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If you feel comfortable, talk to them in person. However, you can also contact them online or via text message. Tell them “hello” and ask how they’ve been doing. You might say, “Hey! How’s school going?” or “Hi! It’s been a long time since we’ve talked. I was wondering how you’ve been.” They’re probably going to be surprised that you’re reaching out to them since you've been enemies in the past. That means they may feel nervous about meeting up with you. Pick a place where neither of you have strong ties so that you can both feel like equals.  For example, you might ask them to meet with you at a local coffee house that just opened. However, it might be best to avoid asking them to meet you at your lunch table or at your home. Say, “Want to grab a cup of coffee at Good Beans?” or “I’m going to feed the ducks at the park. Wanna come?” At first, they might be suspicious about why you’re reaching out to them. Think about how you’d feel if they suddenly started talking to you. Let them know that you want to make up. Additionally, show them you’re interested in a real friendship by telling them why you’re reaching out. You could say, “I know things have been rocky between us, but I don’t like that. I’d much rather us be friends,” or “We’ve had some conflicts in the past, but I think we have a lot in common. Maybe we could try being friends.” While you and your enemy may have differences, you likely have some things in common. Talk to them to learn more about them. Then, find common interests that unite you. For example, you might both enjoy playing soccer, you may both like being creative, or you might both like the same TV show. Having mutual friends will help you and your enemy become better friends. Reach out to their friend group and invite them to do a group activity. You can do this before or after you reach out to your enemy to open the lines of communication. For instance, you might host a game night at your home, or you could make plans to see a movie as a group.
Make the first move to open the lines of communication. Invite them to meet you in a neutral location. Give them a reason to see you as a friend. Look for common ground that you can use to build a friendship. Make friends with your enemy’s friend group.