When it comes to getting a girl to chase you, rule number one is don’t come on too strong. Throwing yourself at her is a great way to put her off and convince her that you’re probably not worthy of her time and attention. Whatever you do, don’t make it obvious that you’re actually the one chasing her by playing hard to get. Fight the temptation to always text her first or be the one to offer to hang out. It’s better to bide your time and wait for her to come to you. from an interaction. Many people make the mistake of becoming too clingy or eager to be in a girl’s presence once they’ve got her hooked. Don’t be afraid to cut a magical conversation short when you see someone you know, or duck out a little early because you’ve got other places to be. Doing so will make her look forward to your next meeting while also advertising that you’re in high demand. Remember: if you want her to chase you, you can’t be around all the time. Devote time to your own pursuits, even if it means occasionally turning down an offer to hang out. On the surface, this will help you portray yourself as passionate and goal-driven, both of which are attractive qualities. Secretly, though, you’ll be encouraging her to try harder.  Bring up your hobbies, interests, and projects frequently in conversation so she’ll know how serious you are about them. You could even go so far as to say things like, “My ideal girlfriend would love gaming as much as I do,” or, “It would take someone really special to get my mind off of cars.” She may take it as a challenge. While talking to her, say things like, “I’m thankful to have such a great friend,” or, “You’re just like one of the guys.” If she’s into you, dropping hints that you see her as a casual friend rather than a serious romantic prospect may make her work even harder to win your affection.  You don’t have to keep her in the friend zone forever, but putting her there temporarily is a good way to fan the flames of her desire and motivate her to get out. If you’re going to take this approach, reel in the flirtiness a little. Sending mixed signals could just confuse her or make her suspect that you’re playing games. Sometimes when you’re dealing with a hard case, the best thing you can do is employ a little reverse psychology. Refusing to acknowledge her the way everyone else does will cause her to doubt her assumptions about you and lead her to wonder what’s so great about you that you’ll hardly give her a second look.  Ignoring is more subtle than just pretending like she doesn’t exist. It could mean laughing halfheartedly at her jokes, acting unimpressed when she tells stories intended to make her look cool, or simply engaging with everyone around her more than her. Giving the cold shoulder to a girl you secretly like can easily backfire. Try to do it in a way that feels unintentional, not deliberate or mean-spirited. Don’t stop what you’re doing just when it’s starting to work. If she suddenly seems determined to get you to notice her, be receptive to it, but don’t take the bait all at once. Instead, play it cool and give her just enough to keep her coming back without sacrificing the upper hand.  Once you’re certain that she’s after you, you can begin gradually increasing the amount of fondness you show towards her until the two of you’re on a level playing field. Going from lukewarm to hot too quickly could cause her to lose interest in the dynamic that you’ve worked so hard to establish. In the worst case, it may even lead her to believe that your behavior has just been an act.

Summary: Keep your cool and avoid making the first move. Be the first one to walk away Stay busy with your own goals and hobbies. Make her think she's in the friend zone. Try ignoring girls who won’t give you the time of day. Be careful not to give up your advantage too soon.


Take a month to note down where you spend all of your money. You can use a smartphone app to help with this project, or you can rely mostly on your bank account if you don't use much cash. Separate out what you spend into categories. For instance, you can have categories such as "groceries", "gas", "clothing", "eating out", "entertainment", "rent", "bills" and "fees". You could also separate your bills into two categories: ones that are absolutely necessary, such as insurance, and ones that you may want to reduce or remove, such as cable and your phone. On a spreadsheet or app, identify what percentage of your money is taken up by necessary items, such as rent and bills. Also, use your last month's spending to see how much you spend on gas and groceries. Determine how much you have leftover for discretionary spending. If you are starting a new hobby, some money must come from other areas. For instance, you might want to cut down on other entertainment or stop eating out as much. Maybe you could spend less at the grocery store. How much you allocate depends on what hobby you choose, as some are more expensive than others. You have a number of options available to you if you need a cheaper hobby. For instance, you could read or write, take up running, or try gardening or camping.

Summary: Note where you spend your money. Create a budget. Decide how much of your budget you want to allocate to hobbies. Pick a free or inexpensive hobby if you don't have much wiggle room in your budget.


In order to truly deal with your rage you must be able to recognize what rage feels like and what situations tend to cause it. The next time you feel rage, take a moment to observe what’s happening in your body. Also, take note of what stimulated this feeling. For example, you notice you’ve clenched your jaw really tight and your head starts pounding. This occurred after you were cut off in traffic. Deal with your rage by problem-solving ways you can avoid or better cope with your triggers. Create a specific plan of action that allows you to improve how you handle these situations.  For instance, if terrible traffic leads to rage, head out early to avoid traffic. If flustered, over-worked cashiers tick you off, try to shop during quieter, off hours. If your roommate’s messy bedroom bugs you, avoid going in there so you can stay calm. If you’re experiencing cold rage from having repressed your anger, you might benefit from some assertiveness training. Learn to speak up for yourself respectfully and with tact. If people are asking too much of you, say so. For instance, if your boss keeps dropping more work on your desk before you’ve finished your current projects, your temper may flare. Instead of holding it in, meet with your boss one-on-one and express your frustration. Say something like, “You’re giving me more work than I can handle right now. I’m trying to focus my efforts on the upcoming briefing. Can I delegate some of these assignments to Jenny?” The words you use can impact your emotions. Strong, absolute words like “never” or “always” don’t leave any room for exceptions, so they hinder problem-solving. Drop these terms from your vocabulary and see if it has a positive effect on your mood. Rage can remove all filters in conversation to the point that you’re criticizing and insulting people right and left. To avoid this, assert yourself with specific “I” statements. This limits blaming and criticizing, but still helps you get your point across. For example, if you’re struggling to contain rage at an insensitive partner, express your needs with an “I” statement like, “I feel ignored and misunderstood when you minimize my anxiety.” Schedule down time or personal time into your daily routine, particularly during times that are especially stressful. For instance, if coming home from work causes you to feel rage, make a standing rule that no one in your home speaks to you until you’ve had time to decompress.
Summary: Know your triggers. Brainstorm solutions for triggering events. Learn to say ‘no” when you’re overwhelmed or  stressed. Change your language. Tell people what you need using “I” statements. Give yourself a break.