Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Consult with a family law attorney. Discuss child custody issues. Estimate child support payments. Get a restraining order, if necessary. Decide whether to legally separate. Draft a marital separation agreement.

Answer: There are many legal issues involved with separating from your spouse. You are advised to meet with a family law attorney and discuss the separation. Each person’s separation is different, and only a qualified attorney can identify and untangle any legal issues.   To find a family law attorney, you can contact your local or state bar association and ask for a referral. Once you have the name of an attorney, you should call and schedule a consultation. Ask ahead of time how much the attorney charges. You and your wife need to discuss who will take care of the children. Generally, it is best for the parent who stays in the house to have custody, since there is rarely a good reason to remove children from familiar surroundings.  You might find it easier to leave the house but want to seek custody of your children at a later date. In this situation, you need to remain closely involved with your children. Make sure to visit often and also have your children frequently spend the night with you. In fact, you and your wife should draft a temporary child custody agreement. It does not need to be particularly detailed, but it should identify when each parent will have custody of the children.  You and your wife could also agree to divide your time in the home. For example, you could both pay to rent an apartment in town. On Mondays through Thursdays, you could stay in the apartment while your wife stays at home. On Fridays through Sundays, you could then stay in the home while your wife is in the apartment. If you aren’t the person who will take care of your children, then you can expect to pay child support to your wife. You must pay child support even if you aren’t divorced. There really isn’t any wriggle room for getting out of child support payments, so you might as well try to estimate how much you will have to pay each month.  There are many online calculators you can use to estimate monthly support payments. You enter information about your salary and the number of children that you have, and the calculator estimates your payments. See Calculate Child Support for more information. Your wife may have abused you or the children. In these situations, you will need to get a restraining order. You can get a restraining order, also called a protective order, by stopping into your local courthouse and asking for the forms. See Get a Protective Order for more information. Sometimes separation is temporary, but other times separation can be permanent. In some states, you can get a “legal separation,” which is like a divorce although you remain legally married. When you legally separate, you divide assets and debts just as divorced people do. You also settle on child custody arrangements. You should discuss this option with your attorney and identify your reasons for seeking legal separation:  You might want to stay married but legally separate if either you or your wife has a religious objection to divorce. Legal separation can also be helpful if one spouse needs to stay on the other’s insurance or if one spouse is close to qualifying for spousal Social Security benefits. You can begin the legal separation process by drafting a marital separation agreement, which is like a divorce settlement agreement. You and your wife agree on a division of assets, debts, child support, and spousal support (alimony). Although you can create a marital separation agreement if you separate temporarily, they are more common for people who choose to permanently separate.  The marital separation agreement becomes a contract between you and your wife. If either of you violate the agreement, the other could sue in court. You each should have your own attorney draft and look over the agreement.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Reflect on what has happened. Beware of assumptions. Be prepared to accept responsibility and/or forgive.

Answer: There is most likely a specific reason for the rift in your friendship. Consider the situation as objectively as you can. Does one of you bear a larger portion of involvement?  Even if you feel wronged by your friend, consider the possibility that somewhere along the line you have also hurt them in subtle ways that you weren't aware of. On the other hand, if you know you're the one who made a mistake, spend some time reflecting on what you did and why, and how you can prevent doing it again. If there seems to be no clear reason for your friend's distance, don't jump to conclusions. It may have nothing to do with you; your friend might have something troubling them. You may want your friend back, but until you're ready to acknowledge your own mistakes and/or forgive your friend theirs, you won't get anywhere. That said, you may need to have a long talk with your friend before the wounds start to heal. The important thing is to make sure you feel ready and willing to put things back together, rather than nurse a grudge. Your friend may not listen at first, but with time and you showing that you care, they will forgive.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: See your doctor if you don’t stop vomiting after 12 hours. Get medical attention if you exhibit signs of dehydration. Seek emergency medical care for severe abdominal or chest pain. Go to the emergency room if you have blood in your vomit. Call your doctor if you’re vomiting after a head injury.

Answer: Vomiting should subside after about a day or less. If you’ve tried different treatments and the vomiting continues for more than 12 hours, contact your doctor. It could be a sign of a deeper problem. For children under 2 years old, see a doctor if they don’t stop vomiting after 12 hours. Continued vomiting can deplete your body of its fluids which can lead to dehydration. Furthermore, nausea and vomiting can prevent you from drinking an adequate amount of water, which can also cause dehydration. If untreated, dehydration can be very dangerous. Get medical attention immediately if you start to show signs of dehydration.  Symptoms of dehydration include dry mouth, sleepiness, decreased or dark urine, headache, dry skin, and dizziness. If you’re unable to hold down any water, pay close attention to any symptoms of dehydration. If you’re experiencing intense and sharp pain in your abdomen or your chest while you’re vomiting, it could be a sign of a serious medical issue. Get to an emergency room as soon as possible to make sure it isn’t something more serious. Sharp pain your chest could be a sign of an impending heart attack. Continued vomiting can potentially rupture or tear your stomach lining, which can cause blood to appear in your vomit. There are also other serious medical conditions that can result in blood appearing in your vomit. If you see dark, red blood or what looks like coffee grounds in your vomit, get emergency medical attention as soon as possible. A hemorrhage or rupture needs to be treated as soon as possible. Don’t delay seeking medical help if you see blood in your vomit. Nausea and vomiting is a symptom of a concussion. If you suffered a blow to the head and you start to experience nausea and vomiting, call your doctor to see what you should do.  Do not go to sleep even if you feel tired. Other signs of a concussion include headache, confusion, dizziness, slurred speech, and ringing in the ears.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Realize that trying to avoid the attack is part of the problem. Understand that the panic attack will pass and it will not kill you. Face your fears. Accept emotions in general. Focus on what you can control.

Answer:
Panic attacks are the result of your body responding to a perceived trauma or threat. However, a pattern of panic attacks occurs due to the individual’s anxiety related to the actual panic attack and his fear that the attack will be painful or harmful. This fear leads to increased anxiety, which can trigger another panic attack. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), an evidence-based treatment for panic attacks, focuses on changing thoughts in order to alter your feelings (both physiological and psychological) and actions. Ironically, the fear of having a panic attack can lead to more panic attacks. Your fear of having a panic attack is directly related to your thoughts about having an attack. If you change your thoughts to more realistic evaluations, then you can prevent or lessen future attacks by reducing your anxiety and fear.  It is important to de-catastrophize the effects of a panic attack. Instead of thinking, “I’m having a heart attack, or I feel like I’m going to die,” change this thought to, “I am okay, I’m just having a panic attack, and it will pass.” Use a panic attack thought record sheet in order to track your thoughts and actively change them in order to reduce future panic. Go to www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/PanicThoughtRecord.pdf. Allowing fears (especially worries about having a panic attack) to build up can increase the severity and frequency of panic attacks. Thus, reducing your fears by facing them head-on could alleviate panic because instead of avoiding the issue you are dealing with it appropriately. This helps to alleviate some of the anxiety that usually builds up and causes an attack. Instead of suppressing your fears or hoping they will go away, deal with them in a straight-forward manner.  Label your fear. As you feel fear coming on assign a number to it from 1 to 10. Your fear likely won't stay at a high number for long, so as the number decreases you can feel more relieved. When you fear failure, try new things you've been afraid to do in the past. If you fear social situations, meet new people and accept invitations to parties and gatherings you may have declined in the past. Individuals who experience panic attacks may avoid emotions more often and not accept their feelings as often as those who do not experience panic attacks. Learning to accept your emotions instead of avoiding them could help to decrease the incidence of panic attacks because the more acceptance you have the less fear you might have about getting a panic attack. Since more fear and worry is associated with more panic attacks, less fear (and more acceptance) may help to reduce panic.  When you feel a negative emotion - say to yourself, “This emotion is natural, and it gives me important information about how I am doing. It is okay to feel this emotion and I can get through it.” Attempt to be in tune with your emotions (anxiety, panic) instead of avoiding them. Sit with the emotion and experience how it feels in your body and what thoughts you are thinking when you have that emotion. Sometimes we may worry about things we cannot control such as what others say or do, and what might happen in the future. However, thinking about what we cannot control is futile. Worrying about what you cannot control can increase anxiety, so avoiding this can help to decrease the fear and worry that may produce an attack. Observe your surroundings and situation and examine what is actually happening as opposed to what might happen or what you fear might happen. For example:  Accept constructive criticism and praise for a job well done rather than worrying about how you could have performed better. Prepare for things that may be out of your control, whether it's a possible illness or a potential disaster. Build positive relationships with others. Let go of what others may think of you and embrace those who spend time with you.