Problem: Article: Friendships are the foundation of good relationships. The first step to being a good friend is paying attention to what her and her friends say. Avoid talking only about yourself and your interests. Give her your fill attention by not looking bored or distracted. Put your phone away and make eye-contact when you talk. While being a good friend can backfire and get you “friend zoned”, more often it is a way to show you are kind, caring, and committed. When done affectionately, light teasing is a subtle way to show you are interested. For example, make-up a funny story about travelling to a different country or pretend your house is haunted. Lightheartedly tease her about her taste in music, or a weird food she likes, and then follow it up with a compliment.  Other examples of teasing include light tickling, placing your hands over someone eyes and saying “guess who”, or giving them a light shove or nudge on the back or arm. Show you are teasing by using an exaggerated tone of voice, facial expressions, or a smile. When flirting, you want to start with something subtle, such as making eye contact, smiling, and then quickly looking away. You can also compliment her or act like an old-fashioned gentleman by holding doors, offering to buy her coffee, or carrying her books. If you know one another and are comfortable around each other, try brushing a strand of hair off her face, give her a hug, or sit next to her. If she is interested in you, she will start flirting back. One way to get a girl not to like you is to come off as too needy, clingy, or desperate. If your relationship has stalled, consider giving her some space. Start talking to other girls, and playing hard to get. By creating a challenge, you make yourself look more desirable.  Hold back some of your feelings in the beginning of the relationship. Maintaining a sense of mystery and uncertainty helps keeps things interesting – and perhaps kindle romantic feelings. For example, don't tell her how much you like her and talk about your "future" together the first time you hang out. Give her some space. While you do not want to stand her up if you've made plans, don't text or call her every day. Your absence may lead her to realize how much she actually cares for you. If you like her and she likes you, but is afraid or nervous of commitment, you can always decide to maintain a casual relationship. Casual relationships are non-exclusive romantic relationships. While you might see each other on a semi-regular basis, you are open to flirt with or go out with others. Especially if you are between the ages of 18 to 24, having an open, casual relationship can help you grow emotionally and become more comfortable interacting with the opposite sex. In a casual relationship, it is important to establish ground rules to minimize the risk of someone getting hurt:  Is it okay to go out in public? Is it okay if others know, or should the relationship be kept secret? What happens when one person becomes romantic with someone else? Will you tell each other if this happens? How often do you want to see each other? When is it okay to call or text? Do not ask questions that are condescending or accusing, such as: how many people are you seeing?  Where were you last night? Why didn't you return my calls? Can I add you on Facebook? If you cannot agree to these terms, than you probably should not pursue a casual relationship. Tell her your feelings and let her know you're interested, but that you should remain friends if she feels she can't commit to something more serious.
Summary: Become a better friend to both her and her friends. Joke around and tease one another. Try to flirt with her. Play hard to get. Consider keeping things casual.

In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: Different therapists have differing approaches to therapy. It's important to get a sense of how a therapist would proceed if you were to begin sessions with him.  Ask the therapist how he would want to proceed with treatment, and whether he uses any particular therapeutic modality in his practice. Then read up about that treatment plan to see if you think it could help you.  A good therapist will suggest different techniques and treatment strategies for you to work on at home between sessions. Find out about the therapist's projected treatment plan. You should specifically ask how many sessions you can expect to have, how long each session will last, and what kind of timetable you can expect for results. It may seem like a strange question to ask a marriage counselor you're interested in working with, but it can also be a very important thing to know. Some marriage counselors urge their clients to leave the marriage when things get rocky, either because of the therapist's beliefs or her unwillingness to continue working through problems. This may be the mark of a poor therapist for your needs, especially if you're committed to working through your problems no matter what. You should specifically ask the therapist at what point she considers divorce to be a viable option and when she thinks you should try to stop or avoid it. Each therapist brings his own set of values to the practice of marriage counseling, which can be good, bad, or neutral. However, those values shouldn't intrude on your therapy in problematic ways. It's important to determine what your therapist's values are to ensure that he will be a good fit for you and your partner moving forward.  If a therapist says there is only one way to have a successful marriage, you should consider finding someone else to work with. Ask a therapist you're interested in what his personality is like. That may give you some insight into how well he'd fit with you and your spouse.  Determine what kinds of patients the therapist works with before you describe your problem. That way you'll know whether he can help you right off the bat. Describe yourself, your spouse, and your marital problem(s). Ask the counselor how he thinks the first session or two might go when dealing with that problem to get a sense of what to expect. There are many therapeutic approaches that are generally recognized as being effective and medially-sound. It may be a good idea to find out what kinds of therapeutic approaches your counselor uses to see if it would fit well with your needs. Two common evidence-based approaches to marriage counseling are Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and the Gottman Method.  Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy works to rebuild the foundation of a marriage by focusing on repairing trust, fostering emotional intimacy, and rekindling feelings of love and affection. The Gottman Method works to rebuild a marriage by first changing the behaviors of each partner. This method emphasizes communication skills, conflict resolution, strengthening the friendship within a marriage, and being more caring/considerate partners to one another. Marriage counseling should not feel like a never-ending pursuit. Early in the counseling, you and your partner should set concrete goals with your therapist so that the ensuing sessions have some direction and focus. Each subsequent session should have those goals in mind and should work to help you and your partner find ways to meet your goals.  You won't see results overnight, but if you haven't seen any improvement in your marriage after several weeks' worth of sessions, you may want to consider looking for another therapist.  A good therapist should make both spouses feel respected and heard. If your therapist takes sides or "gangs up" on you or your spouse, you should consider looking for another therapist.  Don't get frustrated. Saving a marriage takes time and effort from both you and your partner, you won't be able to do it alone. If the therapist you're seeing isn't helping you reach your clearly-defined goals, it's worth your marriage to find one who will.
Summary:
Compare strategies and treatment plans. Ask your therapist's opinion on divorce. Determine your therapist's values. Look for evidence-based approaches. Evaluate your progress.