Write an article based on this "Give yourself permission to mourn. Talk about the breakup with your loved ones. Cut off contact with her, if possible. Return her stuff, and put reminders of her out of sight. Schedule times to think about her. Set a date to stop grieving. Maintain healthy routines. See a counselor if you have trouble getting past your feelings."
It can be tempting to push your feelings aside and try to skip the grieving process. However, you need to get your grief out of your system, as bottling up your emotions won’t make them go away.  Whether you’re dealing with a breakup or a woman rejected you, it’s okay to be sad. Take the time you need to cry, listen to sad music, or sit around and wallow. Getting over a long-term relationship is especially tough, and it might take weeks or months to process your feelings. Allow yourself to grieve, lean on your support system, and try to stay active. Even if healing takes several months, you'll feel a little better with each passing week. Your loved ones don’t necessarily have to give you advice or offer any insights. Verbalizing your grief helps your brain process the complicated emotions you’re experiencing. Venting helps you get complex feelings out of your system, gives order to them, and can make it easier to move past them.  For instance, call a loved one and say, “Jane and I split up, and I'm really struggling with it. I really thought we'd end up together, and I feel blindsided. Do you have time to chat or hang out for a little while? I could use a friend right now.” If you’re not used to opening up to trusted loved ones, give yourself permission to share your emotions. Be honest with yourself about your feelings, and remember that your friends and relatives are there to help you. It might be possible to be friends in the future, but ending contact is an important part of recovering from a breakup. Unless you have children together, rip off the bandage and don’t talk to each other. Staying in touch can interfere with the healing process, and it’s possible to confuse friendliness for romantic advances.  Your phone might have settings that allow you to block calls and texts from specific contacts. Use these settings or take her off of your contacts list, at least temporarily. Additionally, resist the urge to check her social media profiles, and adjust your settings so her posts don’t appear on your feed. In addition to ending contact, get rid of as many reminders of her as you can. Exchange your belongings as soon after the breakup as possible, and pack up photographs and other mementos.  If getting rid of reminders of her is too difficult, ask a friend to do it or to help you do it. Have them hold onto the stuff if you can’t get rid of it permanently. Refreshing your living space by redecorating or rearranging furniture can also help you get past physical reminders of her. When you make an effort not to think about something at all, it’s bound to work its way into your mind or end up in your dreams. Instead of pushing her out of your thoughts completely, set aside 15 or 20 minutes a day to think about her and how much you miss her. Do your best not to think about her outside of your scheduled times. Decrease the amount of time you spend thinking about her gradually until you can go a day without dwelling. While grieving is important, you’ll need to eventually commit to a time limit. Everyone needs a different length of time to grieve, and setting a limit doesn’t mean you should take 30 minutes to cry then try to get over it. Set a date a few days, a week, or a month ahead of time, then commit to moving past your sadness.  Some people claim that it takes half of a relationship’s length to completely recover, but the healing process is different for everyone. If you’re feeling really hung up, give yourself a few days to wallow. Then say to yourself, “I’ve had time to cry, and I’m going to be down in the dumps for a little while. But 3 weeks from today, I am going to start moving in a positive direction.” While grieving is an important step in the healing process, it shouldn't interfere with your overall well-being. Maintaining your hygiene and practicing self-care can help keep up your self-esteem.  Maintain a healthy diet of fruits, veggies, whole grains, and lean protein sources. Try to get 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night. Do your best to go to bed and wake up at the same times each day.  Exercising regularly is great for your overall health, and it might help you vent emotions like sadness and anger. Don’t be afraid to seek therapy if you feel like you can't cope on your own. Your counselor is there to help, not to judge you, so be open and honest about your feelings. Everyone experiences feelings like grief, and getting over any relationship is hard work. A counselor can act as a sounding board, offer advice, and provide a fresh, objective perspective.