Problem: Article: This step will help you organize your thoughts. Writing down your issues about concerns will help you stay focused and not react in an overly emotional way. You want him to hear your concerns not just that you are crying or yelling. Focus on specific behaviors or events that are red flags for you. This may include things like late night phone calls, your boyfriend taking special time to make himself look nice before he sees her or him seeming to hide things from you. See if this person agrees with your need to worry. For example, it may not be much to worry about if they live across the country from one another and only see each other on occasion versus hanging out daily.  You may find this outside person may have insight you missed, and it will help to clarify if you are seeing real problems or just worrying over nothing. This conversation will also give you practice talking things over so you are prepared when it comes time to have the conversation with your boyfriend if it seems like it is needed. Taking the time to reach out for another opinion also gives you a bit of time between an event that might be triggering this conversation and sitting down with the boyfriend. Generally, it is best to give yourself at least 24 hours after a stressful event to calm down and prepare for a sit-down conversation. Don't say “we need to talk…” which could put him on the defensive that there's a problem. Casually bring up the subject when you are driving or doing some activity together. Guys may be intimidated by discussions that require excessive eye contact. Sit beside him and try to be non-confrontational.  Start off with a casual conversation to gauge how he feels about the situation. If he is suddenly defensive about things or is overly protective of the friend this may mean there are bigger issues. The focus of the conversation should be about the two of you and not dominated by him standing his ground as far as spending time with her alone. If you are spending the whole conversation talking about why he needs to see her or why she really needs him, there are possibly deeper feelings there. Be specific. Maybe you think he doesn't see it but she's into him. Or, maybe you feel like they spend more time together than he and you. Make your concerns clear. Owning your feelings will help guide the conversation to what you need from the relationship and away from her. Examples of “I” statements may be:  “I feel left out when you and Jill do activities we talked about doing together because it seems like you didn't want me there.” “I feel sad when you cancel plans with me and end up hanging out with her because it looks like she is more fun than I am.” “I feel angry when I see posts of line of pictures of the two of you because our friends ask why you are posing like that with her.” If he is really not into her, this may be his way to move past the conversation. In some cases he may not be the one who is actually reaching out to see her. There is a chance she actually wants more and is the one making efforts he may in fact not see. Give him time to think over his relationship with her on his own. Making him aware of some red flags tied to how she behaves may also make him more aware that his friend may have underlying feelings for him he may not have considered. For example, if she calls and he lets it go to voicemail when you are together, does she suddenly blow up his phone until he answers? This could be a red flag that it's her and not him.
Summary: Write down your concerns before approaching your boyfriend. Talk it over with an impartial person like a sibling or friend. Approach your boyfriend in a non-threatening way. Explain your worries by using “I” statements. Try not to be upset if he brushes it off.

In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: Put a mixing glass and a coupe glass into the freezer to become completely cold. Chill them for at least 15 minutes or leave them to chill for several hours. If you prefer to shake the martini, chill a cocktail shaker instead of the mixing glass. Remove the mixing glass from the freezer and fill it up with ice. Measure and pour in 1.3 ounces (40 ml) of dry gin and 1.3 ounces (40 ml) of dry vermouth. Use a long-handled bar spoon to stir the martini until the cocktail is combined and very cold. This should take 15 seconds. You can shake the martini for 15 seconds, if you prefer. Remove the chilled coupe glass from the freezer and set a strainer over the mixing glass. Pour the millionaire martini into the coupe glass and discard the ice in the mixing glass. Open a bottle of champagne and pour it over the martini in the coupe glass. Slowly pour enough champagne to fill the glass. Serve the drink immediately. The amount of champagne you'll need depends on the size of your coupe glass. If you want to use a martini glass or champagne flute, you'll probably use more champagne.
Summary:
Chill a mixing glass and coupe glass for at least 15 minutes. Fill the mixing glass with ice and add the dry gin and dry vermouth. Stir the martini for 15 seconds. Strain the martini into the coupe glass. Top off the glass with champagne and serve the martini.