To really woo a woman, you have to be able to show her a good time. Take her out in style, not just to the bowling alley. Pick her up, be on time, and plan something fun and exciting for you to do together. Go for a run together. Check out the new farmer's market and then cook a meal from the food you got at home. Go see a 3-D movie and then hit up a hookah lounge. Find something fun and unique that makes the girl feel special and like you actually put some effort into the date. Pick a place where you'll need to make some reservations. She'll see that you actually put some thought into this one. If you really want to woo a woman, then you have to put on your gentleman hat. Hold doors open for her. Let her walk in front of you when you walk into a building. Avoid being overly vulgar. Have stellar manners. Do what you can to make her feel like a true lady without acting too old-fashioned. If you're walking down the street, walk on the side nearest the street. Don't show up late. It's not about acting like a false version of yourself -- it's about making her feel like you've put time and care into your time together.  Part of this means that you should mind your appearance, too. Put in an effort to how you look, if you want the girl to feel like you care. Show her that you're a gentleman to everyone by holding doors open for the people walking behind you, treating cashiers and waiters with respect, and otherwise minding your manners. While you want to make her feel special, you should also let her see that your good behavior is more than just an act you put on for her benefit. If you want to woo a woman, then you have to be able to charm her. Being charming means being able to show a real interest in people while making them laugh, feel lighthearted, and feel swept off their feet. If you want to charm the woman, then you have to work hard to make her happy, keep things interesting, and to show that you really care about what she's thinking. Start dancing with her in the street. Bring her a hand-picked bouquet of flowers. Find a cute nickname for her. Do whatever you can to make her feel charmed and special. If you want to woo a woman, then you've got to give her a healthy dose of affection. This means you should put your arm around her, give her kisses from time to time (if you're at that point), and hold or squeeze her hand when the time is right. This does not mean that you should be all over her every time that you're together, but it does mean that you should find key moments to let her know that you care. If you're at that level, you can even do some cuddling or snuggling! If you really want to woo a woman, then you have to take the time to listen to what she has to say. Don't just zone out whenever she talks, waiting for your moment to say something. Make sure you really hear what she's saying, that you make eye contact and pay attention when she talks to you, and that you respond appropriately when the time calls for it. Most guys could use some improvement in the listening department, and she'll be impressed by your ability to really care about what she has to say.  Don't try to solve her problems. She may just want someone to listen, not for someone to think he knows what's best for her. Remember what she tells you so you can bring it up later in the conversation -- or even the next day. She will be very impressed. If you want to woo a woman, then you have to make her feel like she's the only woman in the world. Show her that you recognize what makes her unique and that you care about her as a person, not just as arm candy. Here are some ways to really make her feel special:  Write her a loving letter just because you feel like it. Tell her why she's not like other girls. Give her a little gift even if there's no special occasion. Do her a favor when she's having a busy week. Ask her opinion about something you want to do. Show an interest in her life and ask her lost of questions about it. Take her dancing, or do something else with her that she's always wanted to do.
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One-sentence summary -- Take her out. Be a gentleman. Charm her. Be affectionate. Listen to her. Make her feel special.


As soon as possible after you decide you no longer want to go to a school, you should talk to someone in admissions directly. The sooner you contact them, the more options you'll have.  Some university systems, such as those in the U.K. and Canada, allow a seven-day period during which you can decline admission to a college after accepting with no negative consequences. Check to see if there is such a deadline where you live. Typically it's best to call since admissions staff will be swamped with emails. You may want to follow up with a written letter discussing the phone call so there's a record. If there's someone specific you've been talking to about your admission already, try to get in touch with them. While you probably want to sound as professional and sophisticated, using academic lingo (such as "reject" or "withdraw") can be tricky. Use plain language when you speak to admissions, since those words may have specific meanings of which you're not aware.  For example, if you've decided you want to go to another school that gave you a better offer, or for another reason, simply say so. If you've decided you want to take a gap year, you may not have to decline admission. You can simply defer or postpone it. Again, rather than using those specific words, which may have a specific meaning for that school, simply say "I want to start next fall instead of this fall." Give admissions staff a reason why you're declining admission to the school after you've already accepted, and be honest about that reason. Admissions staff will be more willing to work with you if you're straightforward with them. In some cases, being honest about your reasons may open up other options for you. For example, admissions staff typically will be more willing to work with you if you have to decline admission for a reason outside your control, such as a serious illness or an ongoing family crisis. Even if you don't get the answer you wanted, you want to be careful not to burn any bridges – especially if you think you might want to go to that school in the future. If you take an attitude or are rude, word of your behavior may spread. For example, suppose you're declining admission to Good University so that you can go to Best College. If you're rude to GU admissions staff, they may call the admissions office at BC and tell them about it. Many colleges and universities in the United States and elsewhere require you to put down a deposit towards your first semester's tuition. If you decline admission to the school, that money may not be returned.  Check your admissions paperwork to see if the deposit is non-refundable. Even if it is, if you have a serious reason for declining admission, such as a medical crisis, you may qualify for an exception. If at all possible, you want to let them know that you've changed your mind about going there before you put down money for a deposit. That way you won't risk losing that money.
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Contact the admissions office. Say what you want to happen. Explain why you've changed your mind. Thank admissions staff for their help. Forfeit your deposit.