Article: If you have trouble talking to girls (or just the girls you are interested in romantically), you should think about what’s preventing you from saying the right thing. Do you find girls intimidating? Are you worried you’ll say the wrong thing? Understanding what you're nervous about will help you counter it. Don’t put any girl on a pedestal. It's nice to think highly of someone you like, but no one is perfect. Girls have their faults and flaws too, and they probably worry about many of the same things you do. Take cues from your body so that you can recognize when you're too worked up to have a conversation. Do your breathing and heartbeat get faster? Do your face and body feel flushed and sweaty? If you need extra time to calm down before you talk to girls, walk around a bit and control your breathing by inhaling deeply and exhaling slowly. Don't think too much about it ahead of time. Come up with a phrase that you can repeat when you feel like you’re losing control of your emotions or body. For example, if you get nervous every time you want to talk to a girl, take a time out. Go somewhere quiet and tell yourself, “She’s just a person. Just a person. I’m a person. Just a person. I’m a person.” When you’ve calmed down, you should attempt to talk to her again. Think about what the girl means to you, and what you want to tell her. What is your goal? Do you want to date her? If you are dating her, do you want to remind her of how much you appreciate her? Once you’ve got some sweet words in mind, get in front of a mirror and say them out loud. Knowing exactly how you're going to phrase your sentence can be hugely helpful.  Even if you have a general idea of what you want to say in mind, actually putting it into words will be beneficial. Try not to feel silly when you do this because it’s important to notice how you carry yourself. Hold your head up (not too high), stand up straight, and look her in the eyes when you talk. Almost any girl is happy to talk to a confident person, and you want to show her that you believe in yourself. When you go to talk to girls, pay a little extra attention to your appearance. You will feel more confident, and, by putting in the effort, you are showing a girl that you care. Brushing your teeth, shaving, taking a shower, and wearing the clothes you feel good in are all great ideas. The more confident you are, the better.
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Think about your reservations. Understand that girls are people, not goddesses. Notice the physical changes that happen when you are around girls you like. Don’t be afraid to talk to yourself. Plan ahead. Practice. Put your best self forward.

There are many places where sitting next to a girl that you like can be a great way to introduce yourself or get to know her further. Ideally you want to choose somewhere where you can initiate a conversation. Somewhere where she is likely to have an empty seat next to her.  Sit in the desk next to her before class. Try finding a seat next to her in the cafeteria. Timing is everything when talking to someone you have a crush on. You don’t want them to see you as a nuisance or an interruption. If the girl you like seems busy doing homework or talking to someone on her cellphone, this may not be the best time to approach her.  Before or after class is a good time. Choose a seat next to her during study hall. Show that you are courteous and thoughtful by asking her if you can sit next to her. You also want to make sure no one else has that seat claimed, like maybe a friend of hers, before you just jump into it.  “Is someone already sitting in this seat?” “Do you mind if I sit here?” If it turns out she was busy, apologize for interrupting. No woman is under any obligation to talk to you. Also, if she says this isn’t a good time or that she would rather sit alone, you’ll go further toward earning her respect by be being mindful of her wishes. Say something like, “Oh, okay. Maybe another time.” And then walk away graciously.  Don’t sit down anyway if she says no. Realize that your crush may just be having a bad day or might be trying to focus on other things.  Just because she said no today doesn't mean she'll say no next time. When you sit next to your crush be sure not to intrude on their personal space. You want to be close enough so that you can easily carry on a conversation but not so close that your knees touch when you turn to face her.  When choosing the desk next to your crush in class, don’t pull it closer to hers. She may find this to be an overly aggressive gesture. If you strike up a conversation and feel like the desks are too far apart to continue comfortably, you may want to slide it over a bit, but generally you should just leave it where it is. If you take a seat next to her on a bench, like on the playground or at a table in the lunch room, leave several inches between you. Don’t slouch. Sit with your spine straight and your shoulders back. Keep your head up. You might want to turn your body slightly so that you are facing your crush more directly. Maintaining good posture will not only make you look more confident, it can increase your energy level and actually affect your hormones, making it more likely that you’ll be positive and clear headed while you speak. Tapping your fingers on the desk, shaking your legs, or constantly readjusting your glasses will just make you look nervous. It will also act as a distraction for your crush which will make it hard for her to focus on what you have to say.  Take deep breaths. Fold your hands and rest them on the desk or table in front of you. If there is no table, rest them in your lap. You don’t have to keep your hands still the whole time. Many of us use our hands to gesture while we speak, but when they are idle, keeping them folded will help keep you from fidgeting too much. Take a quick inventory of your body every few minutes. Maybe while she is talking or when there is a small break in the conversation. Check in with yourself. If you feel your leg bouncing or an urge to keep moving around in your seat, take a deep breath and try to relax. Bring your focus back to your crush.
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Choose the right place. Choose the right time. Ask if you can sit down. Respect her wishes if she says no. Don’t sit too close. Sit up straight. Don’t fidget.