Q: When you have a new baby, you are going through a lot of changes. These changes aren't just physical. Pay attention to the emotional shifts that are occurring, too. Your emotional well-being is important when you are reestablishing a sexual connection with your partner.   Start by accepting the changes that have happened. For example, you may notice that your breasts feel and look much differently. That's normal. Try not to let your feelings about your body impact your desire to have sex. Another common worry is that your body will feel differently to your partner after you give birth. It's possible that it might. Accept that your body has physically changed, and that sex will be different for both of you. But that does not mean that it is not still good. Pregnancy and giving birth greatly affect your hormones. Your hormones likely will not return to normal until you start menstruating again. For many women, this doesn't happen until for anywhere from 4-12 weeks after giving birth.  When your hormones are out of balance, your sex drive can vary. Many women will feel ready to have sex, but just as many won't feel ready for several months. Remember that feeling either way is fine. And it's normal for your feelings to shift from day to day, and even hour to hour. You will also be spending most hours of the day holding and caring for your newborn. When it's finally time to take a break, you may feel the need for some personal space. It's ok if you don't feel like being touched. Try not to think too much about what other people do. Your sex life is between you and your partner. You two should resume having sex when it is right for you. Having a great sex life after a baby may take some adjustments, which is normal. The best thing you can do is to be patient with yourself and with your partner.  Some couples begin having sex 1 month after giving birth. Others prefer to wait 6 months. Give yourself time to feel ready to be intimate again. If you feel nervous about sex, you won't feel aroused. Wait to try until you feel ready. Take it slow. Once you feel ready for sex, be gentle and take the process slowly. This can help ease your fears about physical discomfort. It's hard to feel sexy when you are exhausted and stressed. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically can do wonders for your sex life. Pamper yourself a little. You will feel relaxed and ready for amazing sex with your partner.  Allow family and friends to help. When you're a new parent, you might feel the need to be with your baby 24/7, which is normal. If a trusted family member or friend offers to give you a break, take them up on their offer. You and your partner deserve a little time for yourself. Consider treating yourself and your partner to a relaxing activity. It might feel good to get a couples massage or go out for dinner. Spending some time together as a couple can help you reconnect. This can inspire both of you to put more focus on recharging your sex life. It can be difficult to feel sexy after giving birth. Maybe you are stressed about losing the baby weight. Or perhaps you're uncomfortable looking at your stretch marks. If you don't feel confident in your body, it can be difficult to feel interested in sex.  In order to start having great sex again, it's important to try to regain your confidence in your body. Remind yourself that your body is amazing--giving birth is no small accomplishment! If you feel up to it, start getting some exercise. You can take a long walk or attend a post-natal yoga class. Physical exercise can increase your confidence levels. Just make sure to clear it with your doctor before you resume your workouts. Try cleaning yourself up. It can be easy to forget to shower or put on actual clothes when you're a new parent. When you feel ready, dry your hair and put on an outfit that makes you feel good. This can make you feel more like yourself again, and ready for sex.
A: Accept the changes. Acknowledge your hormones. Be patient. Practice self-care. Regain your confidence.

Q: Sometimes, it’s impossible to know why you don’t like a person. However, sometimes, there are specific reasons for why you and another person don't get along. Figure out what your problems are with his friend or group of friends. If you don’t drink and they drink copious amounts, then it may be that your lifestyles don’t match. Or, maybe one of them behaves quite rudely towards you. These don’t have to be massive character faults. Perhaps you simply don’t share similar interests. This is fine. Knowing this will help you figure out how to improve this situation. Communicate to your boyfriend that it’s hard to deal with some of his friends. Sit with him and have a conversation about what you feel your problems are. By doing this, you are showing that you do want his friends to be part of your life. Be honest. Your boyfriend will value this because it shows that you are willing to be up front about how you feel. You might start the discussion with a phrase like, “I don’t seem to be fitting in with your friends.” Or, perhaps, you can say “I want to know more about your friends.” Using gentle language like this will make it easy to start conversing. You may think that you are getting bad signals from your boyfriend’s friends. Yet, if you think about this from their side, you might possibly find that they are not reacting badly towards you out of malice. For example, they may just be protective of their friend. They don’t necessarily dislike you, but they feel they need to put up a strong front in order to keep you from hurting their friend. If you explain to them that you aren’t, then you might find they will be more receptive to you, and less likely to irritate you on purpose. This is hard but doable. By thinking about their perspectives, you will be able to find a way to communicate with them. It’s natural to want to be with your partner when you first meet. It is also completely natural to become envious of anyone who also has claims on his time. However, you should not lash out at him or his friends because you feel this way. Take this as a good sign. It means that you have found a person that everyone wants to spend time with. For example, you might become jealous of his best friend. Though this is a natural reaction, you shouldn’t become too possessive of your boyfriend. He and his best friend have probably known each other for a while, so you should respect that they need to have their time together. You may not understand why his friends behave in a certain way. They may act in ways that annoy and irritate you. You might try ignoring them. However, sometimes, this may be impossible to do. In that case, you need to find a way to confront them in a non-threatening manner. For example, perhaps one of his friends always tags along with you and your boyfriend. You don’t know why this is. Perhaps, he simply does not have much to do or he just really likes your boyfriend. Either way, this is getting on your nerves. The next time he wants to hang out with you both, ask your boyfriend to tell him that you want to have couple time. If your boyfriend tells him this, then he will probably get the message.
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Figure out what bothers you about his friends. Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Empathize with his friends. Don't be jealous of his friends. Deal with friends who do things you disapprove of.