Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Try to keep sex fun and light instead of serious and strict. Let her initiate oral sex after your discussion -- don't pressure here "now that you've talked. Incorporate oral sex slowly into your sex life instead of making it the spotlight. Let her have control of her body, choosing her own speed and style. Ask her what she enjoyed or what she'd like to try next time after sex. Remember that these are extremely intimate acts, and may take some time to come out. Understand that your partner might never enjoy or want to engage in oral sex.

Answer: Ignore the movies, which portray sex as a deeply serious act of soul-wrenching power. More often than not, especially in committed relationships, sex is a fluid, often-awkward, and always fun activity that only you two share. Having a light-hearted attitude may seem like useless advice, but people are way more willing to try something new when they can laugh off any initial issues or awkwardness  If you like something in the moment, let her know! This is the best way to build comfort, trust, and a great shared sex life. If something goes "wrong," simply smile! If something goofy happens, like you fall off the bed somehow, don't be afraid to laugh -- it won't kill the mood. Successful sex lives are about feeling calm and comfortable, and no one is more at ease than when smiling and laughing with their significant other. " Never make demands, get upset, force her to give you oral sex, or blatantly ask for it, especially as things are heating up. You've said your piece, and she's said hers, and there is no need to start pushing it now. When she's ready, she'll initiate things herself. If you've discussed ways to bring oral sex into your relationship, and several weeks or months pass without any change, you should bring the conversation back up during a quiet, respectful moment. Not all oral sex has to be to completion. A good way to make her more comfortable is to bring oral sex into foreplay, then moving on to positions you're both more naturally comfortable with. This can help her start to find her comfort level and keep the conversation alive and find a level of compromise. She needs to feel completely safe. Make sure she knows, if you hold her head or her hair while engaging in such intimate relations, you'll always maintain enough control of yourself to be able to avoid restraining her head in the heat of passion. It's fine, and can even be desirable, to hold her hair out of the way, or place your hand on her head or shoulder, but it should be in a way that's very gentle and comforting to her. If she becomes uncomfortable and wants to stop early, that's okay. Remember that, for a woman who may not enjoy oral sex, these first steps will help her become more comfortable over time. This isn't a debriefing, and you don't have to do it every single time you sleep together (it will get old, fast), but you should feel free to talk about your sex life together. After the act, as you're hanging out and cuddling, ask what she enjoyed. Figure out if there were some things she can do without, and be sure to keep it light and laugh-filled. You're a couple, and you likely discuss every meal you cook after eating it -- there is no reason you can't share this same openness after sex. If she's just exploring oral sex, let her know how much you enjoyed it! Staying silent may make her feel like it was unappreciated or, worse, that she is no good at it and shouldn't keep exploring. If approached with love, trust, openness, and  understanding, this can be a mutually shared, and mutually satisfying experience for both partners. You sex life is an ongoing, living part of your relationship, and will grow and evolve if you give it attention. Keep talking, keep being honest, and keep loving each other and you'll both be happy.  Know that, if you've talked honestly, you cannot take this personally. Her refusal or desire not to go down is not necessarily a sign she "doesn't love you." Trust her responses and find a way to work things together instead of freaking out. Disliking oral sex isn't a great reason to break up with someone, but a lack of sexual compatibility may be. Make sure both parties are willing to listen, compromise, and work together. Different people are aroused by different sexual acts. Just because you talk to her and listen to her and do all of the above, does not entitle you after any amount of time to expect her to "come around" on the subject. The same is true for yourself. If she suggested an act that you simply don't enjoy, you would not want to engage in it, regardless of how nicely she asked you about it. Respect her decision. She does not owe you oral sex or have to take it because you want to give.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Set up your work area and dress appropriately.

Answer: This process can create a large amount of sawdust, and spray paint can easily spatter to the surrounding area or your clothes. Make sure you are wearing clothes that you don't mind ruining, and lay a tarp or drop cloth on any surfaces you want to protect. Be sure the area you are working is well ventilated. In an enclosed area, the fumes from spray paint can build up and become toxic.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Start off with at least 4 toys that are varied and interesting. Give the bird new types of toys to stimulate it. Set up differently shaped and textured perches for the bird's feet. Place food and enrichment items in multiple places around the cage.

Answer: Make sure they are bird-safe and that toes or beaks cannot get caught in any parts of the toys. Hanging mirrors and bells make great bird toys. Be sure that the bell does not have small gaps in it though, as this can become caught up in the bird's feet.  Items that are not safe on toys used for birds include: frayed ropes (could entangle bird feet and beaks); wire (might impale the bird); “jingle-bell” type bells (the bird's feet might get stuck in the small cracks). Change it up a bit! Birds can get bored with the same toys, day in and day out. By buying new toys, you increase their enjoyment and reduce the chances of feather plucking and other boredom-stimulated behaviors. Birds especially enjoy chewable toys, made out of things like pine cones, rawhide chews, rope, or white pine wood. Birds will spend the majority of their time perched in their cage, so set up a few different perches at different heights. Set perches on opposite sides of the cage as well, so the birds can fly and exercise. Include some wooden perches, and some natural tree branches for variety. This helps “file” the bird's beak and nails, so there is less work for you. If you get a natural wood perch, be sure to scrub thoroughly before use, and do not use any cleaning products because many of these contain ingredients that can be toxic to birds. This will fulfill the bird's need to move about in search of food. You can also weave food into the bars of the cage, hide food inside a toy or an enrichment device and hang food from the top or sides of the cage. All of these will help to satisfy the bird's foraging instinct and is a form of mental stimulation.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Start small. Follow submissions guidelines carefully. Write a good cover letter when sending your poems out. Try submitting to contests.

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When you start to submit your work, begin small. Go for smaller presses over large journals. The bigger journals in the literary community (e.g., Tin House, Ploughshares) get many more submissions that can be read closely and carefully. A lot of more popular journals have a submission rate between 6 or 7%.  When you're first starting out, look into startup journals or mid-level journals. Resources like Poetry Foundation or Poets and Writers will give you a sense of how well-established a journal is, and it's rough number of readers and subscribers. If you're published in a range of small journals, your voice may become increasingly recognizable. You'll also be able to draft a much better cover letter, as you'll be able to boast of a handful of existing publications. This will bolster your chance of acceptance at a bigger journal, as this increases the likelihood a reader will give your work careful consideration when working through piles of submissions. Every literary journal has different submissions guidelines. Remember, even small journals get many, many submissions. Readers are often looking for any excuse to toss out a submission, and if you fail to follow guidelines, your work may not be read. Read submissions guidelines carefully before sending out your poetry.  Journals vary in terms of how many poems they expect you to submit. Some prefer 3 to 5 poems, while others prefer less. How you send your poems often varies. A specific font may be required. If you're submitting poetry online, you may need to send the file in a particular format. For example, a journal may prefer PDF files for poetry as this keeps the poem's original formatting and spacing intact. If you're submitting your poems through regular mail, the majority of publishers request you include a self addressed stamped envelope with your poetry. This is so the journals can easily send you a rejection or acceptance letter. Make sure to proofread your poems several times before sending them out. You do not want to send anything containing typos to a literary journal. Most publishers require you submit a brief cover letter with your work. Your cover letter is a brief tool you use to introduce your work and yourself. A quality cover letter may increase the likelihood your work will be read closely.   Figure out the poetry editor of the magazine you're submitting to. You want to use the name of the poetry editor rather than "To Whom it May Concern" or "Dear Editors." Mention something specific about the journal. This shows you read the journal and understand its style, and that you're more likely to be submitting work that matches that style. Mention how long you've admired the journal, and include the name of a specific poem you liked. Include a very brief bio, including relevant details. If you have an MFA, mention where it's from and when you graduated. Briefly list any previous publications or honors. If won a contest for your poetry through another journal, for example, mention that here. Some journals accept simultaneous submissions, but usually require you to inform readers if this is a simultaneous submission. If you've sent this poem anywhere else, mention this in the cover letter. Magazines, universities, and literary organizations often hold contests to help find emerging poets. Contests can help you gain name recognition in the poetry world. They often come with prizes, like a cash prize and/or publication in a journal.  Keep in mind your chance of winning a contest is generally very slim. Apply to a minimal number of contests, and look for contests with small entry fees or no entry fees at all. Some contests publish finalists and/or high quality entries in anthologies (available for purchase). So you do not necessarily have to win to be published and gain recognition. However, be sure to be careful when giving permission to be published if you are selected so you retain all rights to your works. Keep in mind that you do not have to buy the anthology you are published in, if a contest says you have to pay to be put in their collection then it is most likely a scam and/or not worth it.