In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: When your siblings have friends over (and that includes boyfriends/girlfriends), don't bother them.  You might want to talk and hang out with them or play with them, but they deserve their time alone.  Wait until they call you. They will appreciate that and more likely want you to come back.  If you start to hang out with them and they ask, "Can you get out now?" say, "Sure" and go and do something else. If you know that your sibling has company coming, already have some activities (e.g. play outside, read, watch a movie, play video games, color, etc.) planned that you can do. Your siblings probably have something that you like and would like to use from time to time. Always ask to borrow the item before you use it. Your sibling may need it or might not want to share with you.  Say, "Hey, can I borrow your ___. I'll give it back to you tomorrow." If you do borrow something, take care of it and bring it back in the same condition that you got it. For example, do not borrow their phone and bring it back with a cracked screen. If your sibling says no, you can politely ask them why. You might be able to convince them if you know the reason. If your sibling refuses to share with you, do not beg or whine. Accept their answer. Eavesdropping will get you nowhere.  You usually want answers, and you'll end up right back where you started because your sister/brother will find out and you'll lose their trust. If your sibling wants you to know something, they will tell you.  If you do eavesdrop and overhear something, do not repeat it to other people (e.g. your friends, parents, etc.) If your sibling is on the phone or having a conversation that does not involve you, go to another room and do something else. If there is something small that your sibling did, don't run to tell your mom. Talk to them before you tell your parents. If you can't work it out, then tell them. If your sibling is in danger or going to do something illegal, you can go ahead and tell your parents.  If you are a tattle-tale, your siblings will not be able to trust you. Keeping secrets is a special, fun part of having siblings.
Summary: Do not bother them when they have company. Ask before you borrow something. Never eavesdrop. Don't be a tattle-tale.

The amount of oil in a plant depends on where it is in its life cycle, so it’s important to harvest each species of plant at the right time. You need to do some research to figure out when to harvest the plants you want to distill. For example, lavender should be harvested when about half the flowers on the stem have withered. Rosemary, on the other hand, should be harvested when the plants are in full bloom. Just as you need to research when to harvest plants for best essential oil production, you need to research how to harvest them. Careless handling, harvesting the wrong parts, even harvesting at the wrong time of day can reduce the quantity and quality of the essential oils. For example, you only want to use the flowering tops of the rosemary plant when making rosemary essential oil. Discard or use the rest of the plant some other way. Most essential oils are held in the plant's oil glands, veins and hairs, and these are very fragile. If you disturb or break them, you’ll get less oil from your plants. Handle the plants with care, and handle them as little as possible. If you're buying already-harvested plants, you will not have much control over the harvesting process. Look for plants that appear healthy and undamaged, and ask the seller when they were harvested. Generally, plants that are in whole form (not crushed or powdered) are best. While distillation removes many impurities, pesticides and herbicides can contaminate your oil. It’s best to use organically grown plants, whether you purchase them or grow your own. Drying reduces the amount of oil in each plant, but can greatly increase how much essential oil you make per batch. This is because you’ll be able to fit more material into each batch. Drying should be done slowly and away from direct sunlight. Commercially grown plants such as lavender and peppermint may be allowed to dry in the field after cutting for a day or so.  The ideal drying method varies from plant to plant, but in general, you shouldn’t overheat the plants. Drying in the shade or even in a dark room minimizes the oil loss. Don’t allow the plants to become wet again before distillation. Distill as soon as possible after drying. You can choose not to dry your plant material if you’d like to skip this step.
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One-sentence summary -- Determine when to harvest your plant material. Harvest your plants correctly. Be choosy if purchasing your plants. Dry the plant material.

Problem: Article: Take a step back and try to understand the real reason for your self-harming behaviors. Are you cutting to reduce stress or escape painful emotions? Are you cutting to as a way to feel in control of a part of your life? Was there a traumatic experience in your life that lead you to begin engaging in self-harming behaviors? Understanding the catalyst to your cutting behaviors will give you a launch pad to begin your healing. Once you have established the root of your cutting behaviors, you must access your feelings and learn how your feelings are connected to your cutting. Do not hide your emotions or bottle them up. Express what you are feeling as they occur. Try writing them down or talking to someone about your feelings.  Recognize that your feelings directly impact your actions. If you are feeling exceptionally sad, the urge to cut may become stronger. By acknowledging that you are sad, you will anticipate your urges and begin to become more aware of the patterns of your self-harm behavior. Acknowledge your feeling by saying phrases like “I am feeling ____” and, “I accept that I am feeling___.” Triggers are people, places, or events that provoke your cutting behaviors. Triggers vary by person, and you must understand your specific triggers to better handle your cutting behaviors. Deciphering your specific triggers may help you more readily understand what is causing your cutting behaviors.  Write down events and feelings leading up to each time you cut yourself. Look for patterns and similarities to better understand your specific triggers. You will know you have been "triggered" when your emotions surge and become intense and out of proportion following the event that triggered you. Do you enter a quiet room and lay out your cutting tools or listen to a specific song before each cutting event? You likely have ritualized and sometimes unconscious behaviors you do surrounding your self-harm behavior. Become aware of these will help you notice when you are going to cut.  Engage in mindfulness exercises to bring your unconscious "rituals" to the conscious. Take explicit notes on each action you engage in. For example, “I am going into my room. I am closing the door. I am rolling up my sleeves.” These thoughts will interrupt your rituals and make yourself more aware. Practice being mindful by going to a quiet room and noticing your posture, where your arms hang, the temperature and smell of the room, etc… Keep practicing this and soon, you will be able to become aware of your cutting rituals. Visualize how your life would be if you didn’t cut. Do you think you would feel more fulfilled or could you do certain things that your cutting is holding you back from? Think about the future repercussions of your cutting behaviors such as your children asking about the scars on your arms, or jobs you might miss out on. Visualizing your life without cutting should help motivate you to end the behavior. Further motivate yourself by telling yourself that you can stop and you will stop.
Summary:
Decipher the root of your cutting behavior. Get in touch with your feelings. Identify your triggers. Understand your cutting rituals. Imagine your life without cutting.