Accurately reading a woman's body language can give you a good idea whether or not your approach is going to be successful. Most women make it pretty clear if they don't want to be approached by how they sit, what they have with them, how they react to you. Do not ignore these signs.  Typically if a woman is reading a book, listening to music, or working intently at her computer she's not going welcome a conversational intrusion from you. Now, if she's spending a lot of her time looking around instead of working or reading she might be open to conversation. Someone whose arms are crossed across their chest and who is angled away from you (especially if they got into that position after making eye contact with you) is someone who doesn't want to be approached. Remember, that women are taught from a young age that they need to be pleasant to people and so, while she might verbally accept your intrusion into her space, her body language might be telling you differently. Eye contact is a fantastic and safe way to gauge someone's interest and openness to conversation. Try catching the eye of the woman you want to speak with. Three times tends to be a charm (as the saying goes). After the third meet of the eyes, approach her.  A smile is also good for gauging interest. If she smiles at you, that's a pretty good sign she wouldn't be adverse to a conversation, especially if she does it without a first smile by you. This works pretty much anywhere. You can make eye contact at a crowded bar, a coffee shop, that bookstore you like, on a bus, on a plane. . Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in a person and a confident approach can get you further than a non-confident one. This doesn't mean that you expect the woman to delight in your company, but it does mean that her disinterest won't threaten your self esteem.  You need to pay attention to your own body language: don't slouch and don't cross your arms across your chest (a defensive gesture). Have open body language, angle yourself towards her and don't fiddle with things or you'll appear nervous. Faking confidence is one of the best ways to trick yourself into feeling actually confident. So stand up straight and walk with purpose. Remember the worst thing she could do is not be interested in a conversation and that's simply not a huge deal. Her disinterest doesn't mean anything about you. So remind yourself of that. This goes along with being confident. You need to remember that you yourself are a cool person and someone that people would enjoy talking to (as long as you're respectful). Don't be afraid of what she might think about you when you approach her.  The woman should get a sense of who you are, even if it's a less intense version of you. So, for example, if you aren't into outdoorsy things don't pretend to be to impress her. She'll figure out pretty quickly that you're a phony and she won't be that interested. This doesn't mean that you should immediately whip out your Magic: The Gathering cards or hit her over the head with your MVP status on your college football team. It means that you have confidence in yourself and your interests. Remember, she might not share your interests and she might not be that interested in a conversation. Don't take her disinterest as a slight against who you are. The opening to a conversation with someone, especially a woman you would like to get to know better, can be really difficult and make you nervous. Never fear! There are some pretty good methods to get the conversational ball rolling.  Ask for help. This could be something as simple as asking her which coffee shop she thinks is the best. If it doesn't seem like she's in a rush, ask her to join you for coffee at the place she recommended. Use your surroundings. If you're in a bookstore ask her if she knows where you might find a particular book. If you're both waiting for the bus, you could ask her the time and then make a joke how the bus is always late, especially when the weather's really bad. If she's wearing something really cool, ask her about it. Say "Hey I couldn't help noticing you're wearing a Seahawks' sweatshirt. Are you a big fan?" or "Have you ever been to one of that band's shows? I hear they're amazing." It gives you something to connect over and opens the possibility for further conversation.

Summary: Read her body language. Make eye contact. Be confident in your approach Be yourself. Use a respectful opening.


Stripping pulls out the outer guard of hairs once the hairs “blow”—or die and start to shed off. Only strip once the coat is blown, which will make hair removal much easier and be less likely to hurt your Westie. Make stripping a regular part of grooming your Westie. If you don’t strip your Westie regularly, you may need to strip all the way down to his undercoat layer, which can leave him looking bare. To strip your Westie, you’ll need to pull out dead hair with your fingers. Be aware that this can cause your Westie pain or discomfort if you don’t know what you’re doing. Do not try to pull out hairs that are still growing out of the skin. Grasp hairs that are sticking out further than other ones and gently pull on the hairs. If the hairs do not come out easily, then stop pulling. The hairs may not be ready to come out yet. Always make sure to pull out hairs from the coat in the direction that your Westie’s fur is growing to make pulling out dead hairs easier and reduce discomfort for your dog. Go with the grain of your Westie's fur rather than against it. If you find the coat is slippery or you are having trouble grasping hairs, then you can apply a bit of chalk to your hands and fingers. The chalk will help you keep a firmer grip on the hair and make it much easier to pull out dead hairs.
Summary: Strip your Westie’s coat when you notice dead hairs. Use your fingers to pull out dead hairs from your Westie's coat. Go with the grain of your Westie’s fur. Apply chalk to your fingers if grasping hairs is difficult.