Many overweight people avoid certain activities because they’re self conscious or afraid. Write down things you’ve been putting off due to your weight.  Some people avoid social situations or dating when they’re overweight. Some people avoid travel when they’re overweight because they worry about having enough energy. Many of these activities are things you can absolutely do when you’re overweight. You may find that many of your fears are unfounded. This may be something on your list. However, it doesn’t have to be. Try out a new activity and see how you feel.  You can ask a friend to do a new activity with you. That can make it more fun and less intimidating. You can also do something new by yourself. You can take a dance class or a ceramics class and you won’t have to worry about a friend seeing you mess up. There’s no rule that says you can’t wear certain things because you’re overweight. Find styles and colors that you feel great in.  If it’s hard to find clothes you like in stores, go online. You’ll find tons of styles in your size. Body positive blogs often have links to their favorite plus-size clothing sites. Comfort is key. No one feels fabulous when they’re constantly pulling their shorts down. Choose clothes that fit you well and that you can wear all day without discomfort. Don’t put off dating or intimacy because of your weight. People date and enjoy physical intimacy at every size. Romance can be an awesome mood booster and confidence builder, too. If you’re trying online dating, be honest in your profile. Post photos that show what you look like. The people you meet will already be excited about you and know what to expect. No one feels great about themselves every day. Continue to say your affirmations and spend time with positive people. If you’re having a down day, tell yourself that it’s okay and tomorrow may be different.
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One-sentence summary -- Make a list of things you haven’t been doing because you’re overweight. Do something new. Wear clothes you love-- no matter what. Embrace romance. Accept that some days will be hard.


One of your biggest weapons against stress is in your ability to move your body. Staying physically active offers tons of meaningful benefits such as greater resistance to disease, weight loss, and an immunity boost. However, regular exercise also reduces tension, lifts your mood, improves self-esteem, and helps you sleep. Find an enjoyable activity that increases your heart rate and challenges you physically. Some ideas include swimming, hiking, weight-lifting, yoga, and even walking your dog. What you eat can help you fend off stress, too. Certain foods and beverages can actually exacerbate or cause stress like fast food, certain cheeses, some kinds of nuts, caffeine, sugar, and alcohol. On the other hand, some foods can help your body fight stress. These include fresh fruits and vegetables, fish, yogurt, and water. When it comes to stress and sleep, you can easily get confused as to which came first. Do problems with sleep cause stress? Or, does stress cause sleep disruption? Scientists believe both are highly probable.  Americans get far less than the recommended 7 to 9 hours each night and when they do sleep, the quality is poor due to stress. To improve your sleep habits, try the following.  Go to sleep at the same time each night and rise at the same time each morning. Create a “winding down” period each night in which you turn off all electronics, stop working, and engage in relaxing activities such as reading or taking a warm bath. Make sure that your sleeping environment is dark enough and comfortable. Save the bedroom for bedroom activities only. Refrain from watching TV or doing work in bed. Stop caffeine intake 4 to 6 hours before bed. Refrain from smoking cigarettes or drinking excessive alcohol too close to bedtime. You can successfully do all the things to prevent stress, but you will still be faced with stressful situations at times. During troubling periods in your life, turn to your stress-relief toolbox to help you ease anxiety and improve your mood. There are a variety of activities you can do to manage your stress.  Practice  deep breathing. In the moment, a deep breathing exercise can relieve tension and promote calm. Try the 4-7-8 method. Inhale through the mouth for 4 counts, hold the breath for 7 counts, and then exhale for 8 counts. Repeat as needed. Try  meditation. This is a practice of focused attention that enables you to be in the moment and bring greater awareness to your focus (e.g., your breathing, your body, your environment, etc.). There are many types of meditation that are useful for various conditions. Find one that works for you by trying out several variations.  Take care of yourself. Regularly take out the time to do things you enjoy, whether that is getting a manicure, taking a long walk, or cuddling up with your partner to watch Netflix. The people you spend the most time with are as critical to your health and well-being as other factors like diet and exercise. Psychologists often prescribe strong social support for getting over mental illnesses like depression or post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD. Even if you are not dealing with a serious mental disorder, you can still gain the positive benefits of social support.  Research has shown that a positive network of friends, family, and peers can help you develop a sense of security, increased self-worth, and belongingness.  Get out more to enhance your support system. Try to meet new people by joining a gym or social club, volunteering, approaching peers at school or work, or by initiating connections online. You will also want to show continued dedication to any existing positive relationships as well.
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Exercise regularly to  manage stress. Eat a well-balanced diet. Get 7-9 hours of sleep each night. Prepare a stress-relief toolbox. Develop a strong support system.