Problem: Article: While there are many types of solder, a high-tin variety binds best with stainless steel. Tin also matches the color of stainless steel, so it makes for a better visible seal. Solder with some silver in it will also form a stronger seal. Remember that solder with silver takes longer to melt. You’ll need both hands when you solder, so secure both metal pieces down. Arrange them at the angle you want them to bind. Then use a clip or vise to clamp them into place.  There are special soldering benches with clamps to hold 2 metal pieces in place. Consider investing in one of these if you solder often. Most table vises are also large enough to hold 2 pieces of metal at the same time. If you’re soldering something locked in place, like a pipe, then only secure 1 piece of metal. Both a torch and a soldering iron work for this. Apply the heating unit to both pieces of metal along the line that you're connecting. Leave the unit on until the metal gets hot enough to melt solder.  The flux will bubble a bit when it’s heated. This is normal. To test when the metal is hot enough, touch a bit of solder to its surface without the heating unit attached. If it melts on contact, the metal is hot enough. If you’re binding a different metal to the steel, like copper or tin, pre-treat the surface by melting some solder onto it. This gives the steel a surface to bind to. Heat up the metal with your soldering iron or torch until it's hot enough to melt solder. Then press solder against the metal and let some pool on the area that you're binding to the steel.  If you’re soldering 2 pieces of stainless steel, then skip this step. Solder is a thin metal wire that comes in a spool. When you melt it, unroll 6 inches (15 cm) from the spool to keep your hand a safe distance away from the heat. With both pieces of metal pre-treated, the solder will bind much better. Touch the solder to the heated metal so it melts. Then spread the solder until you cover the whole joint. Apply more heat if the metal cools off.  If you’re using a soldering iron, hold the iron against the joint. Then touch the solder to the iron. Spread the melted solder along the joint as it flows down the iron. If you’re using a torch, don’t touch the solder directly to the flame. Heat the metal up with the flame until it’s hot enough to melt solder, then touch the solder to the metal. Flux is very corrosive, so leaving it on can damage the metal over time. Let the solder cool for 2-3 minutes before touching it. Then rinse off any remaining flux. Bring the metal piece to a faucet and run warm water over it. Rub with a sponge or toothbrush to remove any leftover flux.  If the piece you soldered is too large or fixed in place, bring over a bucket of warm water and scrub the joint with a sponge. Use a mild dish soap if the flux doesn’t come off with a simple scrubbing.
Summary: Use a solder that is at least 50% tin for the best bind. Clamp down the 2 metal pieces you’re soldering so they touch each other. Pre-heat both metal surfaces with your heating unit. Melt some solder onto the non-steel metal if you’re using one. Apply solder at the joint of the 2 metal pieces. Clean the joint with warm, running water to remove remaining flux.

Problem: Article: A professional mental health therapist can help you identify the source of your negative emotions and develop healthy skills to lead a more satisfying life. Your self-worth may have been jeopardized by unhealthy relationships or abuse from your past. Talking about these experiences in a unbiased and supportive context can lead to healing.  One recognized form of therapy for those who self-sabotage is dialectical behavior therapy. This treatment approach is directed at gaining a better understanding of your feelings in order to build skills that help you stop problematic behaviors. You may work with your therapist to prevent overeating, stop risky sexual activities, and establish healthy relational patterns.  Another is cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT will help you identify beliefs that fuel your self-worth. Once you identify those beliefs, you can explore their origins and validity and eventually replace them with thoughts and beliefs that are true. Self-sabotage is prominent in people who feel depressed but do not know how to express or improve their emotions. If feeling unloved has led to depressive symptoms, you need to see a doctor.  Depression may manifest as a loss of interest in once pleasurable activities, withdrawing from loved ones, having trouble eating or sleeping, and feeling hopeless. A certain class of prescribed medications known as antidepressants are effective at improve depressive symptoms. This may be advisable if therapy alone does not improve your symptoms. Support is imperative for anyone struggling with mental illness. It's vital to build a network of health care providers and loved one who are there for you as you heal. However, meeting with other people who have gone through what you are going through can also be comforting. Ask your mental health provider about support groups for people who are struggling with the same issues as you. Attending these groups can help you learn how others cope with feeling unloved and help you gain a sense of belonging in a supportive group.
Summary:
See a therapist. Determine if you require medication for depression. Take part in a support group.