Look for the Nokia PC Suite under your programs in the "Start" menu of your Windows desktop. Click on it to launch. Depending on your phone, you can do several things with it from the Nokia PC Suite. Navigate through the menus and the functionalities. All the connected phones will be listed on the left side of the program window.

Summary: Start the application. Familiarize yourself with the application.


Before preparing yourself to tell someone else, take care of yourself. The news may impact you, too. Or, it may disturb you considerably even if it doesn't impact you directly. It is important for you to have given yourself a chance to recover your feelings before you try to explain things to someone else. Perhaps have a cup of coffee, take a shower, meditate or do deep breathing for a few minutes, or simply sit in a quiet dark place for some moments to give yourself the chance to pull together. Once you've moved past the initial shock, it'll be less intimidating to tell the other person but it's important to acknowledge that it may still be hard. Before you break some bad news, it's important to have an idea of how much you're willing and able to share. Be gentle and share information about the new development that can help shed more light for the person.  Don't ramble or make small talk. This is easier on the person receiving bad news than beating around the bush. Provide the story of what has happened (the narrative) to explain the events. Look the person(s) straight in the eye and calmly tell them what has happened. This can help you to formulate the words you'd like to use, but be prepared to remain flexible and ready to adapt to the other person's cues. The words and your style of delivery are dependent on who you are, your relationship to the person you're breaking it to, and the context of the news.  If there has been an accident and someone has died, practice saying so directly, but gently:  "I'm so sorry to tell you this; Michael was in a terrible car accident." Aim to give the person a little time to emotionally prepare for what you might tell them, and after they take a breath to collect themselves, they'll say, "What happened?" or "How is he?" Then follow up directly with, "I'm so sorry, but he was killed." If you lost your job, say something like: I'm really sorry to have to say this but the company has been taken over by a bigger network. Then you follow up with, And I have unfortunately been made redundant.

Summary: Work through your own reaction. Decide on the narrative. Practice what you're going to say.


Every jail and prison run visitation differently. Everyone will only allow visitation on certain days and hours. Figure out these ahead of time so you can schedule when visits will come. Try to arrange family and friends to come on different days. Spread them out. It will give you something to look forward to. Also figure out what you can do during visitation. This can range from simply talking to board games. Other places allow conjugal visits. Contact your jail before you are put in to see what they allow. Most places keep a tab for you so you don’t lose your money inside or have it stolen from you. You’ll want to figure out how you’ll have access to your money. Most places have a commissary desk where you can spend your money. Also figure out how you can deposit money into your account. Most places ask for a check, but some places allow you to deposit money online. This is a great option for family members on the outside. It’ll save them a trip to the office in the jail. Many jail or prison sentences can be reduced for good behavior. Talk to your jail ahead of time to see what specifically they look for. Simply asking might even help you get in good with the guards and staff. Avoid drugs and other violent/sexual offenses. Remember that, especially in the USA, jails are overcrowded so time off for good behavior is possible. Some jails will even cut your sentence short by a third for good behavior. Educational services, work programs, and detox/medical options are available at most jails. In order to make the most of your time, you’ll need to be aware of what is offered. Don’t waste your time behind bars. Take the time to learn, pick up a craft, or get off of drugs. Most of these services are free to use while serving time.  Most jails have multi-denominational chapels as well. These can be great sanctuaries — literally and figuratively — for while you are serving time. Ask ahead of time, if you can bring your own religious texts or trinkets. Some prisoners claim that an unspoken rule is not to mess with religious people in jail.

Summary: Learn how visitation works. Figure out how money works inside. Learn what constitutes “good behavior”. Talk to your jail about general services.


When life is bleak, we're not going to laugh no matter what. To see the humorous side of things, we have to be willing. So work on helping him be happy (making someone happy is impossible -- they have to want it) by being your awesome self and gracing his presence with it. By being positive and fun, you're really doing all you can. Be his friend (or whatever is fitting for your relationship), do little things for him, and just try to make his life easier (especially if he's been dealt a sour deck of cards). Let him see the bright side of life so the humor can start flowing. There are few things funnier (and mood-uplifting) than a person that can embarrass themselves and just roll with it. There are few things worse than a person that embarrasses themselves and gets all self-conscious and shameful. So when you spill that soda on yourself, just say that you're saving it for later and that brown looks better on you than white, anyway. Also, it's like two-for-one perfume. You're just being frugal! Studies actually show that embarrassing yourself can actually get people to like you and trust you more. It sort of makes sense -- when you show you're down-to-earth, light-hearted, and just a plain human like they are, it takes away any possible intimidation and stress. Slapstick, physical comedy is the only kind of comedy that's been around for all of human history -- and it still is for a reason. If the witty asides don't come to you naturally, don't stress! You can convince him you're the funniest thing since Tina Fey by just using your non-verbal hilarity.  Popcorn? Uh, yes, please! It's time for a who's-got-better-aim contest. And spaghetti? It's totally Lady & the Tramp time. Standing in line for your favorite movie? Bored so incredibly that you're practically gnawing off your arm for something to do? Why would you not bust out the macarena? As long as he's the type that doesn't embarrass easily, that is.  Try play-fighting, tickling or play-attacking him. The bond of human touch is strong as steel. Is it time for a thumb war rematch yet? Laugh yourself.  You don't need a good reason! Laughing is a chain reaction that often causes other people to laugh. And it will make you happier, too! . If you're visibly high strung or stressed, no situation you're in will be happy-go-lucky and funny. You know that one person that's always a negative Nancy? Don't be the party pooper! Relax. It's the only way to be yourself, be silly, and create an environment where the laughter will naturally flow. If you're relaxed and enjoy each other's company, the laughter will spontaneously start itself! If he's not laughing at your jokes, it's fine. You think you're funny and that's all that matters. If he sees you in your element, being natural, there's nothing to not like. So take a breath -- you got this.
Summary: Help him be happy in general. Be willing to embarrass yourself. Get physical. Relax