If you decided to end the emotional affair and rededicate yourself to the relationship with your partner, it might be healthy to try to address the issues that caused you to seek emotional solace in the first place.  What aspects of the emotional affair did you respond positively to? If a deep sense of communication was missing from your relationship, what steps might it take to get better communication between you and your partner? Think about bringing something like this up with your partner:  "I'd like to talk to you about how we can improve our communication. I really value this relationship, and I love you, but I think we can improve how much we communicate, and the ways in which we communicate. What do you think?"   Ask your partner if there are any issues that she or he is having with the relationship and try to improve those. Often, your partner will withdraw from a relationship when he or she is dissatisfied or confused, causing you to look for emotional satisfaction somewhere else. If you improve some of the issues that may be bothering your spouse or partner, you could find your own needs suddenly met. Get a journal and a pen, find a nice quiet spot to work, and free-write. Write down your thoughts. Write down your hopes. Write down what an ideal relationship might look like to you. Strive to turn your current relationship into that vision, recognizing that you must put in at least as much effort as your partner should.  Deal with your own emotional demons rather than using escapist strategies to evade them. Writing them down can help start your understanding of what's wrong, as can talking to people you trust. Be open and frank with your partner about issues you think you need to tackle to feel like a more whole and healthy person. Your partner may just turn into your best ally over this, especially once he or she realizes the emotional challenges you've been facing and can see how you construed his or her behavior toward you. Once you've had a discussion with your partner, it's time to implement some of the changes you think could make your relationship better.  One big thing is distance. Maybe your relationship suffered because you felt smothered all the time. In that case, you'll probably want to take a little time for yourself. Or perhaps your relationship suffered because you didn't see one another enough. That would be an opportunity to carve more time out of your busy schedule to see one another, go on dates, and just be together. Ask yourselves if you're only in it for the physical relationship. Lots of people who engage in emotional affairs are satisfied sexually but dissatisfied emotionally. Having a healthy sexual relationship is great, but not if it's at the expense of a nurturing psychological and emotional relationship. If you're feeling unsure, hesitant, or just like you need a break, put some thought into taking a temporary hiatus. (Alternately, instead of putting the relationship on hiatus, just take a trip somewhere away from your partner to freshen up your perspective.) Taking a break is all about giving yourself a brand new set of eyes to look at the world. We only get one life, so we better make it worthwhile. If you decide that, despite everything, the current relationship is also not working, you may have to reach a decision to break up with the person, citing the unmet needs. It's always better to admit what isn't working despite trying than to condemn the two of you to a loveless, uncaring future.
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One-sentence summary -- Have a discussion with your partner, addressing some of the issues that the emotional affair brought up. Write down what you have learned after you have made your decision. Think about changing some aspects of your relationship to make it better. Take some time to think it over.


If you have any cats in your home that are old enough for medical flea treatments, apply them to help protect your kitten.  By making it impossible for fleas to infest your older cats, your kitten will be less likely to suffer from fleas again.  Cats under 6 weeks of age cannot receive chemical treatments for fleas. Cats aged 14 weeks and older, or which are 2 lbs, may take Comfortis for fleas. Talk with your veterinarian to learn which flea medications might be appropriate for your cat. Fleas can wait and hide on any object your kitten used, such as bedding or fabric, and will return to your kitten if they are able.  Take away this possibility by throughly cleaning these items and killing any fleas that remain.  Wash your kitten's bedding on high heat to help kill any fleas that might be hiding. You may want to simply dispose of any old bedding or cloth toys. Because fleas are so small, they can easily hide in a number of places in your home.  Flea eggs can also lay dormant for a time and later hatch, potentially causing another round of bathing and flea removal for your kitten.  You will have to diligently clean these areas to make sure that there are no fleas left hiding in your home.  Vacuum all rugs and carpets in your home.  You may want to sprinkle borax on them before vacuuming. Wash all of your own sheets, blankets and pillows.  Fleas can hide in fabric and will need to be removed. If the environment isn't cleaned properly, your cat will likely become infested again. After removing the fleas from your kitten and keeping the environment free of fleas, you will need to monitor your kitten for any new infestations.  As you play with your kitten, take a moment to look around its fur for any returning fleas or signs of their bites.  Constant scratching may be a sign that your kitten has fleas. Excessive grooming can be another indication that your kitten is suffering from fleas. Run your flea comb through your kitten's fur occasionally.  Drop anything that was collected onto white paper.  If you notice small, black specks, this can indicate the presence of fleas. If your flea infestation is particularly bad or proving difficult to manage, you may want to use insecticides in your home.  These kill fleas and their larvae, preventing further trouble from the ones currently living in your house.  Some pest control methods can be quite disruptive, such as a "fogger", so make sure it is necessary before you use one.  Bring every person and all pets outside if you use a "fogger" or "bomb" type of pest control.  These products are toxic and can kill your pets if exposed directly to them. When looking for any pest control product, find one that is labeled as an "IGR".  This stands for insect growth regulator, and will make it impossible for the fleas in your home to reproduce. If you are using a spray bottle style pest control method, make sure to cover all carpets and rugs.  Remember to spray under furniture and rugs as well. Allow the house to fully ventilate and let the insecticide dry completely before letting your pets back into the targeted areas.
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One-sentence summary -- Apply flea treatments to older cats. Wash anything the kitten uses. Clean your environment. Watch your kitten for signs of fleas. Consider using pest control products.


Gather information that the support agent will need to verify your identity, such as your account number or billing address. Tell the support agent that someone is using your wireless connection. If your wireless modem/router came from your ISP, they can log into it and remove unauthorized users. If you think someone is using your password, ask your support agent to configure a new one at this time. Remember, passwords are case-sensitive. If it’s been a long time since your router has been updated, your support agent may also take care of this now.
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Prepare for the phone call. Communicate the problem. Decide whether or not you want to change your wireless network password. Ask the support agent to recommend the right security settings for you.