First, you have to get in grinding position. Though you can mix it up once in a while, typical grinding position is when a guy stands behind a girl. You can leave about a foot between your bodies and don't have to get incredibly intimate to start grinding with the guy -- especially if you don't know him. Both you and the guy should bend your knees so that you're lower to the ground. If the guy is much taller than you, then you won't have to bend your knees very much. If the guy isn't much taller than you, however -- this is likely to happen if you're wearing high heels -- then you should bend your knees a bit further so he's a bit above you. Now, move your hips and butt in one continuous circular motion, continuing to move from side to side while moving your legs up and down just a bit while keeping your knees bent. If the guy knows what he's doing, then his hips should find a similar rhythm to yours -- your hips should move in the same direction to the beat of the music. If you're feeling bold, you can touch the guy's front side with your butt as you move it from side to side. But you can also maintain a distance away from the guy. Move your arms and chest to the beat of the music, gyrating your arms and chest in the same fluid motion. Look ahead or slightly down as you continue to work your arms and chest while you move your hips. You can bring your arms down so they're on your knees or near your waist, and wait for the guys hands to land on top of yours or around your waist as you continue to dance.
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One-sentence summary -- Step in front of the guy, facing away from him. Bend your knees. Move your hips and butt. Move your arms and chest.


Veterinarians are taught to consider the quality of life of their patients when considering euthanasia. This means that they should present to you all treatment options that they think could help your pet before suggesting euthanasia.  Ask your veterinarian any questions you have, such as what the process will entail and what makes them sure that euthanasia is the right choice. If the veterinarian does not believe that there is a reasonable treatment that could help the pet then they will suggest euthanasia as a compassionate and caring option. Ask questions such as "Will I be allowed in the room with Rufus?" "Will he feel pain?" "How long will the process take?" A good vet will take the time to explain the process to you. Take time to consider your options. Deciding to euthanize your dog is a very difficult decision that requires some contemplation. Think about your dog, whether they are in pain, and whether they have any quality of life left. Use these questions to think and debate your options. In some cases you will not have very much time to debate your options. If your dog is in an emergency situation you may be required to make the decision quickly. Discuss the situation with those closest to you. Ask them if they have any experience with euthanasia and how they dealt with it. They can help console you and, in some cases, they can help you to make the hard decision to euthanize your dog.  Small children in your family should be told that the pet will be gone soon. How you do this is up to you but it should take the children's feelings about the pet into consideration. You can try saying, "Sam hasn't been feeling well for a while. We don't want him to be in pain, so the vet is going to give him medicine that will ease his pain. Sam will die, but that is what is best for him." After you have decided to euthanize your dog you should spend some quality time with it. Take it to its favorite places or do activities that it loves if you can. This is a time to make some wonderful memories with your pet before you have to say goodbye to it. Quality time with a pet that is ill could just mean quiet times together. Pet your dog softly and keep it nice and warm. Feed it food it loves and pamper it in any way that you can.
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One-sentence summary -- Discuss euthanasia with your veterinarian. Give yourself time. Talk to your family and friends. Spend quality time with your dog.


The break up conversation will likely be intense and difficult so set the scene by choosing a time and place where you can be alone and talk in private. This could be a quiet bench in a park or a private spot in a coffee shop. Choose a location that feels neutral and secluded enough to give you both space to talk and listen. Choose a private place to talk in public rather than having the talk in your home. If the man reacts negatively, this can help keep you safe. Because you are the one instigating the break up, you will need to take charge of the conversation and be clear about your intentions. Try to keep your voice calm and controlled, as getting emotionally may signal to the married man that he can try to comfort you and avoid the break up conversation. Using a calm and clear tone will make it apparent that you are serious about your desire to end the relationship. For example, you may begin by telling the married man you need to discuss your relationship and your unhappiness or discomfort with the situation. "I would like to talk to you about our relationship. I am not happy with our relationship and I think we need to address the status of our relationship." To ensure you are understood clearly by the married man, focus on “I” statements, such as: “I feel that you are not committed to our relationship and I am not comfortable being the other woman,” or “I think we should end our affair. I am tired of all the lying and sneaking around.”  At this point, the married man may try to persuade you to change your mind or use excuses he has used in the past. Resist this by providing reasons why you think it is time to end the relationship and by being clear that you have made your decision. Using “I” statements will show you are being accountable for your decision and are expressing your feelings without blaming or accusing the married man. This will keep the conversation controlled and prevent it from devolving into a shouting match. Once you have stated your intentions to end the relationship, be firm about your decision by rejecting any excuses the married man may use and walking away if he tries to persuade you to change your mind.   For example, you may say: "It's no use arguing about this anymore. I'm not going to change my mind and I hope you can respect my decision by not contacting me in any way. I think we both need time apart to accept the break up." You may want to cut communication with him to give him time to accept your decision and to avoid being tempted to renew the relationship. Avoid calling, texting, or emailing him, and do not answer any of his messages if he reaches out to you. Doing this will show him you are serious about your decision to end the relationship and will also help you to move on from the relationship.
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Set up a time where you are both alone and can talk privately. Express yourself clearly and calmly. Use “I” statements. Be firm about your desire to end the relationship.