INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Talking may allow her to express emotions she might otherwise not. Afterward, you’ll be better equipped to support her. Remember to use suggestive language versus telling her what to do.  Ask her if she wants to share how she feels. For instance, say “I know you are really hurt, I want you to know that I’m here to talk when you are ready.” Do not force her to talk. Let her talk to you when she is ready. If appropriate, share how you feel. Say something positive, like “Although I feel really sad, we’re here for each other.” Ultimately, you and your wife may need more help than you can provide alone. Fortunately, there are a lot of resources available to help women who have gone through a miscarriage. Spend a little time locating these resources.  Locate a mental health professional. See if your wife wants to talk to someone alone or with you. Use the internet or ask friends to find support groups for women who have suffered miscarriages. Find online resources to help your wife. You or your wife may be able to find great information on websites, blogs, or discussion forums about similar experiences others have gone through. Your OBGYN may be able to refer you to support services geared toward women who have suffered miscarriages. Many women who experience a miscarriage continue to suffer serious emotional problems for an extended amount of time. Ultimately, the emotional trauma of a miscarriage may persist throughout your wife's life.  Make sure you continue to offer support and a shoulder to lean or cry on indefinitely. Just because your wife does not articulate that the miscarriage still bothers her, this does not mean it doesn't. Realize that the emotional trauma of a miscarriage may persist for months or even years. Offer to run any errands she may have to do, unless she expresses that she wants to get out of the house. Women who have suffered miscarriages may ignore their own health and well-being in the short-term. As a result, you need to provide extra support to make sure her grief does not overshadow her own immediate physical needs.  Suggest that she takes some of her stress out by running, walking or doing light weight training. Make sure she has doctor approval first. See that she is eating complete and well-balanced meals with protein, carbohydrates, and fruits and vegetables. Talk to her to make sure she has communicated with her doctor about her own physical condition. For instance, her doctor may counsel her about ways to avoid infection and what to expect in the days or weeks after the miscarriage. Remind her that most complications, like vaginal bleeding, abdominal pain, and breast discomfort should go away within a week. You and other loved ones may often be at a loss of what to say.  There are common misconceptions about what is helpful to say. Steering clear of these may make it easier to find your own supportive words.  Don’t sidestep her grief by saying things like, "It's a good thing it happened early in the pregnancy." Don’t reinforce any blame she places on herself.  Remind her it wasn’t her fault. Don’t make any false promises. Instead, role model hope and looking to the future with your own behavior.

SUMMARY: Offer to talk. Get professional help together. Continue to support her for the long-haul. Be attentive to her health. Avoid common pitfalls.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: An easy way to find out how he feels is simply to ask other people. Of course, you should do this with caution because you don't want him to find out what you really think about him. Here are some ways to find out: There's no way to turn off a guy faster than to be the obsessive girl who tries to learn every detail of his life. Here are some things to avoid at all costs:   Looking through his phone. If he leaves his phone out, do not look through it to see if he's texting other girls. If he catches you, he will see that as a big red flag.  Looking through his email or Facebook messages. If he walks away from his computer for a minute, avoid the temptation to be a snoop.  Following him around to see who he's hanging out with. This may put him more in the mood for a restraining order than romance. In the end, things may not move forward if you don't take the initiative. If you're pretty sure he likes you or are just feeling brave and like you have nothing to lose, then go ahead and tell him how you feel.  Be lighthearted. Don't take it too seriously. Don't arrange a time and place to meet up and say, "I have something important to tell you." Just find the right moment to tell him you have a crush on him and are wondering if he feels it too. Don't make it a big deal--you don't want him to feel bad if he doesn't feel the same way. Be creative. Find a fun way to tell him how you feel. You can send him a note, a Valentine, or ask him to solve a riddle. Don't overdo it, but if you think outside the box, he may be impressed. In the end, it may just not be meant to be. If you want to continue the friendship, here are some things to keep in mind:  Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't share your feelings. This will just make everyone feel bad in the end. It's better to play it off. Remind yourself what a great friend he is and how lucky you are to have him. You may have missed out on a chance at romance, but you have a great friend for life. Know when you need to take a break. If your crush has blossomed into full-blown love, it may be time to take a break from the friendship because it will hurt too much. If you stop crushing on him, you can return to hanging out, but there's nothing worse than torturing yourself by hanging out with someone who doesn't share your feelings.

SUMMARY:
Ask around. Don't stalk or snoop. Be brave and tell him how you feel! Don't be disappointed if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.