INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Recovering from an affair can take time, and everyone processes grief at their own pace. Don't push your spouse to move on or forgive you before they are ready. Be patient with them as they work through their feelings and begin to regain their trust in you. It's important to acknowledge that some marriages never fully recover from an affair. Your spouse may be unable to forgive you or trust you again. Talk to your spouse about what you can do to help make things better between you. While making amends won't fix what happened, it's a good way to demonstrate your goodwill and let your spouse know that you are serious about repairing the marriage. For example, you might say, “I know I'm not always good at doing my part around the house. How about if I take care of the laundry and the dishes from now on?” In order for your spouse to regain their trust in you, you'll need to demonstrate that you are trustworthy. Let them know what you are doing when, where, and with whom. Honestly answer any questions they might have, and try to anticipate their concerns by volunteering information before they ask.  Your spouse may want to look at your emails, your phone records, and your private messages. Even if this feels like an invasion of your privacy, allowing your spouse to have access to these things will help rebuild your credibility after an affair. Let your spouse know immediately if you have any contact with the person you had the affair with. For example, you could say, “I saw Cassandra today at the coffee shop. She said 'hi' and I acknowledged her, but we didn't chat.” If you say you are going to do something (or not do something), make sure you follow through. If you're unable to keep your promise or meet your obligations for whatever reason, let your spouse know right away and offer an explanation. For example, if you say you are going to be home at a certain time every night, make sure to be there. If something holds you up, contact your spouse immediately and explain what's going on. For example, “I'm trying to get home, but my car broke down. I'll show you the invoice from the roadside assistance company as soon as I get back.” Have a conversation with your spouse about what they expect from you and how you can be accountable going forward. Work with them to develop a list of things that you can do to help them feel more secure in the relationship, and check in with them occasionally to make sure you are meeting their needs. For example, you and your spouse might agree to check in with each other over the phone at a certain time every day. Your spouse may struggle with a lot of insecurities after the affair. If they bring up any worries or concerns, try to offer your sincere assurances and take concrete actions to put their fears at ease. Don't minimize or dismiss their concerns, even if they seem silly or excessive to you. For example, your spouse may worry that your affair exposed them to a sexually transmitted infection. Even if you think this is unlikely, offer to get yourself tested and go over the results with them. Your partner will have an easier time trusting you if you lower your defensive walls and let them see who you really are. Be open with them about your thoughts, fears, hopes, strengths, and weaknesses. Being more open with your spouse will help deepen your relationship and make it easier for you to meet each other's emotional needs. Don't confuse being vulnerable with being weak—it actually takes a lot of strength and courage to really open up to another person!

SUMMARY: Give your spouse time to deal with what happened. Ask how you can make amends. Be transparent and accountable with your spouse. Keep your behavior consistent and reliable. Work with your spouse to set boundaries and ground rules. Do your best to address their fears and concerns. Allow yourself to be vulnerable with your spouse.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: If no light is activated, then you have disconnected the current appropriately.

SUMMARY: Plug the voltage tester into the outlet. Read the results by referring to the key on top of the tester.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Once the cooking oil begins to smoke, add the crushed red pepper flakes, followed by the green and red peppers. Sautee for three to four minutes, stirring occasionally. Then add the garlic and ginger and stir constantly for one more minute..  Turn the exhaust fan on, since some ingredients may start to smoke quickly.  If using whole chiles, only sautee them for half a minute before adding the next ingredients. Transfer your chicken from the bowl to the skillet or wok. Sautee your chicken in the cooking oil. If you marinated it at room temperature, give it two to five minutes before adding more ingredients. If you refrigerated it, give it a little longer.  Chicken should reach an internal temperature of 165 degrees Fahrenheit (75 degrees Celsius) before consuming.  If you don’t use a meat thermometer, slice a piece open. The meat inside should appear white, without any pink. Transfer your sauce and peanuts into your skillet or wok and stir them. Reserve the scallions for garnish. Continue cooking for a couple minutes, then serve right away with the uncooked scallions on top.

SUMMARY: Sautee some of your extra ingredients. Add your chicken. Add your remaining ingredients. Finished.


INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Baits are the most effective way to kill ants because they take the poison back to their nests. You need both sugary baits and protein/grease baits to draw out different types of ants. Baits draw ants in, so they won't be effective if you place them in an area with a chemical that repels them. You can use stakes or plastic bait containers. Some are one-time use, while others can be refilled. Refillable ones can be useful if you have a continual problem. Choose places near anthills and trails. Keep them away from areas where pets or kids will be, as they are poisonous. Space them about 10 to 20 feet (3 to 6 m) away from each other. These types of baits take awhile to work, as the ants must carry them throughout their nests. As they get low, add more insecticide to keep the ants well-fed with pesticide.

SUMMARY:
Use this method as the first line of defense. Buy a range of ant baits. Don't place them near where you've sprayed insecticide. Pick a type of bait station. Place the baits. Wait patiently. Refill traps as needed.