attractive or not, sex might be off limits until after the big wedding day. In this case, you should respect their beliefs and avoid pressuring them into something they strongly believe in.  Watch and listen for the messages your partner is sending you when you are together. If they talk about the future, religious faith, or morals, then those things are probably more valuable to them than sex. When kissing or petting do they respond passionately or pull away? If they pull away, take that as a sign that they are not ready to pursue a sexual relationship. You should also be aware that there will people who are willing to do many things other than sexual intercourse. In this case, make sure secure boundaries and “safety words” are discussed to prevent going further than they are ready to go.
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One-sentence summary -- Pay attention to your partner's feelings. Adjust your expectations. Clarify their commitment. Determine whether your partner is waiting for religious reasons.


Celebrate your brother's birthday and other special days. This will make him feel appreciated.   Find out if your brother is involved with a sporting event, volunteer organization, or hobby. Show up and lend your support at these events. Send cards for special events such as birthdays, anniversaries, accomplishments etc. Don't just send a card or present. Try to find a card or gift that your brother will really like based on his sense of humor or interests. Kids can make a special card or present for their brother to show they appreciate their siblings on special occasions. Older kids, like teens, can also do this or plan a special surprise for their brother. Something homemade and carefully thought out shows more appreciation than something you can buy. Making your brother his favorite dinner or favorite snack will make him happy.  Cooking for someone will make them feel appreciated. Take the time to learn your siblings favorite foods. This shows you take an interest in them. This can be a great activity to do with your brother. Have him teach you how to make his favorite meal, then make it for him by yourself another time. Kids shouldn't cook without supervision, though this could be a perfect way for teen siblings to bond. Whether you are a kid or an adult, helping your brother do chores or a big project can help to build your relationship.  If you are a kid, offer to take over one of your brother's chores for a week. This will give him more time to do something he likes. Teens can help their brother with a school project, for example. If you are older find out if your brother is working on a big project such as a building project, landscaping, or yard work. Offer to help him get materials or work on the project with him. Cooperating on a task or project can be a relationship strengthening exercise. Offering a helping hand to your brother will show that you care about him and that you are paying attention to what he does and what he needs.
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One-sentence summary -- Remember special events. Learn your brother's favorite meal. Offer to help your brother with housework or a project.


Unfortunately, your routine can make your relationship feel less exciting, which might land you in a rut in the bedroom. Trying new things in your daily life can help you break out of this rut and rebuild intimacy. Do something new and exciting with your partner or surprise them with something special. Here are some ideas you could try:  Go to a new restaurant. Do something special on a weeknight instead of staying home. Plan a secret outing to dinner, a movie, a play, or a concert. Book a hotel room for a night of passion. Pick out a thoughtful gift]] or get something like flowers, chocolate, or lingerie. Hand it to your partner in person or surprise them by sending it to them at work. Your partner will feel special and it will create a tender moment between you. Your gift could be something sweet, like a small cake from their favorite bakery, or something naughty, such as a pair of fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold. Get creative! Quality time – just you and your beloved – is an essential part of a relationship. You need time together to heat things up! Go away on a short trip with just your partner. Leave your worries behind and focus on rekindling your intimacy and getting frisky.  If you can afford a fancy trip, spend the weekend in a ski lodge, a cabin by the lake, or the honeymoon suite at a hotel. If you don’t have much money, go on a naughty camping trip or switch houses with another couple for the weekend. Spontaneous sex can be really exciting, so look for opportunities to have a quickie. Take advantage of moments when you're alone throughout the day without worrying about what you're supposed to be doing. Just enjoy the quick, intimate moment together.  For instance, you might have a quickie before you leave for work or during your lunch hour. Don’t worry about taking off your clothes because being partly dressed can make it more exciting. Remove just enough clothes to engage in sex and enjoy the feeling of being naughty with your partner. Arrange a day that both you and your partner will be off from work and free of other responsibilities. Clear your schedules and don't worry about making plans. Then, do the first thing that pops into your mind. Challenge yourself to spend the rest of the day following each gut feeling that you get. You might do things like feeding the ducks at the park, having a water gun fight, rearranging the house, or learning to make espresso. It doesn't matter what you do! Just make sure that you're together and trying something different.
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Surprise your partner by trying something new. Give your partner a small gift to remind them you care. Whisk your love away on a romantic getaway. Enjoy a quickie when you find yourselves alone. Take a day off together to chase your intuition.