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Remember well the kind of situation that you were in and what led you down that path. Do your best to avoid making the same mistake again with a new partner by learning to spot signs of abusers. Although you can't be certain when starting a new relationship whether or not your new partner will be abusive, abusers do tend to have some common tells, such as:  Very emotionally intense, emotionally volatile, or bottling his emotions Co-dependent (an unhealthy dependency on a relationship or person) Charming A former victim of abuse An alcohol or drug abuser Controlling of you and/or others Judgmental Unwilling to compromise Pushes for quick commitment or involvement Cruelty to animals or children "Playful" use of force in sex or demanding sex when you are ill, tired, or not in the mood Believes in rigid sex roles Be aware that an abusive person may be extremely charming and loving at first, showing no signs of being an potential abuser. An abuser may use certain tactics to keep you in the relationship, creating an imbalance until she holds all the power. Some of these tactics include:  Making and/or carrying out threats of violence Threatening to leave, to commit suicide, to report you to welfare Smashing things or destroying property, displaying weapons or harming pets Calling you names, playing mind games, putting you down, making you think you're crazy Isolating you from friends and family or forcing you to constantly check in with your whereabouts, what you're doing, and who you are with Making light of the abuse or saying it didn't happen Taking money or not allowing access to money, preventing you from getting a job Threatening to take away children, using children to relay messages Do your best not to look back, or else you might get sucked back in into the same vicious cycle you have left. Try to keep the future in mind; think of all the options that are exciting for your life! Thinking about the future can provide you with new meaning for your life. Try to think about what you might want to do with your life now that you are out of your abusive relationship. Brainstorm by writing down on a piece of paper some things that you wanted to do that your abuser denied you. Avoid becoming isolated; being in an abusive relationship can leave you without friends or close family.  Reach out to old friends and family; suggest going for coffee or dinner or something else fun that you both enjoy. Having social support can help you feel less isolated, thereby being more likely to break the cycle of abuse, and can also reduce stress. You can also try making new friends at your work place, gym, or any other social gathering. Just ask someone if they want to hang out! What have you got to lose? You may find it helpful to join a community of people who have gone through similar cycles of abuse. These people may have a unique ability to empathize with your situation. To find a domestic violence support group, you can try looking online, ask your therapist or counselor (if applicable), or look in your local newspaper. You may find that therapy helps you to recover from some of the emotional pain you have endured. Therapy may also help you break the cycle of abuse for good. Therapy may be additionally beneficial in that it can help you formulate a concrete plan for your future that keeps happier and more fulfilled, and less dependent on others. To find a psychologist in your area, try this website: http://locator.apa.org/ To stop yourself from dwelling on the past or even thinking of returning to your abusive relationship, stay busy. Start up new hobbies and interests, take on extra work, or find new friends. Research shows that staying busy can actually increase happiness, making this strategy doubly beneficial for you.

summary: Learn to spot abusive relationships. Be aware of ways an abuser manipulates or uses fear to gain power over the relationship. Forget the past. Spend time with your friends and family. Visit a domestic violence support group. Try psychotherapy. Make yourself busy.


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Unfed adult female deer ticks have a unique bright orange-red body surrounding the black scutum. Adult males are dark brown to black in color.   The name "wood tick" is used for a number of different ticks, including the deer tick, lone star tick, and American dog tick. All three ticks tend to live in wooded or recently cleared areas, and crawl up from the ground. You'll need to look to their markings to tell them apart. Brown dog ticks will have mottled brown and white markings on their scutums, which deer ticks do not have. The lone star tick has a distinctive white star-like marking on its scutum. The deer tick is about half the size of the brown dog tick, both in its pre-fed state and when engorged. Brown dog ticks rarely attach to humans. However, they are one of the few ticks that can infest a home. As the name implies, they're frequently carried by dogs, and can be found in kennels, around veterinary offices, and outdoor areas frequented by infected animals. " It may look like a head, but this is the part of the tick that attaches to the host in order to feed. It consists of two leg-like sensory structures that detect the presence of a host, a pair of knife-like structures that allow the tick to cut through the skin, and a single barbed structure (the "hypostome") that enters this opening.  The capitulum on the deer tick is much longer than in other common ticks, such as the dog tick. The capitulum is positioned to the front, and visible from above.  The female deer tick has a larger capitulum than a male deer tick. Adult male deer ticks do not feed. Deer ticks are particularly well-established along the Eastern and Upper Midwestern United States, but can be found as far south as Texas and into Missouri, Kansas, and parts of Oklahoma.  Deer ticks are most active in the spring, summer and fall. However, they may be active whenever the temperature is above freezing. Other forms of ticks, such as the dog tick, are generally most active in spring and summer months only.  The adult form of the deer tick lives in woody, brushy habitats. They prefer low-lying shrubs, not trees.  The Western Blacklegged Tick is another form of the deer tick, found along the Pacific Coastal regions. It is especially active in Northern California. This form of tick rarely attaches to humans.
summary: Identify the tick by its markings. Look at the length of the tick's mouthparts, or "capitulum. Consider where you found the tick.