Article: This may seem too simple or too direct, but it may actually be the most important step to take.  Ask her how she feels about what needs to change about your relationship together.  Simply by asking, you'll indicate that you care about what she's thinking and that you're ready and willing to put effort into your marriage.  Be specific with your questions, and ask for specific answers. Start with something like, "I know it's been rough lately. What can I do to prove how much this relationship still means to me?" Listen carefully to her response and take her perspective seriously, even if it angers or saddens you at first. Know that speaking honestly with one another will likely be the first step in getting your relationship back on track. When you got married, you commit to spending your lives together.  You also both married the person you wanted to spend your life with.  If you’ve become a different person than the one your wife married (or vice versa), these changes may need to be addressed.  For instance, there could simply have been tangible changes.  If you have become less active or are eating unhealthily and your body reflects that, work to get back in shape. If you’ve become more stressed (from work or whatever else) – and maybe harder to be around – acknowledge that this likely a reason that distance may have developed between the two of you. Schedule specific time to work on whatever you might need to change. If it's simply spending more time with you wife, commit to spending certain blocks of time together each week and take these commitments seriously. If you frequently find yourself yelling or having fits of anger or other emotional surges, see a therapist soon. While living a more physically active lifestyle and making yourself available are steps you can take on your own, more significant adjustments of your behavior may require professional help. If you're struggling with addiction or cannot control your emotions, get help.  See a doctor or therapist to help identify specific issues that you may be struggling, and follow their advice on steps you can take to address these issues.  If you're suffering from addiction of any sort - to alcohol, drugs, the internet, or anything else - see a medical professional as soon as possible. Recognize that physical abuse of any type is not only illegal, it is a sign that you need professional help. In short, address any and all problems that are external to your relationship so that they do not continue to have a negative effect on your marriage. Tell your wife about the effort your putting in to address serious issues.  Not only will she be happy to hear it, you'll motivate yourself to take your own efforts seriously. Though it sounds a bit selfish on the first read, maintaining a healthy consistency in the rest of your life - including doing the things that you enjoy - indicates that you’re confident that your marriage can be saved.  Don't neglect being available to your wife, but take care of yourself be doing things you enjoy to make sure you stay in a healthy frame of mind.  By indicating you’re able to go on with your own life, you’re also indicating that you’re capable of a mature and level-headed conversation. Don’t play to her sympathy or try to guilt her by acting dramatically or emphasizing how much it hurts to be without her – it’s immature, and it won’t work in the long term. Most importantly, if you have children together, it is entirely inappropriate to speak poorly about your wife to them.  This will have negative effects on everyone involved, especially your children, and will certainly not help improve your relationship with you wife.   If you do have kids, simply tell them that both you and your wife love them and that everything will work out. Take a similar approach with shared friends.  Simply articulate that you hope to work things out, and that you love and respect your wife. If you do get back together, your relationship will only be complicated by anything negative you’ve said about your wife. If you’re still in love with her, act like it! Remember that your marriage didn’t happen all of the sudden.  Neither will winning your wife back.  Focus on the process of identifying specific issues with your relationship, addressing them one at a time, and re-establishing a healthy bond with your wife. Understand that this will likely take time.  Do not overreact to tumultuous periods.  A rough conversation, a night apart, even a string of cold-shoulders does not mean your marriage is doomed. Rough patches do indicate the need for some improved communication – but that may be enough to rekindle your marriage!
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Ask her how you can win her back. Address any changes in your own behavior since you got married. Get help with issues you're struggling to address alone. Enjoy yourself. Respect yourself and your wife by not speaking negatively about her. Be patient.
Article: If a horse panics and bolts, there’s no point in trying to chase it, because you won’t be able to outrun it. Also, since a horse is a prey animal in the wild, its instincts will tell it to continue to run away if you run toward it. Instead, wait until the horse is calm, then approach it slowly.  You’ll spook the horse if you wave your arms, yell at it, or lunge toward it when it’s already scared. Instead, keep your arms down at your sides or slightly extended as you slowly and calmly walk toward the horse. If the horse is calmed down, try to corral it in a corner, if possible. Even if you lose sight of the horse, it will typically come back to the group once it calms down. However, if you’re close to home, it may head there, instead. It’s fine if the horse still seems worried or hesitant, but it should be either standing mostly still or only jigging slightly. Slowly walk up to the horse near its front shoulder, since this will help protect you from getting kicked.  Talk to the horse in a soothing, quiet voice as you approach. In some cases, you may need to ask additional people from the barn to come help you corral the horse. They can help you corner the horse into a position where you can catch it. If you try to approach a horse that’s rearing or overly excited, you could be seriously hurt, or the horse could hurt itself trying to get away. Apply firm, steady pressure to the rein, pulling down and outward until the horse starts to lower its head. For horses, lowering their heads is a cue to calm down, and is a trick frequently used by horse trainers to encourage more peaceful interactions with the horse.  As the horse lowers its head, try to get it to look at you with both eyes. As it becomes more focused, it should also be calmer. If reaching for the reins upsets your horse again, try using a halter and lead line instead. Drape the lead over your horse's shoulders, then make a loop with it. This technique can also help if the horse doesn't have a bridle on. for 10-15 minutes, changing direction every 2-3 circles. Once the immediate excitement has passed, distract the horse by putting it to work. Attach the horse to a long lunge line, then direct the horse to trot in circles at the end of the rope. Stand in the center of the circle, and every 2-3 passes, stop the horse and have it change directions. Being put to work will ensure the horse doesn’t feel rewarded for its bad behavior, which might occur if you just put it into a stall with its food after it gets excited or spooked. If you had to dismount and lunge your horse on the trail to calm it down, get back in the saddle after you’re finished with the exercise. Keep in mind that training a horse often takes consistency and patience on your part, so don’t get discouraged if the horse starts to get excited again later on, or on the next ride. Just keep practicing the same techniques each time. If you’re doing groundwork with a horse and it gets excited, you don’t have to mount it once it calms down.
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Don’t chase the horse if you get separated. Approach the horse’s shoulder slowly once it’s calmed down some. Grab the horse’s reins and pull one rein down and to the side. Lunge the horse Mount the horse once it’s calm if you’re in the middle of a ride.