Q: To become a Girl Scout leader, you must register as a volunteer. Go to https://www.girlscouts.org/en/adults/volunteer.html,  click on the green “Volunteer Now” link, and type in your zip code. Then, click on the green “Sign Up Now” link when you reach the regional “Become a Volunteer” page. Review the registration tips, and click on “Continue” when you are ready to apply.  If you want to review the troop leader roles, click on “Ways to Volunteer” and scroll down to “Troop Leader.” You can also look into upcoming local events. To complete your application, fill out all required boxes. In addition to your personal information, mention how you heard about this opportunity by selecting an option from the dropdown menu. Then, click on the circle next to “I want to join as a Volunteer.” Press “Continue” when you are finished. Once you complete the personal information application section, you have the choice to either search for a troop by ID number or browse local troops with openings. When you make your selection, click the green “Search” button. When you find an open Troop Leader position, review the location, start date, and meeting times to ensure the requirements work with your schedule. Then, click the empty box on the left side, and press the green “Next” button. You can select multiple open positions if you’d like to apply to several opportunities. Choose between an annual membership, lifetime membership, or young alumnae lifetime membership, and make your selection from the dropdown menu. Then, include your name, email, phone number, date of birth, gender, address, and county. In addition, select your ethnicity and race. When you are finished, click on the green “Submit” button.  The annual membership fee is $25. This covers 1 year of membership, and must be paid annually to continue your leadership status.  The lifetime membership fee is $400. If you select this, you will never have to renew your membership or pay an additional membership fee. The young alumnae membership fee is $200. You can select this if you’ve been a Girl Scout and you are under 30 years old. This covers a lifetime of membership. Review your registration summary, and press the green “Checkout” button when you are finished. Read over the membership registration, and accept the terms and conditions. Then, click on the green “Submit” button. If you’d like to include an additional donation, you can select the amount at this time. Click “Continue to Payment,” type in your billing information and card number, and click on “Confirm.” You can also indicate if you want to register for Girl Scout emails or text messages. Click the appropriate box to make your selection.
A: Visit the Girl Scout volunteer page to find local leadership opportunities. Detail the application with your name, email, number, and zip code. Type in a specific troop number or your zip code to find an opportunity. Skim the open volunteer roles and select a “Troop Leader” position. Sign up for a Girl Scouts Membership to complete your application. Make your payment and submit your application.

Q: While revenge may cross your mind and you may even begin to plot your plan, don’t go through with it. Revenge may be a way that people seek justice, yet the quest for justice may result in more injustice if the cycle of revenge continues. When you want revenge on someone, acknowledge your feelings as a way to cope with a loss of trust.  Don’t act on your impulses; wait until you are calm and in control of your body and emotions. It is likely that feelings of revenge will pass once you get out of the mindset.  If you choose to talk to the person you resent, watch your words. Don’t say anything you may regret in a moment of passion or to get revenge. It’s ultimately not worth it. Remember that no one person can meet all of your needs. If you believe that having a partner or a friend or being part of a family means that you will have all your needs met, think again. Having high expectations sets you up for failure.  Resentment can occur when expectations aren’t communicated clearly. A discussion on expectations and desires can help clarify current problems and avoid future problems. Have clear expectations with the people in your life. Compromise with the people in your life on what standards and expectations you each have for the relationship. When discussing your resentment with someone, don’t be quick to place all of the blame onto him. Instead, own your own feelings and experience. You cannot tell someone what his motivation was, or why he did something, because you simply cannot make that judgment call for someone else. Instead, focus on yourself, your hurt, and your experience. Instead of saying “You ruined the relationship and I’ll never forgive you!” try saying “I feel very hurt by what you did and it’s hard for me to move past this.” Sometimes it’s hard to admit that you yourself are flawed, have blind spots, and don’t always respond to situations in the most constructive way. This a reality for every person on planet Earth. Just as you want people to forgive your mistakes, extend the same courtesy to the people in your life. Remember that the person that hurt you is flawed, and sometimes functions from a place of limiting beliefs or skewed perception. Accepting that people make mistakes doesn’t mean excusing their behavior. It means you allow yourself to see the context surrounding the person and the experience to help you understand better. Allow the people in your life to be positive people who support you and allow you to make your own decisions. These are people who allow you to make mistakes and still support you. Have friends that are honest with you, that will give you a fresh perspective when you are stuck, or that will tell you when you are over-reacting. Good friends will accept you regardless of the mistakes you make, and being a good friend means accepting others even when they make mistakes. You may feel betrayed or absolutely justified in your resentment toward someone, making forgiveness nearly impossible. However, forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending the situation didn’t happen or that you have to excuse the person’s behavior. Forgiveness means you let go of the pain the person caused you.  Ask yourself what the person or situation triggered that deeply hurt you. Did you experience feeling abandoned, traumatized, or re-experience unpleasant memories from the past? It’s likely the person uncovered a deeper hurt inside you.  You don’t even have to verbally forgive someone. You can forgive someone who is no longer in your life or who has passed on. One way to practice forgiveness is by writing the situation and then writing about why you are choosing to forgive. Have a small (safe) fire and burn the paper.
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Avoid revenge. Have realistic expectations of others. Use “I” statements in discussions. Allow people to make mistakes. Surround yourself with positive people. Forgive.