To find a nice person, you may have to look in places other than your local bar. That does not mean nice people don’t frequent bars, it just means that you may have an easier time of finding a person who suits your interests and values if you look in other places as well. Consider looking for a nice person to love at a place where people like the one you're looking for tend to gather. For example, you might have a higher chance of meeting a nice person at a charity event, volunteering at the hospital, or at the library. You may also consider being set up with a nice person by one of your friends or introducing yourself to someone who you often see reading at your neighborhood coffee shop. . To indicate your interest in someone, you need to show that you are interested by doing a little flirting. You can use your facial expressions, body language, and comments to flirt. Using things like body language, eye contact, and flirtatious comments can help to show the other person that you are interested in them. In fact, research suggests that how you indicate your interest can be more effective at attracting a mate than physical appearance. As you indicate your interest to someone, watch for signs that they are also interested in you. Check to see if the other person is smiling, making eye contact, and standing with their body directed at you. Other positive signs include touching their hair, adjusting clothes, raising and lowering eyebrows, or a casual touch on the arm.  Other signs of interest include biological responses that people can't necessarily control. For example, people may flush or blush when they are aroused. Their lips may also become plumper and redder.  If someone does not seem interested in you, don’t waste your time. Just keep looking for a nice person to love. There are several ways to open a conversation with someone you've just met and you're romantically interested in. These are called "opening gambits." They may also be known as "pickup lines" or "icebreakers." However, you don't have to be creepy to use an icebreaker. Research suggests a few ways to use opening gambits to open a conversation:  Direct. These openers are honest and clear about your intentions. For example, "I think you're cute. Can I buy you a coffee?" In general, men tend to like to receive these openers. Innocuous. These beat around the bush, but are friendly and polite. For example, "I'm new here. Would you recommend the cappuccino or the latte?" In general, women tend to prefer receiving these openers. Cute/flippant. These are the "pickup"-type lines. They can be funny, cheesy, or even nasty. For example, "Do you prefer your eggs scrambled or fertilized?" In general, both sexes prefer the other gambits over these. Since you're looking for a nice person to fall in love with, research suggests that you should go for something honest, friendly, and supportive. These are more likely to result in a long-term relationship.

Summary: Look for a nice person in the right places. Do a little flirting Look for signs of reciprocation. Strike up a conversation.


Into a large bowl or the bowl of a stand mixer, sift in the flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar. Once all the ingredients have been added, give them all a quick whisk to combine. Sifting the dry ingredients will help remove lumps, making it easier to achieve a smooth batter. To the dry ingredients, add the oil, milk, vanilla, and apple cider vinegar. Beat on medium speed with the stand mixer or electric beaters until the batter is smooth and free of lumps.  Stop as soon as the batter is ready, as overmixing can develop the gluten. This will make the cupcakes heavy and dense instead of light and fluffy. When the batter is ready, cover it with a damp towel or plastic wrap and set it aside while you make the frosting. You can use dairy milk, soy milk, or almond milk for these cupcakes. For the best results, choose an oil with a very mild flavor, such as grapeseed, canola, or safflower. Put the butter into a medium bowl and cream it with electric beaters or a wooden spoon. When it becomes light and fluffy, mix in the sugar in ½-cup (57.5-g) increments. When the butter and sugar are fully creamed together, add in the vanilla and the milk. Once all the ingredients have been added, beat the frosting on medium speed for three minutes.

Summary: Sift together the dry cake ingredients. Add the wet cake ingredients. Make the frosting.


Before you adjust your mirror, you want to make sure that your seat is in the right position for driving. Move the seat forward or back, adjust the seat back, and move the seat up or down, if your seat has that type of adjustment. It's important to adjust the seat so that you can easily reach the pedals of the car. Make sure your feet can reach the gas pedal, the brake pedal, and if you have one, the clutch pedal. With your seatbelt buckled, you will be in your final driving position. If you adjust your mirrors before buckling your seatbelt, you may be in a different position when actually driving. It is important for your safety to always drive with your seatbelt buckled. You want to assure that you can see the traffic behind you clearly. You should be able to see the road behind you, with the horizon line and a bit of the space above the horizon line visible as well. To be able to do this, make sure that you can see your whole rear window in your rearview mirror.  To adjust the mirror simply move the body of the mirror to a different angle. The mirror should move easily, although not so easily that it falls out of place once you position it. Don't adjust the mirror so that you can see out one side of the rear window more than another. This will only limit your overall vision of the road. If you are concerned about seeing one side of the car, you should use your side view mirrors for that. If you feel that your mirror needs additional adjustment after you start driving, make this adjustment while stopped. It can be a hazard to adjust the mirror while in motion, as you should be focused on your driving and the traffic around you. While driving, the vibration of the vehicle can cause the position of the rearview mirror to change. Pay attention to its position as you drive and adjust it as needed when stopped. To be safe, take the time to adjust the rearview mirror before every drive. It is not enough to rely on your positioning from the last time you drove. You may have been sitting in a slightly different position or someone else could have adjusted the mirror without you knowing.

Summary: Position your seat. Buckle your seatbelt. Move the rearview mirror. Make small adjustments while stopped. Adjust your mirror every time you drive.


A red flag is anything that could be a potential problem in the future. It’s easy to get caught up in the romance, but it might be best to take a step back and evaluate the person you are seeing for who they really are. Try thinking about all of the things that you know about them, and make note of anything that is questionable.  If he says he’s not ready for commitment, and that is something you are looking for, you should believe him and not try to change his mind. Red flags can also be things like a short temper, tumultuous relationships in his past, or indications of a substance abuse problem. Since you’re looking for a strong relationship, you should take your time getting to know them. The longer you spend with them, the better an idea you will have of who they really are. Don’t feel like you need to rush into something just because it feels good. One of the most exciting and fun parts of dating is getting to experience new things together. Pay attention to how your partner reacts to different situations and ask yourself if you’re comfortable with the way they handle different stressors or uncomfortable environments. For example, holidays are sometimes very high-stress situations and environments for people. How your partner acts in this environment might be a sign of how they’ll react in other high-stress situations. If you begin to feel uncomfortable, uneasy, or afraid in your relationship, don’t be afraid to leave immediately. Your partner should never threaten, hurt, or ignore you. Confide in someone you trust and cut all ties with anyone who is unhealthy for your mental and physical health.
Summary: Look for and notice red flags. Take your time getting to know him. Spend time with him in a variety of environments. Say “no” when you need to.