Q: Once you have got some space to yourself, you can use this time to consider how you play a role in the other person’s silence. This is not placing the fault on you, but giving you the power to recognize and change any communication patterns that may lead you to this point.   As you reflect on your interactions with the person, try to find common patterns in your own behavior. For instance, your boyfriend was talking and you interrupted him because you assumed you knew what he was about to say. The silent treatment ensued shortly afterward. Your tendency to “predict” his thoughts could be causing frustration that prompts him to pull away. You can minimize your part in causing the silent treatment in this scenario by practicing active listening. Don’t cut in on your partner when they are talking. Give them time to fully express their message before you respond. Feeling manipulated can generate anger within you, which can push an already unhelpful interaction into dangerous territory. Recognize that it won’t do any good for your relationship to display anger. Use the space you get during the silent treatment to minimize the negative emotions you feel.   Try some relaxation techniques such as guided imagery, deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or gentle stretching to reduce anger and promote calm.  If you need time to cool down, try taking a one hour break or even agree to table the conversation until the following day. Just don’t put it off for too long. When you effectively set boundaries in your relationships, you increase the chances of living according to your values. Whether the person giving the silent treatment is a parent, best friend, or lover, you can limit your own feelings getting hurt by this toxic relational pattern by developing personal boundaries.  Set boundaries by first thinking about how you want to be treated in your relationships, and what you will and will not accept from those around you. Once you have established these limits, share these expectations with your loved ones. Keep in mind that if you have been abused in the past, then you might feel confused about how you ought to be treated in relationships. Try talking your situation over with a trusted friend first. For instance, you might say, “I care about you and enjoy spending time with you. But, when you suddenly stop talking to me, it makes me feel confused and helpless. If you continue to do this, I will have to get some distance from you to protect my own emotional health and well-being.” Regardless if the person means to hurt you, being on the receiving end of the silent treatment doesn’t feel good. Spend some time doing things that relax you and make you smile to counteract the negative effects of the silent treatment. Get some exercise. Call a trusted friend. Visit a local park or museum. Light a candle and take a bubble bath. These are all excellent ideas to perform self-care to boost your mental health during the silent treatment.
A: Identify your role in the silent treatment cycle. Reduce anger to avoid worsening the situation. Set personal boundaries. Perform self-care.

Q: Decide if you’d like a DJ or band and then contact different vendors in your area. Make sure you let them know the date of your wedding and that they understand how soon it is.If you can’t find anyone, try asking your friends and family members if they know anyone who is available to play on the date of your wedding. Find some local wedding photographers in your area and see if they are available on your wedding date. Sign a contract stating how many photos you want and how much you will be paying for their services. You can also hire the same photographer to take engagement photos of you and your partner if you’d like to. Since planning a wedding on such short notice can be expensive, it’s okay to take some time in between your wedding and your honeymoon. If you do have money set aside, make sure to book your flights and hotel rooms for your honeymoon a few months in advance.  If you will be traveling out of the country, apply for your passport at least 4 months ahead of time if you don’t have one. Consider taking your honeymoon somewhere closer to home to cut costs and planning time, like at a local beach or at a ski lodge near you.
A: Hire a band or DJ to play at your reception. Contact a photographer to take photos at your wedding. Plan a honeymoon if your budget allows it.

Q: Thoroughly water the juniper in its container, soaking the soil and making it more compact.  Feel the soil in the container before you do this. If it already seems very moist and very compact, you should skip this step. Watering the soil reduces the amount of air in the container and makes it easier to remove the root ball. Use a shovel or spade to dig a hole that is twice as wide and at least as deep as the container the juniper plant is currently in. There needs to be plenty of space. If you make a hole that is just barely big enough, the roots may not settle and establish themselves well. Mix 2 tsp (10 ml) of a balanced 10-10-10 fertilizer into the soil for every 1 gallon (4 L) plant.  Note that a 10-10-10 fertilizer refers to a blend containing equal parts nitrogen, phosphorus, and potassium. You should either mix the fertilizer into the soil at the bottom of the hole or spread it around the outside of the hole. Do not lay the fertilizer directly inside the planting hole. If the plant is in a disposable plastic container, carefully tip the container on its side and press around the outside to loosen the soil and root mass inside. You should be able to carefully slide the entire soil mass out of the container with your hands or shovel. If the plant is not in a disposable plastic container, you may need to loosen the soil around the sides of the container by gliding your shovel around the inner perimeter. Use your hands or a dull knife to separate the individual roots from the compacted mass. Loosen as many of the roots as possible without damaging too many. You do not need to tease out all of the roots, but the longer ones at the bottom of the root ball should be loosened from the mass. This will help the roots spread into the surrounding soil as you plant the shrub. Place the root ball in the center of the hole you dug. The top of the root ball should be level to the surface of the soil around the hole. The soil level should be about the same as it was in the pot. If you discover that the planting hole is too deep, take the plant out and add more soil before putting it back in. If the hole is too shallow, remove the plant and dig the hole deeper before returning it. Hold the shrub steady and upright while you fill in the hole around it with some of the soil you removed while digging the hole.  You can also add some organic matter during this time, but that is strictly optional. Pat down the soil with your hands or feet to settle it and remove any air pockets. Do not stamp the plant into the ground, however. When junipers are planted too close together, a thick layer of foliage can form, causing problems with air circulation. As a result, the plants are more likely to face problems with pests and diseases.  This can be a problem for all juniper varieties, but it is especially problematic for horizontal growing varieties. The exact amount of space you need to leave in between juniper plants will vary based on the type and size of the variety you choose. Consider how far the shrub spreads and space the plants wide enough apart to prevent them from spreading into each other. Give the plant plenty of water immediately after you finish planting it. Doing so will help the plant establish itself while further compacting the soil. Continue to water the plant twice a week for the first month to help it establish itself.
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Water the juniper in its container. Dig a large hole. Mix in a balanced fertilizer. Remove the plant from the container. Loosen the root mass. Place the root ball into the hole. Fill in the rest of the hole. Leave plenty of space in between plants. Water thoroughly until established.