Article: Guilt can be productive; it can help us grow and mature and, most importantly, learn from our behavior when we offend or hurt others or ourselves. This type of guilt serves a purpose and encourages us to redirect our moral and/or behavioral compass.  For example, if you said something offensive to a close friend over which you feel guilty because it upset them, you will learn not to say those types of things or else you risk losing friends. In other words, you will learn from your mistake. In this sense, then, the guilt has worked productively to positively reshape your behavior.  To give another example, if you feel guilty because you ate an entire bag of chips, that's your brain's way of reminding you about a behavior you probably already know is unhealthy and can adversely affect your well-being. Thus, the rational feeling of guilt motivates you to reflect on and change your behavior for the better. Guilt can also be unproductive, in the sense that you feel guilt even when your behavior doesn't need reflection or transformation. This is irrational guilt that can devolve into a cycle where you begin to feel guilty when there is nothing to feel guilty about and you then ruminate on that guilt.  For example, many first-time parents worry about going back to work because they think leaving their child with a nanny or in daycare will cause unknown damage to their child's mental and physical development. In reality, however, that's just not the case; in fact, most children develop normally irrespective of whether one or both parents work. There's nothing to really feel guilty about in this situation, but many people do, nevertheless. Put differently, this feeling of guilt doesn't produce anything but more irrational guilt.  Unproductive guilt can have adverse effects on your cognitive well-being. For example, you may become overly self-critical, experience low self-esteem, and doubt your self-worth. It is important to recognize that sometimes we feel guilty for things over which we had no control, such as a car crash or not arriving in time to say goodbye to a loved one before he passed. Sometimes people involved in such traumatic events overestimate their knowledge of the event and what they could have done. In other words, these individuals think they could or should have done something but, in reality, could not have. These intense feelings of guilt can produce feelings of helplessness and a feeling of having lost control. For example, perhaps you feel guilty that you survived a car accident, while your friend was killed. This is known as survivor's guilt, which often emerges when we try to explain and make sense of traumatic events that we experience. In the case of serious guilt, you may want to seek professional help from a therapist who can help you work through your feelings of guilt. Engage in self-exploration to really get in touch with your feelings and to determine that it is guilt that you are experiencing and not another emotion. Studies using MRI scans of the brain have shown that guilt is an emotion that is distinct from shame or sadness. At the same time, these studies show that shame and sadness were often also present and correlate with guilt. Thus, it is important that you spend some time reflecting on your feelings in order to precisely pinpoint what you need to address.  Define your thoughts, feelings, surroundings, and body sensations. You can do this cognitively, through the practice of mindfulness, meaning that you just focus on what you're feeling in that moment without judgement or reaction. Alternatively, you can write your feelings down in a journal. Writing out what you're experiencing can help you clarify those emotions as you try to put them into words. Example: I am feeling overwhelmed today with guilt, and I also feel sad. I can't stop thinking about it. I can tell that I’m stressed because I have a tension headache, tension in my shoulders, and a nervous feeling in my stomach. Think about what is causing these guilty feelings. Again, consider writing everything down to begin the process of working through the feeling of guilt. Here are some examples:  "I let Fido out and he got run over by a car. I feel guilty that Fido is now dead because our whole family loved him so much." "I didn't study for the exam and I got an F. I feel guilty that I let my parents down because they pay so much for me to go to school." "I broke up with Bobby. I feel guilty that he hurts so much." "My friend's mom passed away, and my mom is still alive and healthy. I feel guilty because my friend's life is in pieces and mine is perfect." You will have to accept that you cannot change the past or what has happened. Acceptance also involves acknowledging difficulty and recognizing that you are able to withstand painful feelings in the present moment. This is the first stage in dealing appropriately with your guilt and moving forward. It is helpful to tell yourself affirming statements that emphasize acceptance and tolerance. Examples of these statements are:  "I know dealing with guilt is hard, but for now I know I can endure." "This is difficult, but I can accept what has happened and not fight or avoid this feeling - it is what it is."
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Understand productive guilt. Understand unproductive guilt. Understand that sometimes we feel guilt for events out of our control. Reflect on your emotions and experiences. Clarify exactly what it is you feel guilt about. Accept guilt.
Article: There are many varieties of the hibiscus flower, but the hibiscus sabdariffa variety is the one that gives you the best flavor. The calyx is the green, trumpet-shaped part at the base of the flower, which will eventually turn red and brittle.  The hibiscus must be pesticide-free if you are using it for tea. It does not have to be pesticide-free if you are using it for general crafts. You can try using this method for the actual flowers too, but you will need to adjust the drying time. Timing is everything here. Find hibiscus flowers that are in bloom, then wait for them to fall. Locate the red calyx, then pick it after 24 to 48 hours. This will ensure that it is ripe. The calyx should pop off of its stem easily. If you have to pull it off, it is not ripe yet. Try again the next day. Cut the calyx from the stem of the flower first. Next, cut a shallow slit down the length of the calyx. Pry open the calyx with your fingers, then pop the seed pod out. Try to keep the calyx intact. Don't throw the seed pods away! Allow the seed pods to dry for 1 week, then crack them open and plant the seeds. Preheat the dehydrator between 95 to 115 °F (35 to 46 °C). Spread the calyxes on the tray in a single layer. Allow the calyxes to dry completely before taking them out of the dehydrator. This will take about 1 to 4 hours. Each dehydrator is different, so follow the instructions on your model carefully. Pour 2 cups (475 milliliters) of hot water over 1 tablespoon (15 grams) of dried hibiscus calyxes. Allow the tea to steep for 10 minutes before removing the calyxes. Flavor the tea as desired with lemon juice, sugar, or honey. Serve the tea hot or iced. If you want a stronger tea, use more hibiscus calyxes and increase the brewing time. If hibiscus tea isn't for you, you can add the dehydrated calyx to homemade potpourri. You can try using it in homemade candles or soap as well, but it would be a good idea to crumble it up first so that it isn't as bulky. Alternatively, you can string whole calyxes onto thread and make a pretty garland for your room.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Look for an organic hibiscus sabdariffa and locate the calyx. Pick the calyxes 24 to 48 hours after the flower has bloomed. Cut the seed pod away from the calyx. Dry the calyx using a dehydrator. Use the calyx to brew hibiscus tea. Use the calyx to make potpourri.