Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Consider your age and gender. Take your weight into account. Consider any medical conditions you have. Take note of smoking. Consider your child's risk.

Answer: Men are more likely to have sleep apnea than women. The risk for both sexes increases as you age. People over the age of 65 or women past menopause are more likely to have sleep apnea.  Your risk of developing central sleep apnea, in which the brain fails to signal your breathing muscles to work, increases once you are in middle age.  A family history of sleep apnea also increases your risk, especially of obstructive sleep apnea, the most common type. African American and Hispanic men may be more at risk of developing sleep apnea. Being overweight or obese can raise your risk of having sleep apnea. People who are obese are four times more likely to have obstructive sleep apnea -- about half of the people with obstructive sleep apnea are overweight. People with thicker necks are also at increased risk of obstructive sleep apnea. For men, having a neck circumference of 17 inches (43 cm) or more increases your risk. Risk increases for women with a neck circumference of 15 inches (38 cm) or more. The risk of sleep apnea is higher for people with certain other medical conditions. Risk of sleep apnea is linked to the following conditions:  Diabetes Metabolic syndrome Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) Stroke or heart disease High blood pressure (hypertension) Congestive heart failure Pregnancy Chronic nasal congestion Pulmonary fibrosis Acromegaly (high levels of growth hormone)  Hypothyroidism (low levels of thyroid hormone)  Small lower jaw or narrow airways Use of narcotic pain medications Smokers are three times more likely than non-smokers to develop obstructive sleep apnea. Smoking negatively affects your entire body's health, so talk to your doctor about quitting as soon as you can. Smoking e-cigarettes increases airway resistance, which makes it harder to breathe. Using e-cigarettes, or "vaping," will also increase your risk of sleep apnea. Children may also experience sleep apnea. Like adults, children who are overweight are at increased risk of sleep apnea. Children may also have enlarged tonsils, which raises the risk of children experiencing sleep apnea. Enlarged tonsils may result from infections. Tonsil enlargement may not produce any symptoms, or it may cause a sore throat, trouble breathing, snoring, or recurring ear or sinus infections.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Help out with general house chores and maintenance. Defer to her preferences when tending the house. Discuss a fair way to split any expenses, such as food, early on. Establish ground rules about any specific living quirks or desires. Talk openly and honestly about any romantic expectations. Treat her house with respect, not like your personal property.

Answer: If you're going to be a good house guest, you need to help out around the house. Most importantly, don't wait for her to ask you to do something if you notice it needs to be done. Staying with someone requires both sides to work together to keep the space happy and livable. Some chores to look out for include:  Watering plants Doing dishes Washing sheets, blankets, and towels Tending to pets Vacuuming. There are going to be some things that she likes a particular way, even if they don't make sense to you. Maybe her spice rack is particularly organized for easy cooking, or she likes the towels folded particularly. Everyone, including you, has little quirks and preferences for your living conditions -- so be sure to respect hers. Being considerate is not so much about the spice rack or the towels. It is about understanding her personal space and preferences.  She likely has her things in very particular orders and places -- be respectful and ask questions when storing your own stuff. You may have ways of doing things you may think are "better" or "more logical," but remember that this isn't your house. At the end of the day, her preferences for her stuff take priority. If you're staying at her house, you should be willing to help cover at least some of the expenses, particularly food. While she may have it covered, she may also want to split rent or utilities, depending on how long you'll be staying. Don't just assume that "everything's good." Make a point to ask her about finances before unsaid arguments become a problem. Talking about money is never fun, but it is essential to preserve a strong, healthy relationship. Maybe she needs a little quiet time when she gets home from work. Perhaps you both really like to shower before leaving, but need to work out a way that you both have enough time. The best way to handle these situations is to talk about them as they come up -- finding compromise early on instead of waiting until one of you is upset. Common things to cover include:  Who does what chores or house maintenance tasks? Etiquette for inviting other people over for visits/dinner/hanging out/etc. Your usual routines, including sleep schedules, and how to be respectful of them. Talking about romance may be the least romantic thing you can do, but it is absolutely necessary. Whether you're sharing a bed with a partner or just friends living together, sit down and talk about physical intimacy together early on.  If you're a couple, think about how often you'd like to be together and promise each other to be honest about your mood and feelings. If one of you says no, remind each other that is a firm no, not something to be negotiated. If you're just friends, talk about when and how it is acceptable to bring someone home with you, and the etiquette about dating and the house. Staying with someone for a long time, whether you're dating them or not, tends to lead to some relaxed "rules" and ideas. But just because you get comfortable in the house doesn't mean it is suddenly yours -- all of your basic manners still apply. Clean up any of your messes, put things back where they belong, and respect her rules and preferences and you should be more than okay. How to act at a girl's house is about being a considerate, kind person -- it's not rocket science. Keep in mind that you're in her house, meaning your footprint is going to impact her directly. If, for example, you know that she pays the water bill, don't take 30-minute showers.


Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Discover the sources of the conflict. Explain how their conflict hurts you. Mediate the dispute. Be patient. Come to a resolution.

Answer:
Why do your friends dislike one another?  There might be one reason or many.  Your friends may not get along because one or the other of them acted badly. Whatever the cause(s), identifying them is the first step toward resolution.  Ask each friend why the conflict began.  Let's say you have two friends, Armin and Sam.  Ask Sam why he dislikes Armin.  Maybe Sam doesn't really have a reason, but just feels vaguely uncomfortable or uneasy around Armin.  Go to Armin next.  Repeat your question.  From Armin, you learn that at some point, Sam said something that hurt Armin's feelings, or made him feel insulted.  Maybe they had an argument over something.  Whatever the case may be, armed with a basic understanding of the problem, you can try to work with them to resolve it.  Sometimes your friends may not tell you why the conflict began.  Perhaps they both said or did something wrong and are afraid, ashamed, or embarrassed to share it with you.  In this case, with the permission of your friends, you might try to enlist the help of a third party trained in conflict management to investigate why the conflict between your friends began.  Many conflicts are caused by simple misunderstandings. Perhaps Sam failed to remember Armin’s birthday; perhaps he thought Armin badmouthed him behind his back.  Helping your friends identify the roots of their conflict can empower them to move past it. When your friends fight, you’re put in a difficult, and often stressful, position.  After all, you must constantly watch what you say, choose how to balance your time, and endure hearing negative comments about one from the mouth of the other.  If your friends understand this, they will be more willing to bury the hatchet.  Not talking about negative emotions like frustration, emotional hurt, or disappointment will only enlarge them.  Talking to your friends about your feelings on their conflict is important not only for its potential to speed their swift resolution but for its ability to give you good mental health.  If your friend is a narcissist who does not care about your feelings, and is unable to concern themselves with your feelings and point of view, don’t bother sharing them with that friend.   You can detect a narcissist by listening to their response when you share your own perspective.  For instance, you may explain  to Sam that you feel stressed by his fight with Armin.  If Sam replies that he, too feels stressed and does not appear to be acknowledging the psychic pain you’re experiencing, Sam is a classic narcissist.  Limit spending your valuable time with such a person. Do not blame or attack when expressing how you feel.  Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements.  In other words, instead of saying “You’re very inconsiderate and it stresses me out,” say “I feel very stressed by this whole situation.”  Where the former sentence is accusatory and will inspire the listener to defend him or herself, the latter sentence is explanatory and personal, and engages the listener in dialogue.  If you have a hard time giving voice to what you feel, write it out before addressing your friends.  This will allow you to explain yourself more fully without dealing the the pressure that sometimes comes from a face-to-face meeting. When you mediate a situation, you act as a referee, trying to get the two of them to bring their problems and concerns out in the open with the goal of reconciliation.  It can be a challenge, but is well worth it when two people who hate each other are finally able to set aside their anger and hate.  Bring both people to a neutral location.  Do not meet in either of their homes.  The one on "home turf" may feel they are the boss, and the one who is not will feel ill at ease.  Private rooms in a library or school are good options. Thank them both for meeting each other with the intent to settle their differences.  Let them know that they are both important to you and you want to see them patch things up. Lay the ground rules: interrupting each other, name-calling, yelling, and other emotional outbursts are forbidden.  Insist each party acts with mutual respect and remains open-minded.  Without these basic guidelines in place, the process could easily deteriorate into a shouting contest. Encourage each party to speak their minds.  Ensure the other listens carefully to the opposing perspective.  If either side feels they are not being heard or the mediation effort is futile, they will not invest themselves in the process and it will be fruitless for all three of you.  Illustrate to them how similar they are.  Find the common ground between them -- especially the fact that they are both friends of yours. If it starts to turn ugly, put a stop to it.  "All right, all right,” you might say.  “It's pretty plain to see that you guys are not going to be able to work this out today.  I plan to remain friends with both of you, so I hope that you will try to be civil to one another in the future." If you do not believe you are unbiased enough to settle the dispute, identify and seek assistance from someone with the diplomatic skills who may be able to.  A good conflict mediator will be neutral (evaluate the situation objectively); impartial (act without a stake in the outcome); and fair (approach each side in a balanced manner).  Enlisting help of am unbiased third party who does not know either friend is a good idea if you do not want to mediate yourself. Don't expect them to patch up everything overnight.  If the first mediation is unsuccessful, don’t give up.  Use the experience to plan another one.  Talk to each individual about their thoughts after the first mediation session.  If you detect a softening of attitude or tone in both or either party, suggest a follow-up mediation in another week or so. Continue to offer your support and friendship to both, and if one or another of your friends broaches the subject, express your continued hope that a positive resolution can be found. Do not try to pressure either party into accepting a resolution they are unhappy with.  This will either break down the resolution process entirely or cause one (or both) friends to feel resentful at having been “forced” into a bad deal. Brainstorm some possible resolutions with the interested parties.  Each individual should have some input.  Look for win-win solutions where both individuals walk away happy.  For instance, if the problem is that Sam felt snubbed because Armin didn’t invite him to his party, suggest that Armin invite Sam to his next party as the guest of honor.  With all the possibilities in front of you, consider the pros and cons of each.  Print a spreadsheet outlining each possibility with the pros and cons and distribute one to each friend. Keep both friends focused on finding an outcome.  Continue to push them toward compromise and give each individual equal time to speak.  Paraphrase and ask questions of each friend’s statements at regular intervals to ensure you are understanding them correctly.  Give each a chance to modify what they have to say if any confusion arises. A lasting resolution must address both the substantive and emotional issues. Substantive issues are objective facts which are not debatable.  For instance, Armin crashed Sam’s car into a wall -- that’s a substantive issue and might be the central trigger which led to the conflict between them. Sam felt betrayed and let down by Armin because he’d loaned Armin the car in good faith with the pledge that nothing would happen to it.  Sam’s feelings of betrayal and disappointment are the emotional issues.   A resolution for a substantive issue, using the above example,  might be Armin paying for the repairs to the damaged car.  A resolution to the emotional issues might be Armin admitting his wrongdoing and apologizing to Sam, and Sam accepting that apology. If one or the other of your friends won’t accept a resolution, return to the process of asking questions, listening to their reasoning, and understanding what their desires are.  Listen to what they have to say and continue working with them toward a resolution.